初二女孩丽丽（化名）已放假了，现在整天在网上浏览汽车的相关信息，要求母亲史女士换车送她上学。史女士很纠结，不知该咋办？换车，怎么给店里送货？不换，孩子开学后就要不上学了。

Teenager girl lily(alias)Already had a holiday,Now on the Internet browsing all car related information,Request to change the history of mother ms send her to school.History lady very ravel,Don't know whether this?transfer,How to store delivery?Don't change,The child is not go to school.

　　孩子提前下车“锻炼”身体

Children get off in advance"exercise"body

　　史女士，家住长春市西环城路与自立街交会处一小区，是一家水果店的老板。女儿丽丽，是长春市某中学初二的学生，史女士每天都会开车将丽丽送到学校后，再到水果店里送货。

Ms history,Changchun city in west ring road and self-reliance street intersection of a village,Is a fruit shop boss.Daughter lily,Changchun is a middle school students there,Ms history every day after school to drive will lili,To the fruit shop delivery.

　　“妈妈，你不用把我送到学校门口了，我走着去学校，还能锻炼身体。”丽丽说。丽丽上学时，史女士每天都会开小货车送她去上学，可就在两个月之前，她在送丽丽上学时，丽丽都要求提前一条街下车，说是要锻炼身体。

"mother,You don't have to send me to the school gate,I walk to school,Still can exercise."Lily said.Lily go to school,Ms history every day open a small truck to send her to school,But just two months ago,She send lily go to school,Lily are required to get ahead of a street,Say to exercise.

　　“她下车的地方，距离学校就隔一条街，没多远了。”史女士说，对此，史女士并没多想。从那天起史女士每天送丽丽上学时，都让丽丽提前下车“锻炼”身体。

"She get off place,Distance school is every street,Not far."She said the history,this,Ms history and didn't want to think more.From that day on ms history at school every day to send lily,Let lili early to get off"exercise"body.

　　嫌车不好不让妈妈送到学校

Too bad car not let mother to school

　　“天太冷，我怕给孩子冻感冒了。”史女士说，前些天，她和往常一样，送孩子上学，刚一出门就发现天特别冷，担心孩子冷，所以就没有在每天丽丽下车“锻炼”的路口停车，可没想到丽丽却强烈要求下车。

"It's too cold,I'm afraid to give children frozen caught a cold."She said the history,The other,She and her usual,Send their children to school,Just go out and then found that day especially cold,Worry about the children cold,So there is no day off in the lily"exercise"Street parking,However, lily is urged to get off.

　　“我要在这里下车，妈妈你的车太破了，送我到学校门口被同学看见了，太没面子了。”丽丽如此说。“我当时一下就蒙了。”史女士说，当天丽丽要求下车“锻炼”时，她还是坚持了一下，想将孩子直接送到学校门口，可丽丽却突然说了这样一句话，这让史女士很难以接受，这时她才意识到，丽丽每天要求提前下车，并不是为了“锻炼”身体，而是嫌她的车太破，害怕被同学们看到。

"I want to get off here,Mother your car is broken,Take me to the school gate was classmate see,Too did not face the."Lily has said."I was once received."She said the history,Day lily requirements to get off"exercise"when,She insisted on it,Want to directly to the children at the school gate,But lily suddenly say such words,It makes history lady is very hard to accept,Then she realized,Lili ahead of schedule every day off,And not to"exercise"body,But don't think her car is broken,Afraid of being the classmates to see.

　　换车就不能给水果店送货

Can't transfer to the fruit shop delivery

　　知道丽丽的心事后，史女士的心情一直都不太好。从那天起，史女士每天送丽丽上学时，都是在丽丽“锻炼”的路口，让丽丽下车。每天看到孩子步行到学校的背影，她心里都非常难受。

Know lily after the heart,Ms history of mood has been not so good.From that day on,Ms history at school every day to send lily,Are lily"exercise"junctions,Let lily off.The children walk to school every day to see the figure,Her heart is very uncomfortable.

　　“我当时真想直接去提辆新车了，可我总不能每天开辆轿车送货吧。”史女士说，为了让孩子每天可以很“有面子”地去上学，她真有了换新车的想法。可仔细想想后，她又犹豫了，换车，给店里的货怎么送？当初之所以买了一辆小货车，就是为了给店里送货方便。

"I was really want to go directly to mention the new car,But I can't open car delivery, every day."She said the history,In order to let the child can be very every day"Have a face"To go to school,She really had the idea of new car.But after think carefully,And she hesitated,transfer,To store goods how to send?The first bought a pickup truck,The shop is in order to delivery convenient.

　　“这次是让我换轿车，那下次要是让我换奔驰、宝马，我咋换得起啊。”史女士说，她丈夫是一个非常不喜欢开车的人，而且还要上班，根本就没有时间每天去店里送货。如果她要是换车的话，就只能雇人去送货，但上货的人必须要用亲近的人，外人她还有些不放心。

"This is let me in the car,The next time if let me change Benz/BMW,I just change the ah."She said the history,Her husband is a very don't like people who drive,But also to work,There is no time to go to the store every day delivery.If she if transfer words,Can hire people to delivery,But loading person must be in close to the people,A stranger she also some not trust.

　　孩子每天上网查汽车信息

Children surf the Internet every day check car information

　　最让史女士头疼的是，丽丽现在放假了，每天都在家里上网查询一些有关汽车的信息，每当看中一款汽车后，就会找史女士考虑。

The most let s woman have a headache is,Lily now have a holiday,Every day in the Internet at home inquires about some car information,Every time after saw a car,Will find s woman consider.

　　“现在哪款车降价了，她都知道。”史女士说，其实丽丽并不懂车，只是感觉哪款车好看，就建议她买哪款车，有时丽丽建议给她的车才几万块钱，并不是很贵的。

"Now the price which car,She knew."She said the history,In fact lily doesn't know anything about cars,Which car is feeling good,It suggested that she buy which car,Sometimes lily suggested to her car to tens of thousands of dollars,And not very expensive.

　　现在丽丽每天写完作业后，就会上网查汽车方面的信息，然后就建议史女士换车。这让史女士很担心。

Now lily every day after finish the homework,Will search the information,Then suggested to change history lady.It makes history lady very worried.

　　不换车 开学就不上学

Not the transfer will not go to school

　　为能让丽丽好好学习，史女士和爱人也找丽丽谈过有关买车的事，告诉她，她现在应该把心思放在学习上，不应和同学攀比，并告诉丽丽，如果她现在好好学习，以后考上大学，他们会送给丽丽一辆车，可丽丽却怎么也听不进去，执意要他们换车送她上学。

In order to lily good good study,Ms history and love and find lily talk about what to buy a car,Tell her,She should now be put idea on study,Not have students bandwagon,And tell lily,If she is good good study,Later admitted to university,They will be sent to lily a car,But lily but how also won't listen,Determined to transfer them to send her to school.

　　“她跟我说，要是不换车，开学后就不去上学了。”史女士说，她现在已经不知道该咋办好了，如果换车的话，不仅会影响店里的生意，她还担心会助长丽丽的攀比心理，影响丽丽以后的发展。如果不换车，她还担心丽丽真的不去上学。

"She told me,If you don't change,After the start will not go to school."She said the history,She is now do not know this how good,If word of transfer,Will not only affect the business at the store,She was worried would embolden lily perennial psychology,The development of influence after lili.If you don't change,She was worried lili really don't go to school.

　　以“穷儿富女”方法教育孩子

to"Poor son rich female"Methods education child

　　“我家就这一个孩子，我俩平时都很疼爱她，希望什么都给她最好的。”史女士说，自从丽丽出生，她和爱人就非常疼爱丽丽，丽丽在要求她换车之前，从来都不会主动找她要东西。但她和爱人在给丽丽买衣服、学习用品时，都会挑最好的，目的就是想给孩子一个好的生活学习条件。

"My house is this a child,We usually have the love her,Hope everything to give her the best."She said the history,Since lily was born,She and her lover is very love lily,Lily was asked her before the transfer,Never actively looking for her to things.But she and her lover in lily to buy clothes/Learning when things,Will pick the best,Purpose is to give the child a good life learning conditions.

　　“可能是我‘穷儿富女’的教育方法有问题吧。”史女士说，她小时候家庭条件非常不好，甚至过年时，连一件新衣服都买不起。后来生活条件慢慢地好了起来，一直就听亲友说“女孩要富养、男孩要穷养”，所以，自从有了丽丽后，她就想给丽丽一个优越的生活条件，不希望丽丽的生活像她小时候一样。

"May be I‘Poor son rich female’The education method has a problem it."She said the history,When she was young family conditions are very bad,Even when the Chinese New Year,Even a new clothes can't afford it.Then living conditions up slowly,Always listen to friends and relatives said"The girl to eutrophic/The boy to a poor",so,Ever since the after lili,She wanted to give lily a superior living conditions,Don't want lily life like her as when I was a child.

　　专家建议：给孩子树立正确价值观

Expert advice:Give children to set up the correct values

　　针对丽丽强烈要求家长换车送她上学的事，记者咨询了阳光心理援助中心的格林。

According to lily urge parents to send her to school to change things,Reporter consulting the sun psychological aid center green.

　　“孩子出现这样的事是虚荣心在作怪，这正是家长给孩子树立正确价值观的好时候。”格林说，丽丽现在还很小，对很多事情都无法判定。作为家长，如果真是需要换车的话可以换，但决不能为了满足孩子的虚荣心而去换车。如果同意换车，不但会助长孩子的攀比心理，还可能给孩子造成嫌贫爱富的坏习惯，这样就会影响到孩子以后的发展。

"Children appear such things is vanity in time,This is what parents give children a good time to set up the correct values."Green said,Lily is tiny now,For many things are unable to determine.As a parent,If it is really need to change words can change,But never in order to meet the child's vanity and to transfer.If you agree to transfer,Not only will encourage children's bandwagon psychological,May also give the child XianPinAiFu caused by bad habits,This will affect the development of the child later.

　　记者对话丽丽：不喜欢同学说妈妈是货运工

Reporter dialogue lily:Don't like classmate say my mother is freight work

　　记者：为什么想让妈妈换车？

reporter:Why to want to let my mother to change?

　　丽丽：以前上学的时候，妈妈都是送我到学校门口的，也没感觉有什么不好。但后来同学们看到妈妈开这小货车送我上学，都笑话我，说我妈妈是货运工。

lily:When I was in,Mother sent me to the school gate,Also didn't feel what.But then the students see mother open the little truck send me to school,All laughed at me,Say my mother is freight work.

　　记者：那你没告诉同学，你妈妈是水果店的老板吗？

reporter:That you didn't tell students,Your mother is a fruit shop boss?

　　丽丽：我都跟他们说很多次了，但他们都不相信。

lily:I have told them many times,But they did not believe.

　　记者：你希望你妈妈换啥车？

reporter:You hope your mother in what car?

　　丽丽：我给妈妈在网上找了几种车，让她参考，都是轿车。

lily:I called my mother in the Internet to find some car,Let her reference,Are car.

　　记者：如果妈妈不换车的话，你真的会不上学吗？

reporter:If the mother does not transfer words,You really don't go to school?

　　丽丽：不会的，我说不上学，只是吓唬吓唬她，我很喜欢学习的。

lily:Won't,I can't say learn,Just scare her,I like learning.

　　记者：你知道你妈妈每天上班都很辛苦吗？你考虑过你妈妈的感受吗？

reporter:You know your mother goes to work every day are very hard?Have you thought about your mother's feelings?

　　丽丽：我知道妈妈非常辛苦，所以我很爱我的妈妈，就是因为这样才想让她换车，我不希望别人说她是货运工。（东亚经贸新闻 吕孟阳 迟飞）

lily:I know my mother is very hard,So I love my mother,Because it is to let her to change,I don't want people to say she is freight work.(East Asian economic news LvMengYang ChiFei)