开学季来临，子女纷纷踏上了求学之路。然而，不少父母对此有些许不适应，感觉自己被“剩”在家，提前进入了“空巢”角色。近日，州中心医院心理学专家朱祖兴接到了不少家长的来电，咨询“空巢心理”和“离别情绪”的治疗方法。

Open season,Children are on their way to school.however,Many parents have a little not adapt,Feel they have been"left"In the home,Enter the ahead of time"Empty nest"The role.In recent days,State central hospital psychology expert Zhu Zuxing received a lot of parents calling,consulting"Empty nest psychological"and"Leave mood"The treatment method.

　孩子走了，感觉心里空荡荡的 Children go,Feel empty in my heart

　　许晖家住宣恩县，是湖北民族学院大一的学生。过完寒假，他收拾行囊，再次踏上了求学之路。许晖离家后，母亲又一次感觉心里空荡荡的，一下子找不着北，生活节奏彻底被打乱了。

Xu lived XuanEnXian,Hubei institute for nationalities is freshman.After the winter holiday,He is packing up,On the road to the school again.Xu left home,Once again feel heart empty,Unable to find north,The pace of life is completely disrupted.

　　许晖的母亲是位下岗工人，平日的生活全围着儿子打转。许晖读高中时，母亲陪读，给儿子做饭、帮儿子洗衣是她每日的必修课。去年9月，许晖第一次离开父母身边，独自前往湖北民族学院上学。那段时间，母亲非常不适应，感觉家里少了儿子的身影后，格外冷清寂寥，往后的日子，母亲几乎在期盼中度过，每天都数着日期等待儿子大学后的第一个寒假。

Xu's mother was a laid-off workers,Everyday life all around the son.Xu hui high school,Mother with,Give son cooking/Help son laundry is her daily required courses.In September of last year,Xu first time away from their parents,Alone to go to school of hubei institute for nationalities.At the time,Mother is very incommensurate,Feel less home after his son figure,So empty lonely,In the future days,My mother almost spent in anticipation,Counting the date every day wait for son to university after the first winter vacation.

　　盼着盼着，许晖终于放假了，母亲高兴地不得了，全揽儿子的生活起居，其生活节奏又恢复了正常。可一个月的假期很快便过去了，又到了许晖上学的时候，其母亲再度陷入离别的情绪中。“儿子走后，我又不知道该干嘛了，感觉自己就是个‘剩妈’，迷茫得很。”

Looking forward to looking forward to,Xu finally have a holiday,Mother happily,All LAN son's life daily life,The pace of life is back to normal again.Can be a month of vacation soon in the past,Xu again at school,The mother again in parting feelings."After her son go,I don't know what to do again,Feel oneself is a‘Mother left’,Confused very."

　　记者了解到，还有很多和许晖母亲一样的“剩爸”“剩妈”，州城某袁姓父亲就是其中一位，他的女儿名叫袁玲玲，去年以优异的成绩考入了北京大学。“北京太远了，我们没办法常常去看女儿，这一走，又是几个月，长时间见不着女儿，我和她妈妈都有些感伤，特别是我，时常感觉自己被‘空巢’化了。”

The reporter understands,There's a lot like xu mother"With dad""Mother left",Could a Yuan Xing father is one of them,His daughter was Yuan Lingling,Last year, was admitted to Beijing university with high honors."Beijing is too far away,We can't often go to see her daughter,This a walk,Is a few months,Long time not seen my daughter,Her mother and I are some sad,Especially I,Often feel they have been‘Empty nest’Change the."

　“空巢危机”成因多 "Empty nest crisis"Cause more

　　昨日，记者就“剩爸剩妈”陷“空巢危机”这一现象咨询了州委党校教授向荣。在得知许晖母亲、袁玲玲父亲等人的状况后，向荣分析，现代社会城市化不断推进，传统的大家庭模式已经逐渐转化为“三口之家”的小家庭模式。当一起生活多年的孩子离开身边，前往外地求学、工作、结婚后，父母就被“剩”在家，此时的他们难免会感到不适应、心情低落，甚至焦躁、烦闷。

yesterday,Reporter is"Mom dad left left"trapped"Empty nest crisis"Advisory committee of the party school professor toward this phenomenon.In xu mother/After Yuan Lingling father and others conditions,2 analysis,Modern society advancing urbanization,The traditional family model has gradually transformed into"A family of three"The small family pattern.When children live together for many years, left side,Travel to overseas to study/work/After getting married,,Parents would be"left"In the home,At this point they will feel not adapt/The mood is low,Even fidgety/boredom.

　　另外，少数家长太过溺爱子女，全程照料孩子的生活起居。长久以来，养成了对子女的情感依赖性，“养儿防老”的传统思想也日渐增强。当儿女不在身边，心头就不由得涌起孤苦伶仃、自怜等消极情绪。

In addition,A few parents are too spoil children,Take care of the child's life daily life.For a long time,Formed the emotional dependence of their children,"Support them"The traditional thought is also growing.When don't have my children,Just couldn't help heart surges alone/Self-pity and other negative emotions.

　　另外，家长本身的性格也可能存在缺陷。他们有感生活索然无味，又少了一份独立自主，再加上有空巢感的家长以中老年居多，他们中的大部分又要面临更年期的困惑。上述众多成因造就了子女一离家，家长就感觉被“空巢”化。

In addition,Parents itself there may be defects in character.They inductive life vapid,And a less independent,Coupled with a sense of empty nest of the majority with elderly parents,Most of them want to face menopause confused again.The many reasons make the children away from home,Parents feel"Empty nest"the.

找点事儿做，转移生活重心 To find something to do,Transfer the life center of gravity

　　昨日下午，记者就此事寻求州中心医院心理学专家朱祖兴支招。“曾经的生活节奏被打乱，一时间找不到生活重心也很正常。”朱祖兴说。他建议，“剩爸剩妈”们不妨找点事儿做，与朋友聊天、逛街都是不错的选择，这样一来，不仅充实了自己的生活，也可尽快消除“离别情绪”和“空巢危机”。

Yesterday afternoon,Reporters on the matter seek state central hospital psychology expert Zhu Zuxing action."Once the life rhythm,Time can't find the life center of gravity is also very normal."Zhu Zuxing said.He suggested that,"Mom dad left left"Try to find something to do,Chat with friends/Shopping is a good choice,In this way,Not only enrich their own life,Can also be eliminate as soon as possible"Leave mood"and"Empty nest crisis".

　　家住鹤峰县容美镇电力公司的赵振芳就是一个成功案例，她也曾辞掉工作，当过全职陪读家长。自去年9月女儿去外地上学后，赵振芳就一度彷徨，“找份合适的工作不容易，在家呆着又不知道能做什么”。那段时间，她不知所措，十分迷茫。

Lives in HeFengXian Zhao Zhenfang let beauty town electric power company is a successful case,She had quit her job,As a full time with parents.Went out of town since last September daughter after school,Zhao Zhenfang just once,"It is not easy to find a suitable job,Stay at home and don't know what to do".At the time,She was at a loss,Very confused.

　　后来，经朋友帮助，她自主经营了一家便利店，有客人时，忙着做生意，没客人时，登QQ和女儿聊天，从QQ上了解女儿的生活状态，偶尔还会邀上朋友搓搓麻将、斗斗地主。这样的日子过了半年，赵振芳适应了习惯了，现在，她有了新的生活规律，即使女儿不在身边，她同样过得有滋有味。女儿廖怡君也放心了很多：“刚上学的那段时间，妈妈每天都会打好多电话给我，不断叮嘱我要按时吃饭，按时睡觉，就连一些生活琐事妈妈也要担心。自从妈妈有了新生活之后，就懂得关心自己了，人也开朗了很多。”（恩施晚报 记者 覃潇）

later,By friends to help,She had a convenience store management,When we have guests,Too busy to do business,No guest,The QQ chat with my daughter,Understand her daughter's life from the QQ,Occasionally invite friends over to rub persons/Dou dou landlord.Six months passed during these days,Zhao Zhenfang adapted to used to it,now,She has a new routine,Even if the daughter is not around,She also lives with.Daughter Liao Yijun relieved a lot too:"Just go to school during that time,Mother every day to play a lot of phone calls to me,Constantly told me to eat on time,Go to bed on time,Even some trivial life mother also has to worry about.Since mother have a new life,Who knows how to care about their,People also cheerful the many."(Enshi QinXiao evening news reporter)