寒假虽然没有暑期那么长，但其中包括大人孩子都可以放松的春节7天长假，如果能好好安排，那么全家可以过一个很丰富多彩的休闲时光。不过，记者采访发现，不少家长[微博]孩子在寒假中的困惑都不少，考试成绩太差，咋办？作业如何安排才能最合理？怎么能把孩子从网络世界里拽出来？其实，放松心态，不要对寒假的期望值太高，那么，家长和学生就会发现，这些困惑也就不存在了。

Although there is no summer winter vacation so long,But including adult children can relax the 7-day Spring Festival holiday,If can have a good arrangement,So the family can be a very rich and colorful leisure time.but,Reporters found that,Many parents (microblogging) children confused a lot. In the winter vacation,Poor test scores,To do?Homework how to reasonable arrangement to the most?How can the child out of the online world?In fact,Calm down,Don't is too high expectation on winter vacation,then,Parents and students will find,That there is no confusion.

成绩之惑 Scores of humbug

　　每个假期来临之前，学生们都得经过一道“鬼门关”，那就是考试。等考完试之后终于迎来假期的时候，却发现成绩这道关卡还是“阴魂不散”地无处不在。

Before each holiday,The students have to pass along"Gate of hell",Is the test.After after such test was during the holidays,Only to find that performance level or the way"Dead hand"To everywhere.

　　去亲戚家串门，长辈的第一句话总是问，这次考得怎么样啊？在公交车上偶遇朋友，妈妈肯定也会第一个问人家的成绩。不可否认的是，一些家长把“分数”的本质搞错了，孩子考得好，那自己在亲戚朋友面前才有面子，这个假期才能过得愉快。一旦孩子的成绩与自己的预想有了差距，假期里家庭的气氛就多了些沉重，孩子也得在家长的指挥下开赴补习班。

Go to relative's house door,Always ask elder's first words,How about this?On the bus ran into a friend,Mother must also be the first to ask somebody else.There is no denying that,Some parents make"score"The nature of the mistake,The child does well,The oneself to have face in front of the relatives and friends,This can have a pleasant holiday.Once there is a gap with their expected scores,Holiday atmosphere of family is more heavy,Command to the cram school children at home, too long.

　　建议

advice

　　在目前的教育体制下，分数已经被推到了极其重要的位置，家长们能否不要再推波助澜。这个假期，请管住自己的嘴，顺便也要管住亲朋好友，不要再打听孩子的成绩了。

Under the current education system,Scores have been pushed to an extremely important position,Parents will stop.This holiday season,Please hold his own mouth,By the way, also want to hold their relatives and friends,Don't inquire about the child's grades.

作业之惑 Job creating

　　盼望已久的寒假终于来了，可寒假作业让孩子们原本阳光灿烂的心情顿时黯淡许多。虽然相关部门一再强调减负，要求学校对各年级学生作业的数量和质量要有管理措施，严格控制学生的书写作业，让学生有充分的休息时间。但现实情况却不容乐观。

Looking forward to have long winter vacation finally arrived,But winter vacation homework let the children had a sunny mood suddenly dark.Although the related department has repeatedly stressed burden,Ask school to grade the quantity and quality of student work must have the management measures,Strictly control the student's writing assignments,Let the students have sufficient rest time.But the reality is not optimistic.

　　蔻蔻刚上小学二年级，虽然学校留的寒假作业并不多，但妈妈表示并不能如此放松，已经给她购买了下学期各学科的课本，打算让她在寒假都提前预习一下。“不能玩散了呀，否则开学都收不回来心了，所以天天都应该安排一定的学习时间。 ”记者采访大连市几个大型书城了解到，目前最热销的书籍就是下学期的课本，看来和蔻蔻妈妈抱着一样心思的家长都不在少数。

KouKou just elementary school second grade,Although school winter vacation homework is not much,But mom said not so relaxed,Have to give her to buy textbooks of each course next semester,Going to let her prepare ahead of time in winter vacation."Can't play ah,Otherwise, heart close not to come back school,So should arrange some learning time everyday. "The reporter understands to interview several big book city in dalian,At present the most popular books is the textbook next semester,Seems like KouKou mother holding the mind of parents are not in the minority.

　　建议

advice

　　美国一位教育家曾经做过一个试验。他选择了两所水平相当的学校做实验，一所学校按常规进行教学，即孩子们在学校只是上课和写作业，类似我国现在的学校状态；另一所学校的孩子们学习半天，活动半天。活动内容就是做手工，有木工、缝纫、烹调、养殖等，没有书面作业。结果，几年后，两所学校的成绩不相上下。但后一所学校的孩子们综合能力明显高于前一所学校。

An American educator did an experiment.He chose the two levels of schools do the experiments,A school teaching according to routine,The children is in school classes and homework,Similar to state schools in our country now;Another school children learn for half a day,Activity for half a day.Content is to do by hand,There is wood/sewing/cooking/Breeding, etc.,No written homework.As a result,A few years later,As the two schools.But after a school children's comprehensive ability significantly higher than the previous school.

　　看到这儿，您还会纠结于孩子这一个假期究竟要如何安排自己的作业吗？让孩子们选择属于自己的假期才是尊重他们的最好体现。

See here,You'll also struggle with children this is how to arrange your vacation homework?Let the children respect their choice belongs to own holiday is the best embodiment.

网络之惑 Internet and confused

　　寒假来临之后，很多家长的担心其实或多或少都和网络有点联系，这一个假期，父母都得上班，孩子或者自己在家或者由老人看管，缺乏有力的监管，孩子上网还不得上疯了呀。就因为这，家里甚至掐掉了网线；就因为这，许多家长把孩子送进了辅导班或者单纯的托管班；就因为这，孩子整天和家长打得不亦乐乎，只为了能多1个小时甚至几十分钟的上网时间……

After the coming winter vacation,Many parents are worried about actually contact network a bit more or less,This a vacation,Parents have to work,Children at home or by the old man care,Lack of effective supervision,Children surf the Internet and shall not be crazy.Because of this,Home even pinched off the Internet;Because of this,Many parents send children to the remedial class or simply managed class;Because of this,Children and parents to play all day,Only in order to be more than an hour or even minutes of time online...

　　建议

advice

　　著名家庭教育专家尹建莉[微博]教授在她的博文中也提到，其实，电游就是个游戏，它和烟酒没有可比性，和毒品更相距十万八千里。究其本质，和打篮球、下棋、捉迷藏没什么区别，所不同的只是它作为一种玩具，更复杂，更有趣，更有吸引力。至于说有些电游中有暴力、色情，这些不是电游的本质；就像色情和暴力不是图书的本质一样。不让孩子读坏图书和避免孩子玩坏游戏一样，必须要在允许阅读和允许游戏的前提下去解决，而不是取消阅读、取消游戏。

Famous family education expert Yin weibo professor in her post,In fact,Video game is a game,It with alcohol, tobacco, no comparison,And drugs more be miles apart.In its essence,And play basketball/Playing chess/Hide and seek no difference,The difference is just it as a toy,More complicated,More interesting,More attractive.As for some violent video game/porn,These are not the nature of the game;Like pornography and violence is not the essence of the book.Don't let the children read bad books and to avoid children to play a bad game,Must be in the reading and to allow the game on the premise of solve,Rather than cancel the reading/Cancel the game.

　　家长总是会担心“五花八门”的网络让孩子分散太多的精力，影响孩子的学习和健康。但我们的生活已经离不开网络，如何让网络为孩子的成长“加分”？这或许才是家长要面对的课题，粗暴的干涉、武断的拒绝只能更加增加孩子对网络的热情。 记者范丽珍

Parents always worry about it"A wide variety"Network let a child spread too much energy,Affect children's study and health.But our life is inseparable from the network,How to make the network for a child's growth"Bonus points"?This perhaps is the parents to face the issue,Rough interference/Arbitrary rejection can increase children's passion for the network. The reporter Fan Lizhen