“吃饭靠外卖，交流靠QQ，购物靠快递，娱乐靠网络……”这是“宅男宅女族”的真实写照。在西宁市城北区就有这样一名女孩，宅在家里4年不愿出门，卧室的窗帘也从未拉开过。

"Dinner on delivery,Communicate by QQ,Shopping by Courier,Entertainment by network……"This is"Curtilage male curtilage female tribe"A snapshot of.In xining ChengBeiOu there is such a girl,Curtilage at home four years don't want to go out,The curtains of the bedroom also has never been opened.

　　在西宁市城北区朝阳路一小区内，矗立着几栋陈旧的楼房，由于年代久远，灰色墙皮已开始脱落。一扇生锈的铁窗镶在二楼的墙体上，房内外的世界被一幅布满灰尘的窗帘完全隔开。家住这个小区的居民一直很纳闷，房间明明有人住，可4年时间从未见到窗帘被拉开过。

A small area in xining ChengBeiOu chaoyang road,Stood a few old buildings,Due to the long time,The gray walls have started to fall off.A rusty iron window framed on the wall on the second floor,Room inside and outside the world completely separated by a dusty curtain.Who lives in the village residents have wondered,Clearly someone living room,Four years time never saw the curtain was opened.

　　这间屋子的主人叫文文，是一名17岁的少女。1月7日，记者和青海夏都心理咨询指导中心的心理咨询师走近文文，倾听她讲述常人难以理解的“宅女”生活。

The house owner called text,Is a girl of seventeen.On January 7,,Journalists and shall guide psychological counseling center in qinghai psychological consultant approached the computation,To listen to stories about ordinary people difficult to understand"Curtilage female"life.

一岁生日那天父母离她而去 One year old birthday away from her parents

　　伴随着“吱吱”的开门声，门缝里露出一张布满皱纹的脸。“你们好，我姓张，是文文的爷爷。”张大爷把我们让进房里后，带我们到了客厅。

Along with the"make"Open the door of the,Door to reveal a wrinkled face."How do you do,My name is zhang,Is the computation of grandpa."Uncle zhang let into the room after us,Take us to the living room.

　　这是一间面积仅十余平方米的客厅，被沙发、茶几和电视柜占去了大半位置。沙发上，斜坐着一名长发披肩的少女，她见到我们，抬了一下屁股后又坐下了。“她是个孤儿……”张大爷指着文文忧伤地说。而文文则双手捋着长发，用谨慎的目光在我们身上扫来扫去。 在与张大爷的交谈中，我们对文文有了更多了解。文文4个月大时，便由爷爷和奶奶抚养。在她一岁生日的那天，分开居住的父母不慎煤烟中毒，双双去世。文文从此成为一名孤儿，与爷爷、奶奶相依为命。

This is an area of only 10 square meters of living room,Be sofa/Tea table and TV cabinet takes up most of the position.On the sofa,Oblique sat a girl of long hair shawls,She saw us,Lift the bottom and then sit down."She is an orphan……"Uncle zhang said, pointing to the computation sadly.Whereas the computation hands smoothed her hair,With a careful eye on us and he. In the conversation with a big ye,We have more knowledge of the computation.Computation of 4 months old,Raised by grandpa and grandma.In her first birthday that day,Living separately careless parents smoke poisoning,Both died.Ah-dong and has since become an orphan,With grandpa/Grandma lived alone.

　　尽管从小缺少父母的爱护，但在爷爷和奶奶的精心照料下，文文一天天长大，与同龄孩子一样进入学校学习，并且成绩不错。爷爷和奶奶看在眼里，乐在心里，并暗下决心，一定要好好抚养文文。

Despite the lack of parents' love since childhood,But under the care of grandpa and grandma,Computation of grew up day by day,With same age children to enter school,And good.Grandpa and grandma to see in the eye,Music in my heart,And determined,Be sure to get some raise the computation.

她初二辍学后4年不愿出门 She refused to go out. Second day after dropping out of school for 4 years

　　天有不测风云，人有旦夕祸福。4年前，就在爷爷全力用爱为文文铺垫未来之路时，奶奶突然因病不治身亡。

Accidents will happen,And tragedies will descend.Four years ago,Grandpa was full with love for the computation of matting road in the future,Grandma suddenly died because of illness.

　　奶奶的去世，给年仅13岁的文文造成了巨大的心灵伤害。在送走奶奶后，她便不愿意去上学。刚失去亲人的爷爷，不忍心看到孙女哭泣，在多次送她上学无果的情况下妥协了。

The death of my grandma,To the age of 13, computation of great spiritual damage.After off my grandma,She doesn't want to go to school.Grandpa had just lost their loved ones,Don't have the heart to see granddaughter cry,In the case of several times to send her to go to school without compromise.

　　令爷爷没有想到的是，文文从此再也不愿意出门，每天在家里不是睡觉，就是坐在那里发呆。为了让文文走出房门，爷爷曾骂过她，也苦苦求过她，甚至还找来亲朋好友或文文的同学当说客，可文文始终无动于衷，坚决不肯外出。

To grandpa didn't think of,Ah-dong and never don't want to go out,Not sleep at home every day,Is the sat there staring blankly.In order to let ah-dong walked out the door,Grandpa had to scold her,Begging her, too,Even to find friends or classmates when ah-dong lobbyists,Can always ah-dong unmoved,Resolutely refused to go out.

　　文文就这样在家一待就是4年。其间，在爷爷的逼迫下，她曾到一家服装店打工，但只干了两天就不干了。后来在她的再三央求下，爷爷为她装上了宽带，她便把大多数时间用于上网。4年来，文文的所有生活用品都由爷爷代买。正因为她不让爷爷给她买新衣服，她现在穿的衣服都是4年前的衣服。

Computation of a stay at home is 4 years, just like that.meanwhile,In grandpa's persecution,She had to work in a clothing store,But only for two days just quit.Later on she importuned,Grandpa installed the broadband for her,She took most of the time spent online.In 4 years,All the articles for daily use are made by grandpa bought the computation.Just because she didn't let grandpa to buy her new clothes,She now wear clothes are 4 years ago.

　　“我今年已经76岁了，身体也不好，我现在最放心不下的就是文文……”爷爷难过地说，“如果我有个三长两短，她咋办呀？”爷爷告诉我们，文文的手腕上有多条伤痕，是她几次想自杀留下的。文文曾对爷爷说，如果他哪天去世了，自己也不会再活了。

"I this year already 76 years old,The body is not good,I now is the computation's mind at rest……"Grandpa said sadly,"If I have a gossip,What she do??"Grandpa told us,Computation of wrist have many scars,She left several times to commit suicide.Who said to grandfather ah-dong,If he passed away one day,Oneself also won't live again.

当画家和护士是她的梦想 When the painters and nurse is her dream

　　“不要轻易把伤口揭开给别人看，因为别人看的是热闹，而痛的却是自己……”随着时间的推移，文文与我们的话逐渐多了起来，甚至还拿来她的画和日记让我们看。

"Do not easily the wound opened to others see,Because the other people see is lively,And the pain is yourself……"With the passage of time,Computation of growing up with our words,Even took her paintings and diary, let's see.

　　当问及为啥不愿出门时，文文笑着说：“不为啥，就是不想出去，在家里挺好的。”她告诉我们，她在家里除了上网看小说、看电影和听音乐之外，也会通过QQ与别人交流，所以并不觉得寂寞。她特别喜欢看言情小说和动漫，不上网的时候，她会独自坐在床上或沙发上，回味小说中的情节，偶尔也会按照自己的想法重新构思故事情节。

When asked about why not willing to go out,Computation of said with a smile:"Why don't,Just don't want to go out,Good at home."She told us,She in addition to surfing the Internet at home reading novels/Watching movies and listening to music,Also can communicate with others by QQ,So don't feel lonely.She especially likes to read romance novels and comics,Don't surf the Internet,She will be alone sat on the bed or sofa,The plot of the novel,Occasionally, rethink the story according to oneself idea.

　　我们提出要到她的卧室看看，她欣然同意。这是一间面积不足十平方米的卧室，由于窗子被窗帘完全遮挡，室内的光线比较暗。我们借着透过窗帘的微光看到，房子中间摆着一张单人床，床边是一张电脑桌和一个衣柜，电脑的屏幕不时闪动着。文文说，她已经4年没有拉开过窗帘了，她已经习惯了暗光，也不想看外面的世界。

We propose to look into her bedroom,She readily agreed to.This is an area of less than 10 square meters of the bedroom,Because the window is completely blocked by the curtain,Indoor light is dark.We see through the light through the curtains,Middle of the room with a single bed,Bed is a desk and a wardrobe,A computer screen flashing from time to time.Computation of said,She has four years didn't pull the curtain,She has been accustomed to the dim light,Also don't want to see the world outside.

　　在我们不断的引导下，文文在我们临走时，终于说出了自己的梦想，她想成为一名画家或者一名护士。

Under the guidance of we keep,Computation of us when we leave,Finally spoke of their dreams,She wants to be a painter or a nurse.

编后语 editorial

　　青海夏都心理咨询指导中心的心理咨询师通过与文文交流后认为，文文的情况属于创伤后遗症，是在相继失去亲人后，没有充分宣泄自己心中的悲伤和调整心态造成的。为了帮助文文尽快走出阴影，志愿者们专门把她带出来玩耍或参加公益活动，心理咨询师也有针对性地制订心理救治方案，对她给予心理帮助。（记者 龙腾飞）

Qinghai shall psychological consultant of the psychological counseling through the communication with the computation after that,Computation of case belongs to the trauma sequelae,After have lost loved ones,Not fully express their sadness and adjust state of mind in the heart.In order to help the text out of the shadows as soon as possible,Dedicated volunteers took her out to play or take part in public welfare activities,Psychological consultant also targeted psychological treatment scheme was worked out,Giving psychological help to her.(Reporter dragon take-off)