父亲息怒 儿子知错！

Father down son of mistakes!

　　南昌一孩童被家长裸身罚跪街头 只因调皮被学校开除

Nanchang a naked by parents punish children knelt down streets because naughty was expelled from school

　　网友上传微博引发关注 专家认为小孩生身父母应反思

Net friend upload microblogs cause concern experts believe children should reflect biological parent

　　27日傍晚，一条“如此体罚孩子，到底该不该”的微博在网上疯传。微博讲述，昨日下午，在南昌市船山路一家干洗店门口，家长正在教育孩子，孩子裸着上身被当街罚跪，背上还被打红了。微博中还发了数张小孩裸身跪着的照片。是否有这样的事？孩子为何被罚跪？如此体罚孩子该不该？记者展开调查。

27 in the evening,One of the"Such a spanking,What should the"Weibo circulated on the Internet.Weibo tell,Yesterday afternoon,At the gate of a dry cleaner in nanchang boat mountain road,Parents in education child,Children bare to the waist be penalty knelt down this street,Back and turned red.Weibo also sent several pictures of naked children kneeling.If there is such a thing?Why do children sent kneel?So should corporal punishment in children?Reporter investigation.

微博 weibo

男童裸身被罚跪大街 The boy was kneeling naked in the street

　　昨日下午4时57分许，网友“Cara懿涵”发微博说：在南昌市船山路的一家干洗店门口，家长正在教育孩子，孩子裸露着上半身，被当街罚跪，能看到背上被打红。

Yesterday afternoon 4 when xu 57 points,Net friend"Cara taken culvert"Tweeting said:At the gate of the nanchang boat mountain road in a dry cleaner,Parents in education child,Child naked upper body,Be sent kneel this street,Can see the back is red.

　　记者联系上网友“Cara懿涵”。她告诉记者，当时她与朋友路过该路段，恰好见到这一幕。“我听说是因为这个小孩不听话。”她说，当时有人想把孩子扶起来，但孩子的家长不让。

Reporter contact on the Internet"Cara taken culvert".She told reporters,When she passed by the road with friends,Just saw this scene."I heard that because of the child not obedient."She said,When someone wants to bring the child up,But the child's parents don't let me.

调查 survey

当事孩子被学校开除 Party boy was expelled from school

　　根据“Cara懿涵”提供的线索，记者在南昌市船山路找到了那家干洗店。记者询问周边店铺了解到，小孩的父母平时对小孩特别好，但这次是因为小孩太调皮，才狠心罚小孩裸身跪大街。

According to the"Cara taken culvert"Provide clues to,Reporters found that dry cleaners in nanchang boat mountain road.The reporter understands of shop of periphery of inquiry,The child's parents usually particularly good to children,But this is because the child is too naughty,Only cruel penalty kneeling naked street children.

　　记者走进该干洗店，见到那名小孩，虽然他已穿上衣服，但依然跪在地板上。老板娘告诉记者，她姓吴，是小明(化名)的后妈。“他的爸妈早年就离婚了，从小他就跟着爷爷奶奶长大。”吴女士说，前两年，小明的奶奶去世，她就与他的父亲商量，将他接到了南昌。

Reporter walked into the dry cleaner's,See the children,Although he has put on his clothes,But still kneeling on the floor.Wife of shop-owner told reporters,Her name is wu,Xiao Ming is(Not his real name)stepmother."His parents divorced early in life,Grew up he will follow to grandma and grandpa."Ms wu said,The first two years,Xiao Ming's grandma passed away,She would consult with his father,Will he back to nanchang.

　　“我和他爸爸都是下岗工人，开了家干洗店糊口。”吴女士说，为了让小明更好地学习，他们将他送到寄宿学校。谁知小明不但没有专心学习，反而三天两头逃课，不是到网吧上网就是与同伴到处疯玩。今年1月的一天，刚下完雪，小明与同伴又一次逃课，偷偷跑到公园的游船上玩，结果脚下一滑跌入湖中，全身湿透了。“他自己上岸跑回来后，还向我们撒谎说是被高楼上倒下来的水淋湿的。”

"His father and I are both laid-off workers,Open the dry-cleaning business."Ms wu said,In order to let xiao Ming to study better,They took him to a boarding school.Who know xiao Ming did not concentrate on my study,Instead, three days two head cut class,Not to the Internet cafes is crazy to play around with your partner.One day in January this year,Just got off the snow,Xiao Ming cut class again with your partners,Secretly run to the park to play on a cruise ship,Results slipped fell into the lake,All wet."He runs after you come back yourself ashore,To lie to us by tall buildings fell on the wet water."

　　吴女士说，因小明调皮，小明的父亲万先生和她三天两头被老师叫到学校，而小明也常常挨打。“他妈妈离异后从来没有看过他，我虽然是后妈，但看着他被打，我也心疼。”吴女士说，她希望小明能听话能成才，这样她也觉得脸上有光。“每次挨打，他就要挨饿，我都会偷偷地给他吃的。”

Ms wu said,Due to xiao Ming naughty,Xiao Ming's father, Mr Wan and her three days two head is teacher to the school,And xiao Ming often beaten."His mother divorced and have never seen him,Although I was a stepmother,But he was looking at,I also love dearly."Ms wu said,She hopes to xiao Ming can become obedient,So she also felt that there is light on his face."Every time a beating,He will go hungry,I will secretly gave him to eat."

　　据悉，就在前几天，小明所在的学校通知吴女士夫妇，小明被开除了。“我们又跑到学校，求老师不要开除他。”吴女士说，学校最终答应给小明一个月的宽限期。没想到，就两三天时间，小明又逃学了。“他爸爸实在气不过，就把他上半身脱光，让他跪在大街上。”用吴女士的话说，他们希望通过这一举动让小明自己觉得丢脸，吸取教训。

It is understood,A few days ago,Xiao Ming school inform ms wu couples,Xiao Ming was dismissed."We ran to the school,The teacher not fire him."Ms wu said,School eventually agreed to give Ming a month grace period.I didn't think,Just two or three days time,Xiao Ming play truant again."His father was QiBuGuo,His upper body naked,Let him kneeling in the street."In the words of ms wu,They hope that through this action let xiao Ming felt humiliated,Learn a lesson.

专家 experts

孩子调皮因情感缺失 Naughty children due to lack of emotion

　　有人说棍棒底下出孝子，也有人说好孩子不是打出来的，是夸出来的。这样罚孩子，到底该不该？对于此事，我省心理学专家舒曼分析称，如果家庭是土壤，父母就是藤，孩子就是瓜。从这一点来说，如果孩子这个瓜出现问题，自然与家长这根藤有关。所以，父母体罚孩子未必有效。

Some people say that sticks out under a son,Some people say children are not playing,Come out in the kua.Such punishment children,What should the?For this matter,Psychology experts in our province shulman said,If the family is the soil,Parents are ivy,Child is the melon.At this point,If the child is the melon,Nature is associated with parents this cane.so,Parents corporal punishment is not effective.

　　舒曼分析，小明如此调皮有多方面原因：

Schumann analysis,Xiao Ming is so naughty for various reasons:

　　一是父母的内疚感。由于父母离异，作为父亲，对孩子会产生内疚感，希望通过各种方式予以补偿，这就会导致孩子对物质需求的膨胀。二是生母对孩子的教育缺失。不论父母是因何原因离异，生身父母与孩子都是铁三角关系，都应该对孩子的教育承担责任。从这一点说，小明的生母一直没有关心孩子的成长，应承担更多责任，更应该反思。三是情感缺失。虽然后妈对孩子很用心，但因为没有血缘关系，且孩子的创伤难以愈合，就导致孩子的情感支撑系统不牢固，在家庭中感受不到快乐，有心里话也不会对父母说。四是学习的挫败感。由于孩子在学校学习成绩不好，从学习中找不到快乐，学习挫败感就愈加增强。五是缺乏安全感。据研究，有不少孩子由于缺乏安全感，会利用各种调皮的异常行为来引起家长的关注。

One is parents' guilt.Because parents divorced,As a father,Creates a feeling of guilt on the children,Hope is compensated for by various means,This will lead to the expansion of the demand for material things.2 it is lack of biological mother to the child's education.Parents for whatever reason for divorce,Biological parents and children are the triangle relationship,Should be responsible for the child's education.From this point that,Xiao Ming's mother has been concerned about the growth of the children,More responsibility,Should think more.Three is the lack of emotion.Although the stepmother very attentively to the child,But because there is no blood relationship,And the child's trauma is difficult to heal,Leads to the child's emotional support system is not strong,Feel happy in the family,Have to say will not say to parents.Four is the study of frustration.Because of the children in the school study result is bad,Can't find happiness in learning,Learning the more frustration.Five is the lack of a sense of security.According to the research,There are quite a few children due to a lack of sense of security,Make use of all kinds of naughty behavior to cause the attention of parents.

建议 advice

营造孩子心灵“后花园” Create a child mind"The back garden"

　　对待这种离异家庭的孩子，舒曼认为，应为其营造心灵的“后花园”。

Treatment of the children of divorced parents,Schumann think,For the construction of the mind"The back garden".

　　首先，孩子的父母，特别是其生母，应认真反思。只有父母改变，才能带动孩子改变，影响他进步。其次，改变评价孩子进步的标准。由于小明的行为习惯、学习基础等各方面与正常家庭的孩子有差异，有极强的挫败感，因此父母在引导方面应该改变方式和标准。比如，小明喜欢上网，以前经常一上就4个小时，可以改成3小时、2小时、1小时，逐渐地改变，让他循序渐进地感受到自己的进步。再次，为孩子营造心灵“后花园”。尽管父母离异导致孩子成长存在问题，但孩子的天真需要父母为他营造一个心灵的“后花园”，充分尊重孩子，加强心理辅导，或通过同伴的力量影响孩子，让孩子逐渐变好。

First of all,Parents of the children,Especially the birth mother,Should think seriously.Only parents to change,To drive the children to change,Affect his progress.The second,Child change evaluation standard.Due to xiao Ming's behavior/Learn basic and so on various aspects has difference with normal families,Strong sense of frustration,So parents should change the way in terms of guidance and standards.Such as the,Xiao Ming likes surfing the Internet,Used on a 4 hours,Can change to 3 hours/For 2 hours/For 1 hour,Gradually change,Let him feel your progress step by step.Once again,,To create a heart for children"The back garden".Although divorce problems lead to children to grow up,But the child's innocent need parents to create a heart for him"The back garden",Fully respect the children,To strengthen psychological counselling,Or through the power of peer influence children,Let the child gradually get better.

　　文/记者陈艳伟 何柳斌 实习生周婷 左晓春(图片由网友Cara懿涵提供)

What article/reporter Chen Yanwei LiuBin interns Zhou Ting ZuoXiaoChun(Photo by netizens Cara taken culvert)