中新网郑州1月15日电(师红垒)100多名孩子不仅身着结婚礼服，还互戴戒指互许承诺……河南郑州一家幼儿园近日为儿童举行集体婚礼的消息一经披露，就引发无数网友热议。事后园方虽回应称“这其实就是‘过家家’的升级版”，但还是抵挡不住多数网友拍砖：用这种“婚礼”形式来强化性别角色和男女功能关系，无疑是心理上的拔苗助长。

Beijing, zhengzhou, jan 15 (Reuters)(T red base)More than 100 children not only wearing a wedding dress,Still wearing a ring to each other mutual promises……Henan zhengzhou a kindergarten for children recently held a collective wedding news once disclosed,Has millions of netizens.Afterwards, the park has responded"This is in fact‘Play house’An updated version of",But still not able to withstand the most netizens clap brick:In this"The wedding"Form to reinforce gender roles and function relationship between men and women,But is psychological.

“儿童集体婚礼”回放：成人结婚程序一项不落 "Children's collective wedding"The playback:Adult married a don't fall program

　　据了解，该幼儿园1月11日举办的集体婚礼有100多名园内儿童参加，小“新娘”身穿洁白的婚纱，小“新郎”的礼服也都是像模像样。伴随着《婚礼进行曲》，一对对小“新郎”牵着小“新娘”的手，依次走上台。

We have learned,The kindergarten collective wedding ceremony held on January 11, has more than 100 children in garden,small"The bride"Dressed in a white wedding dress,small"The groom"The dress also is serious.Along with the[Wedding march],Pairs of small"The groom"Holding a small"The bride"The hand of the,Walked on stage in turn.

　　该仪式还按照大人结婚的程序，老师和家长代表担任主婚人，“新郎”和“新娘”还一一接受询问、宣誓。当主婚人问到“你为什么要和你选择的另一半结婚呢？”所有“新人”更是异口同声回答“因为我爱他(她)”！

The ceremony also in accordance with the procedures married adults,Teachers and parents on behalf of as a minister,"The groom"and"The bride"Also take questions one by one/Swear an oath.When the minister asked"Why do you want to and the other half of you choose to get married?"All of the"New people"Answer is chorus"Because I love him(she)"!

“儿童集体婚礼”引网友拍砖 "Children's collective wedding"Bring friends clap brick

　　“孩子懂得什么是婚姻吗，更别说互相承诺了。这样只会更加刺激他们在这方面的好奇心。”刚刚落下“大幕”的这场“婚礼”，一经媒体发布，立即引发网友、市民的口诛笔伐。

"Children know what is marriage,Let alone promise to each other.This will only become more stimulate their curiosity. In this respect."Just fall in"The curtain"the"The wedding",Once the media release,Immediately trigger a net friend/Public criticism.

　　15日，记者走访32岁的公务员徐先生。他直言：“幸好多数人不认同此做法。我觉得孩子就应该做孩子的事，婚礼是属于成人的东西，不应该出现在他们的生活中。如果改成模特走秀，穿上婚纱也是可取的方法之一。”

On the 15th,Reporters visited civil servants, 32, Mr Xu.He say:"Fortunately, most people don't agree with this approach.I think children should do the kids,A wedding is belong to adults,Should not occur in their lives.If change to catwalk shows,Put on the wedding dress is one of the preferable method."

　　网友“新闻法眼”称，这是闻所未闻的新闻，按照儿童心理学所分析，儿童在四五岁以后有了性别角色意识，但是用这种“婚礼”形式来强化性别角色和男女功能关系，如同心理上的拔苗助长，甚至是摧残儿童两小无猜的纯洁心灵！

Net friend"News of a distraction"According to,This is unheard of news,According to the analysis of children's psychology,After four or five years old children have a sense of gender roles,But in this"The wedding"Form to reinforce gender roles and function relationship between men and women,As a psychological develop,Even child abuse innocent playmates purity of heart!

　　家有6岁女儿的吴女士也告诉记者，举办集体“婚礼”无疑是强迫孩子早熟。一个人有他个人成长的规律，儿童成人化会使童年丧失应有的天真，大人更不应该推波助澜！“我反对这种拔苗助长式的行为。这不是性教育，性教育不应该是这样的内容。”

Home has a 6 year old daughter, ms wu told reporters,Hold the collective"The wedding"Is to force children to early maturity.There was a man who had his personal growth,Adult children can make the loss of childhood innocence,Adults should not be more!"But I am opposed to this type of behavior.This is not a sex education,Sex education should not be so content."

园方回应是升级版的“过家家”，专家称“有点过” The park response is upgraded"Play house",Experts say"A little too"

　　在网友纷纷“拍砖”的同时，该幼儿园也对此事也进行了回应，称他们经常看到孩子们在一起玩“过家家”的游戏，这本身就是一种“婚恋敏感期”的体验。这种“集体婚礼”可以说是一种“过家家”游戏的升级版，和成人的恋爱、婚姻是两回事。

In Internet"Clap brick"At the same time,The kindergarten has also carried on the response to this matter,Said they often see the children playing together"Play house"In the game,This in itself is a kind of"Dating sensitive period"The experience of.This kind of"The collective wedding"Is a kind of, so to speak"Play house"Updated version of the game,And adults of be in love/Marriage is two different things.

　　"过家家’是孩子自然而然的行为，没有任何外力的促成，是儿童天性的显现。”好好成长工程亲子教育委员会委员、家庭教育金牌指导师黄磊对此认为，“但作为一个幼儿园，主动促成、举办集体性的这种事情，对孩子的心理成长来说，确实有点过了。”

"Play house’Is children's natural behavior,Without any external force to,Is the manifestation of children's nature."Parent-child education to grow well engineering committee/Gold medal in family education guidance division Huang Lei think about this,"But as a kindergarten,Actively contribute to/Hold collective that sort of thing,For the psychological development of children,Do a little."

　　黄磊告诉记者，孩子进入“婚恋敏感期”后，会对成人的婚姻关系感兴趣，从而会出现“我要和谁谁结婚”的想法，这时候家长和学校对这种心理都不能避讳，但要因势利导，给孩子进行正确的回答和疏导。

Huang Lei told reporters,Children to enter"Dating sensitive period"after,Will be interested in adult relationships,Thus there will be a"I want to marry someone"The idea of,By this time the parents and the school of this kind of psychological taboo,But to improve the occasion,Give children correct answers and guidance.

　　黄磊说，给予孩子正确的回答后，更多的去了解孩子的内心世界，孩子就能很自然度过这个阶段。但若举办一场集体“婚礼”，反倒把孩子成长过程中很自然就能度过的一个问题给强化了。

Huang Lei said,To give children the correct answer,More to understand the hearts of children,Children will naturally through this stage.But if you hold a collective"The wedding",But the kids grow up naturally can have a problem to strengthen.

　　事实上，这所幼儿园一直提倡性教育应该做得越早越好，并曾因连续数年开设“大尺度”性教育课吸引过多家媒体争相报道。

In fact,,The kindergarten has been championed sexual education should be done sooner rather than later,And had opened for several years in a row"Large scale"Sex education attract too much home media scramble to report.

　　“幼儿园的孩子对成人的婚姻关系感兴趣是个很常见的现象。”北大附小金色年华幼儿园的郜素娥园长认为，孩子到了这个阶段，家长和学校有义务对孩子进行正确的解释和引导，其实孩子明白之后通常都不会再纠结这个问题，但用举办集体“婚礼”的形式去对待这个问题确实有点过了。

"Kindergarten students interested in adult relationships is a very common phenomenon."Peking University conservatory golden years kindergarten GaoSuE director thinks,Children at this stage,Parents and schools have an obligation to children for correct interpretation and guidance,Actually after kids that are usually won't entanglements this problem,But with the host group"The wedding"To treat this problem in the form of really overdone.

　　教育专家尹建莉曾在她的《好妈妈胜过好老师》一书中提到，性是人的天性，到了该懂的时候自然会懂，就像会走路是人的天性，只需要时间来成全一样。尹建莉认为，孩子问到“性”，成人正确解释就行；孩子不问，成人不可主动“启蒙”。“把‘性教育’做成‘性启蒙’，比不做还要坏得多。”

Education experts Yin in her[Good mother is better than a good teacher]A book mentioned in the,Sex is people's nature,It is time to understand will understand,Like walking is man's nature,Just needs time to perfect.Yin think,Asked the child"sex",Adult proper interpretation;Children don't ask, don't,Adults do not take the initiative to"enlightenment"."the‘Sex education’Make it‘Sex enlightenment’,Don't do worse than."

　　尹建莉说，正确的两性观绝不可能孤立存在，它是一个人整个价值观、人生观的一部分。孩子只要有良好的价值观和正确的人生观，他一定会同时有健康的两性观。(完)

Yin said,Correct sex concept may not isolated existence,It is a person the values/Part of the outlook on life.Children as long as you have good values and a correct outlook on life,He will also have a healthy view on gender.(After the)