回国过年相亲忙 Home New Year

　　今年春节，阿幕以公司工作太忙有借口，留在了西班牙。春节不能与儿子团聚，阿幕的父母心里很不是滋味，而阿幕也为自己善意的谎言而感到内疚。“回国过年倒也没什么，我实在受不了爸妈的逼婚压力。每天和他们在一起无论干什么，都离不开结婚生子。一连几年都是这样，我都要崩溃了。”

The Spring Festival this year,O act work too busy to have an excuse,To stay in Spain.The Spring Festival can't and son reunion,O act parents the in the mind very not taste,Act and also a white lie for yourself and feel guilty."Home New Year's day is nothing,I really can't stand my parents forced marriage pressure.Every day with them no matter to do,Cannot leave the married and have children.A few years in a row,I was going to collapse."

　　阿幕来自古城西安，目前在一家华人批发仓库做会计，平时生活单调，很少有机会能遇到适合的女孩。阿幕的爱情理念很简单，一切随缘。身为男人应该以事业为重，婚姻和家庭可以稍后处理。可国内的父母却不这样认为，如今老两口都退休在家，每天除了为想儿子，就只盼着早日抱上孙子，国内的表兄堂妹都已经结婚生子，唯有阿幕仍旧单身。前几年，父母还只是口头上施压，劝说儿子快点娶个媳妇回家。可从前年春节开始，老两口主动出击，开始偷偷地给阿幕安排相亲。今天去张阿姨家串门，明天去李叔叔家做客，春节回国的几个星期，有三分之二的时间都在走亲访友，当然这些亲朋的相同之处是都有一个待嫁闺中的女儿。临回国前，阿幕把心里的不悦告诉了母亲，希望来年不要带着他到处访友，感觉自己像推销不出去的烂苹果一样让人瞧不起。

O act from the ancient city of xi 'an,In a Chinese wholesale warehouse to do the accounting,At ordinary times life is monotonous,Rarely have the opportunity to meet a suitable girl.O act's philosophy is simple love,Very easygoing.As a man should be career more,Marriage and family can be dealt with later.But domestic parents don't think so,The old couple are now retired at home,Every day in addition to want to son,Just looking forward to embrace grandson on at an early date,Domestic cousin cousin are already married and have children,O only the screen is still single.A few years ago,Parents also verbally,Persuade his son to marry a daughter-in-law home soon.Can begin from the year before the Spring Festival,The old couple initiative,Began to secretly arrange dates for the act.Today go to aunt zhang home visits,Tomorrow go to uncle li guests,Spring Festival return home a few weeks,Over two-thirds of the time to visit friends and relatives,Similarities between the relatives and of course there is a surge in the best daughter.Before returning,O act told the mother heart displeasure,Don't hope for next year with his friends and relatives around,Feel like rotten apples sell out let people look down upon.

　　不想去年回国过年，阿幕遭遇了另一番“相亲”大战。除了除夕和初一外，阿幕的行程全部被父母排满，几乎每天都有相亲约会，有时还分下午场、晚上场，一天见两个女孩。让他无法拒接的是，每个约会父母都会提前订好位置，所有相亲的花费都有他们承担。

Don't want to return home New Year's day last year,O act suffered another"On a blind date"war.In addition to the New Year's eve and the first,O act trip are all lined with their parents,Almost every day have a blind date,Sometimes games in the afternoon/Field at night,See the two girls one day.He was unable to reject,Each position appointment parents booked well in advance,All the cost of the dating them.

　　“他们已经为我做了太多太多，如果我拒绝，不去赴宴，他们一定会特别伤心。去年春节的经历简直就是一个噩梦，甚至回到西班牙我都时常梦见自己坐在咖啡厅里，女孩走马灯一样地挤进来。老人的心情我特别理解，可爱情该来的时候才回来，太强求不会有好结果。更何况，国内的女孩都太现实，以为出国的人非富即贵。她们渴望出国，这样不用受苦就能过上富人的生活，而像我这样普普通通的打工者，对于她们来说，犹如鸡肋。”考虑再三，阿幕打消了春节回国的念头，国内的父母并没有因此闲下来，他们扔在为儿子的婚事发愁，据说母亲托朋友找到了一个电视台的导演，她要给阿幕报名参加电视相亲节目。听到这样的消息，阿幕哭笑不得：“我的亲娘啊，难道你想让我永远都躲在西班牙，不敢回家吗？”

"They have done for me too much too much,If I refuse,Don't go to the dinner,They will be very sad.The Spring Festival last year was a nightmare,Even back in Spain I often dreamed that he sat at the cafe,The girl runs through equally.The old man's mood I special understanding,Can love didn't come back it was time to come,Too insist there will be no good results.What's more,The domestic girl are all too real,Thought of going abroad are either rich or expensive.They are eager to go abroad,So you don't have to suffer to live a rich life,And ordinary migrant workers like me,For them,,Like a chicken ribs."Think twice about,O act dismissed the idea of Spring Festival return home,Domestic parents weren't so carefree,They throw in trouble for his son's marriage,It is said that mother's friend found a television director,She wants to act to sign up for TV dating shows.Hear the news,O act in distress situation:"My mother ah,Don't you want me to always hide in Spain,Dared not go home??"

　　像大慕生活在西班牙的大龄男青年都抵不住父母逼婚的压力，那么到了适婚年龄女侨胞所面临的家庭和舆论压力就更大了。

Like big longed for life in Spain older male parents forced marriage pressure impetuously,So facing to the marriageable age Chinese woman family and public opinion pressure is bigger.

不结婚就会让父母伤心 Don't get married will let parents sad

　　过完年，飞鸿就要34岁了，仍旧孑然一身。10年前，刚刚大学毕业的她来到南京一家外企工作，不到半年，年轻有为，才华横溢的主管便轻而易举地虏获了飞鸿的放心。在主管的甜言蜜语下，她背着父母，偷偷地做起了主管的地下情人。那时，爱情和眼前的那个有家室的男人成了她生活的全部，她痴痴地傻傻地等着主管与妻子离婚，娶她过门。

Over the years,Feihong is 34 years old,Still all alone.Ten years ago,Just graduated from university she came to work in a foreign company in nanjing,Less than half a year,A promising young,Talented director was easily capture feihong rest assured.Under the director's honeyed words,She cheated on their parents,Underground lover secretly as a supervisor.At that time,Love and in front of the man who's family is all her life,She every time silly waiting for director to divorce his wife,Marry her the door.

　　三年的时间在无尽的谎言和等待中转瞬即逝，主管的妻子终于发现了丈夫与飞鸿的婚外情，以死相逼后又多次来公司大闹，为了平息妻子的怒火，保住自己的名誉和职务，他把全部责任都推卸了给飞鸿。

Three years in the endless lies, and wait,Director's wife has finally found her husband's extramarital affair and get rich,To die after several companies to make again,In order to calm his wife's anger,Hold on to their fame and position,He give feihong shirk all the responsibility.

　　“一切的一切都是这个妖媚的不知羞耻的女人所为，她为了得到上司的倾心，数次设计勾引，上司一下子把持不住才掉进了她的圈套。之后上司为自己的出轨行为后悔不已，试图终结这段不道德的关系，可女人不惜将丑事宣扬出去，以此来威胁上司。就这样，上司与女人偷偷摸摸地搞了一年婚外恋。”

"All work of this false shameless woman,She in order to get the boss's heart,Several design.,Boss suddenly tears just fell into her trap.After the boss regret for his cheating behavior,Trying to put an end to this unethical relationships,Can a woman do publicity will stunt,Boss with threats.In this way,Boss surreptitiously make a year an extramarital affair with a woman."

　　这就是主管和妻子、与公司领导交代的事件始末，故事中那个破坏他人家庭的狐狸精就是飞鸿。当然，飞鸿的结局和绝大多数小三一样，被主管抛弃，被公司开除，被同事嫌弃，被家人误会……

This is the director and his wife/With the company leadership explaination of the beginning and end of the event,Stories that fox is feihong destroy others family.Of course,,Feihong ending as well as the vast majority of small three,Jilted head,Fired by the company,,Abandon by a colleague,By family misunderstanding……

　　经过一年多的自疗，飞鸿才走出情商，为了忘掉从前的一切，2007年，她只身来到西班牙。此后，飞鸿的感情路一直不顺，和年轻年长的中国男人、西班牙男人都谈过恋爱，可结果都是以对方背叛告终。如今，飞鸿在一家华人律师楼做白领工资丰厚，生活稳定，在外人看来，她唯一缺少的就是一个可以陪她相守一生的男人。

After more than a year of treatment,Feihong just out of emotional intelligence,In order to forget everything before,In 2007,,She alone went to Spain.Since then,Feihong road has been a bad feelings,Young and older Chinese man/Spanish men are dated,Betrayal results are based on each other.now,Feihong in white-collar pay handsomely for a Chinese lawyer,Stable life,To outsiders,She is the only lack is a man can accompany her together life.

　　“坦白讲，我对男人早已心死。自己一个人生活也蛮好，哪怕这样孤独终老，我也没什么遗憾。”可她的父母却一直为女人的婚事担心。

"To be honest,I have a dead heart to the man.Yourself a personal life is pretty good,Even if it alone,I had no regret."Her parents have been concerned about women's marriage.

　　每年春节回国，飞鸿都父母被“逼婚”。母亲总是说，女人始终要嫁人，要生孩子，你在国外生活更应该有一个稳定的家庭。否则，几年后，爸爸妈妈都走了，你孤苦伶仃一个人多么可怜？

Every year Spring Festival return home,Feihong parents were"Forced marriage".Mother always said,Women always want to get married,Want to have children,You live in a foreign country should have a stable family.otherwise,A few years later,Mom and dad are gone,How poor you alone a person?

　　前几年，父母还会对未来女婿的工作年龄有些要求，如今，什么都再不重要，只要有男人愿意娶飞鸿，他们就巴不得立刻把她嫁掉。除了来自父母的压力外，亲戚朋友甚至同学都开始对飞鸿施压，一些好心人还主动给她介绍男友，单身的、离婚的、丧偶的、年长的，各式各样的人，无奇不有。明知道大家都是好意，可他们的做法让飞鸿难以招架。

A few years ago,Parents will also be working age some requirements for the future son-in-law,now,What is not important,As long as there is a man willing to marry feihong,They can immediately marry her off the ground as quickly as possible.In addition to the pressure from their parents,Relatives and friends and even classmates began pressuring feihong,Some good people also take the initiative to introduce boyfriend for her,Being single/Of the divorce/The death of a spouse/The older,All kinds of people,Wide world out there.Know you are kindness,Can they let feihong unmanageable.

　　“我没法告诉我的母亲，我心已死，此生不嫁。每当看到她人热切焦灼的目光，我就无地自容，仿佛自己是全天下最不孝的女儿。每年过年，他们必定会和我谈结婚的事情，而这个话题总是让我无力招架，难过不已，我没勇气面对他们，只能躲在西班牙。”

"I can't tell my mother,My heart is dead,This lifetime don't marry.Every time I saw her eager eyes of anxiety,I was ashamed,As if oneself is the most unfilial daughter across the world.Every year New Year's day,They will talk to me about marriage,And this topic is always let me unable to parry,Pretty much,I don't have the courage to face them,Can only hide in Spain."

　　飞鸿告诉记者，她有几个要好的朋友也是大龄剩女，每次给家里打电话，父母都会问及找对象的问题，每当逢年过节，这股催婚逼婚的炮火来势则更加凶猛。

Feihong told reporters,She has few good friends and older women,Every time to call home,Parents are asked to find objects,Whenever at the feast,This urge marriage with the fire of the forced marriage is even more fierce.

缓兵之计：租个女友回家过年 SOP:Rent a girlfriend home New Year's day

　　假如有一天阿幕和飞鸿都遇到了心仪的对象，结束了单身生活，那么是否回国过年也就不会再困扰他们。而侨胞小岩可能永远也走不出这个噩梦。

If one day, curtain and feihong are met with loved ones,End the single life,So whether to return home New Year's day also won't bother them.While Chinese small rocks might never go out of this nightmare.

　　与普通人不同的是，小岩是一个同性恋，一个只爱男人的同性恋。

Different from ordinary people,Little rock is a gay,A love only gay men.

　　小岩来自福建的一个十分富裕家庭。上中学的时候，小岩发现自己的性取向和与常人不同，大学毕业后，为了逃避来自家庭和社会的压力，以出国留学为名他来到了西班牙，一年之后他与一个意大利男人相爱，两个人正式开始了同居生活，如今他们已经一起生活了3个年头。因为是家中独子，小岩一直被父母和祖父母视为掌上明珠。每年春节，爸爸都会主动定好机票等小岩回国过年。随着年龄愈来愈大，父母催婚的频率越来越高。尤其是最疼爱小岩的奶奶，总是拉着他的手意味深长地说：“赶快带给姑娘回来吧，这样就算奶奶死了，也瞑目了！”而小岩却没有勇气和他们承认他同性恋的身份。

Little rock from a very wealthy family in fujian province.When I was at middle school,Little rock found their sexual orientation and different from ordinary people,After graduating from college,In order to avoid pressure from family and society,To study abroad after he went to Spain,A year later he fell in love with an Italian man,Two people begin the cohabitation,Now they have been living together for three years.Because is the only child,Little rock has long been regarded as eye. My parents and grandparents.Every year the Spring Festival,Dad will take the initiative to set good air tickets and other small rocks home New Year's day.With age increasing,Parents urge marriage frequency is higher and higher.Especially the love little rock's grandma,Always hold his hand meaningfully said:"To bring the girl come back to me,So even if grandma was dead,Also with open eyes!"And little rock have no courage and they admitted his gay identity.

　　今天，不得不回家过年的小岩决定租个女友封住家人的嘴。12年年底，朋友给他介绍了一个广州的女留学生，对方在确认的小岩的同性恋身份后决定帮忙。二人在2月初一起回福建，先到小岩家见长辈，住两天，然后女学生单独回广州陪家人过年。当然，往返西班牙机票均有小岩承担，他还会给女学生200欧元作为报酬。临行前，小岩告诉记者，租女友过年实属无奈之举，可是不这么做如何让父母和奶奶安心？为了能清清静静地陪家人过年，他只能出此下策。“租女士过年，只是个缓兵之计，只要我一天不结婚，他们就会一直逼我。可是，我实在不想为了家人而去伤害其他无辜的女人。前不久，在网上看到一篇专门写给同志的文章《春节，欢聚之外的如恒河沙数般烦恼》，里面列举了同志过年的种种压力，我感同身受，感同身受啊。”

today,Had to go home for the holiday, a small rock seal the family decided to rent a girlfriend on the mouth.By the end of 12 years,Friends give he introduced a female students in guangzhou,Each other after confirm the small rock gay decided to help.Two people together in early February back to fujian,Home to little rock to see their elders first,Live for two days,Then female students with family New Year's day back to guangzhou alone.Of course,,Spanish airline tickets shall be borne with small rocks back and forth,He will give female students 200 the euro as a reward.Before he left,Little rock told reporters,Rent a girlfriend had no other Chinese New Year,But do not how to reassure parents and grandmother?In order to clear local guide quietly family New Year's day,He can only out of the interview."Ms to rent for the holiday,Just a diversion,As long as I'm not getting married one day,They will as me.but,I really don't want to go to hurt other innocent women for the sake of the family.Not long ago,On the Internet to see an article specifically addressed to comrade[The Spring Festival,Gather outside like billions of annoyance],It enumerates the comrade of the Chinese New Year,I empathy,Empathy!."

　　小时候，我们总是盼着过年，盼着漫长的假期、丰盛的美食、漂亮的衣服和长辈的压岁钱。然而，随着年龄的增长，过年的意义也变得不再单纯。其实，年还是那个年，只是你我已经不再如当年那么简单……可是不管怎么样，父母和家人对我们的爱却不曾改变，如果可以，请放下所有顾虑，鼓起勇气回国陪陪他们，因为无论何时，一家团聚才是春节的真正意义。(湛卢)

When I was a child,We are always looking forward to Chinese New Year,Looking forward to a long vacation/The abundance of food/Beautiful dress and elder New Year's money.however,As the growth of the age,The meaning of Chinese New Year also become no longer pure.In fact,Year or the year,Only you I am not like so simple……However, no matter what,Parents and family for our love, never change,If you can,Please put down all the concerns,Summon up courage to return home with them,Because no matter when,Family is the real meaning of the Spring Festival.(Cham Lou)