吴小平

WuXiaoPing

　　女教师写近10万字家访日记(图) Female teacher family visit diary written nearly 100000 words(figure)

　　南昌吴小平坚持家访十余年 Nanchang WuXiaoPing adhere to the family visit more than 10 years

　　每周家访两次“上门家访是走进学生心里的一条捷径” The family visit two a week“The door in the family visit is the heart of students into a shortcut”

　　家访曾为无数学生留下过美好的记忆，可如今传统的登门式家访正逐渐消失，取而代之的是电话或网络沟通。不过，在南昌也有人坚守着这一传统的教育方式。南昌市青联学校的初中语文教师、班主任吴小平十余年来坚持每周到学生家里家访两次，写下了近10万字的家访日记。吴小平说，家访是走进学生心里的一条捷径，不到学生家里无法掌握学生成长的第一手资料。

The family visit had left for countless students to a beautiful memory，But now the traditional house type family visit is gradually disappear，Instead, the phone or network communication。but，In nanchang also hold this tradition was the education mode。QingLian nanchang city school junior high school teacher of Chinese、The teacher in charge WuXiaoPing ten years to keep a weekly to student's home family visit twice，Write down the nearly 100000 words of the family visit diary。WuXiaoPing said，The family visit is the heart of students into a shortcut，Less than a student's home cannot control the students' growth first hand information。

　　初衷：想让班里少点“问题学生” Original intention：Want to let class less“Problem students”

　　1987年，年轻的吴小平刚到一所职业高中担任语文老师和班主任。“我发现不少学生有早恋、吸烟现象，甚至一些孩子打群架，为了稳定班级的学习氛围，我决定对部分‘问题学生’家访。”吴小平坦言，与很多老师一样，刚开始时家访目的性很强。“这些孩子的人生才刚刚起步，我希望他们能安心在学校真正学点东西。”

1987 years，The young WuXiaoPing just to a professional high school as a Chinese teacher and the teacher in charge。“I find that many students have to early love、Smoking phenomenon，Even some children cluster，In order to stabilize the class study atmosphere，I decided to part‘Problem students’Family visit。”WuXiaoPing said，And a lot of the teacher，At the beginning of the family visit purpose is very strong。“These children's life has just started，I hope they can feel at ease in the school really learn something。”

　　吴小平清楚记得第一位家访的学生是小奇。小奇上课时吸烟，且在校园里和一位女同学举止过于亲密。“当我说要去家访时，小奇的家长很开心。但我看得出来小奇有些担心，但他还是带着我到他家里去了。”

WuXiaoPing clearly remember the first family visit of the students are small strange。Small strange smoking in class，And on the campus and a female classmate behavior is too close。“When I say I want to go to when family visit，Small's parents very happy。But I can see small strange some worry，But he still took me to his home。”

　　当天，吴小平见到小奇爸爸的第一句话是“你的孩子很聪明”，后来这也成为她家访时的开场语。“千万不要带着告状的想法去家访，不但会造成孩子的抵触心理，也容易让家长情绪激动，不利于交流。”吴小平说。

The day，WuXiaoPing see small's father was the first thing“Your child is very smart”，Then this also be her when family visit the opening of language。“Don't take the idea of unbelievers family visit，Not only can create the child's psychological conflict，Also easy to let parents mood excited，Against exchange。”WuXiaoPing said。

　　坚持：每周家访两次 Insist on：The family visit two a week

　　经过多次家访，吴小平所带班级的学习氛围浓厚起来，学生们对吴小平的感情加深了。有一次吴小平带全班同学到共青城出游，早上4点就要到学校集合，由于吴小平家距学校较远，几位学生专门骑自行车到她家去接她。吴小平说，家访为她在学生和家长心里奠定了信任的基础，这给她的工作带来了很大便利，她逐渐尝到了家访的“甜头”。

After many family visit，WuXiaoPing with class learning atmosphere is strong up，The students to WuXiaoPing feelings deepen。Once WuXiaoPing take the whole class to GongQingCheng outings，4 am going to the school set，Because WuXiaoPing home far away from school，Several students ride bike to the special her house to meet her。WuXiaoPing said，For her family visit in students and parents lay the heart the basis of trust，This gives her bring much convenience，She gradually taste the family visit's“miley”。

　　不过，那时吴小平的家访对象主要是“问题学生”，家访次数并不是很多。1997年，吴小平转到初中任教，开始了有计划的集中家访。“班主任的工作就是架设沟通的桥梁，让孩子和家长间更好沟通，增进学生与老师间的了解和信任。”吴小平给自己提了要求：一个星期家访2次。每次家访前，吴小平会和学生、家长预约好。

but，Then the WuXiaoPing family visit object basically is“Problem students”，The family visit is not many times。1997 years，WuXiaoPing turned to junior middle school teacher，Start the concentration of a planned family visit。“The teacher in charge work is to set up communication of the bridge，Let the children and their parents better communication between，Promote the student and the teacher's understanding of and trust in between。”WuXiaoPing give myself the requirements：A week family visit two times。Every time before the family visit，WuXiaoPing will and students、Good parents make an appointment。

　　家访：走进学生心里的捷径 Family visit：Students into the shortcut to the heart

　　语文老师吴小平有个习惯，喜欢写东西，记录生活点滴。十几年下来，她已经零零碎碎地写了400余篇家访日记，近10万字，日记里详细记录了每一次家访的经过和内容。

The Chinese teacher WuXiaoPing has a habit，Like to write things，Record in life。Ten years down，She has been writing bits and bobs 400 more than this family visit diary，Nearly 100000 words，The diary detailed record every family visit's pass and content。

　　现在很多老师的家访方式是电话或网络，吴小平为何仍坚持上门家访。吴小平说，每一位学生都有自己的故事，不到学生家里去，无法真正了解学生的成长环境和想法，很难和家长有效沟通。

Now a lot of teacher family visit way is to phone or network，WuXiaoPing why still insists on the door family visit。WuXiaoPing said，Every student has his own story，Less than a student's home to go to，To really understand the student's growth environment and the idea，It is difficult to communicate effectively and parents。

　　现在吴小平的家访早已没有起初鲜明的目的性。“就是去学生家里看看，和学生、家长一起坐下来聊聊天。”吴小平说，家访是走进学生心里的一条捷径，能帮她掌握学生成长的第一手资料，从不同的角度认识学生。

Now WuXiaoPing family visit had no at first distinct purpose。“Is to student's home to see see，And students、Parents sit down together for a chat。”WuXiaoPing said，The family visit is the heart of students into a shortcut，Can help her master students growing first-hand information，Know the students from different angles。

　　遗憾：错过一次家访让学生失落 sorry：Missed a family visit to let the students lost

　　坚持家访十余年，吴小平说自己仍有一些遗憾。2009年中考结束当天，吴小平和学生一起交流时，学生小蓉问她：“老师你为什么没有去我家家访呢？”当时吴小平无言以对。“她学习非常努力，但成绩总是上不去，是一位很乖巧的女孩子。其实我非常喜欢她，现在仍记得她当时有些失落的眼神，如果下次碰到她，我还要向她道歉。”

Adhere to the family visit more than 10 years，WuXiaoPing said he still has some regret。In 2009 the mid-term exam end，WuXiaoPing and student exchanges together，Students small rong asked her：“The teacher why didn't you go to my family visit？”At that time WuXiaoPing sails。“She worked very hard，But the record is couldn't get on，Is a very clever girl。In fact I like her very much，Now still remember she was some loss of look in the eyes，If the next met her，I have to apologize to her。”

　　此后，吴小平要求自己家访时不能错过一个学生。“如果不到哪位孩子家里家访，他(她)会觉得自己没有得到老师的认可，这会伤害到孩子的自尊。”如今，经常有学生问吴小平，“老师，你什么时候会到我家去家访？”，这让吴小平很有成就感。

Since then，WuXiaoPing for themselves when family visit can't miss a student。“If less than a child in the family visit home，he(she)Will feel no recognition by the teacher，This will hurt the child's self-esteem。”now，Often have students ask WuXiaoPing，“The teacher，When will you go to my house and family visit？”，This let WuXiaoPing feel a sense of achievement。

　　现在正值南昌炎热的暑假，吴小平仍经常坐公交到学生家里家访。吴小平说，家访的习惯她会一直坚持下去直到退休，届时她会将家访日记整理出来，作为教师生涯的纪念。

But during the hot summer nanchang，WuXiaoPing still often sit bus to students in the family visit home。WuXiaoPing said，The habit of family visit she will always be persist until retirement，Then she will sort out the family visit diary，As a teacher of career。

　　日记摘录：小女生要做太多家务 Diary excerpts from：The little girl to do too much housework

　　今天吃完午饭，就来到云云家，云云爸爸在家等候我。这是一个多子女家庭，有两个女儿和两个儿子，一家七口租住在锦联社区的一室一厅。云云的爸妈都是早出晚归，奶奶也在赚钱补贴家用。照顾弟妹的重担就落到云云的肩上。来家访的目的，是想请家长把云云从家务劳动中解脱出来。这么聪明的孩子，适当帮助父母是应当的，但不能让过重的家务压得孩子喘不过气来。好在其父能理解我的想法，承诺近半年让云云全身心学习。(江南都市报 文/图 记者廖济堂)

Today after lunch，A time came to home，Greetings dad at home waiting for me。This is a families with many children，Have two daughters and two sons，A family of seven members of one room one hall rented in the brocade association。The parents are setting out early time，Grandma also make money in their family。Take care of the heavy burden of the above is a time to the shoulder。To family visit's goal，Is to want to please parents send greetings from housework in earnest。So clever boy，Proper help parents is the shall be，But can't let overweight children on housework for breath。May his father can understand my idea，Promise to give half time study。(Jiangnan metropolis daily text/graph LiaoJiTang reporters)