三、真诚沟通的关键：聆听孩子内心的声音 three/Sincere communication key:Listen to the voice of the inner child

　　在我们家，跟孩子沟通第一点就是少说多听。孙晓老师有一句话，大耳朵小嘴巴，我们的家长要多听孩子说，孩子很多时候是需要一双耳朵，他不需要建议，他回来以后把他的想说的一吐为快的话跟我们家长都说的话，没事了。我的孩子一回来就说，简单的问一些话，实际上就是要大耳朵。我们今天来的女同志们不就是这种感受吗？我们心里不好受的时候，找一个人聊一会儿，心里就好过了。如果家长有一些大的道理要给孩子讲的话，要选择合适的时间，不要在孩子很生气的时候，或者是情绪很激烈的时候去给他讲一些我们想加给他，让他去遵守的事情。要选择合适的时间。合适的时间有哪些呢？在我们家里，我们家是闺女，她每个周五的晚上都是跟我们一起睡的。我在躺下的时候，关了灯的时候跟她聊一些东西，那个时候孩子是很放松的。这个时候你说的话她能听得进去。比如说在周末的时候，我会在家里创造一些机会。我把饺子馅和面都和好了，咱们一家三口包饺子。我们一家三口包饺子就是一个小时，一个小时聊天，这一顿饭就做好了。我老公就爱在这个时候给我的女儿讲道理。这个时候就争争吵吵的。但是不像严肃的时候争的那么激烈。我认为这就非常好。我们要选择一些合适的时间，如果孩子在情绪当下的时候，我们要先处理情绪，再解决问题。不要在双方都很不高兴的时候去跟孩子沟通，对我们来说也是，你先把你的情绪放下、调整好了，再跟孩子沟通，对于孩子来说也是，我们先考虑孩子的情绪，把我们孩子的情绪调整到由负到正的状态，再去沟通。

In our family,The first point is with child communication speak less and listen more.SunXiao teacher have a word,Big ears small mouth,Our parents must listen to the boy said,Many children is need a pair of ears,He doesn't need advice,He returned to his want to say any words with our parents said,It's all right.My child a back he said,Simple asked some words,In fact is to big ears.Today, we come to the female comrades is not this kind of feeling?Our hearts by bad time,Find a person talk for a while,A good heart.If parents have some big reason to give the child said,To select the right time,Don't in the child is very angry,Or is the mood very intense time to tell him something we want to add to his,Let him go to keep things.To select the right time.What are the right time??In our home,Our house is the girl,She every Friday night sleep is with us.I lie down in time,When the lights are off with her talk about something,When the child is very relaxing.This time you said she could listen to you.For example on the weekends,I will be home to create some chances.I put the stuffing and were reconciled,Let's 3 make dumplings.We are a family of three pack dumpling is a hour,An hour chat,The meal is done.My husband will love at this time to my daughter speak the truth.This time the always quarrel.But not as serious time for so intense.I think it is very good.We should choose some suitable time,If a child in the mood of the time,We need to deal with emotions,To solve the problem.Don't on both sides is the time of not glad to communicate with children,To us also,You put your emotions down/adjusted,Then follows the child communication,For children is also,Let's first consider the feeling of their children,Put our children's emotional adjustment to from negative to positive state,To communication.