教授女儿是怎样考上清华的？

Professor daughter is how to take an examination of tsinghua?

　　一个大学教授的教女心得

A university professor's goddaughter result

　　章越：女，1986年出生。小学就读于北方交通大学附属小学，中学毕业于人大附中，2005年考入清华大学(招生办)高分子材料专业，2008年继续在清华攻读硕士，2011年毕业进入美国宝洁公司的一家研发机构工作。父亲章梓茂：北方交通大学教授，将自己25年教育女儿的心得著成《要引导不要教导》一书。

The chapter:female,Born in 1986.Elementary school in northern jiaotong university attached primary school,High school graduated from the school of National People's Congress,In 2005 was admitted to qinghua university(Admission office)Major in polymer materials,2008 continue to study for a master's in tsinghua university,Graduated in 2011 to enter the United States procter & gamble company a research and development institutions work.Father 14:The northern jiaotong university professor,His daughter will be 25 years education experience into the[Will guide don't teach]book.

　　母亲：科研工作者

mother:Scientific research workers

　　自己吃饭是个大问题

His dinner is a big problem

　　女儿出生的时候，章梓茂和妻子一个在攻读博士学位，一个经常出差，而且夫妻俩不在一个城市，因此无法照看女儿，把女儿交给了孩子的姥姥。等章梓茂读完博士学位，和妻子同到北京工作把女儿接回来的时候，章越已经三岁半了。女儿跟了姥姥三年多，一直被姥姥一家人呵护着，全家人都让着她。接回女儿后，他发现有一个问题必须要纠正，那就是吃饭问题。

When the daughter was born,14 and his wife in a Ph.D. Degree,A frequent business trips,And both the husband and wife is not a city,So can't look after her daughter,Her daughter to the child's grandmother.14 and read doctor's degree,And his wife and daughter to Beijing to work after came back,The chapter has three years and a half.With the daughter grandmother more than three years,Has been the grandmother family care,The whole family all let her.Back after the daughter,He finds that there is a problem must be corrected,That is eating problems.

　　在姥姥家的时候，常常是女儿在前面跑，姥姥姥爷端着碗举着勺在后面追喂。从小在农村长大的章梓茂认为，孩子的本性就是饿了就会吃，不吃就是不饿。所以，在自己家里，把饭做好后，他让女儿自己吃，并告诉女儿，不吃的话等爸爸妈妈吃完了就没得吃了。刚开始，女儿也不好好吃，章梓茂真的不喂她，也不多说话，自己先吃起来，等女儿想吃的时候，往往菜真的没有了，而且两顿饭中间也没有零食。这样几天之后，女儿明白，吃饭的时候不好好吃，过后就没有东西吃，就要挨饿，于是，开始自己好好吃饭，并要求爸爸妈妈吃慢一点，别那么快把菜吃完了。章梓茂接受了女儿的这个意见，开始放慢速度，陪着女儿一起吃饭。女儿自己吃饭、好好吃饭的问题就这样很自然地解决了。

In grandmother home,Daughter is often in front run,Grandma grandpa holding bowl for the spoon in the back after feeding.From childhood grew up in the countryside of 14 think,The nature of the child is hungry will eat,Don't eat is not hungry.so,In his own house,Cook dinner after,He let his daughter to eat,And told her daughter,Don't eat words and mom and dad finished have nothing to eat.Just began to,Daughter is bad also delicious,14 really don't feed her,Also didn't say much,His first taste,And when the daughter want to eat,Often food really have no,And two meal among them, and there was no snacks.So after a few days,Daughter understand,Time of have a meal not delicious,After they have nothing to eat,Will go hungry,so,To start my own eat well,And ask mom and dad to eat slowly,Don't be so quick to vegetables to eat out.14 accepted the daughter of this opinion,Began to slow down,With daughter have a meal together.Daughter to eat his/Eat well problem so naturally solved.

　　和孩子交流

And children exchange

　　孩子上初中到高中的六年里，妻子一年有半年时间在西昌卫星发射基地。章梓茂在学校里既是教授、博导，另一方面还担任重要行政职务，很忙，应酬也多，但每周都会安排两三天与女儿一起吃晚饭。特别是周末的晚饭，一定要在最大限度上保证和孩子一起吃，边吃边聊，了解她的情况，针对她遇到的问题帮她出主意、想办法。

The child to the junior middle school to high school six years,His wife a year time in half a year the xichang satellite launch base.14 in school is professor/doctoral,On the other hand also serves as an important administrative duties,Very busy,Dinner party also more,But every week for two or three days and arrange daughter have dinner together.Especially the weekend dinner,Must be in the maximum guarantee and children eat together,Chat while we eat,Understand her condition,According to the problem of her for her advice/Think of a way to.

　　章梓茂认为，饭桌上是一个相互交流的平台，通过一起吃饭，可以实现三点：1、情感交流。教育不能代替交流，交流是平等的，有输出才有输入，要想真正了解自己的孩子，就要和孩子做平等交流，让他的输出成为你的输入，那样你的输出才有可能成为他的输入。父母和孩子之间才有可能相互了解，并进而实现相互理解，也才可能真正实现家长所期待的教育目的。2、出谋划策。有了这样一个自由聊天机会，孩子再遇到问题时，也自然会跟父母说，而父母在这时候给出点建议孩子是很容易接受的。3、防微杜渐。中学是孩子成长的一个特殊阶段，生理和心理都会有重要变化。容易出现问题。家长在餐桌上可以根据孩子年龄阶段把各种不同的问题作为"闲谈"的话题，给孩子打打"预防针"，增强其免疫力。

14 think,The table is a communication platform,Through the dinner,Can realize three:1/Emotional communication.Education can't take the place of communication,Communication is equal,Have output have input,To truly knows his own child,Will and children do equal exchange,Let his output become your input,That your output will be more likely to become his input.Between parents and children can be mutual understanding,And then achieve mutual understanding,Will likely be truly achieve parents expect education purpose.2/advise.With such a free chance to chat,The child to have a problem,Also naturally with parents said,And parents in the time given some advice children is easy to accept.3/A stitch in time saves nine.High school is children to grow up a special stage,Physiological and psychological will have important changes.Easy problems.Parents in the table according to the child age different problems as"chat"topic,Give children play the"Flu shot",Enhance its immunity.

　　从小处着眼培养孩子意志力

From childhood on place child will power

　　章梓茂认为，人生路上，无论做什么事都会遇到一定的困难和问题，如果没有相当的意志力往往很难把事情做成，所以，应该及早对孩子进行意志力锻炼，他选择了在生活中对孩子进行培养。女儿小的时候，带着她去公园，走累的时候，孩子常常要抱着，这时候，章梓茂往往让孩子再坚持一下，能不抱就不抱。女儿长大些后，他也常常带着她去爬山，锻炼身体和意志。女儿不到六岁的时候，有一天爷俩要去五公里外的朋友家串门。和女儿商量后，两人各骑一辆自行车出发了，女儿骑着她那粉红色的自行车很兴奋。骑了一半的时候，女儿说累了，他们就在路边休息，女儿问还有多远，他说还有一半路，女儿就有些为难情绪，他就鼓励女儿。随后爷俩继续走。又走了剩下路程的一半，女儿说骑不动了，埋怨爸爸骗她，路太远了。章梓茂跟女儿承认，自己估计错了，路对她来说，真的有点远。女儿说不去了，要回家。章梓茂问女儿：能骑回去吗？女儿说不能，章梓茂说，怎么办呢？要不然把小自行车丢掉，爸爸带着你回家？女儿不舍得自己的漂亮自行车。于是，爷俩就在路边歇了好大一会儿，章梓茂对女儿说：要是往回走，前面的力气就白费了，只要再坚持一下，很快就到了。在他的鼓励下，女儿又骑上了自行车，后面的一段路，他不断地给女儿讲路边的建筑物，告诉女儿就要到了，父女二人最终顺利到达目的地。当朋友得知爷俩是各自骑车来的时候，都觉得章梓茂心太"狠"，简直是虐待孩子了。章梓茂却觉得女儿从这次骑行中得到了意志力锻炼。这件事给女儿留下的印象比较深，长大后还对此事记忆犹新。

14 think,The life on the road,No matter what will meet some difficulties and problems,If not quite willpower often hard to get it done,so,Should as soon as possible for children will exercise,He chose in the life of children in culture.Daughter small of the time,With her to go to the park,Go tired when,Children often have to hold,At this time,14 often allows children to insist on it,Can not hold will not hold.Daughter grow older,He also often took her to climb the mountain,Exercise and will.Daughter less than six years old,One day YeLia to five kilometers outside the door at a friend's house.And daughter after consult,Each ride a bike set out,Daughter riding her pink bike is very excited.Ride the half of the time,Daughter said tired,They rest on the side of the road,The daughter ask how far,He said there is a switch,Daughter was some difficult emotions,He encouraged his daughter.Then YeLia continue to go.And walk the rest half of the journey,Daughter said ride don't move,Blame dad cheat her,It's too far from the.With 14 daughter admit,His estimate was wrong,Road for her,Really a little far.Daughter said not to go,To go back home.14 asked his daughter:Can ride back??Daughter said can't,Said 14,How to do?Otherwise the small bicycle lost,Dad take you home?Daughter do not be willing to part with or use their own beautiful bicycle.so,In the YeLia from a long while,14 said to her daughter:If you go back,In front of the energy is wasted,As long as the hold,soon.In his encouragement,Daughter and rides the bike,Back a long way,He constantly give daughter speak roadside buildings,Tell her daughter is coming,Two people father eventually reach the destination smoothly.When a friend that is their YeLia bike came,14 all feel heart too"malicious",It is the child abuse.14 but think daughter from the ride in the will power exercise.It gave the impression that the daughter is deep,After grow up to it fresh.

　　如何做到令行禁止

How to do move

　　父母在心理上总会有这样的优势：你是我的孩子，而且我都是为你好，所以你应该听我的。而现在的孩子大多是独生子女，从小被呵护惯了，自我意识特别强，不太"听话"。章梓茂说，要想让孩子完全按照你的意思行事，实际上是很难的。这就需要在平等交流和家长意志之间平衡好。如何令行禁止呢？章梓茂的原则是：少对孩子说"不"。这样可以避免不必要的情绪对立。"如果常把‘不行’挂在嘴边，这个‘不行’一定会大打折扣。只有觉得什么事情必须加以制止时，必须做到态度坚决才能达到令行禁止的效果。"章梓茂说。在他的记忆中，有两次对女儿说"不"。一次是四五岁的时候，女儿自己爬到高处去拿一个东西，他发现后，告诉女儿爬高危险，摔下来会受伤，不许爬，女儿说不爬了。可过了一会儿，又爬上去拿，这次，章梓茂在女儿屁股上狠狠地打了一巴掌，女儿大哭，当时就爷俩在家，他就让女儿哭，权当锻炼肺活量，等女儿哭了几分钟，他才把她抱在怀里耐心的给她讲为什么打她，终于让女儿明白：爸爸告诉你什么事情不能做的时候，就一定是不能做的。从此，他再没有打过女儿。女儿很听话，他也很少对她说"不"。第二次说"不"是上初中。有一天，女儿在学校里遇到了不高兴的事情，回家一言不发进了自己的房间，吃饭的时候，妈妈、姥姥、奶奶叫也不出来。后来，姥姥进她房间劝，她却说"你给我出去"。随后，把门关上了并上了锁。章梓茂觉得女儿过分了，让女儿把房间打开，女儿不做声，他使劲踹了一脚门，并大声说，如果再不开门，就把门砸了。女儿终于开了门，章梓茂推开了门，没说什么，让大家都吃饭。饭后，他单独跟女儿交流。首先，承认自己的错误：不该发那么大火，其次，表示看到女儿情绪不好，其实自己心里也难过，想帮助她，最后，给女儿分析她的行为中的不当以及应该怎样做。和女儿谈了半个多小时，终于沟通好。

Parents in the psychological, there will be advantage:You are my children,And I are good for you,So you should listen to me.Now most of the children are themselves only children,From childhood was used to care,Self consciousness especially strong,Not too"obedient".Said 14,Want to let the child completely according to your way,Is actually very difficult.This needs in the equal communication and parents will balance between the good.How to move?The principle is 14:Less said to the child that"Don't".This can avoid unnecessary emotional opposition."If often‘no’Uttered by,this‘no’Will sell at a discount greatly.Only think what thing must be stopped,You must do attitude firmly to achieve the effect of the move."Said 14.On his memory,There are two times said to her daughter"Don't".One was four or five years old,His daughter climb the high places, to take a thing,He found that after,Tell daughter climb dangerous,Fall will be injured,Forbid to climb,Daughter said don't climbed.But after a while,And climb up and,the,14 in the daughter's ass lounder a slap in the face,Daughter crying,Then YeLia at home,He let the daughter cried,Replace exercise lung capacity,And the daughter cried for a few minutes,He was holding her in your arms once patient to tell her why call her,Finally let daughter understand:Dad tell you what things can't do,It must be can't do.From now on,He never played daughter.Daughter is very obedient,He rarely said to her"Don't".The second said"Don't"Is top junior high school.One day,Daughter in the school had not happy thing,Home not say a word into his room,Time of have a meal,mother/grandmother/Grandma that also does not come out.later,Grandmother in her room advised,She said"You give me out".then,The door shut and locked.14 daughter think too much,Let the daughter room open,Daughter kept silent,He tried to tread a JiaoMen,And loudly say,If don't open the door,It smashed the door the.Daughter finally opened the door,14 pushed the door,Don't say what,Let everyone to eat.After dinner,He alone with his daughter communication.First of all,Admit your mistakes:Shouldn't so grouchy,secondly,Seeing his daughter said bad mood,In fact, in our hearts we felt sad,Want to help her,finally,To analysis the behavior of her daughter of rough and how should do.And daughter talked about more than half an hour,Finally communication good.

　　当孩子考了43分

When children take the 43 points

　　虽然女儿考上了清华大学，章梓茂并不认为女儿是特别聪明的。他说，女儿初一入学时，成绩处于中下游水平。但一直处于上升趋势。初二时有一次期中考试，数学考了43分，排全班倒数第二。回到家后，女儿把卷子拿出来让他签字，看到女儿已经很难过，章梓茂没说什么，在卷子上默默签了字。

Although daughter went to tsinghua university,14 does not think daughter is very clever.He said,Daughter when first admission,Results in the level of middle and lower reaches.But has been rising.There is a mid-term exam,Math exam the 43 points,Row second from bottom of the class.Returned home after,Daughter take out the examination papers to sign him,Seeing his daughter is very sad,14 didn't say what,In the examination paper in silent signed the word.

　　他相信女儿是努力的，知道这是个意外，他认为，孩子没考好的时候，不能盲目责备，也不能安慰了事，要想办法帮孩子找出不好的原因，找到解决问题的办法。他仔细看了女儿的卷子发现，是女儿对于所学的知识中有些概念性的问题没有弄明白，他指出这一点并对女儿说"不是什么大问题"，让女儿先自己琢磨一下。两天后进女儿房间的时候，他发现女儿把那张43分的卷子贴在了自己床头的墙上，那长卷子一直到那个学期结束。学期结束她的数学成绩是92分。

He believed that the daughter is hard,Know that this was an accident,He thinks,The children didn't take an examination of a good time,Cannot blindly blame,Also cannot comfort over with,To think of a way to help my child to find out the reason of bad,To find a solution to the problem.He carefully looked at her examination paper found,Daughter is for knowledge in some conceptual problems did not understand,He pointed out that this and said to her daughter"Not what big question",Let her daughter to ponder.Two days last in daughter the room,He found his daughter to that piece of 43 points in the examination paper posted on the wall of his bed,The long examination papers until the end of the semester.The end of the semester her math scores are 92.

　　这样考进清华

This pass into tsinghua

　　女儿高中顺利进入人大附中高中部。第一个期中考试后，章梓茂看了女儿的成绩，开始与她谈如何规划高中三年的学习。一个周末的晚饭时间，他用了两个多小时的时间，从女儿学校当年考入北大、清华的人数开始谈起，分析女儿初中时候的表现，高中的现状，以及学校的师资、教育特色、三年后上清华北大的可能性等等。

Daughter high school successfully to enter the school affiliated National People's Congress.The first after the mid-term examination,14 saw her daughter's performance,She began to talk about how to planning high school three years of learning.A weekend dinner time,He spent more than two hours of time,Daughter from school year was admitted to Peking University/The number of tsinghua began to talk about,Analysis the performance of the daughter at junior high school,The present situation of high school,And of teachers of the school/Education characteristics/Three years later on the possibility of tsinghua Beijing university, etc.

　　他认为，只要女儿自己有强烈的学习愿望，遇到困难的时候大人稍加点拨，成绩会稳步上升，考大学会有好结果的。他给女儿的建议是：课堂上一定要学好，与老师同学搞好关系，课余不上辅导班也并不单独请家教。学有余力，参加学校的社团和竞赛活动。女儿接受了爸爸的建议，一年后各科成绩居全班中等。

He thinks,As long as the daughter you have strong desire to learn,Meet the time of difficulty adults show how slightly,Result will rise steadily,Take an examination of university will have a good result.He gave his daughter suggestion is:The classroom must learn it well,And the teacher students improve relations,After school the remedial class also not alone please tutor.Spare capacity to learn,The school community and contests.Daughter accepted the father's advice,A year later subjects in the whole class medium.

　　高二会考结束后，章梓茂发现生物是女儿的弱项，又和女儿进行了一次长谈。给女儿讲了"木桶理论"：木桶盛水多少取决于最短的那块木板，高考(微博)比的是总分，任何一科瘸腿都可能导致成绩不理想。所以，在高考面前，不能因为自己不喜欢生物就放松对这科的学习，"为了高考成绩总分，你必须克服情绪忍一下，再不喜欢也要先忍一下，先把考试这关过了，喜不喜欢的问题等到了大学再考虑。因为，你想去你喜欢的大学，就得靠分数说话。否则会小不忍则乱大谋，没有别的办法，你觉得呢？"女儿听完后点点头，知道自己该怎样做了。到高二结束时候，各科成绩已经达到年级中上水平。

After the high examination,14 found creature is her daughter's weaknesses,And the daughter had a long talk.Give daughter told"Barrel theory":Barrel water depends on how much the shortest the board,College entrance examination(Micro bo)Ratio is the total score,Any department lame could lead to a result is not ideal.so,In front of the university entrance exam,Not because they don't like creatures to ease this section study,"In order to score of the university entrance exam,You must overcome emotional endure it,Don't like to also want to endure it,The first test it off after,Like problems to consider at college.because,Do you want to go to university you like,Would have to go on talking points.Otherwise you will a little neglect may breed great mischief,There is no other way to,What do you think?"Daughter heard nodded,Know how to do.To end time high,Results in all the subjects has reached grade above the average.

　　高三那年，经过第一学期的强化训练，各科成绩逐渐排到了高三的年级前100名，这时候，对女儿是否能考上清华北大章梓茂心里还没有底，因为女儿没有特长加分，只能凭"裸考"分数。考前一个月，章梓茂觉得该掌握的知识女儿都没有问题了，关键是让其放松心态，保证考试时正常发挥。他通过聊天等方式帮助女儿缓解心理压力，考前一天让女儿陪着自己看了场电影。考试当天，女儿骑自行车去考试。高考成绩出来：631分，高出清华大学档线4分被录取。

Three that year,After the first semester of intensive training,Results in all the subjects gradually exhaust to the high grade before 100,At this time,The daughter to be able to go to 14 tsinghua Beijing university heart also has no bottom,Because the daughter has not special bonus,Only in"Bare exam"score.Before a month,14 think this knowledge daughter all have no problem,The key is to let its relaxed state of mind,Ensure that when the exam normal play.He through the chat, etc to help alleviate the pressure of the daughter,A day before lets the daughter accompany oneself to see a movie.Test day,Daughter bike to the exam.Out of the university entrance exam:631 points,Tsinghua university files line more than four points be accepted.