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　　襁褓中的孩子渐渐长大，从一个任由父母摆弄的婴儿变成会跑会蹦的小屁孩。他们开始有了属于自己的想法，也开始进入第一个反叛期。当看着两岁的孩子开始挑战家长的权威性时，不少父母都会回以责骂平息孩子的对抗，但效果往往是适得其反，孩子可能更加放肆。

The child grew long clothes,From a allow parents tinkering with baby into will run you're small fart child.They began to have your own ideas,Also begin to enter the first rebellion period.When looking at two year old child began to challenge the authority of parents when,Many parents will return to scold quell the child's fight,But the effect is often backfire,The child may be more free.

　　如何平息这场家庭战争？投其所好、放权政策、声东击西这些看似与家教无关的词语，此时却正好能派上用场。

How to quell the family war?Throw the good/Decentralization policy/Deke these seemingly and tutor irrelevant words,In this case, just come in handy.

两岁开始孩子就“反天”了 The age of two children"Reverse day"the

　　天天在爸爸妈妈眼中是个乖孩子，出生后基本都很顺从爸爸妈妈的要求，生活习惯也培养得很好。

Every day in the mom and dad eyes is a good boy,After the birth of basic defer to mom and dad requirements,Habits also develops very well.

　　但是，天天进入2岁以后，忽然就好像变了个人，整天和爸爸妈妈作对，让他吃饭他要睡觉，叫他洗澡他就要看电视。不但如此，家里能拆的，能搬的东西，无一不被天天折腾一番。

but,Every day into 2 years later,Suddenly like a changed man,All day against mom and dad,Let him have a meal he want to sleep,That he take a shower he will watch TV.Not only so,Home can tear open the,Can move things,There is not a day flounder.

　　“像天天这样的情况，其实并不少见，进入2岁以后，家长将迎来孩子第一个‘叛逆期’，这对于新手父母来说必然会很头痛，但是只要注意和孩子的沟通方法，‘叛逆期’其实并不可怕。”某幼儿教育中心早教部教导主任谭小姐告诉记者。

"Like every day such circumstance,Actually not rare,Into 2 years old later,Parents will have children first‘Rebellious period’,The beginner must be very headache for parents,But as long as the attention and the child's communication method,‘Rebellious period’It's really not."A preschool education center development department director of teaching and miss tan told reporters.

　　2岁左右大多数孩子进入人生第一个“叛逆期”。父母要求做的事情逢事必“反”，用尽小脑瓜可以想出来的各种方法跟家人对抗，是孩子这个阶段最典型的表现。

2 years old the majority of children into the life first"Rebellious period".Parents to ask do every thing will be"reverse",As small gourd can think out various methods against with my family,Is the child this stage the most typical performance.

　　第一个“叛逆期”可以说是父母最头痛的时期，因为孩子还小，耐着性子给他们讲道理他们根本不听或者听了根本不去理会，无法用言语平息最后就只能“武力镇压”，最终导致父母和孩子之间的感情受到伤害。

The first"Rebellious period"Can be said to be the most headache period of parents,Because the child still small,The occasional resistance to give them reason they don't listen to or listened to don't ignore,Words can't quell finally can"Force crackdown",Eventually lead to parents and children between feelings hurt.

对策 countermeasures

投其所好“叛逆期”也不难搞 Throw the good"Rebellious period"Also it is not difficult to make

　　谭小姐说，几乎每天都有父母带孩子到教育中心向她吐苦水求帮助，想要化解这场战争。在她看来，2岁的孩子进入“叛逆期”，其实正是孩子有了自己的思想主张，学习独立的第一步，只要家长引导好了，“叛逆期”其实并不可怕。

Miss tan said,Almost every day the parents took the kids to education center to her beefing for help,Want to dissolve the war.In her eyes,2 years old children enter"Rebellious period",In fact it is children have their own views,The first step in learning how to be independent,As long as the parents guide well,"Rebellious period"It's really not.

　　采访期间，恰逢陈小姐带着2岁2个月大的儿子豆豆到教育中心上课。到了还有10分钟就要正式上课的时候，陈小姐想先带豆豆上个洗手间再进教室，可就在这时，豆豆就开始和妈妈“对抗”起来。

During the interview,Miss Chen really painted the town red coincides with 2 years old 2 months old son doug to education center in class.There are 10 minutes to formal class,Miss Chen really painted the town red want to take doug last the bathroom and into the classroom,But at this time,Doug started and mother"against"up.

　　谭小姐对豆豆说：“和小滑梯玩游戏好吗？这个游戏叫捉迷藏，就是豆豆先躲起来，让小滑梯藏起来，然后我们再找到它。”豆豆马上就乐了。于是，陈小姐顺利地拉着豆豆的手，走到洗手间去“躲”起来，而小滑梯则继续“藏”在活动室。等豆豆尿尿完了以后，发现小滑梯还在，非常开心。

Miss tan to doug said:"And small slide to play games?This game called hide and seek,First is doug hide,Let little slide hide,Then we will find it."Doug'll joy.so,Miss Chen really painted the town red successfully took doug hand,Walk to the bathroom to"hide"up,And little continues to slide"hidden"In the room.And doug after pee,Found in small slide,Very happy.

适当放权有助消磨“叛逆” Appropriate decentralization helps kill"rebel"

　　谭小姐提醒各位家长，孩子具有“自我意识萌芽，走向独立的欲望滋长”这样一个必然的发展阶段，家长们应该清楚地看到这个阶段对孩子成长带来的积极意义，就可以从容些，更多的时候不会被激怒，转而寻找多种应对的策略。

Miss tan remind you parents,Children have"Self consciousness bud,To separate desire to grow"Such an inevitable stage of development,Parents should clearly see this stage to bring children to grow up the positive significance,You can take your time,Most of the time will not be irritated,To find a variety of strategies to deal with.

　　应对孩子的“叛逆期”，最不妥当的做法就是和孩子对抗。只有2岁大，还处于婴儿期的孩子，遇到了来自父母强大的对抗，要么就会激发起他们在将来一直与父母对抗下去的动机，要么被父母的强权压制后会让孩子变得懦弱退缩，一旦遇到外力的阻挡就畏惧顺从。而且将来孩子还很可能不敢表达自己内心真实的想法，压抑自己的感情，变成表面乖巧、内心叛逆的双重人格，当内心集聚了相当的反抗情绪后，一旦爆发则难以收拾。

Cope with the child's"Rebellious period",The most inappropriate way of doing that is against and children.Only two years old,Is still in its infancy children,Met from their parents strong against,Either will stimulate them with their parents in the future has been down against the motivation,Or be parents' power after pressing will let the kid become weak and withdrawal,Once meet external force to stop is fear.And the future child is still very may not express their inner real idea,Suppress his feelings,Into surface cleverly/Inner rebellious dual personality,When the heart is made up of the resistance after mood,Once the outbreak is difficult to pick up.

　　她建议，父母在面对孩子第一个“叛逆期”的时候，可以自己先静下心来，不要让孩子的行为激怒自己。“我们可以尝试把孩子当成地位平等的小大人，一些非原则性的事情让他们一起参与讨论和解决。适当的自由发挥会消耗掉孩子心里的或多或少的‘叛逆"。

She suggested that,Parents in the face of the child first"Rebellious period"when,Can we settle to,Don't let the child's behavior angered his."We can try to take the children as status equal grownup,Some non principle things make together they participate in discussions and solve.Proper free play will consume the child of the heart more or less‘rebel".

声东击西击散“叛逆”坏点子 Feinting strike scattered"rebel"HuaiDianZi

　　一个2岁的孩子，即便是处于“叛逆期”，家长也不能无条件无限制地纵容他们。始终，2岁的孩子还有很多需要学习需要磨炼的地方，他们的要求不可能全部都是合理的。无限制的放权最终可能导致孩子会变成“小霸王”，同样能毁掉孩子的一生，因此除了放，家长们同样需要学习如何巧妙地击破他们的坏点子。

A 2 years old children,Even in"Rebellious period",Parents also can't unconditional unrestrainedly pamper them.always,2 years old children have a lot to learn where need to temper,Their demands can't all be reasonable.Unlimited decentralization could eventually lead to the child will become"Little overlord",The same can spoil the child's life,So in addition to put,The parents also need to learn how to skillfully break their HuaiDianZi.

　　"声东击西’应该是一个不错的方法。”谭小姐提出，在一些原则性的问题上，家长绝对不能让步，但是正面冲突又会造成亲子关系的损害，因此最好的办法就是分散他们在错误的决定上的注意力，然后再引导他们回到正确的路上。（文/记者幸琦昕、王广永图/记者罗知锋）

"feinting’Should be a good method."Miss tan put forward,In some fundamental problems,Parents must not compromise,But positive conflict and can cause parenthood damage,So the best way is to disperse them in the wrong decision on attention,Then lead them back to the right way.(Wen/reporter xing xin qi/WangGuangYong chart/reporter luo know front)