“社会面对性问题，是越开明越好，而不是越开放越好，而现实已经太开放了，却连基本的性教育都没做好！”第十届广州(全国)性文化节日前走进大学城，世界华人性学家协会副会长陶林教授和大学生面对面探讨性话题。大学生踊跃提问，“小三”、“性压抑”、“同性恋”等话题被频频提起。

"Social face sexual problems,Is more open, the better,Instead of the more open the more good,But reality is too opened,But even the basic sex education are not ready!"The 10th guangzhou(The national)Sex culture festival has walked into the university town,The world Chinese people sexologist vice chairman of the association TaoLin professors and students face to face sexual topics discussed.College students enthusiastically questions,"Small three"/"repression"/"gay"Such issues as was mentioned frequently.

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大学生准备好问题听讲座 College students' ready to problems to the lecture

　　性学讲座晚上19时才开始，但18时15分就有学生来占座，最后，广东药学院图书馆500人的报告厅座无虚席，连两边的走道上也站满了人。广州中医药大学经管学院大一新生小陈说，平时就有一些疑问，这次准备了几个问题要提问。而男生小张说，从小学到高中学校都没有这方面的课程，此次讲座正好恶补一下。

Sexology lecture night and then began to,But when 18 15 points have students to account for seat,finally,Guangdong college of pharmacy library of 500 people was full of people,Even on both sides of the aisle standing was filled with people.Guangzhou university of Chinese medicine collegue freshmen Chen said,There is some doubt at ordinary times,The prepared some questions to ask.The boys joba chamberlain said,To acquire high school schools are not this aspect of the curriculum,This lecture is likes and dislikes mend.

　　关于性的话题，在大学生中并非交流禁区。中山大学大一护理学系女生小王坦言正在拍拖，她说，现在多数大学生比较开放，她们在宿舍的“卧谈会”上常会讨论这个话题。

About sexual topics,Among college students is not communication area.Sun yat-sen university freshman nursing department girl wang said are dating,She said,Now most of the college students is open,They are in the dormitory"Will lie to talk to"On discussing the topic often.

　　对每年一次的性文化节性学讲座，也有学生表示听过多场。广东工业大学的大二男生小梁去年就来听过，觉得受益匪浅，今年不仅自己又来了，还鼓动好几位师弟师妹一起来。“很多大学生在谈恋爱，多学一些相关知识，懂得保护自己很有必要。”

Once a year to the sex culture festival sexology lecture,Also have students said listened to many field.Guangdong industry university last year two boys trabecular had listened to,Think benefit,This not only oneself again,Also incited several teacher younger brother teacher younger sister together."Many college students in love,Learn some related knowledge,Know how to protect themselves is necessary."

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性保护教育 Sex protection education

小学就得抓 Elementary school have to catch

　　陶林教授讲座结束后是提问时间，开始安静了十几秒，前两个站起来的都是女生，随着现场讨论气氛的活跃，才有男生踊跃提问。论坛结束时，还有很多高高举起的手。

TaoLin professor after the lecture is question time,Began to quiet for more than ten seconds,The first two stand up are girls,With the discussion of the active atmosphere,To have a boy to enthusiastically questions.BBS at the end of the,There are many held high hand.

　　有位女生提到前不久的一则新闻，郑州某幼儿园用“真人”布娃娃给孩子开展性教育，这是不是太早了？对此陶林教授说，性教育不是越早越好，但早一些没什么坏处。他举了一个例子，某次一所小学开展性教育知识抢答比赛，“月经”、“遗精”等名词一个个蹦出来，男生女生争相回答，结果在场上发笑的都是老师。

One of the girls mentioned recently news,Zhengzhou with in a kindergarten"real"Cloth dolls to children in sex education,It is too early?This TaoLin professor said,Sex education is not the sooner, the better,But earlier no harm.He cited an example,A a primary school in sex education knowledge vies to answer first game,"menstrual"/"spermatorrhea"One, such as noun jumped out,The boy the girl rushed to answer,The results on the pitch laugh is the teacher.

　　陶林说，小学生还没有性意识，他们是把性知识当科学，学习得自然而认真；而老师们懂得性，反而觉得不好意思。“较早开展性教育，他们更容易接受。当他们再长大一些，用得到的时候，自然也就明白了。”

TaoLin said,Elementary school students have not sex consciousness,They are the sexual knowledge when science,Learning natural and serious;And the teachers understand sex,On the contrary feel embarrassed."In earlier sex education,They find it easier to accept.When they grew up again some,Use have the time,Nature also understand."

　　“在小学三四年级以前，一定要开展性保护教育，这样才能起到未雨绸缪的作用，性教育的最大意义，就是保护孩子不出事。”陶林说。

"Three or four grade in elementary school before,Must carry out sex protection education,This can play a role,Sex education the most significant,Is to protect the child does not have an accident."TaoLin said.

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性问题上 Sexual issues

男女不可能平等 Men and women may not equal

　　如今提倡男女平等，是不是在性的问题也能真正平等？有男生挑出了这个话题。陶林教授现场发起调查，结果绝大多数人都认为女性会吃亏。他直言：“再强调男女平等，女性都是伤害最大的。”

Now advocate equality between men and women,Be in sex can truly equal?Have a boy to carry out this topic.TaoLin professor site launch investigation,Results the vast majority of people think that women will suffer.He talked bluntly:"To emphasize the equality between men and women,Women are hurt the most."

　　陶林曾经在深圳大学做过一次调查，结果显示，性行为之后，男生心情没有什么不好，反而更有自豪感；但女生却多了焦虑和紧张情绪，会担心男生以后会不会对自己好，会不会怀孕，会不会染病等。

TaoLin once in shenzhen university to do a survey,Results show that,Sexual behavior after,The boy is no bad mood,But more pride;But the girl is much anxiety and tension,Worry that boy will not to oneself good,Will not pregnant,Will catch a disease, etc.

　　“在社会观念上，女性也明显吃亏。”陶林说，婚外情多数发生在男性身上，就算被发现了，女性也多会认为男人一时经不住诱惑，或是被“狐狸精”勾引了；而女性被发现后，男人即便是想原谅她，也会顾虑面子问题，最终走向离婚。

"In social ideas,Women also obvious suffer."TaoLin said,Most cases of an affair in men,Even if is found,Women also think that a man will give in to temptation,Or be"Fox spirit"Seduce the;While women were discovered,Man even want to forgive her,Will also concerns face problems,Eventually lead to divorce.

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适当释放性压力没有坏处 Appropriate release sexual pressure harmless

　　广州中医药大学一位女生提到，看到身边许多同学都恋爱了，因为外貌或家庭因素，自己还是形单影只，一些类似状况的学生产生了心理问题。年轻人该如何自我排解？

Guangzhou university of Chinese medicine a girl mentioned,See side many students are in love,Because the appearance or family factors,Yourself or solitary,Some similar situation students produced a psychological problem.Young people how to ur own?

　　陶林教授说，大学生生理成熟了，有了恋爱的心理需求，也有了性冲动，却没有合适的恋爱对象，就需要自我调整心态。对克制能力强的人不成问题，对身体也没什么危害。若不能克制最好能有意识转移一下注意力，“再不然，适当释放一下性压力也没什么坏处，比如自慰。”

TaoLin professor says,College students' physiological mature,In psychological needs,Also had sex impulse,But no suitable love object,Will need to adjust state of mind.Strong ability to refrain from the people is a problem,No harm to the body.If can not restrain best can conscious of a diversion of effort,"or,Appropriate release the sexual pressure are not harmful,Such as masturbation."

　　他提醒大学生，爱情不是强求的，当因所处环境或自身原因得不到的时候，要学会改变，把更多时间和精力放在学习上，增强自己爱的能力，等环境改变之后，一切都会有的！

He reminded students,Love is not the demand,As for the environment or to its own reason when not,Learn to change,Put more time and energy on their academic work,To enhance its ability to love,After such as climate change,Everything will be some!

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社会太开放了却不够开明 The society is so open open but not enough

　　中华上下五千年，一直避讳谈性，但现代社会完全变了，大家对“一夜情”、“包二奶”等现象也习以为常，社会是不是足够开放了？开放到何种程度最合适？一位女生提出了这一问题。

The fluctuation in five thousand,Have been taboo to talk about sex,But modern society changed completely,You for"One night stand"/"Have a concubine"Wait for a phenomenon also accustomed to,Society is the open enough?Open to what extent the most appropriate?A girl put forward this problem.

　　“现在已经开放得不能再开放了，很多地方都有色情场所；但社会还不够开明，很多地方连基本的性教育都没开展好，很多青年在婚姻、恋爱的问题上还屡屡犯错。”陶林说，开明的社会是大家都能坦诚地面对性教育，每个人都知道如何保护自己。

"Now open couldn't be opened,Many places have pornographic sites;But it is not enough to open society,Many places even basic sex education didn't carry out good,A lot of youth in marriage/Love also often make mistakes."TaoLin said,Enlightened society is everyone can open up to sex education,Everyone know how to protect themselves.

　　“医院中因意外怀孕流产的女孩很多。”陶林调查中曾认识一个打工女孩，已流产7次，身体很差。女孩说吃避孕药自己害怕，使用避孕套男朋友不愿意，只能默默承受意外怀孕的后果。“这就是我们性教育的现状！”

"In the hospital because accident pregnant abortion a lot of girls."TaoLin investigation knew a working girl,Already abortion 7 times,Body is very poor.The girl said to eat contraceptives his fear,Use a condom boyfriend doesn't want to,Can be silent bear the consequences of pregnancy."This is our sex education present situation of!"

　　陶林说，瑞典是个性开放的国家，高中生中90%的都有过性行为，“这比例太高了，深圳只有不到10%”，但瑞典性开明程度也很高，小学时就开始性教育，每个孩子都懂得保护自己，意外怀孕率很低。(记者 夏杨 实习生 黄艳萍）

TaoLin said,Sweden is individuality open country,90% of the high school students have had sex,"This ratio is too high,Shenzhen less than 10%",But Sweden sex open degree is also very high,When elementary school began to sex education,Every child know how to protect themselves,Accidental pregnancy rate is very low.(Reporter XiaYang interns HuangYanPing)