《中国青年报》10月10日的一篇报道《6年后我将收获怎样一个孩子开学一月摧垮家长坚持6年的教育观》，在微博上引起了热议。如今，“在家上学”已是很多地方一些家长的选择，家庭教育和学校教育的冲突，也不是啥新鲜事儿，家长的诉求和学校的教育目标，有时候很难达成一致。

[The China youth daily]10 October, a report[Six years later I will harvest how a child on January destroy parents insist on six years of education],In micro blog caused a hot debate.now,"At home to go to school"Is already a lot of place some parents choice,Family education and school education of conflict,Is not what fresh business,Parents' appeals and school education goal,Sometimes it's hard to reach an agreement.

　　浏览了网友们的评论，我觉得，有一种对学校教育的“仇恨”正在网络上蔓延。当然，这种“仇恨”情结与长久以来我们对国内“应试教育”的批判氛围分不开，导致一提到教育和学校，动不动就上升到对“中国式教育”的挞伐，最终得出“把孩子送到国外”这样简单的论调。

Browsing the net friends comments,I think,There is a school education to the"hatred"Is the network spread.Of course,this"hatred"Complex and we have long been domestic"Exam-oriented education"Criticism atmosphere inseparable,Lead to a mentioned education and school,Always rise to"Chinese education"Its inception of,Finally arrive at"Send their children abroad"Such a simple arguments.

　　可以说，各国教育都存在家庭教育和学校教育的冲突，根本在于教师和家长教育理念的不同。在美国也不例外，《第56号教室的奇迹》一书的作者美国教师雷夫·艾斯奎斯，今年3月曾在北京做过专场报告会，在谈到家长和教师有不同教育理念的时候，他说：“当然，我每次都很听家长的话。但是在我的教室，就必须按照我的原则来做。举一个例子，今天早上给大家讲了一下教室里的制度，每一个家长都非常热爱我的金钱奖励制度，它教给学生怎么能够对自己的钱有责任感。但是有一年，有一个非常生气的家长找到我大吼大叫，他说金钱并不重要，他不希望他的孩子将来担心金钱。我说可以啊，这个孩子就没有参与金钱奖励制度的游戏。孩子来问我为什么这样做，我说我必须要听你妈的，你妈是我的老板。我从来不会和家长们争执，因为这件事情会浪费我的精力。”

Can say,Countries education in family education and school education of conflict,Depend on teachers and parents education concept is different.In the United States is no exception,[56 the miracle of room]The author of the book, American teachers YiSiKui rafe ·,In march this year in Beijing have made special performance report,In talking to parents and teachers have different education concept of time,He said:"Of course,Every time I listen to their parents are words.But in my classroom,It must, in accordance with the principle of me to do.An example,This morning to tell you about the classroom system,Every parents very love my money incentive system,Teach the students how to be able to own money has the sense of responsibility.But one year,Have a very angry parents find me yelling,He says money is not important,He didn't want his children will worry about money.I said ok,The child is not involved in money incentive system of the game.Children to ask so why did I do it,I said I have to listen to your mother's,Your mother is my boss.I never and parents dispute,Because it would be a waste of my energy."

　　无论如何，网络上一边倒对学校教育的批判，以及各种简单式的推论与逻辑，只会助长公众对学校教育愈加地“仇恨”，增加家长们对学校教育的“焦虑”，影响到孩子对这种冲突、困难的认知，产生负面、消极的情绪，甚至做出无谓的反抗。这种“对立”并不能消弭、融合学校教育和家庭教育之间的矛盾，相反，只会造成公众对学校教育和教师们的不信任。

No matter how to,The network of school education overwhelming criticism,And various simple type reasoning and logic,Just encourages the public school education more land"hatred",Increase the parents to the school of education"anxiety",Affect children to this conflict/Difficult cognitive,negative/Negative emotions,Even make unnecessary resistance.this"opposition"And can't level/Fusion school education and family education the contradiction between,instead,Will only cause the public school education and teachers mistrust.

　　事实上，有很多思想如创造性教育、集体教育与个性教育、教育理想与教育方法之间的差距等，本身值得更深入探讨。毕竟，对这些概念的理解往往见仁见智，并没有统一答案，至于教育方法上的分歧，也可以在教师和家长持续的互动与沟通中达成妥协。

In fact,There are a lot of ideas such as creative education/Collective education and character education/Education ideal and the gap between the education method, etc,Itself is worth more thorough discussion.After all,To these concepts understanding often opinions differ from each other,And no unified the answer,As for the education method of the differences,Also can be in teachers and parents continuous interaction and communication to reach a compromise.

　　当家庭教育与学校教育的模式发生矛盾时，有积极适应者，也有消极适应者。适应能力本身也是一项重要的素质和教育目标，这个世界并没有绝对理想的教育环境，这不仅是对孩子而言，也是对家长的考验。

When the family education and school education mode when conflict,A positive adapter,Also have negative adapter.Ability to adapt itself is an important quality and education goal,This world is not absolutely ideal education environment,This is not only for children,A parent is also tested.

　　往往，在舆论一边倒地批判教育的时候，那些在教学改革一线的教师的心声，却不被“主流媒体”传播，属于“沉默的大多数”。这种一边倒的“仇恨”情绪，只会破坏舆论生态的平衡，造成家长与教师、家庭教育与学校教育之间的紧张关系。与单纯批判相比，更需要的是不同角度、有建设性的意见。

often,In the public opinion leans to criticism of education,Those in the teaching reform a line of the teacher's voice,But not be"Mainstream media"spread,Belong to"Silent majority".This kind of one-sided"hatred"emotional,Only can destroy the ecological balance of public opinion,Cause parents and teachers/Family education and school education tensions between.Compared with simple criticism,More need is a different point of view/Constructive opinions.

　　(来源:中国青年报)

(Source: China youth daily)