To learn to be concerned about others and cooperation

　　尤其是独生子女，一定要学会怎样去关心人，学会照顾、学会合作、学会为他人提供自己力所能及的服务。其实，孩子本身是愿意这样做的，但家长有时会觉得这会耽误学习，从而阻止孩子投身到服务活动中去，如果在孩子小的时候这种萌芽和意识没有得到及时的培养和强化，慢慢地孩子的价值观、人生观就会被这种扭曲的价值体系所扭曲。

Especially the only child,Must learn how to care about people,Learn to take care of/Learning to be cooperative/For others to provide what service.In fact,The child itself is willing to do so,But parents sometimes think it will hold up learning,So as to prevent children to participate in service activities,If the little child this bud and consciousness are not timely training and strengthening,Slowly the child's values/The outlook on life will be this kind of distortion value system distorted.

　　学会感受挫折

To learn the feeling setback

　　现在很多家长会想尽一切办法为孩子营造顺利的成长环境，但终有一天孩子要独立面对生活。当孩子脱离父母营造的顺境后，一旦遇到挫折很容易就会绝望无助，因为他没有体会过这种感受。家长的过度保护，会使得孩子没有机会体验所谓的负面情感、挫折，导致孩子情感体验缺失，偏离一个正常的生活轨道。

Now many parents left no stone unturned for children build smooth growth environment,But one day, children to independent face life.When a child from parents after the construction of prosperity,Once the setbacks it would be easy to despair helpless,Because he doesn't have the experience to this feeling.Parents' excessive protection,Make children didn't have a chance to experience the so-called negative emotions/setbacks,Lack of emotional experience in children,Deviate from a normal life orbit.

　　专家提示：北京师范大学心理咨询中心宋振韶博士

Expert clew:Beijing normal university psychological counseling center SongZhenShao doctor

　　让孩子的感受有机会表达，让孩子学会感受自己的感受，不要变成很理性的像计算机那样的机器。在中小学生心理和情感的培养上需要老师家长的帮助和配合，多鼓励孩子表达，委婉地与孩子沟通他们的不足，即便是挫折也让他们去感受去面对。同时，也希望学生们在接受这方面教育的时候，能意识到心理与情感教育的重要性，能够体验到成长的快乐，并积极主动参与分享和表达，这样才会不断完善自己。

Let the feelings of children have the chance to express,Let children learn to feel your feelings,Don't become a very rational like computer that machine.In the primary and middle school students in the process of the cultivation of the psychological and emotional needs the teacher parents help and cooperate,To encourage the children to express,Politely communication with your children their deficiency,Even if it is defeat also let them to feel to face.At the same time,Also hope that the students accept the education in time,Can realize the importance of psychological and emotional education,Can experience the happiness of the growth,And actively participate in and expression,This will constantly improve themselves.

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