要读书，家里必须有书柜 To read,Home must have a bookcase每天读书不少于半小时 Reading books every day not less than half an hour家长带头读书做榜样 Parents take the lead reading do example
　　你肯定知道新东方，但你未必知道新东方教育科技集团专设的公益性家庭教育的机构新东方家庭教育研究与指导中心。从2008年成立至今，这个中心每年举办一次家庭教育高峰论坛，定期不定期对有志于家庭教育的职工进行培训和考核，每年在很多城市开设家庭教育方面的公益免费讲座，受益家长累计已达五十多万人次。11月10日，以“中国家庭教育的实践与创新”为主题的第五届新东方家庭教育高峰论坛将在北京举行。

You must know that new Oriental,But you may not know new Oriental education science and technology group is a public welfare family education institutions new Oriental family education research and guidance center.Since its foundation in 2008,The center will be held once a year family education peak BBS,Regular irregularly interested in family education worker training and examination,Every year in many cities open family education of free public lecture,Benefit from the parents accumulated has amounted to more than 50 people.On November 10th,to"Chinese family education practice and innovation"As the theme of the fifth new Oriental family education peak BBS will be held in Beijing.

　　着力于推动家庭教育的快速发展，今年8月，俞敏洪获得了全国妇联中国家庭教育学会评选的“2012中国家庭教育十佳公益人物”的称号。

Focus on promoting the rapid development of family education,August,Mr Yu won the national women's federation Chinese family education to the selection"2012 Chinese family education top ten public figures"title.

关于《家规》， about[rule],

有什么看法？ What view?

　　我觉得这样的话题讨论很有必要。的确是必须强调家规建设的时候了。

I think this topic is necessary.It is must emphasize the rule of the construction time.

　　从我自己的经历，我体会到家规对孩子的成长意义重大。

From my own experience,I realize the rule to children's growth is of great significance.

　　小时候我母亲也给我定规矩，且一旦定下就一直不变。

When I was a child my mother give me also set rules,And once set has been unchanged.

　　从小学一年级到高中毕业，我母亲规定我每天早晨必须把家里的地面清扫干净才能去上学。

From elementary school grades one to graduate from high school,My mother provisions every morning I must put the ground in the home clean able to go to school.

　　母亲还规定，我和我姐姐每天晚上必须按时完成各科作业。

Mother also provides,I and my sister every night must finish all work.

　　我现在一闭上眼睛，眼前常常会出现那样一幅画面我母亲在一边纺棉纱，我和我姐姐坐在煤油灯下做作业。

Now I'm a close your eyes,Eyes will often appear as a picture of my mother on one side spinning cotton yarn,Me and my sister sat under the kerosene lamps do homework.

　　父母一直这样要求着你，日久成习惯，习惯成规矩。这些对我的成长都深有影响。

Parents all the time requirements with you,Day long into the habit,Habits into rules.These to my growth have a deep influence.

　　我父母不认字，他们不可能从文化上教我，他们给我的是为人上的榜样。与人为善、乐于助人，都是我父母对我的要求和影响。我小时候生活在农村，在我们村子里，孤老人家的挑水劈柴，都是我们这些小孩子帮助完成的，而我父母特别鼓励我这样做。这些到现在依然是我身上的个性基因。可以说，没有父母对我的人格习性的规矩培养，我肯定做不了新东方。

My parents don't read,They can't be from culture to teach me,They gave me an example on the man.kind/helpful,Are my parents to my request and influence.When I was young to live in the countryside,In our village,The old and childless families is chopping wood,Are the children to help finish,And my parents encourage me to do so.These to now still is my body personality gene.Can say,Not the parents of my personality habit custom culture,I'm sure I can't do new Oriental.

你对孩子 Do you have for your child

也定“规矩”？ will"rules"?

　　我对我的孩子定下的最重要的规矩就是每天必须读书。

I set my children the most important rule is to read every day.

　　家规通常分为道德层面和习惯层面两个部分。这两方面同样重要。

Rules are usually divided into moral level and habits level two parts.These two aspects is equally important.

　　制定家规须具备几个要素： 家规必须是正确的，比如父母很小气的，规定孩子不可以拿自己的东西去与小朋友分享……这类不正确的家规之下，小孩子会变坏掉的。

Formulate rules should have several elements: Rules must be correct,Such as parents very stingy,The regulation the child can't take their own things to share with kids...This kind of incorrect under rule,Young children will be broken.

　　家规应该有利于孩子长久健康的成长。

The rule should be helpful for the child long healthy growth.

　　家规必须是坚持不变的，不能心情好时必须遵守，心情不好时随便遵守不遵守。

Rules must be adhere to the constant,Not in a good mood must abide by,When the mood is bad to keep don't abide by.

　　现在的家长

Now parents

　　最大的问题是？

The biggest problem is?

　　最大的问题就是不能区分宠爱和规矩的区别。最糟糕的父母是原则随意摇摆的父母，定下的规矩随心情而变松紧。这样的父母，小孩子没有惧怕，必然就察言观色行事。导致孩子长大了都没有规矩，没有规矩不成方圆。现在的孩子，基本都缺乏方圆意识。

The biggest problem is can't distinguish the difference between pet and rules.The worst parents are principle optional rocking parents,The custom of the set with the mood and variable elastic.Such parents,There is no fear children,Inevitable will sense motive act.Cause the child grew up all have no rules,Can be accomplished without norms or standards.Now the children,Basic are lack of fangyuan consciousness.

　　公益讲座中

Public lecture

　　感触最深的是？

Touch the deepest is?

　　读书的家庭太少了。

Reading family is too little.

　　我在某城市给5000名家长讲座，问谁家有书柜？只有不到20%的家长举手。问谁家书柜里有一千册以上的图书，举手的不到5%。再问“一年读过20本以上书的有没有”，举手的不到1%。即使在北京，可能有书柜的人家会多一点，但书柜里装书的不多，装酒的不少。

I am in a city for 5000 parents lecture,Asked whose have bookcase?Less than 20% of the parents raise your hand.Asked whose bookcase had a one thousand - book more books,Raise your hand to less than 5%.ask"A year read more than 20 the book ever",Raise your hand to less than 1%.Even in Beijing,There may be of bookcase the somebody else will more,But the bookcase with a few books,Pack a lot of wine.

　　我对家长们说，不读书的孩子难成才。只读教科书的孩子，怎么可能全面发展？“为了孩子，你们都应该赶快买书柜……”好在，一个月后的反馈，凡来听讲座的家庭，60%都配上了书柜。

My parents said,Don't read children become difficult.Read only textbook children,How could it be possible all-round development?"For the children,You all should hurry to buy bookcase..."fortunately,After a month of feedback,Whoever to listen to a lecture family,60% deserves to go up the bookcase.

　　要读书，家里必须有书柜，书柜里必须有一千本以上适合孩子读的书，你家里如果只有麻将桌，怎么去指望孩子爱读书？很多家长说，现在网络读书也很方便了，不需要再拿着本书去读了。我说捧读纸质书和拿着iPad看书，对孩子气质的养成意义完全不同。就像喝瓶装茶饮料跟坐在家里杯盏泡茶，那感觉，差别不是一星半点吧。

To read,Home must have a bookcase,Bookcase must have more than one thousand books for children to read books,Your house if only mahjong table,How to expect children a love of reading?Many parents say,Now the network reading is also very convenient,Don't need to take this book to read.I said PengDou paper books and take iPad reading,To the child temperament of a totally different meaning.Like to drink bottled drinks tea with tea cup sit at home,That feeling,The difference is not a bit of it.

新东方为什么 New Oriental why

开展家庭教育？ Family education in?

　　首先与我自己的教育经历有关。我之所以能走到今天，家里的规矩、父母的期待与要求，对我的成长影响至深。

First of all with my own education experience relevant.I can go today,Home rules/Parents' expectations and requirements,To my growing influence to deep.

　　其次，我认为，学校教育是家庭教育的补充，而不是相反。家庭教育对孩子一生的意义，远比学校教育来得重要。

secondly,I think,School education is a family education supplement,And not the other way around.Family education to the child the meaning of life,Far more important than the school education.

　　再次，新东方跟孩子打交道很多，在这过程中我发现，孩子的习性、优缺点，跟家长往往有直接关联。孩子的为人处世、情绪、性格、对事物的看法，基本都来自于家庭。老话说“三岁看大、七岁看老”，可见孩子基本是被父母定型的。

again,New Oriental to deal with a lot of children,In the process I found,The child's behavior/Advantages and disadvantages,And parents often have direct correlation.The child's world is/emotional/character/On the view of the thing,Basic all come from the family.An old saying goes"Three years to see big/Seven years old watch the old",Visible children basic are parents standardized.

　　我希望以我们的努力，能为中国的家长们贡献一些理念、一些思考，包括一些案例。比如我上面所说的书柜的例子，类似的改变，家长还是容易接受，因为并不需要改变他们自身的行为习惯就能完成。涉及到改变家长自身行为习惯的建议，家长们也能够听懂，但他们未必愿意照做。

I hope to our efforts,Can help China's parents contribute some idea/Some think,Including some cases.Like I said above bookcase example,Similar change,Parents or easy to accept,Because does not need to change their behavior will be able to complete.Involves change parents own behavior suggestion,Parents also can understand,But they may not willing to do.

　　我希望我自己以及新东方能从点点滴滴中改变中国的家长，能作用多少是多少，比如5000个家庭中哪怕有5个孩子因为这样的“作用”而变成了知识分子，我觉得我们的贡献也足够大了，我也就很满足了。

I hope my own and new Oriental can change from dribs and drabs Chinese parents,How much is how much can function,Such as 5000 families even had five children because of this"role"And into the intellectual,I think our contribution is large enough,I also very satisfactory.

　　家庭教育方面的问题，只跟家长谈一谈很难起到作用。父母往往很难意识到自己的问题，甚至于意识到了也改不过来。比如说过度宠爱，因为都是独生子女，家里独此一个，所以家长常常控制不住对孩子的宠，而不忍对孩子有所管。原来的家庭教育，很大一部分在兄弟姐妹之间就自然而然地完成了，比如分享、比如团队协作、比如谦让，很多美好的东西就这样建立起来了。

Family education problems,Only with parents talk about it is difficult to play a role.Parents often difficult to realize their own problems,Even realized also change don't come over.For example excessive dote on,For they all are the only children,Home alone this one,So parents often control to the child's pet,And for children to have tube.Original family education,A large part of brothers and sisters in between naturally finished,Such as share/Such as teamwork/Such as courtesy,A lot of good things so established.

　　下一步，我考虑过新东方要不要做家庭教育方面的咨询，我觉得这个是比医院还重要的。但目前我们顾不过来，我们还只能做一些比较粗的工作。但无论如何，这些工作我们愿意做，愿意认真做。

The next step,I considered new Oriental to don't do family education consultation,I think this is more important than the hospital.But now we can't come in,We also can only do some more coarse work.But no matter how to,We are willing to do the work,Willing to seriously do.

孩子虚荣爱攀比， Children love comparisons vanity,

家教如何发挥作用？ Family education how to play a role?

　　我觉得这也是父母必须要注意到的一个方面。这虽然是一个社会价值体系问题，但具体到每一个家庭，父母首先要不虚荣、不攀比、不炫富，给孩子好的示范和影响。比如我的孩子就不在意穿着花钱什么的，因为我本身不在意，不比。诸多社会现象的冲击面前，家长的教育往往显得无力。但如果父母和孩子一直在一起，养成了孩子对父母的敬爱，父母的影响力就会更大，对孩子就更容易产生影响。要教育孩子，人与人，不是穿衣的比较，不是财富的比较，甚至不是学习成绩的比较，而是一辈子是否健康、开心、有所贡献的比较。要帮助孩子树立正确的幸福观。很多道理，现在的孩子并非不懂，他们只是没习惯那样做。这个，家长要负很大责任。

I think this is also parents must pay attention to one aspect.Though this is a social value system,But specific to each family,Parents first or vanity/Don't bandwagon/Don't dazzle rich,Give children a good demonstration and influence.For example my children don't care spending in what,Because I don't care about itself,than.Many social phenomenon in face of the impact,Parents' education often appear weak.But if the parents and children have been together,Develop the child to parents' love,The influence of the parents will be greater,For children are more likely to impact.To education child,people,The comparison of the dress is not,The comparison of not wealth,Not even the comparison of the study result,But life is health/happy/The comparison of the contribution.To help the child establish the correct happiness.A lot of truth,Now children not don't understand,They just didn't used to do that.this,Parents should take great responsibility.

　　现在的父母与从前的父母相比，变化大吗？

Now parents and the former than their parents,Changed a lot?

　　变化相当的大。我觉得，从前的父母反倒更懂得教育。现在年轻一代的父母，80后、90后，特别是85后开始，被宠坏的一代又进入生儿育女的年龄段，他们将生养更被宠爱的下一代。我对此很有担忧。

Change is quite large.I think,Once parents but know more education.Now the young generation of parents,After 80/After 90,Especially after 85 began,Spoiled generation and to enter into children's age,They will have more is the next generation of pet.I'm there are concerns.

　　从前的人20岁左右就很成熟了。现在的人晚熟十年以上。我周围人里，在对孩子的教育方面，头脑能保持清醒和冷静的，不多。坦率地说，公务员在对孩子的教育上还是相对正向的。而商人、做生意的人，对孩子的教育就普遍存在较多问题。因为他们成天在社会上忙乱，没时间陪伴孩子共同成长，而作为补偿，他们就是给孩子大把的钱，这一来，问题更大。彻底乱套了。

Once upon a time people about the age of 20, is very mature.Now people late ten years or more.The people around me,In the children's education aspects,The mind can keep a clear and calm,little.frankly,Civil servants on the child's education or relative positive.While the merchant/Business people,In children's education is generally have many problems.Because they all day in society fuss,Don't have the time to accompany children grow together,As a compensation,They is to give children a lot of money,now,A bigger problem.Thoroughly muddle up.

　　如果寄语为人父母者，你会说什么？

If the message parenting person,What do you say?

　　父母首先要树立正确的价值观，并通过自己的影响和规矩，言传身教，用正确的价值观去影响孩子，促其健康成长。

Parents must first set up the correct values,And through his influence and rules,precept,With the right values to affect a child,To promote their healthy growth.

　　我在演讲中经常跟孩子们说，你们一定要做好人，因为好人都愿意跟好人打交道。坏人也愿意跟好人打交道。你是好人，人人都愿意跟你打交道，你是坏人，一旦被人认识到了，就没人愿意跟你打交道了。

In the speech, I often tell the children said,You must be good,That good people are willing to deal with the good.The bad is willing to deal with the good.You are good,Everyone would like to deal with you,You are bad,Once being recognized,No one would like to tell you a deal.

　　新的时代，一定要建立新的家庭规矩、新的家庭教育价值体系。记者李葵

A new era,Must establish a new family rules/The new family education value system.Reporter LiKui

　　转自北京晚报

Turn from the Beijing evening news