“上了大学，有心事宁愿给高中朋友打电话，也不愿向身边的人敞开心扉。”近日，武汉科技大学记者团官方微博上发起了一个讨论宿舍关系的话题，引发不少同学的热议。记者随后在该校采访了百余名学生，其中近八成的人都表示，对如何处理舍友关系充满了困惑。

"Went to college,Have worry would rather give high school friends make a phone call,Don't let the people around to open your heart."recently,Wuhan university of science and technology press corps official micro bo launched a discussion on the topic of the dormitory relations,A lot of students by hot debate.Reporter then in the school interviewed more than students,With almost eighty percent of the people said,For how to deal with roommates relationship full of confused.

宿舍里的“隐形人” dormitory"invisible"

　　小月是该校管理学院大一的学生，刚进校不久的她说起宿舍关系总离不开“孤独”、“郁闷”、“复杂”等词汇。“军训结束后，舍友们就开始忙于参加学生会和各种社团，平时上课也很少坐在一起。”小月告诉记者，她性格比较内向，也不愿意参加过多的活动，因此总是一个人吃饭、上课、自习。“她们回到寝室后都会讲讲一天的见闻，但那些对我来说太陌生了。”小月表示，她无法加入大家的话题，熄灯后还会提醒她们不要再聊了，于是舍友们开始渐渐地疏远、孤立她，连周末聚餐也不再叫她了。“我每天都第一个回宿舍，早早地爬上床后就用手机和高中同学聊天。”小月无奈地说，她仿佛成了屋里的“隐形人”，谁也不关心她在干什么。

Abortion is the school management college freshman students,Just enter a school near she spoke about the dormitory relations always cannot leave"lonely"/"depressed"/"complex"Vocabulary, etc."After military training,Give up the friends began to busy to join the student union and various community,The class at ordinary times and seldom sit together."Abortion told reporters,Her personality is introverted,Also do not wish to participate in the activities of too much,So is always a person have a meal/class/self-study."They will be about to return to bedroom after a day of knowledge,But those to me too unfamiliar."Abortion said,She can't join in the topic,Turn out the lights will remind them not to talk,So give up the friends began to gradually alienated/Isolated she,Even the weekend dinner will no longer call her."Every day I first return to the dormitory,Went to bed early after use cell phones and high school students chat."Abortion helplessly said,She felt as if she became the"invisible",Who also don't care about her doing.

人际关系成大学生压力 Interpersonal relationship into college students' pressure

　　记者在采访中了解到，像小月一样面临宿舍人际关系问题的学生不在少数。“大家都忙着自己的事，很少关心别人。”该校材冶学院的高同学表示，比起高中时的单纯，大学同学之间总有许多复杂的隔膜，让人难以敞开心扉地交往。“碰到困难我宁愿跟以前的同学说也不告诉身边的人，虽然不能解决问题，但他们起码能耐心地听我说完。”

Reporter in the interview to understand,Like abortion as facing the problem of the relationship between interpersonal dormitory students is not a few."Everyone is busy with your own thing,Seldom care about others."The material in the art college of high students said,Compared with the simple in high school,University students there are many complex between the diaphragm,Let a person hard to open your heart to communication."Encounter difficulty I would rather with former classmate say don't tell people around him,Although can't solve the problem,But they at least patiently listen to me say that finish."

　　据悉，武汉理工大学的学生曾就大学生压力问题进行过一次调查，他们在该校、武汉大学、中南民族大学和武汉工程大学随机采访了120名学生，结果显示，人际交往障碍、就业紧张、情感问题分别列属压力来源的前3名，而人际交往障碍更是以59票远远高于另外两个选项。

It is reported,Wuhan university of science and technology students have to the college students' pressure problems in a survey,They are the school/Wuhan university/Zhongnan university for nationalities and wuhan university of engineering random interviews with 120 students,Results show that,Interpersonal barriers/Employment nervous/Emotional problems listed separately belong to pressure sources of former three,And interpersonal barriers to 59 ticket is much higher than the other two options.

主动融入宿舍小家庭 Active integrate dormitory family

　　对此，一名从事了多年辅导员工作的老师表示，大学是一个人完善价值观的主要时期，而宿舍人际关系的好坏会直接影响每名成员的学习、生活乃至健康，不和谐的宿舍人际关系对学生的不良影响也非常大。“现在的大学生多为独生子女，自我意识比较强，很少能站在别人的角度思考问题。还有一些同学性格偏于内向，需要时间慢慢适应陌生的环境。”他建议说，和舍友相处时要尊重彼此的生活习惯，出现问题了要多沟通、尽量宽容理解，在条件允许的情况下，同学们甚至可以举办寝室文化活动，让每一名成员都能融入到宿舍这个小家庭中来。（楚天金报 记者宋锐 通讯员刘琪）

this,A name for many years engaged in the work of the political instructors teacher said,University is a person perfect values of the main period,And dormitory interpersonal quality to be able directly to affect every members of learning/Life and health,Not harmonious dormitory interpersonal relationship to student's bad effect is also very big."Today's college students are more for only children,Self consciousness is strong,Rarely can stand on the other people's Angle thinking.There are some students personality rather reserved,Need time slowly adapted to unfamiliar environment."He suggested,And roommates together to respect each other's habits,There a problem to communicate/Try to tolerant understanding,In the conditions allow,Students can even hold dormitory culture activities,Let every member can into the dormitory in the family to.(Chutian 27 reporters SongRui correspondent LiuQi)

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大学生心理问题三成源自人际交往 College students' psychological problems thirty percent from interpersonal

　　武科大城市学院调查显示：大学生产生心理问题的原因37%由人际交往带来的压力所致，其次为情感问题，占24%。

WuKe city institute survey:College students' psychological problems reason 37% by interpersonal bring pressures,Secondly for emotional problems,24%.

　　调查问卷的内容主要涉及气质类型测评、抑郁症分析、职业倾向测定三个方面从回收的答卷中看出，引起大学生心理问题的原因37%是人际交往中带来的压力，19%是学习压力，24%是因为感情问题，20%则是由就业压力引起。

The main content of the questionnaire involving temperament type evaluation/Depression analysis/Determination of professional tendency in three aspects from recycling papers that,College students' psychological problems caused by the reason of interpersonal communication is 37% in the pressure,19% is the study pressure,24% because of emotional problem,20% is caused by the employment pressure.

　　对于遇到的压力，大学生解决的途径也各有所异。调查显示：30%的同学选择找人倾诉，29%的学生通过运动唱歌等来释放压力， 25%的学生选择随时间自然好转，剩下的16%选择压抑在心里。

The pressure to meet,The solution of the college students also have different.Investigation shows that:30% of the students choose find someone to talk,29% of the students through the motion to sing and to release the pressure, 25% of the students choose natural better over time,The remaining 16% choose repression in the heart.