何为“被催族” What is"Be push family"

　　现在，网络上诞生了一个新的名词“被催族”，就是用来诠释此类现象。“被催族”是指到了该结婚生子的年龄，却没有“成家立业”，因而受到父母或亲人的催促，有些人不得不违背自己的意愿，去满足父母的要求。

now,The network was born a new term"Be push family",Interpretation is used to this kind of phenomenon."Be push family"Refers to the age to marry and have children,But have not"A fond memory",Thus by parents or relatives to hurry,Some people have to against their will,To meet the requirements of the parents.

　　城市晚报讯 现如今，人们的思想已经越来越开放了，可是这“男大当婚，女大当嫁”却是亘古不变的话题。看看电视上大大小小的相亲节目和各种各样的交友网站就知道还有多少剩男剩女为了“脱光”在努力着。不过在这群人中，还有一部分是被父母一步一步赶着往前走的，有的网友甚至调侃自己成了被催一族。

City evening news - nowadays,People's minds have more and more open,But this"Only the lonely,A girl should get married"It is the eternal topic.Look at the TV greatly small to programs and all kinds of friendster will know that how many left with female to male"off"In diligently.But in the crowd,One of the parents is step by step driving move ahead,Some net friend even ridicule a be push gens.

　　

一路成长：从小被父母催着过来的 Growth all the way:From childhood parents by drives come over

　　要说到这被催一族，相信小王可是他们当中的典型代表了。小王，女，1983年生人，研究生学历，现就职于一家大型公司。小王读大学的时候，家长总是告诫，年龄还小，要把心思都放在学习上，尽量不要因为其他的事分心。小王心里明白，父母是不想自己太早谈恋爱。

Say to this is push gens,But they believe that wang of the typical representative.wang,female,Born in 1983,Graduate student degree,He is now working at a large company.Wang when I was in college,Parents always told,Age still small,The idea on academic studies,Try not to because other things distraction.Wang understand with their heart,Parents don't want to fall in love too early.

　　大学毕业了，小王考上了研究生，由于没有遇到合适的，也就没有男朋友。由于总能收到同学们的结婚请柬，小王父母可坐不住了。“你王叔叔家的儿子不错，哪天有时间介绍你们见见。”“你到年纪了，该考虑个人问题了。”父母的一番苦口婆心，无奈之下，小王只能是应付相亲。

Graduated from university,Wang went to graduate,Since there is no meeting the right,There would be no boyfriend.Because can always receive the classmates wedding invitation,Wang parents can sit."Your uncle wang's son is good,Which day have time to introduce you to meet.""You to age,This account of personal problem."Parents' a well-meaning,Helpless under,Wang can only is to cope with a blind date.

　　原本小王心想，有了男朋友，父母就不会催了。可是没想到，父母又催着两人结婚。“毕业了，工作了，该结婚了。”本打算进入职场大展宏图的她，面临的却是家人的催婚。要说自己也到了结婚的年龄，双方合适，小王和男朋友也就顺了父母的意思。

Originally wang thought,Has a boyfriend,Parents will not rush me.But had not thought,Parents and urged the two people get married."graduated,work,The married."This plan to enter the workplace of her ambitions,The face is the urge marriage family.Say oneself also to the age of marriage,Both the right,Wang and boyfriend is the meaning of the parents.

　　谁料到，父母的催促并没有因此结束。老人经常暗示，希望小王趁年轻早点要孩子。“催完结婚催孩子，到底啥时候是个头啊。”用小王自己的话说，这一路都是被父母催着过来的。

During the,The parents urged did not end so.The old man often suggested that,Hope wang young children early."Push the wedding push children,What time is the head ah."With wang own words,This is all the way parents drives come over.

　　

走红网络：“被催族”已成网友调侃、抱怨话题 Popular network:"Be push family"Has become a net friend ridicule/Complain that the topic

　　其实，小王的遭遇并不是偶然。记者在百度输入“父母催婚”，能找到500万个相关帖子。如今，“被催婚族”走红网络，催婚催育已经成为很多网友调侃和抱怨的话题。有人诙谐地总结：单身男女最怕听到的几句问候语是：“你结婚了吗？”“人家隔壁张大妈的闺女，跟你一般大，孩子都会打酱油了。”“抓紧时间吧，年纪真不小了。”“某某阿姨的同事的侄子人不错，你去见见吧！”

In fact,Wang's experience is not accidental.Reporter in the baidu input"Parents urge marriage",Can find 5 million relevant posts.now,"Be urge marriage family"Popular network,Urge marriage push education has become a net friend ridicule and complain about the topic.Someone comically summary:Single men and women most afraid hear a few words is greeting:"Are you married?""The somebody else ZhangDaMa next to the girl,With your general big,Children can play the soy sauce.""Take the time,The age is not small.""So-and-so aunt colleagues nephew a nice person,You to meet it!"

　　

子女心声：一路被催 生活压力很大 Children voice:All the way be push life under a lot of pressure

　　说到这儿，“被催族”的经历可以分为三部曲，催着相亲催着结婚催着生子。有些“被催族”休息日甚至全部用来相亲，十一长假变成“相亲假”，让他们叫苦连连。那么，已到结婚生子的他们，为什么不着急呢？在采访中，记者了解到，其实他们有很多自己的想法。

Said here,"Be push family"Experience can be divided into trilogy,Drives to push a wedding drives a son.some"Be push family"Rest day or even all used to blind date,Eleven long holiday into"To false",Let them cry again and again.so,Have to marry and have children they,Why not try so hard?In the interview,The reporter understands,In fact they have a lot of your own ideas.

　　对父母的催促有抵制逆反心理。小李就觉得，她不太能接受相亲而来的婚姻，两个人在一起要熟悉对方，不是见个面吃个饭就行的。结婚是过日子，是自己找老公又不是父母找老公。

Parents urged a boycott of the negative mentality.Xiao li feel,She can not accept to the marriage,Two people together to be familiar with each other,Not see a surface eat a rice is done.Marriage is life,Is find a husband is not parents to find a husband.

　　还有就是生活和工作上的压力，刚刚参加工作正是打拼的时候，这个时候结婚不适合。

There is life and work pressure,Just to work when it is played,This time is not suitable for marriage.

　　生活压力大，结婚生子成本高。现如今一说到结婚，有房有车就像以前的三大件一样似乎成了基本条件。可是这没房、没车，经济上的压力也很大。等攒够钱买房子，这婚期也就一拖再拖。再说说生孩子，养育一个孩子的成本相对于20年前要高出很多，令很多还在还房贷的小两口望尘莫及。

Life pressure big,Married high cost.Now say to get married,Has the room have a car like previous three big seems to become as basic conditions.But this didn't room/Don't have a car,Economic pressure is very big also.And save enough money to buy a house,This day will drag on.Besides said children,The cost of raising a child relative to 20 years ago to a much higher,Make a lot of in house dust young couple.

　　

父母观点：子女没着落不行 男大当婚女大当嫁 Parents view:The children didn't landing not only the lonely a girl should get married

　　子女们的心声是句句有理，那么这些“被催族”的另一个主角，父母又是怎么想的呢？父母为什么会如此焦急呢？

The children's voice is every rational,So these"Be push family"Another leading role,Parents is how to think?Parents why be so anxious?

　　姜阿姨说，更多的是出于传统观念。她表示，周围邻居朋友的孩子都结婚生子了，就自己家的孩子还没着落，难免有些着急。吴阿姨则是从现实分析，“年龄越大越不好找对象，生孩子也越困难。而且我现在也退休了，没什么事情做，能帮着带带孩子。”吴阿姨表示，婚早晚得结，孩子也早晚得生，那何必一等再等呢，毕竟老话说得好，“男大当婚，女大当嫁”。

Ginger aunt said,More is from traditional idea.She says,Neighbors around friends the children got married,The house of his children haven't landing,Unavoidably some worry.Aunt wu is from reality analysis,"The bigger the age not seek object,Children are more difficult.And I now also retire,Nothing to do,Can help with the children."Aunt wu said,Marriage sooner or later and,Children born sooner or later,That why? Wait and wait,After all, as the old adage goes,"Only the lonely,A girl should get married".

　　

网友交锋：拒绝还是接受 各有说法 Net friend exchange:Refuse to accept or the statement

　　对于“被催族”的遭遇，有很多网友有很多不一样的看法。有的表示，不管父母怎么催还是要按照自己的方法来，毕竟是自己结婚。网友“圆宝”表示：“幸福是我自己的，虽然父母生我养我，但选择权永远在自己手上。”网友“小小轩”也认为：“成年人就应该知道什么事情是自己做主的，孝顺可以但不要愚孝，不然你会后悔一辈子的，毕竟这都是人生大事。”

for"Be push family"encounter,There are many netizens have a lot of different opinions about it.Some said,No matter what do parents push or according to his own ways to,After all is his own wedding.Net friend"Round treasure"said:"Happiness is my own,Although parents living I to raise me,But option forever in our own hands."Net friend"Small XiaoXuan"Also think:"Adults should know what it is to be your own boss,Filial piety can but don't fool filial piety,Or you will regret a lifetime,After all this is all life event."

　　也有网友赞同或理解父母的苦衷。网友“三角钉”就认为：“我们都是普通人，应该在人生的某一阶段就完成某一个阶段的任务，对于在任性和迁就中长大的"80后"来说，父母的引导、教导和督促是应该而必需的。”

Have net friend agree with or understand parents' difficulties.Net friend"Triangle nail"Just think:"We are all ordinary people,Should be in a certain stage of life can finish a certain phase of the mission,In the capricious and humors grew up in"After 80"for,Parents' guidance/Teach and supervise should be and necessary."

　　

应对之措：租女友 含糊推托 离奇想法迭出 Measures to deal with:Rent girlfriend vague ifs and buts extraordinary outstanding ideas

　　为了应对父母的催婚催育，“被催族”使出了浑身解数。小王表示，她在结婚问题上答应了父母，在生子问题上绝对不妥协了。“先拖着，就说自己工作忙，能拖段时间是段时间。还有的市民为减少父母催促，使出“租女友”回家过节的“奇招”。更多人采取“躲”的战略，父母唠叨假装听不见，亲友催促就含糊“在找呢”，以不变应万变。不过这些办法毕竟不是长久之计，大多数“被催族”还是在催促中挣扎。

In order to deal with the parents urge marriage push brood,"Be push family"Went the whole nine yards.Wang said,Her in marriage promised to the parents,In a son problem won't compromise the."First dragged,He said his work busy,Can drag time is time.And citizens to reduce parents urged,use"Rent his girlfriend"Go home for the holidays"Odd recruit".More people take"hide"strategic,Parents nag pretend to hear,Relatives and friends urged is ambiguous"Looking for it",With changeless should changing.But these measures, after all, not a permanent solution,most"Be push family"Or in urged struggling.

　　

专家支招：家长孩子应多沟通 Experts move:Parents children should communicate

　　原本结婚生子是好事，为何父母和子女就有这么大的分歧？那么面对这样的分歧应该怎样解决呢？记者咨询了吉林省社会科学院社会学研究所韩桂兰副所长。她表示，这类现象出现，主要源于传统和现代思想的交锋碰撞，老人们奉行传宗接代的思想，希望子女早日成家立业，享受天伦之乐。而年轻人忙于事业工作，压力大，对成家生子并不着急，双方就产生了矛盾。

Originally marry and have children is a good thing,Why parents and children have such a big difference?So in the face of such differences should be how to solve?Reporter consulting the jilin academy of social sciences institute of sociology HanGuiLan deputy director.She says,This kind of phenomenon to appear,Mainly comes from the traditional and modern thought of the clash of collision,Old people pursue the idea of reincarnation,Hope that their children a fond memory at an early date,Enjoy family life.And young people are busy work,Pressure big,To a half-rural don't worry,The two sides have come into conflict.

　　不能说谁对谁错，只是在思想上有代沟。作为子女，应该多和父母进行沟通，说明自己的情况，最好能定个目标，让老人吃颗“定心丸”。而老人要理解子女的难处，一切顺其自然，着急反而适得其反，不一定能成功。

Can't say who is right and who is wrong,But there is a generation gap in thought.As children,Should communicate with their parents,Explain own condition,Best can decide a goal,Let the old man have a"this".And the old man to understand their children's difficulty,All letting nature take its course,Try so hard but just the opposite,Can not succeed.