楚天金报讯 记者赵莉 通讯员白一鸣报道：她拥有名校硕士学历，曾是一家公司的副老总；她又是一位母亲，女儿现在华一寄宿学校读初二。为了照顾女儿的学习和生活，这位付姓妈妈毅然放弃了自己的事业，应聘到女儿就读的学校，做起了学生宿舍管理员，开始了另类的“陪读”生活。28日，记者在华一寄宿学校，拜访了这位妈妈。

Chutian 27 reporter ZhaoLi BaiYiMing correspondent reported:She has school master degree,Was a vice manager;She is a mother,Daughter now huayi boarding school reading there.In order to take care of her daughter's study and life,The pay surname mother resolutely gave up his business,Accept appointment the daughter school,With the students' dormitory administrator,Started alternative"Or relatives can apply"life.28,Reporter in the huayi boarding school,Visit the mother.

老总妈妈当起宿管员 Old total mother when the lodge keeper

　　付妈妈衣着得体谈吐不俗，她于去年11月放弃了公司副总的职位，当起了华一寄宿学校宿管员，负责3号楼的管理。“当初应聘时确实是想着照顾自己的孩子，但现在却是为了宿舍里的孩子们，过惯了这种充实的生活，想离开也不容易了。”

Pay mother dress talk not common,Her last November to give up the position of vice-president,When up huayi boarding school lodge keeper,Responsible for the management of the building no. 3."At the beginning when applying for it is thinking about to take care of their children,But now it is in order to the dormitory children,Used the substantial life,Want to leave is not easy."

　　付妈妈告诉记者：“我就一个丫头，从小比较娇惯，一直陪在身边，上初中要住读了，我怕她不习惯。”她原本打算在学校附近租房陪读，但打听到学校管理严格，平时很难接触到孩子，她有些犹豫。一个偶然的机会，她听说学校在招聘宿管员，连忙前去应聘，结果真就心想事成。

Pay mom told reporters:"I was a girl,Comparative spoil from,Always accompany beside you,Top junior high school to the ZhuDou,I'm afraid she is not used to."She had originally planned to rent a house near the school or relatives can apply for,But ask to the school management strictly,Usually it is difficult to come into contact with children,She is some hesitation.An accidental opportunity,She heard the school in the recruitment of accommodation keeper,Hurriedly went to apply for,The results really is the right man.

　　过去管人家，现在被人家管，尽管身份地位骤降，且每个月的收入只是过去的“九牛一毛”，但付妈妈觉得值，“我并不觉得心理上有什么落差，我就是想陪着孩子一起成长，知道她在我身边，心里才踏实！”付妈妈还表示，孩子将来上高中，她也打算陪读，去国外读大学，有条件的话她也会跟着一起。

The past tube the somebody else,Now someone tube,Although status dip,And each month of income is just the past"A drop in the bucket",But pay mom feel value,"I don't think what psychological gap,I just want to accompany children grow up together,Know her by my side,Heart just dependable!"Pay mom says,Children in high school in the future,She also plans to or relatives can apply for,To go abroad to read university,Conditional word she would follow together.

每周只能见孩子一次 Weekly can only see a child

　　在外人眼里，家长辞职进校打工，就是为了给孩子“陪读”。对此，付妈妈表示，起初自己还有点这个意思，但进校后她发现打错了“算盘”：学校出于公平考虑，有意将她们和自己的孩子错位，她们必须将所有精力投放在自己负责的学生们身上，基本无法照顾自家孩子。再加上宿管员的工作辛苦繁琐，最终，和其他家长一样，她们周末才能和孩子们聚上一次。“有时候在食堂、操场上，远远地看到自己的孩子就足够了！”付妈妈说，来了之后才发现，所谓的“陪读”真的就是一种心理上的安慰，一想到自己和孩子同处在一个校园，就安心了。

In the eyes of a stranger,Parents quit school work,Is to give children"Or relatives can apply".this,Pay mom said,At first the oneself still have some of this meaning,But after school she found the wrong number"abacus":The school of fair consideration,The intention to them and their children dislocation,They must put all the energies into his body responsible for students,Basic be unable to care for their children.Plus lodge keeper work hard trival,finally,And as other parents,Their weekend to and children gathered the last time."Sometimes in the dining room/The playground,Far to see their children is enough!"Pay mom said,Come after the discovery,The so-called"Or relatives can apply"Really is a kind of psychological comfort,Think of oneself and children with in a campus,Would be reassuring to.

　　付妈妈坦言，起初她辞职到校当宿管员时，孩子不理解，觉得这份差事辛苦不说，地位也不高，就是“宿舍大妈”的活。“我告诉女儿，我是靠自己的能力应聘上的，这不丢人！”付妈妈说，到后来，当女儿看到妈妈用责任感和爱心获得同学们的爱戴时，她默认了妈妈的选择。

Pay mom said,At first she resigned to school when accommodation when keeper,Children don't understand,Feel the job not hard,Status is not high also,is"Dormitory aunt"Of live."I told her daughter,I am by their ability to apply for the,It's not a!"Pay mom said,To later,When the daughter saw mother with the sense of responsibility and love for the students' love when,She default the mother's choice.

“陪读”累并快乐着 "Or relatives can apply"Tired and happy

　　和付妈妈一起应聘入校的，还有另外几名打算借机“陪读”的妈妈。负责1号楼的李妈妈是监利人，她说去年孩子入校上学后，一直不太适应，离家又远回来一次不易，考虑再三后，她辞职来汉在学校谋得了这份差事。相比之下，袁妈妈的初衷就“单纯”得多她的先生在这所学校执教，女儿又考入了该校，她自己“在家闲得无聊”便应聘做了宿管员。

And to pay for the door with my mom,There are also several going to looking"Or relatives can apply"mother.Responsible for 1 floor of lee mother is jianli people,She said that last year after school of children in the door,Has not been very adapt to,Away from home and far back a not easy,After think twice,Her resignation to the han in the school succeeded in getting the job.Compared with,Yuen mother's original intention is"simple"Than her husband coaching in this school,The daughter and was admitted to the school,she"Carefree get boring at home"Then apply for the lodge keeper.

　　早上5点半起床，6点10分去房间叫学生们起床，学生们出操后，宿管员妈妈们开始忙进忙出整理内务；11点终于可以休息一下；12点学生们返回宿舍午休，下午上课后，内务又要重新整理；遇到晚班时，她们每隔两小时就要去查房，每张床都要查到……

Half past five in the morning to get up,6 PM to room told the students to get up,The students after go out to do exercises,Lodge keeper mothers began to busy busy sorting out into the interior;11 can finally take a rest;12 o 'clock the students return to dormitory siesta,After class in the afternoon,Housekeeping and rearrangement;Meet when evening shift,They every two hours to go to ward inspection,Each bed will check to...

　　由于工作繁琐而辛苦，之前和她们一同应聘入校的“陪读”妈妈，在孩子适应了住读学校生活后，便选择了撤退，但这三位妈妈坚守了下来。“我负责的孩子和我的儿子同龄，时间久了觉得她们就像自己的孩子。”李妈妈说，女孩们的心思细密，经常会搂着她撒娇、说悄悄话，让她觉得很贴心。付妈妈说，孩子们懂事，经常送她一些自制的小礼物，听着孩子们喊着“付妈妈辛苦了”时，她就觉得辛苦都不算什么了。

Due to complicated and hard work,With them before applying for the door"Or relatives can apply"mother,In the children adapted to the ZhuDou after school life,Choose the withdrawal,But the three mother hold down."I am responsible for children and my son age,Time is long think they like their children."Mom said,The girls mind close,Often hug she ACTS like a child/whisper,Let her feel very sweet.Pay mom said,The children sensible,Often send her some homemade small gift,Listen to the children yelled"Pay mom hard"when,She feel hard all doesn't consider as what.

　　对于当下的生活，三位妈妈形容“累并快乐着”，同孩子们在一起，让她们拥有了年轻的心，“如果说，过去应聘宿管员，是为了孩子，现在却是为了自己！”

For the life,Three mother describe"Tired and happy",Together with the children,Let them have a young heart,"if,The past apply for accommodation keeper,Is for the children,Now it is for your own!"

另类陪读引发争议 Alternative or relatives can apply for controversial

　　对于付妈妈这样另类“陪读”的做法，旁观的家长和学生们如何看待？记者随后进行了采访。

To pay such additional kind mother"Or relatives can apply"practice,Look on parents and students how to treat?Reporter then interviewed.

　　在凯迪电力工作的杨女士表示，自己的孩子正在外校住校，她也渴望每天陪伴着孩子，但如果要她放弃现在的工作，降身为又苦又累的宿管员，她没有这个勇气，“可怜天下父母心哪，这三位妈妈真是伟大，爱孩子胜过爱自己，希望她们的付出有回报！”“家长放弃自己的事业，一味为孩子牺牲，这应该就是‘孩奴’了！你可以陪孩子一时，能陪一辈子吗？”身为公务员的张先生表达了不一样的看法，他一方面感叹付妈妈们的胆识，一方面质疑如此牺牲是否会给孩子带来负面影响，毕竟家长是孩子的终身老师，一言一行都铭刻在他们的心里。在他的记忆中，自己的父母并没有为他牺牲太多，高考期间，父母忙得不着家。现在想起来，他很感激父母，因为父母的不包办、不牺牲，给了他足够的成长空间，让他练就各种本领，一步步从小村庄拼到了大都市。

In the kaidi electric power work lady Yang said,Their children are teachets in residence,She also eager to accompany children every day,But if you want to give up her present job,Drop as hard and tired out keeper,She didn't have the courage,"All the parents poor soul,The three mother is really great,Love the child is better than love oneself,Hope that their pay a return!""Parents give up his own business,Blindly for child sacrifice,This should be‘Child slavery’the!You can accompany the child at that time,Can accompany lifetime?"As a civil servant of Mr. Zhang expressed different opinions about it,He hand exclamation pay mothers nerves,On the one hand questioned whether such sacrifice will bring negative effects to the child,After all the parents is the child's lifelong teacher,Words and deeds are engraved in their hearts.On his memory,His parents did not sacrifice too much for him,During the college entrance examination,Parents busy no home.Now that I think about it,He is very grateful parents,Because of his parents' not arranged/Don't sacrifice,Gave him enough space to grow up,Let him practice all kinds of power,Step by step from villages to cities spell.

　　受访的中小学生则坦言，他们不希望父母为了他们牺牲太多。就读东湖中学的林同学的说法很具代表性，她说如果父母为了她，放弃了自己的追求和理想，过得很辛苦，会让她压力倍增。

The surveyed primary and middle school students is said,They don't want their parents to sacrifice too much.Attend east lake middle school students Lin said very representative,She said that if the parents for her,Give up their pursuit and ideal,Had a hard,Will let her pressure multiplier.

　　对此，武汉大学心理特聘教授尹邓安表示，教育子女，做父母的要有牺牲精神，但必须掌握好度。如果当父母放弃自己的理想和追求，凡事为孩子包办代替，沦为“孩奴”，就会过得非常辛苦，这样会滋生孩子的惰性，久而久之孩子的责任意识、自主能力会缺失，这样的孩子长大了反而缺乏竞争力。家长追求自己理想、实现自身价值的过程，对孩子也是一种正面引导。他说，当“孩奴”不如当“孩农”，孩子好比农作物，家长要知道何时浇灌，何时放养。试想，农民一整天围着农作物，不停地浇灌施肥，农作物能长得好吗？

this,Wuhan university DengAn psychological distinguished professor Yin said,Education children,Parents should have sacrifice,But must master degree of good.If when parents give up their own ideal and pursuit,All things for the children do instead,into"Child slavery",Will live very hard,This will cause the child's inert,As time passes the child's sense of responsibility/Independent ability will be missing,Such children grew up but lack of competitiveness.Parents to pursue my own dream/To realize their own value process,For children is also a kind of positive guide.He said,when"Child slavery"As when"Child agriculture",Children like the crops,The parents want to know when casting,When stocking.Just think,Farmers around the crops all day,Keep irrigation fertilization,The crops can grow well?