临近期末和最近招工季的到来，不少学生这边厢抱怨工作难找，揾食艰难，那边厢却花钱如水，其中，花在“另一半”身上的恋爱费用更是让人惊叹。“大学生活开门七件事：吃饭、睡觉、上网、恋爱、犯贱、旷课、补考，样样要花钱。”最近，这条顺口溜在大学流传甚广。

Near the final and most recently the arrival of hire season,Many students complain about this car work hard to find,Difficult to find food,There are spending like cars,the,Spent on"half"On the love cost is amazing."University life open the door seven things:eat/sleep/Internet/love/Make mean/truancy/Make-up examination,He will spend."recently,This article ShunKouLiu in college were spread widely.

　　连日来，羊城晚报记者也随机对50名深圳大学生的恋爱费用展开调查，身处高消费的深圳特区中的大学生们，恋爱成本到底几何？

For the last few days,The yangcheng evening news reporter also random to 50 shenzhen university students' love cost investigation,In the high cost of shenzhen special economic zone of the college students,Love cost exactly geometry?

　　

统计：男生恋爱消费高于女生 statistics:boys in love consumption is higher than girls

　　连日来，记者分别对深圳大学、深圳职业技术学院、深圳信息技术学院三所高校的学生展开随机调查访问，共采访了近百名学生（其中包含有50名恋爱的学生）发现，涉世未深的大学生们，在恋爱、吃饭、奢侈品等的花费上都无所顾忌，其中恋爱的花费上更是“大头”。学生的消费方式大体相同，主要由伙食费、购物费、手机费等组成，不少学生在采访中也坦言自己缺乏理财观念。

For the last few days,Reporters to shenzhen university respectively/Shenzhen professional technology institute/Shenzhen institute of information technology three university students expansion random investigation,Nearly students were interviewed(It contains 50 love students)found,babe students,In love/eat/The cost of such as luxury goods are unscrupulously,The love is spending on"big head".Students' consumption is approximately the same as that way,Mainly by the board/Shopping fee/Mobile phone fee, etc,Quite a few students in the interview also said frankly that lack of financial management concepts.

　　在记者随机访问到的50名学生的支出中均包含了“恋爱费”，他们的恋爱支出费用少则几百元不等，多则上千元也司空见惯。其中，超过2000元的共有8名学生，超过1000元的共有28名学生，500元以下的学生寥寥无几。几乎所有谈恋爱的学生们每月的零花钱，都有80%以上的钱用在了“拍拖”上。

At the press random access to 50 students in spending all contains"Love fee",Their love affair less expenses, hundreds of dollars,Many thousands of yuan is also common.the,More than 2000 yuan were eight students,More than 1000 yuan of 28 students,500 yuan of the following few students.Almost all fall in love of students monthly allowance,There are more than 80% of the money in the"dating"on.

　　50名有恋爱消费的受访者中，不少学生都认为，恋爱消费是很正常的。综合采访的意见中，记者发现男生的恋爱消费普遍比女生偏高。用一名学生的话表述就是：“男生当然要买单啦，要送女朋友礼物嘛，做男人就有这个责任的。”

50 have love consumption respondents,Many students think,Love consumption is very normal.In the opinion of the comprehensive interview,Reporter found that boy in love consumption common than girls on the high side.Use a student is words expression:"The boy certainly pay for it,To send his girlfriend a gift!,Do men have this responsibility."

　　虽然男生们都绅士风度十足，包揽了恋爱中的大部分花销，但不少女生在这方面的消费也并不比男生少。“我也不好总是叫对方付钱啊。也会回赠礼物，还要扮靓自己。”记者发现，女生们是把购置化妆品、护肤品、新衣服的需要也列入恋爱消费中。

Although boys are a gentleman,Scored the most of love spending,but many girls in this consumption is not less than boys."I also not always call collect ah.Will also give gifts,To polish his."Reporter discovery,Girls is to purchase cosmetics/Protect skin to taste/The needs of the new clothes were also on the love in consumption.

　　深大女生小向说，她每个月能有1500元的生活费，但是和男朋友都喜欢在饭堂吃饭，偶尔周末会去外面撮一顿。小向告诉记者，他和男朋友家都住在深圳，每周末都会回家，回家后都很少出门，都是在学校里“拍拖”，她每个月会在生活费中“省吃俭用”一部分，用作恋爱的花销。“像买点水果、零食给男朋友，或者买点衣服、化妆品打扮自己。”

Deep big girls little to say,She can have 1500 yuan every month of the living expenses,but with boyfriend all like to eat in the dining hall,Occasionally the weekend will go to outside pinch of a meal.Small to told reporters,He and boyfriend home living in shenzhen,Home every weekend,After coming home are seldom goes out,Are all in school"dating",She in the cost of living in every month"Pinch and scrape"part,As the cost of love."Like some fruit/Snacks to boyfriend,Or buy some clothes/cosmetics dress up yourself."

　　

探源：恋爱花费受得了吗 retraces:Love spending stand

　　比对全国高校的大学生消费水平来看：最近一份由郑州轻工业学院大学生记者团对郑州300名在校大学生恋爱消费成本调查显示，郑州的大学生恋爱消费普遍不高，总体趋于“男女平等”；也有媒体对不少省城高校的消费做出调查，大学生在恋爱消费中，少则十几元，多则百元。

The comparison of college students' consumption level to see:A recent college students by the institute of zhengzhou light industry press corps to zhengzhou 300 college students love costs survey,Zhengzhou university students love consumption are generally not high,Overall tend to"Equality between men and women";Also has the media to many provincial capital university consumption make survey,college students in love in consumption,Little criterion ten yuan,The more than one hundred yuan.

　　羊城晚报记者在深圳高校的恋爱消费水平调查中，发现学生每月在恋爱上花费超2000元以上的并不在少数。没有稳定经济来源，涉世未深花钱却大手大脚的深圳大学生们，他们的恋爱费用从何而来？

The yangcheng evening news reporter in shenzhen university in love consumption level in the investigation,Found that students who spend a month in love exceeds 2000 yuan is not in a few.No stable economic source,babe but spend too recklessly shenzhen university students,Their love affair cost come from?

　　

A、兼职老手搏命赚恋爱本钱 A/Part-time veteran stroke life make love capital

　　深圳大学的小洪说，学校有个荔园晨风BBS，里面总是有各种兼职信息，有招家教的，有招短工的。他说，每年深圳都有各种大、小展会，总会招聘礼仪、司仪等工作，基本上每天能有500-1000元报酬，而他就是展会兼职的“老手”。

Shenzhen university small hong said,The school has a li garden morning breeze bbS,Inside there are always various part-time information,A tutor for the,Have called the laborer's.He said,Shenzhen every year there are all sorts of big/Small exhibition,Always recruiting etiquette/Master of ceremonies, etc,basically, every day can have 500-1000 yuan reward,And he is the exhibition part-time"veteran".

　　小洪，一个1.80米高的阳光男生，今年大二，和女朋友在一起半年了，利用他自身的相貌优势，经常跻身各种展会做模特、司仪。他说，因为父母给的零花钱不多，每月也就1500元。“谈恋爱以来，花的钱就多了，要和女朋友一起吃饭，还要给她在生日、纪念日制造浪漫，平日还会买些东西给她，所以要自己挣钱才够花啊。”

Small flood,A 1.80 meters high sunshine boy,Sophomore year,And girlfriend together for half a year,Using his own appearance advantage,Often among all kinds of exhibition do model/Master of ceremonies.He said,because parents give much pocket money,Will 1500 yuan a month."Since the fall in love,Spend the money more,To have dinner with his girlfriend,And to her in the birthday/Day manufacturing romantic,Weekdays will buy something for her,So want to earn money is enough flowers ah."

　　除了小洪，记者发现，深圳高校的不少学生都有各种赚钱的办法。“KTV费、电话费、香烟、零食和恋爱费用后所剩无几了。”深职院的小韩告诉记者，像中国移动，每年都会在校园里招聘做兼职的学生，在各营业厅里做工作人员，上班时间按照小时计算，每月做的多也能有上千元的兼职费，“用来补贴自己的零花钱。”

In addition to small flood,Reporter discovery,Shenzhen university many students have various profitable way."KTV charge/telephone/cigarette/Snacks and love after all expenses is running out."Deep vocational-technical college of XiaoHan told reporters,Like china mobile,Every year on the campus recruitment part-time students,In every branch work personnel,Work according to the hours time calculation,Do more than a month of also can have thousands of yuan part-time fee,"Used to subsidies his pocket money."

　　

B、父母赞助扶持恋爱花费 b/Parents sponsor support cost in love

　　不少学生如今的“社交成本”日益增高，在采访中，有学生说，自己的家长除了承担必要生活开销外，甚至连“恋爱费”也会另外列入预算。

Quite a few students now"Social cost"rising,In the interview,Have students said,His parents in addition to undertake necessary living expenses outside,even"Love fee"Will also included in the budget.

　　说起这个“额外赞助”，连小乔自己都哭笑不得，他告诉记者，父母承诺，他恋爱后可以每月多给500元-800元不等的“生活补助”。并不是只有小乔才有这样的“皇帝待遇”，采访中，共有4名男生都有这样的经历。“父母都很开明的，而且觉得男孩子身上就应该多花点钱，如果拍拖了，就更不能掉价了。”小乔说，他自己的女朋友父母也见过，父母很认同，所以，每个月都会很大方地多给他一些生活费。

Speaking of the"Extra sponsorship",cole even himself in distress situation,He told reporters,Parents promised,He love after more than a month to 500 yuan - 800 dollars"Living subsidies".Not only was to have such"Emperor treatment",interview,There are four boys have such experience."Parents are enlightened,And think boys, he should spend some money,If dated for,The more can't drop."cole said,His girlfriend parents also seen,Parents very identity,so,Great party every month to give him some living expenses.

　　

负担：恋爱花费如何分担 burden:Love how to share the cost

　　大学生们的恋爱观和消费观各异，加之家庭经济条件不同，导致他们的消费程度也大相径庭。记者调查发现，大学生恋爱经费大致分为三类：调控的理智派、AA派、阔绰派。

college students and some methods of statistic and different consumption,Together with different family economic conditions,Leads to their consumption degree differ greatly.Reporter survey found,college students' love to funds generally divided into three categories:Regulation reason pie/AA sent/Rich pie.

　　

A、理性计划派 A/Rational plans to send

　　张强（化名），深职院，大三，拍拖两年半

b: mr.zhang qiang(alias),Deep vocational-technical college,junior,Dating two and a half years

　　张强告诉记者，他家在广西，深圳的消费比广西高太多了，但是少男少女的总是会碰撞出火花，他也坠入爱河近三年了，这些年来，自己省吃俭用的原因，都是因为和女朋友在一起，每月总会有看电影、吃饭、购物的费用。“我们打电话都是集群网，每个月就是5元钱，平时看电影，也是会在网上团购，现在吃饭也会团购。”但是张强说，他从来不会跟父母多要一分钱，每个月就是1000元生活费，用完了，自己就去找兼职做。

b: mr.zhang qiang told reporters,His house in guangxi,Shenzhen consumption than guangxi high too much,but the boys and girls always collision out sparks,He also fell in love almost three years,Over the years,The cause of the pinch and scrape himself,because and girlfriend together,There will always be a month to see the movie/eat/Shopping cost."call us are cluster network,Each month is 5 yuan,Usually see a movie,Is a bulk on the Internet,Now eat will also group purchase."but a: zhang qiang said,He never more than with their parents to a penny,Each month is 1000 yuan living expenses,finished,Yourself to find a part-time job to do.

　　

B、平等AA派 b/Equality AA sent

　　陈轩（化名），信息学院，大一，拍拖两个月

chenXuan(alias),Information institute,freshman,Dating two months

　　陈轩是个很漂亮的女孩，那天见到她时，她正和自己的男朋友在书城买书。轩认为现在时代变了，女生也可以付钱的。“我不想总是叫男朋友买单，一是不好意思，大家都没有赚钱，二来，我觉得自己可以分担也愿意一起承担。”她说，他们一起吃饭或外出聚餐基本上都会“AA制”。

chenXuan is a very beautiful girl,That day when I see her,She is talking with his boyfriend in the bookstore to buy books.Porch think that now The Times have changed a lot,The girl also can have the money to pay for it."I don't want to always call the boyfriend,One is embarrassed,Everyone not to make money,secondly,I think I can share is willing to undertake together."She said,They have a meal together or go out dinner will basically"AA system".

　　

C：阔绰富豪派 c:Ostentatious rich pie

　　刘柄（化名），深大，大四，拍拖三年

Liu handle(alias),Deep big,senior,Dating three years

　　iPhone、iPad，只要是苹果出了新产品，作为果粉的刘柄总是抢先购买，也会给自己的女朋友同样赠送一份，刘柄说，除了父母会给生活费外，他自己也在学校附近和同学一起开了小吃店，“每个月至少有1000元的分红和利润吧。”刘柄笑笑说。

iPhone/iPad,As long as it is apple out of the new product,As a fruit powder liu handle always preemptive purchase,Also can give his girlfriend also a complimentary copy,Liu handle said,In addition to the parents will give living expenses,He himself also near the school classmates and opened the snack bar,"Every month at least 1000 yuan bonus and profit it."Liu handle smiled.

　　刘柄说，拍拖都是他给钱，平时会带女朋友到高级的餐厅吃饭，也会固定每个学期带女朋友出去玩。“我们去过迪拜，去过欧洲，去过日本，去过泰国。”他告诉记者，他上个月给女朋友买了一条项链和手链都花了近一万元。

Liu handle said,Dating is he give money,Usually they will be friends to senior restaurant,Also fixed every semester and women friends go out to play."We have been to dubai,been to Europe,been to Japan,Have been to Thailand."He told reporters,Last month he buy my girlfriend a necklace and bracelet all spent nearly $ten thousand.

　　

观点：恋爱很美好，理财更重要 view:Love is beautiful,Financial management is more important

　　“恋爱消费”已经不可回避地成为大学生生活开支的重要部分，甚至有学生一个月能为此花上万元。这样的对另一半的投入和开销究竟合不合理？

"Love consumption"Has inevitable to become an important part of college students' living expenses,There is even a month students can spend thousands of yuan.Such to the other half of input and spending what reasonable or unreasonable?

　　家有儿女初长成的家长刘女士在接受羊城晚报记者采访时，听到学生把恋爱消费列入生活消费、数额动辄数千元时，十分惊讶。她告诉记者，他们那个年代拍拖的时候都没那么奢侈，“现在的学生太娇贵了，恋爱也要互相攀比。”

Home has children early maturity, the parents liu in accepting the yangcheng evening news reporter to interview,Hear the students love consumption included in the cost of living/When the amount at every turn thousands of yuan,Very surprised.She told reporters,They that s when dating is not that luxury,"Now the students are too delicate,Love also want to one-upmanship."

　　此外，深圳一名中学老师告诉记者说，大学生自己有了一定的工作能力，其实是可以鼓励他们通过自己的劳动来赚取这些费用的。“恋爱也是人生一种美好的感情，大家都应该去尝试是无可厚非的，但是可以更加成熟和理智地对待。”

In addition,Shenzhen a high school teacher told reporters,college students have a certain work ability,Actually encourage them through their own labor to earn these expenses."Love also is the life a good feeling,Everyone should try to go is understandable,but can be more mature and rational to treat."

　　在微博上，记者也看到有网友“我在你身边公寓”说：“今天的节约，是为了明天花得更爽快，更开心，学会理财是一种智慧。”而网友“黄黄黄Hh”也认为，大学生恋爱确实是大支出，现在的东西好贵，光是一个礼物就得近百元。

In micro bo on,Reporters also see a net friend"I'm on your side apartment"said:"Today's saving,Tomorrow is to spend more generous,More happy,Learn to finance is a kind of wisdom."And net friend"Yellow yellow yellow Hh"Also think,college students' falling in love is really big spending,Now things are so expensive,Light is a gift will have to nearly yuan.

　　香港阳光心理咨询中心深圳分中心主任、心理咨询师杨光在接受羊城晚报记者采访时表示：“进入大学后，就是完整的成年人了，很多人已经意识到了情感生活和生活是同等重要的。他愿意为情感支付，尽自己的努力，是一种付出的形式，从这个角度来说，是一个好现象。”

Hong Kong sunshine psychological counseling center director of the shenzhen branch/Psychological consultant Yang guang in accepting the yangcheng evening news reporter to interview said:"After entering the university,Is complete adult,A lot of people have been aware of the emotional life and life is equally important.He is willing to pay for the emotion,Do their own efforts,Is a form of pay,From this point of view,Is a good phenomenon."

　　杨光认为，现在的父母也意识到儿女懂得跟异性相处也是人际交往的部分，父母愿意提供这部分费用也是积极的一面。她说，可以正确处理恋爱关系的同时，做合理的支出计划，就有了独立意识。（羊城晚报记者 沈婷婷）

Yang guang think,Now parents also realize children know how to get along with the opposite sex is part of interpersonal communication,Parents are willing to offer this part expenses is also on the positive side of the situation.She said,can correctly handle relationships at the same time,To do a reasonable spending plans,Have the independent consciousness.(The yangcheng evening news reporter ShenTingTing)