拿到这本《无后为大》，以为是讲丁克的。后来发现不是。

Get this[For posterior],Thought it was about the dink.I later found out that is not.

　　这本书写得非常真实，坦荡，这甚至有些让我惊讶，比如作者关军竟然也没有回避自己的隐私，对自己进行了鞭辟入里的分析、批判，毫不留情。对自己这么不客气的话，那么，就是在尽可能地接近真实。我们总是习惯于美化自己、掩饰自己、保护自己，对一些敏感的区域是不会去触碰的。

The book is very real,straight,There is even some let me surprised,Such as the author GuanJun should also not avoid their privacy,For they have been penetrated analysis/critical,Not spare.So you're welcome to his words,so,As far as possible is close to the truth.We always used to beautify yourself/Conceal his/Protect themselves,For some sensitive area is not to touch to touch.

　　比如，我到底爱不爱自己的父母？在看到相关篇章时，我也不禁暗问我自己，我爱我的妈妈吗？我们对父母的爱是一种从小培养起来的惯性，还是一种被抚育成人的自然感恩？我是从内心深处敬重我妈妈吗？

Such as,I really love not love their parents?In view of the relevant chapter,I also can not help but dark ask myself,I love my mother?Our parents' love is a kind of from training up inertia,Or a cradle adult natural gratitude?I am from heart respect my mother?

　　不过，我并没有像作者那样仔细地想过，孩子意味着什么。以前我只是简单扼要地想，既然我自己活得这么痛苦，那怎么还有理由再制造另一个痛苦的生命呢？

but,I didn't like the author so carefully thought,Children mean.I used to just briefly want to,Since I live so pain,Then why still reason to make another painful life?

　　这些年来，随着自己的成长，我渐渐地不再这么想了。我没有结婚的打算，但也已经不再排斥孩子了。

Over the years,With his growth,I was no longer have to think about.I have no plans to get married,But it is no longer reject children.

　　前些年，我每天晚上坐在书房里上网，都会听到对面楼里有个女人的尖骂声，骂的是她的儿子，内容无非是鸡毛蒜皮的事情。声音回荡在夜空，让人惊怵。我从来没有听到她丈夫的声音，也没有她儿子的回嘴声。成为她的家人，真是可怕啊。好几次，我都想打开窗，朝着对面吼一句“你可真够差劲的！”

Before some year,I sit on the Internet every night in the study,Can hear the opposite building a woman pointed bristle,Scold is her son,Content is nothing but trivial things.Voice echoed in the night sky,Impressive Chu.I have never heard the sound of her husband,There is also no her son's retort sound.As her family,Is really terrible.Several times,I want to open the window,Toward the opposite a roar"You can be true enough bad!"

　　离家数年，再回来，再也没有听到她的骂声了。我不知道她家发生了什么事。我不相信是她改变了——让一个成年人改变，是何其困难。日常平淡琐事根本不可能触动到人的内心的。不过，答案我永远不会知道。我想，这样不合格的父母，在每个楼层里都有。他们只是没有大声喊出来。

Away from home for several years,Come back again,I didn't hear her the great.I don't know what happened to her.I don't believe that she changed her -- let an adult change,How difficult is.Daily chores is impossible to touch the heart.but,The answer I'll never know.I want to,So it is not the good parents,There are in every floor.They just didn't cried out.

　　作者说得对，很多孩子的问题，根源都在父母身上。当自己身心不健康的时候，是不可能成为合格的父母的。而这些身心不健康的人，却因为想要解决自己的困境，急不可耐地成了家长，这只是延续了悲剧。

The author said to,A lot of children,Roots are in their parents' body.When his body and mind not healthy,You can't become a qualified parents.And the physical and mental health of the people,But because want to solve their difficulties,Raring to become parents,This is continuation of the tragedy.

　　奥修曾经说过：“每个孩子出生的时候，都是神。但死亡的时候，都是疯子。”中间，人类被抛在这个社会里，到底经历了什么？答案，你知道的，或者你身在其中，你已经忘记自己曾经像神一样出生，也不知道自己如今变成了什么模样。

Osho once said:"Every child was born,Is god.But the time of death,Are crazy."intermediate,Humans were cast in this society,Actually experience???????The answer,You know,Or you are in it,You have already forgot I had like a god was born,Also don't know oneself now became what shape.

　　到底有多少人，会突然惊醒，自己身处一个看不见的牢笼？

How many people,Will suddenly wake up with a start,See himself in a prison?

　　因为别人有孩子，父母催你要孩子；妻子或丈夫一方急着要孩子，或者为了保全自己的婚姻，或者为了打发空虚……不管如何，你就是制造出了一个孩子，以应对自己的危机。你根本都没有活清楚，也没有想明白，就急着制造出了另外一个孩子。你自己心里根本没有爱，却以恩人的姿态，生了一个孩子。

Because others have children,Parents push you to have children;The wife or husband one party in a hurry to have children,Or in order to preserve their own marriage,Or to send empty……No matter how,You are making a child,In response to the crisis of his.You did not live clear,Also did not want to understand,Will rush to create another child.You don't have love in your heart,But with the attitude of the benefactor,Gave birth to a child.

　　不，其实我很敬重那些成为父母的人，但是，当你们把一个生命带到世界上来，你一定也要同样感谢他，爱他，而不是利用他，榨取他。

Don't,In fact I really respect those who become parents,but,When you have a life to come up in the world,You must also want to also thank him,Love him,Rather than using his,Bled him.

　　父母是终身制的，但成为父母后，你一定要跟孩子一起成长。你自己的成长，并未结束。如果你把自己所有的人生价值都押在孩子的身上，我一定要说，这个分量太沉重了。你最好少爱孩子一些。你不能忘了自己的生命价值。我承认，有时候我很讨厌那种成为母亲后就仅仅是个母亲的女人。这并不高尚，这只是狭隘。不要把孩子当成你所有的世界。

Parents are for life,But after become parents,You must grow up together with the child.Your own growth,Did not end.If you put all your life value and in the child's body,I must say,This component too much.You'd better love children some less.You can't forget your own value of life.I admit that,Sometimes I hate that become mother after is only a mother's woman.This is not noble,This is only a narrow.Don't leave the child as all of your world.

　　那些注定要成为父母才能学到点儿什么真理的家伙，好好对待你们的孩子——不要再在夜里撕裂楼层里的空气中奋力辱骂他。（吴苏媚）

Those who are doomed to become parents can learn something of the truth guy,Treat your children - don't tear at night in the floor of the air push against him.(WuSu mei)