中新网南昌12月10日电(王姣)面临毕业，很多独生子女家庭出生的大学生出现了这样的焦虑症状，一方面觉得自己要忠于爱情，和自己喜欢的人在异地打拼奋斗；另一方面又觉得未来难以把握，要回到故乡，回到父母身边，为父母年老之后做打算。

Beijing on December 10, nanchang(WangJiao)Facing graduation,A lot of one-child families of college students appeared such anxiety symptoms,On the one hand feel should be loyal to love,And people like themselves in different beat up struggle;On the other hand, think the future is difficult to grasp,To go back to my hometown,Returned to their parents around,For the parents do after going to old age.

　　记者采访了解到，这群即将毕业的大学生，他们大多数人困惑于理想与现实之间的问题，一些人感慨，大学终归是一个象牙塔，很多事情只能选择放弃……

Reporters learned,This group of the university students who will graduate soon,Most of them are puzzled by the problems between the ideal and the reality,Some people feeling,University is always a tower of ivory,A lot of things can only choose to give up...

　　“如果我去了别的城市工作，那谁来照顾我年迈的父母？”

"If I went to other cities work,Who will take care of my old parents?"

　　“我现在必须和我喜欢的人分手了，因为我们的老家不在一个城市，工作也未必在一个地方……”

"I must now and I like of the person broke up,Because of our hometown is not a city,Work is not in a place..."

　　“在大学里，我陆陆续续有过四次恋爱经历，但最终没有和他们之中的任何一个人在一起”。江西财经大学大四学生郭青告诉记者，她的老家在江苏，而自己因当初高考时一分之差，被调剂到了外省的学校。

"In the university,After I had four love experience,But in the end, not with any of them in person together".Jiangxi university of finance and economics GuoQing senior student told reporters,Her hometown in jiangsu,And for the college entrance examination at the beginning when one point,Is adjusted to the provincial school.

　　郭青说，“前三个男朋友都是江西本地人，父母不同意我和他们交往，认为这样会失去他们唯一的女儿，所以，我和他们的交往时间都不会超过1个月，交往时间久了我会内疚”。

GuoQing said,"The first three boyfriend is jiangxi native,Parents don't agree with me and their interaction,Think this will lose their only daughter,so,I and their communication time is not more than 1 month,Time of association for a long time I'll guilty".

　　“第四个男朋友是我在老乡会上认识的，我们相处了一段时间，并且很愉快，但他也是独生子女，我渐渐在他身上看到了自己的影子，我讨厌那样的感觉，跟他呆在一起的时间越长，我越是感到厌恶”，说完，郭青开始轻声啜泣起来，“到现在，他都不知道我为什么会突然向他提出分手，而这却是我挣扎了很久才提出来的”。

"The fourth boyfriend is my countryman in understanding of the meeting,We get along with a period of time,And very happy,But he is also the only children,I came upon him see his shadow,I hate that feeling,And he stayed together of the time to grow more,The more I feel aversion",Say that finish,GuoQing began to SOB quietly up,"Till now,He didn't know why I suddenly he put forward to break up,And this is my struggle for a long time to carry out".

　　“父母从小就给我灌输‘仁义’、‘孝道’的思想，面对就业，我也只能选择离家近的地方，这样我就可以照顾我的父母，尽我的责任了”，郭青的脸上浮现出一丝无奈的笑容。

"Parents since the childhood to my infusion‘righteousness’/‘Filial piety’thoughts,In the face of the employment,I can only choose to leave home close place,So I can take care of my parents,Do my duty",GuoQing face emerge out of a helpless smile.

　　有心理专家分析，毕业焦虑是毕业生中最常见的心理现象，随着高等教育普及，大学毕业生压力日趋严重，尤其是独生子女的大学生，他们面临的不仅是就业压力，还有来自社会、家庭、情感等各方面的压力，更容易产生孤僻、冷漠、自私、软弱等心理问题。

Psychological expert analysis,Graduated from the graduate anxiety is the most common psychological phenomenon,With the popularization of higher education,University graduates pressure become more and more serious,Especially the singleton female college students,They face is not only the employment pressure,And from the social/family/Emotion and so on various aspects of pressure,More likely to have withdrawn/cold/selfish/Weak and psychological problems.

　　江西财经大学心理咨询中心副主任郭海峰接受中新网记者采访时表示，独生子女在面临这些问题时，首先必须正视现实，随着社会工作流动性的增加，必须树立“四海为家”的观念。

Jiangxi university of finance and economics, deputy director of the psychological counseling center GuoHaiFeng accept a reporter to interview said,The only child in the face of these problems,You must face up to the reality,With the increasing mobility of social work,Must set up"cosmopolitan"concept.

　　“如果担心在异地工作照顾不到父母，可以在工作上加倍努力，待有条件之后可以把父母接到你所在的城市生活。”郭海峰表示，他赞成大学生恋爱，“如果是真正的爱情，就可以打破各种限制，不用在乎短暂分别”。(文中人名均为化名)(完)

"If you are worried about the in different job to take care of less than their parents,Can work redouble our efforts,To be qualified after the parents can receive your city life."GuoHaiFeng said,He was in favor of college students' love,"If it is true love,Can break all kinds of restrictions,Don't care about short respectively".(The names are aliases)(finish)