“不给我买电脑，还骂我、打我。”14岁的小刚（化名）很生气，前日下午，他手持菜刀、锤子追赶父母，还把房门砸了一个洞。父亲躲进卧室，母亲躲到屋外，最终只能找鼓西派出所民警前来解围。虽然家庭矛盾暂时平息，但小刚的父母不明白：“为何14年来全心全意付出，却换来这样一个结果？”

"Don't buy me a computer,Also scold me/Hit me."14-year-old xiao gang(alias)Very angry,The day before yesterday afternoon,He hand kitchen knife/Hammer after parents,The door hit a hole.Father hide into the bedroom,Mother hide to outside,Finally can only find drum west station to police clearance.Although the family conflicts temporary calm,But xiao gang parents don't understand:"Why just 14 years to pay,But for such a result?"

　　针对此事，记者采访了心理咨询师熊名华老师，熊老师认为出现这样的事情，是父母的教育方式出现偏差，把独生子女作为家庭的中心，助长了孩子的“自我中心”意识，使孩子变得傲慢、自私，甚至性格扭曲。

At this,The reporter interviewed psychological consultant bear the name China,Bear the teacher think such a thing,Is the parents' education form deviation,The only child as the center of the family,Encourage the child's"Self center"consciousness,Make children become arrogant/selfish,Even character distortion.

手持菜刀锤子追父母 Hand chopper hammer after their parents

　　“警察快来啊，我家出事了。”前日下午4时许，鼓西派出所接到一名中年妇女报警求助。很快，民警赶到省府路某小区，找到报警人秀芳（化名）。秀芳称，儿子突然发怒了，手持菜刀、锤子，追赶自己和丈夫。丈夫躲进卧室，她躲到室外，两人都把门反锁了，儿子正在家里大闹，发泄不满。

"The police quickly come,My family had an accident."The day before yesterday afternoon at about 4,Drum west station received a middle-aged woman alarm for help.soon,Police arrived at the provincial address community,Find the alarm people show aromatic(alias).Show fang said,Son suddenly angry,Hand kitchen knife/hammer,After his and her husband.Husband hide into the bedroom,She hid outside,Both the locking the door,Son is at home make,Let off steam.

　　当民警赶到现场时，只见房内一名少年一手持菜刀一手持锤子，正在砸卧室门，门上已经被他砸了一个洞。看到民警到来，他停止砸门，但就是不肯把菜刀和锤子放下。民警进入室内安抚了半天，他才平静下来。可是当他父亲从卧室里走出来时，他又突然激动起来，将菜刀和锤子举起来。民警又是挡又是劝，少年终于将菜刀和锤子放下，秀芳赶紧把它们收起来。

When the police arrived on the scene,See the room a teenager with a kitchen knife with a hammer,Is it the bedroom door,The door has been he hit a hole.See the police come,He stopped to hit the door,But wouldn't kitchen knife and hammer down.Police enter indoor comfort along while,He had calmed down.But when his father from coming out of the bedroom,He suddenly excited,The kitchen knife and hammer lifted up.Police and stop is advised,Young finally will kitchen knife and hammer down,Show aromatic hurriedly put them away.

不买电脑成为导火索 Don't buy the computer become a fuse

　　这个少年名叫小刚，今年14岁。小刚是独生子，一直以来父母对他宠爱有加，他要什么有什么，父母从来不违背他的意愿。如今放暑假了，小刚一个人在家无聊，想让父亲给他买一台电脑，父亲担心电脑买回来，小刚会整天上网影响学习，于是拒绝了小刚的要求。

The young named xiao gang,14 years old this year.Xiao gang was an only child,Has been to his parents dote on my life,What he wants have,My parents never against his will.Now the summer vacation,Xiao gang a person at home boring,Want to let father bought him a computer,Father is worried about the computer buy back,Xiao gang will affect learning online all day,Then refused the xiao gang requirements.

　　从来都是要什么有什么，如今突然被拒绝，小刚一下子接受不了，于是和父亲吵了起来，结果越吵越凶，父亲打了他几下。挨打后，小刚发怒了，于是拿出菜刀和锤子追赶父母。

Has always been to want what have,Now suddenly was rejected,Xiao gang suddenly can not accept,So and father quarreled,Results the more noise more fierce,His father gave him a few times.After being hit,Xiao gang was,So take out kitchen knife and hammer after their parents.

父母教育方式有偏差 Parents education means has deviation

　　发生这样的事情，小刚的父母除了生气，更多的是伤心和失望，他们不明白儿子为什么会变成这样，而小刚也认为父母不像小时候对他那么好了。

Things happen,Xiao gang's parents angry,More is sad and disappointed,They don't understand son why would become like this,And xiao gang also think parents don't like when I was a child so good to him.

　　对此，记者采访了心理咨询师熊名华老师。据熊老师介绍，这是一个家庭教育中亲子危机的案例，主要是家长在教育孩子的过程中，如何培养孩子良好的生活习惯及应对事件的能力方面存在偏差。父母一贯的做法是，尽量满足孩子的要求，而在孩子看来，父母这次的反对是不应该的，这是在孩子成长过程中家长让其养成的习惯。习惯一旦养成，如果突然不能满足孩子，就容易出现亲子危机甚至冲突。

this,The reporter interviewed psychological consultant bear the name China.According to bear the teacher is introduced,This is a family education child in case of crisis,Mainly is the parents in the education of children in the process,How to cultivate children good life habit and the ability to deal with incidents are deviation.Parents always practice is,To meet the requirements of the children,And in the child looks,Parents the opposition is not should,This is in the growing process of children of parents let them form a good habit.Once a habit,If suddenly can't meet the children,It is easy to appear the parent-child crisis or conflict.

　　目前，虽然在民警的介入下，家庭矛盾暂时得到平息，但孩子对此事可能并没有想通，因此家长首先要着手平息冲突，转变“不买电脑”的坚决态度。其次，建议家长在以后的家庭教育中，慢慢改变有求必应的亲子关系。

At present,Although the police under the intervention,Family conflicts temporary subside,But they may not think about it,So parents must first set out to quell the conflict,change"Don't buy the computer"Determined attitude.secondly,Suggested that parents in the later in the family education,Change slowly accede to the demands of parenthood.

独生子女如何教育 Only children how to education

　　目前，大多数家庭只有一个孩子，父母在孩子身上倾注了太多的爱，结果由于太过溺爱反而不利于孩子的身心发展。

At present,Most families have only one child,Parents in children has poured into too much love,Results because of too much spoil it against the child's physical and mental development.

　　针对独生子女的教育问题，熊老师给家长提出几点建议：一、家长多学习适应当前社会环境的家庭教育方法；二、在家庭教育中，重视感恩教育；三、多给孩子创造一些体验艰苦生活的机会。

According to the singleton female education problems,Bear the teacher give parents a few Suggestions:a/Parents learn to adapt to the current social environment, family education methods;two/In the education of family,Attaches great importance to the Thanksgiving education;three/Give children to create some experience of the chance to live hard.

　　此外，养成亲子定期沟通的家庭生活方式，有利于减少误解，增强信任（父母以倾听为主）。作出关系孩子利益问题的决定时，要与孩子协商。如果家长处理这些问题的能力不足，还可以找专业人员学习家庭教育方法。 （记者刘珺 实习生 张丽娜 通讯员 倪珠英）

In addition,A parent-child regular communication patterns of family life,To reduce misunderstanding,Enhance trust(Parents to listen to give priority to).Make children benefit relationship of decision,To children and consultation.If parents deal with these problems ability is insufficient,Still can look for professional learning family education methods. (Reporter LiuJun interns ZhangLiNa NiZhuYing correspondent)