记者 朱晓强

Reporter ZhuXiaoJiang

　　摄影 李一鸣

Photography LiYiMing

　　公务员、高档轿车、长相阳光……当这些“标签”集于一身时，大多数未婚男女都会为之倾慕，而丽丽就曾遇到过“这么一位”，相处了大半年，神不知鬼不觉地给了男友近15万元。

Civil servants/High-grade car/Looks sunshine……When the"label"Collection in a body when,Most of the unmarried men and women will be to admire,And lily had met"Such a",Along a few months,Go unnoticed for a boyfriend nearly 150000 yuan.

　　不过，就在她义无反顾地准备爱下去的时候，男友的QQ空间露出了破绽，他竟然同时和几个女孩谈恋爱。

but,Just before she desperately to love going down,Her boyfriend QQ space show the flaw,He was at the same time and several girl fall in love.

　　公务员身份很“靠谱”很快确立恋爱关系

Civil servant status is"By spectrum"Quickly establish relationships

　　今年26岁的丽丽在江北华新街工作。

This year, 26, lily in the jiangbei huaxin street work.

　　去年，交际范围有限的她开始浏览一些交友网站，12月中旬的一天，赶集网的一位会员引起了她的关注：姓名陈文杰，政府机关公务员，28岁，大学毕业，收入5000~8000元……照片里，算不上特别帅，但看起来很阳光。

Last year,Communication range limited she began to browse through some dating site,By the middle of December day,Go to market and a member caused her attention:Name ChenWenJie,Government civil servants,And years,Graduated from the university,Income is 5000 ~ 8000 yuan……photo,Not special handsome,But looks very sunshine.

　　今年1月，丽丽和陈文杰取得了网上联系，丽丽觉得对方给人感觉特别诚恳。一周后，当丽丽下班准备回家时，陈文杰驾驶着一辆丰田越野车来到了单位楼下，“这是第一次见他，感觉他很用心，再加上他的身份，我对他的印象很不错。”

In January,Lily and ChenWenJie made online contact,Lili feel that the other person to feel very sincere.After a week,When lily were ready to go home from work,ChenWenJie driving a car Toyota cr-v came to the unit downstairs,"This is the first time I saw him,Feel he is very attentively,Plus his identity,I told him the impression is very good."

　　两人很快确立了恋爱关系，丽丽的这个优秀男友也让朋友各种“羡慕嫉妒恨”。

Two people soon established relationships,Lily's boyfriend also let the good friends all kinds of"Envy envy hate".

　　经常借钱理由都不一样大半年借走15万

Often borrow money reason are not the same few months borrow 150000

　　陈文杰老家在万盛，春节期间，丽丽随他去了家里，对方父母挺喜欢她。

ChenWenJie flourishing home in,During the Spring Festival,Lily as he went home,The other parents like her.

　　不过，春节还没过完，陈文杰突然向她借钱，“当时说要缴车险，他自己的钱都给了父母，借2000元。”丽丽说，男友有困难就该帮一下，于是她就给了这笔钱。

but,The Spring Festival has been finished,ChenWenJie suddenly to lend her some money,"At that time said to pay auto insurance,His own money to the parents,By 2000 yuan."Lily said,Her boyfriend is in difficulty, he should help the,So she gave the money.

　　2月9号，陈文杰又一次向她借钱，理由是姐姐正在装修房子，虽然可以从股市中取钱，但亏大了不忍心，于是，丽丽又一次借了2500元。

On February 9,ChenWenJie again to lend her some money,Reason is the elder sister is decorating the house,Although can take money from the stock market,But kui big can't bear to,so,Lily and a borrowed 2500 yuan.

　　男友不停地借钱，她有点烦了，见此情况，今年2月15号，男友突然和她提结婚的事：我这边有房子了，还缺个代步车，你买个车，以后工作之余就可以自驾游。丽丽一想：房子是男友的，车子是自己的，这样也公平，免得以后受气。

Her boyfriend kept to borrow money,She is a bit of,See the situation,On February 15,,Her boyfriend suddenly and her mention marriage:I here have the house,Need a car instead of walking,You buy a car,After more than work can be leading.Lily a want to:The house is the boyfriend,The car is his own,So it's fair,After that got the.

　　因为对车不了解，买车的事由男友全权代理，过了两天，男友说他看好一辆二手中华车，各种费用算下来总共7.3万。丽丽将这笔钱交给了对方，几天后，男友果然开着一辆中华来接她。随后的日子里，男友又以出车祸帮人看病、帮弟弟找工作为由拿走了七八万。

For car don't understand,The main content of the car boyfriend authorized agent,Two days,Her boyfriend said he believed a car used the car,All the cost is down to a total of 73000.Lily will be the money to each other,After a few days,Her boyfriend has open a car for the Chinese to pick her up.In the coming days,Her boyfriend to see a doctor and an accident gang/Help my brother, looking for a job for 780 thousand away.

　　QQ空间上查到男友同时和多个女孩谈恋爱

QQ space find boyfriend and at the same time and multiple girl fall in love

　　今年10月上旬，陈文杰突然向她提出分手，说受不了她的臭脾气，丽丽苦苦挽回也无济于事。见挽回不了，丽丽提出还钱，在银行打出单子一合计，这半年下来，她在男友的身上总共花去了近15万。

Early October this year,ChenWenJie suddenly to her up,Said can't stand her smelly temper,Lily for save also of no help.See save the,Lily is money is put forward,In the bank with a total list,This half a year down,Her boyfriend, a total spent nearly 150000.

　　说到还钱，男友突然改变了想法，说愿意和她处下去。

Said to return money,Her boyfriend suddenly changed idea,Say that would like to and her place down.

　　丽丽看出来这是缓兵之计，她打开男友的QQ空间，发现有很多网友浏览过他的资料，带着试一试的心态，她随便加了几位网友聊天得知，男友竟然也和对方在谈恋爱。

Lily see this is a delaying tactic,She opened the boyfriend QQ space,Found that many users browse his material,With the point of view which tries,She just added a few net friend chat know,Even her boyfriend and each other in love.

　　10月21号，丽丽果断选择报警，警方立即介入了调查。

On October 21,Lily the resolute choice alarm,The police immediately involved in the investigation.

　　“这时候我才知道，男友使用的陈文杰并不是他的真名，他其实姓霍，也不是九龙坡区的公务员，算是社会闲杂人员。”

"At that time I didn't know,The use of ChenWenJie boyfriend and not his real name,He actually name is huo,Is not the jiulongpo district civil servants,Is the social personnel of without."

　　可能还有更多的“受害者”

There may be more"victims"

　　丽丽还找到了和自己遭遇相同的两位姐妹。

Lily is found and their encounter the same two sisters.

　　今年30岁的晓芸就是其中一位，直到认识丽丽，她才如梦初醒。晓芸说，她于去年4月在珍爱网上认识了陈文杰，相处过程中，陈文杰找各种理由借钱，但她没有答应。

This year at the age of 30 XiaoYun is one of them,Until know lily,She had a rude awakening.XiaoYun said,She in April last year in cherish the ChenWenJie met online,Along in the process,ChenWenJie find all sorts of reason to borrow money,But she did not answer.

　　“有一天，他说单位公务用车不够，如果能开个租赁公司，以后单位用车都可以在公司里租，成本虽然高，但利润高，一年就能收回成本。”晓芸说，在陈文杰死缠烂打下，她用自己的一套房子作抵押让他买了一辆价值13.5万元的二手三菱轿车，不过，男友经营了半年也没见到回款，数次沟通无效，他只能折价卖掉，亏了近5万，随后便音信全无，她怀疑陈文杰在中间做手脚。

"One day,He said unit for official use is not enough,If we can open a leasing company,The unit after transport can rent in the company,Cost although high,But high profit,A year to recover the cost."XiaoYun said,In ChenWenJie lay dead to tie up lousy,With her own a house as a pledge let he bought a car 135000 yuan worth of second-hand mitsubishi cars,but,Her boyfriend business for half a year also didn't see r,Several communication is invalid,He can only sell at a discount,Lost nearly 50000,Then tidings none,She suspected ChenWenJie checkers in the middle.

　　除晓芸外，和陈文杰恋爱的还有秋月，也是在婚恋网站相识，其遭遇和她们如出一辙。

In addition to the XiaoYun,And ChenWenJie love you still,Also in marriage website acquaintance,The encounter and they be exactly the same.

　　随后，丽丽和晓芸等人在网上发帖寻找“受害者”，“如果有和自己相同遭遇的女孩，希望她们也能站出来。”丽丽说，现在警方已经控制了陈文杰。

then,Lily and XiaoYun and post on the Internet looking for"victims","If there is the same and had the girl,Hope they can also stand up."Lily said,Now the police have control of the ChenWenJie.

　　再精心的骗局也有破绽

To elaborate scam has flaw

　　有时候一两个电话就能识破

Sometimes one or two phone you can see

　　我们发现，这三位都属于80后剩女，有着还算不错的工作，她们去婚恋网站的目的就是想找适合自己的另一半，为了能够接触更加优秀的异性，晓芸甚至还缴纳了3000元成为VIP会友，没想到却遇上了大骗子。

We found,The three are left after 80 female,Has a fairly good job,They go to the purpose of marriage website is looking for suitable for their own the other half,In order to be able to contact more outstanding members of the opposite sex,XiaoYun even pay 3000 yuan become VIP members,Did not think of to have had a great liar.

　　为何这些女孩会受骗？婚恋专家刘波说这主要是受当下婚恋观影响所致，只要对方是公务员，很多人都愿意和其接触，原因是公务员稳定，有前途，至少婚后的生活不会太差，而骗子恰恰利用了这点。“再好的陷阱也有破绽。”刘波说，陈文杰既然称自己是公务员，丽丽等人可以到他所就职的单位查询了解，有时候一两个电话就可以弄清楚；另外，在交友网站上交友，在不甚了解对方的情况下，说到借钱一定要慎重。

Why these girls will be cheated?Marriage experts LiuBo said this is mainly caused by the influence by marriage,As long as the other party is a civil servant,A lot of people are willing to and the contact,The reason is stable civil servants,A future,At least not bad marriage life,And cheat on the use of this."It is a good trap also have flaw."LiuBo said,ChenWenJie since said he is a civil servant,Lily, can go to his inaugural unit inquires the understanding,Sometimes one or two a telephone call and then can make it clear;In addition,In the dating website to make friends,In the very not understand each other,Said to borrow money must be careful.

　　针对刘波的这些建议，我们也问了丽丽等人，丽丽说，既然是本着结婚的目的去恋爱，双方就应该坦诚，如果背着人家像查户口一样调查，显得不诚恳，再加上对方条件优越、处事方式得体，她也就没想到这一点。

According to the LiuBo these proposals,We also asked lily, etc,Lily said,Now that is in line with the purpose of marriage to love,Both sides should be honest,If you carry the somebody else like check account as survey,Is not sincere,Plus the other condition is superior/Manner appropriate,She also thought about it.

　　（文中女孩为化名）

(The girl for alias)