看到儿子在手机上与女生短信“谈情说爱”，武汉妈妈王丽（化名）焦虑不已。昨日，她在武汉某教育论坛上求网友支招：说重了怕孩子逆反影响学习；太开明担心成变相鼓励。该怎么和儿子交流呢？

See son on the phone with girl"love",Wuhan mother wang li(The allotted time periods specified by the)Anxiety by.yesterday,She a education in wuhan on the BBS for users:The influence of rebellious children study said;Too liberal worry into being encouraged.How to communicate with son?

短信显示读高二的儿子早恋了 The message that read - the son of early love

　　武汉妈妈王丽在论坛上介绍，儿子目前正读高二。有天晚上，儿子把手机落在了家里，她一时忍不住翻看了他的手机，竟然发现了“赤裸裸的传情短信”。“当时真是又气又恼，想着等他回来一定要好好的教育一番。”等到王丽冷静下来，觉得还是不要太直接了，“最近他有考试，不想太影响他，我像往常一样，什么也没和他说。”

Wuhan mother wang li on the BBS,Son read - is currently.One evening,Son left mobile phone in the home,She could not help but went through his mobile phone,Unexpectedly found"Naked in SMS"."At that time really was angry and his teeth,Thinking is close friends certainly good education when he comes."Until wang li to calm down,Think it's not too direct,"Recently he has the exam,Don't want to affect his too,I am as usual,And he said nothing."

　　可这件事成了王丽的心病。以前她看到别人的孩子早恋，觉得父母应该开明点，堵不如疏，但是真到了自己头上就不是那么回事了，“我很苦恼现在该怎么样跟他谈谈，说重了怕影响他学习，开明一点又好像是在变相鼓励。”

But it became a real headache to wang li.Before she saw other people's children to early love,Think that parents should be open-minded,Blocking than thin,But true to his head, it is not so,"I'm very distressed now how to talk to him,Say again afraid of affect his learning,Enlightened being encouraged and seems to be in a bit."

　　有网友回应，当年自己高二的时候，班级也有多对谈恋爱，但毕业后只有两对在一起，最终结婚的只有一对。他建议王妈妈提醒孩子，“高中虽然是可以恋爱的年纪，但最好毕业后再成双成对，耽误了成绩就不值得，因为基本上成功的非常少。”

Netizens responded,In his second,The class have to fall in love,But only two together after graduation,Eventually get married only a couple.He suggested WangMaMa remind children,"Although high school can be in love of age,But the best paired off again after graduation,The delay performance is not worth it,Because basically very little success."

　　还有网友认为，真正有智慧的孩子不会因为谈恋爱就影响学习，家长应努力把孩子培养成一个自己能辨别轻重、有一定克制力和分寸的人。

Have net friend think,Really a wise child won't because love will affect learning,Parents should make great efforts to train the child into a you can discern weight/Have certain restraint and detail-oriented person.

家长要引导子女区分友谊和 Parents should guide children to distinguish between friendship and

　　爱情

love

　　据悉，教育部日前下发了修订后的《中小学心理健康教育指导纲要》，明确指出高中阶段，老师和家长要教育学生正确对待和异性同伴的交往，知道友谊和爱情的界限。

It is reported,The ministry of education recently issued the revised[Primary and secondary school mental health education guidelines],Clearly points out that the high school,Teachers and parents to education students treat correctly and heterosexual partner relationship,Know the limits of friendship and love.

　　“家长不要轻易判定孩子早恋。”武昌实验中学副校长汪拥军说，高中学生萌发出对异性同窗的好感是正常的，尤其是在家缺乏同伴互动交流的独生子女。他建议家长大可不必谈早恋色变，人为营造紧张的家庭氛围，应利用这个机会好好跟孩子敞开心扉谈一谈。

"Parents don't easily judge children to early love."Wuchang experimental middle school vice principal WangYongJun said,High school students germination of the opposite sex and enjoyed good is normal,Especially in the home the only child of the lack of peer interaction.He suggested that parents don't need talk about early love color change,People build the family atmosphere of tension,Should take advantage of this opportunity to talk to children to open your heart.

　　我省特级心理教师耿喜玲分析，对于高中生谈恋爱，若横加干涉，效果反而不好，但家长也不可放任自流。她建议这位妈妈和儿子好好交流，试着这样谈话：两人一起考大学，如果你没有考上或者进入一所不入流的高校，那么你还能自信地与对方交往吗？面对人生的分岔路，学习和恋爱好比大石头和小石头，18岁的你到底选择哪一块？对于“情窦初开”的青少年来说，这些问题确实值得认真思考。

Super psychological analysis GengXiLing teachers in our province,For high school students fall in love,If with,Effect of broth.,But parents also not easy.She suggested that the mother and son have a good communication,Try to talk like this:Two people together to college,If you are not admitted to or enter a of colleges and universities,Then you can confidently communicate with each other?In the face of life points forked roads,Learning and the love is like a big stone and small stone,What do you choose which piece of 18?for"Puppy love"The teenagers,These questions really is worth thinking about seriously.