家长：我不想让儿子自卑 parents:I don't want to let the son inferiority

　　买女士的儿子9岁，在南京一所小学上三年级。前天晚上，儿子一回家就委屈地告诉她，上级部门来学校视察，体育老师嫌他跑不快，不让他去操场上课，语文老师见他单独在教室又认为影响不好，便把他叫到办公室站了一节课。听了儿子的诉说，买女士很气愤，马上打电话给班主任，一核实，的确有这事。班主任说，当天上体育课时，自己和语文老师发现，买女士的儿子一个人呆在教室，怕领导看到会过问，就把他叫到了办公室。班主任说，自己会安排体育老师向她解释，让她不用再找校领导了。

Buy a woman's son nine years old,A primary school in nanjing in grade three.The day before yesterday evening,Son a home is wrong to tell her,The superior department to school inspection,Sports teacher don't think he could not run fast,Don't let him go to the playground class,Chinese teacher see him alone in the classroom and that influence not good,He called him to the office got a lesson.Listen to the son's complain,Buy a lady is very angry,Immediately call the teacher in charge,A verification,Have this thing.Teacher in charge said,On the day of sports class,And his Chinese teacher found,Buy a woman's son alone in the classroom,Be afraid of see leadership,Just called him to the office.Teacher in charge said,They will arrange PE teacher to explain to her,Let her no longer find the school leader.

　　挂断电话，买女士心情难以平静。这让她回想起一年前一次相似的经历儿子学校开运动会，老师规定全班同学都穿红色运动服表演体操，买女士专门开车去环北给儿子买了一套。家与学校仅有一墙之隔，可第二天买女士和丈夫的眼睛都看酸了，也没找到儿子的身影。原来，老师非但没让孩子参加表演，还让儿子将体操服贡献给了其他同学。

Hang up the phone,Buy a woman difficult mood calm.This let her recall a year ago a similar experience son school sports meeting,The teacher made it a rule to the whole class all wear red uniforms show gymnastics,Buy lady special drive to HuanBei give son bought a.Home and school only of one wall lie between,But on the following day buy a woman and her husband's eyes see the acid,Also didn't find the son's figure.The original,The teacher not only didn't let children to take part in a performance,Also let the son will gym suit make a contribution to the other students.

　　“胖就要受歧视吗？胖就注定没尊严吗？”买女士说，儿子很聪明，还在围棋比赛中获过奖。鉴于体育老师道歉态度诚恳，买女士不想再追究学校的责任，但她很心痛，“孩子越来越大了，我不想让他因此变得自卑内向。”

"Fat will suffer discrimination?Fat is destined no dignity?"Buy lady said,A very clever son,In the game of go game winning awards.In view of the physical education teacher attitude sincere apology,Women don't want to buy shall be investigated for responsibility,But she's very heartache,"More and more children,I don't want to let him become inferiority introverted."

专家：老师是在教书毁人 experts:The teacher is teaching destroyed

　　“这是完全错误的。”南京师范大学的教育专家殷飞认为，老师为了所谓的集体荣誉不让孩子上课，是一种“只见森林，不见树木”的做法。为应付考核，牺牲了个别儿童的健康成长，殷飞说，“这不是教书育人，而是‘教书毁人’。”儿童在成长阶段，自尊和自信首先就来自容貌和外观，这些因素能深深影响他们的心态。教育者应该看到孩子可能存在的问题，进行必要的引导和弥补。

"This is totally wrong."Nanjing normal university education experts YanFei think,The teacher to the so-called collective honor not to let the child attends class,Is a kind of"See the forest,trees"practice.To cope with assessment,Sacrifice the individual to the healthy development of children,YanFei said,"This is not impart knowledge and educate people,but‘Teaching destroyed’."Children in the growth stage,Self-esteem and self-confidence, first of all, from the appearance and appearance,These factors can deeply affect their state of mind.Educators should see the child may be problems,Necessary guidance and make up.

　　殷飞认为，老师这样对待学生，道歉在其次，而是应该站在孩子的角度，帮他把自信挽救回来，去发现孩子的其他特长，让他感到被尊重、被认同，修复他受到的心理伤害。

YanFei think,The teacher treat students,Apology in the second,But should stand in the children's point of view,Help him to save the confidence back,To find the child's other specialty,Let him feel respect/recognized,He was repairing the psychological damage.

　　@金色雨丝：楼主处理得还不错吧。这样的事情我估计过去很常见，打着“集体荣誉”的名义，老师想当然不当回事情，家长也表示理解就过去了，不利于孩子的心理健康。不过现在不行了，学校和老师也应当与时俱进，转变思维，一切以孩子成长健康为中心。

@ golden rain:The building Lord processing is ok.Such a thing I estimate that the past is very common,under"Collective honor"In the name of the,The teacher not take it for granted things back,Parents also understands that passed,Against the child's mental health.But now I can't,Schools and teachers should keep pace with The Times,Change thinking,Everything with children to grow up healthy as the center.

　　@njwdii123：抱抱楼主。你是位好妈妈，孩子是好儿子。

Njwdii123 @:Hug the.You are a good mother,The child is good son.