寒假将至，面对马上就可以享受的快乐假期，一些孩子竟出现焦虑症状。

Winter holiday will come,In the face of'll can enjoy a happy holiday,Some children have appear the symptom.

　　如今，考试、竞争成为社会评价的标准，应对未可知的挑战也成了孩子成长路上最大的敌人。无声的硝烟渐渐弥漫到了孩子的童年时期。激烈的竞争，学业压力带给小学生的并不仅仅只有更多的作业本，更厚的辅导书，更少的课余时间，还有更多的心理问题……

now,test/Competition become social evaluation standard,To deal with the challenge of a mystery also became a child grow up the way the greatest enemy.Silent smoke slowly diffuse to the child's childhood.Fierce competition,Academic pressure to students is not only more homework,The more thick coach book,Less free time,There are more and more psychological problems...

考不好“整个假期都会变成梦魇” Poorly on the"The holiday will become nightmare"

　　“这几天开始考试了，我们家孩子最近却生病了，腹泻很多天了，考试肯定受到影响了。”记者在北京市儿童医院遇到了带孩子看病的闫女士，说起儿子她似乎满肚子的怨气，“我们家孩子学习成绩不太好，还整天想看电视、玩电脑。每到考试就生病，说实话，我都怀疑他是不是在装病。现在医生说他是得了焦虑症，小孩子家懂得什么焦虑！”言谈间，闫女士显得很生气，一副恨铁不成钢的感觉，说完一只拉着孩子的手还下意识狠狠地握了一下。

"The days start the test,Our house has recently been sick children,Diarrhea many days,The exam must be affected the."Reporter in Beijing children's hospital to see a doctor had children of ms leap,Speaking of son she seemed full belly of complaints,"We have the child academic record is not so good,Also want to watch TV all day long/Playing computer.Every examination is sick,To tell you the truth,I wondered if he was pretending to be ill.Now the doctor said he have anxiety,Children home know what worried!"Between speech,Ms leap is very angry,A pair of hate iron not rewinded into feeling,Say that finish a took the child's hand is subconscious ruthlessly, and shook it.

　　闫女士的孩子小煜明今年上小学三年级，成绩在班里是中等水平，成绩也相对比较平均。但是在闫女士的印象里，孩子刚上小学如果不在班里占前五名，随着学习难度的增加，以后上了初中、高中成绩会更差。“成绩不好就得补课。现在补不上，以后就要差更多。考试完了刚好放假，有大量的时间，可以让他去补习班。”

Ms leap children small Yu Ming this year on the primary school is grade three,Results in the class level is medium,Results also relatively average.But in a leap lady's impression,The child just elementary school if not for the top five in the class,With the increase of the difficulty of learning,Later on the junior high school/High school grades would be even worse."Bad grades will have to make up a missed lesson.Now fill in,Later will send more.Just finished the test,Have a lot of time,Can let he go to cram school."

　　趁着闫女士拿药的间隙，小煜明告诉记者：“妈妈总说我是装病，其实不是。我也很怕考前得病影响考试，但是每次不管我怎么留意还总是生病。我也想考好，这样妈妈就不生气了。”说话的时候，记者留意到这个刚上小学三年级的小男孩很听话，谈吐有着这个年龄段不该有的成熟感。他还告诉记者，对于未来的假期，他和他的很多同学都没有什么期待。“如果考得好，会被要求学更多的东西。比如，超前学习一些高年级的功课或者是学一些语言类的课程之类的。如果考得不好，整个假期就更难过，除了需要补习以外，等待我们的还有家长的碎碎念。”

Under the cover of a leap lady may or may not prescribe medicine for clearance,Small Yu Ming told reporters:"Mom always said I was faking it,It is not.I also very be afraid before diseases affect test,But every time no matter what I pay attention to is always sick.I also want to take an examination of good,So your mom will be not angry."speaking,Reporter noticed this just elementary school grade three of the little boy is very obedient,Talk with this age shouldn't some mature feeling.He also told reporters,For the holiday,He and many of his classmates have nothing to look forward to."If you do well on the test,Will be required to learn more things.Such as,Advance learn some advanced lessons or learn some language class curriculum and so on.If well on the test,The vacation is more sad,In addition to other than remediation,Waiting for our parents and the broken broken read."

　　像煜明一样，记者在和平里附近的一所小学进行采访时发现，这些小学生对于假期的热情并没有记者想象中的那么高。他们大多反映这段时期是“他们最痛苦的时期”。一位汪姓小学生说，“每到考试前我都会失眠。最近我都没有睡好，不信你看我的黑眼圈。如果考不好，整个假期都会变成梦魇。”在这些孩子看来，他们的假期和上学并无明显不同，只是伴随自己的是不同的学习内容罢了。

Like Yu Ming as,Reporter in the position of a primary school near that interview,The pupils for holiday enthusiasm and no reporters imagination of so high.Most of them reflect this period is"They are the most painful time".A WangXing pupils said,"Every before the exam, I will suffer from insomnia.Recently I didn't sleep well,Do not believe you see my black rim of the eye.If the bad,The holiday will become nightmare."In these children looks,Their holiday and go to school and no significant different,Only with their own is different learning content only.

小学家长陷入恐“晚”泥淖 Primary school parents into fear"late"mire

　　记者在北京市朝阳区两所小学进行采访，通过询问的方式，采访20多名不同年纪的小学生。这些孩子反映，自己的恐慌情绪相当一部分来自于家长，有相当一部分家长从孩子上小学就给孩子做好了职业规划。相关调查数据也显示，近年来，我国中小学生睡眠时间不达标的人数逐年攀升，其中超过一半以上的学生节假日也没有充足的睡眠。而占用他们睡眠时间最多的还是各种形式的课外班。

Reporter in Beijing chaoyang district interview two primary schools,By asking the way,More than twenty different interview name age of primary school children.These children reflect,His panic quite a part from parents,There are quite a few parents from child elementary school will give children ready to career planning.Relevant survey data also show,In recent years,The small and medium-sized students sleep time is not the number of rising year by year,More than more than half of students holidays also does not have enough sleep.And take up their sleep time most or all kinds of after-school classes.

　　“我们也想让孩子多睡一会。但是没办法，所有的孩子都在学，你能不学吗？”一名接孩子的家长一边拉着孩子匆匆赶去课外班，一边回答记者的提问，“现在不规划就晚了……”

"We also want to let the child sleep a short while more.But I can't,All the children are learning,You can not learn??"A joint the child's parents side took the children hurried to outside class,Side answer reporters' questions,"Now don't planning is late..."

　　一名刚上小学一年级的小女孩就煞有介事地告诉记者：“妈妈告诉我，只有现在学好英语，将来才能考上好的大学，找到好的工作。”当记者询问她是不是很喜欢学英语，自己的兴趣是什么时，这名可爱的小女孩经过短暂的思考后，说自己并不知道。采访中，上小学三年级的王悦也坦诚地说，他爸爸也早早为他做好了职业规划，因其自身学习药学的原因，他也希望他将来能够成为一名药学从业者。事实上，这些刚读小学的孩子对于他们父母描述的职业路径并没有多少认识。

A just elementary school a grade girl seriously told reporters:"Mother told me,Only now learn English well,Will be admitted to a good university,Find good job."When a reporter asked her if she liked learning English,What is your interest,A lovely little girl after a short thinking,Said he did not know.interview,Elementary school grade three of the wang yue and honestly,His father also early for him to the career planning,Because of its own study the cause of the pharmacy,He also hope that he will be able to become a pharmacy practitioners.In fact,These just read primary school children for their parents describe career path and don't have much understanding.

　　“现在教育从娃娃抓起。认识也要跟得上，兴趣都是培养起来的。作为家长，我们在这个社会上摸爬滚打这么多年，肯定有一些心得和收获。我觉得对于他们未来的职业规划从现在做起也并不算早。” 在一家出版社就职的王先生说，“这并不是我们恐慌，而是现实情况就是如此。孩子将来面临升学、就业，我们走过的弯路肯定要尽量帮他们避免。尽管我们也不希望她的压力太大，但这也是没办法的事，这都是为了孩子……”

"Now education grab from baby.Know also want to follow up,Interest is to train up.As a parent,We in this society on me.but so many years,There must be some experience and harvest.I feel that for their future career planning starts from now also does not calculate in early." In a press in Mr. Wang said,"This is not our panic,But the reality is so.Children in the future study face/employment,We passed the conclusion must try to help them avoid.Although we don't want her too much pressure,But this is not the way,This is all for the children..."

　　记者在采访过程中，听到这些小学家长提及最多的是再不如何就晚了。正是因为家长这种焦虑传染给孩子，才导致孩子在处理问题和事情上，出现了问题。

Reporter in the interview process,Hear these primary school parents mention most is not how to late.It is for parents this anxiety to infect the child,To cause the child to have in dealing with problems and things,problems.

　　“不得不承认，以考试作为评价手段的竞争形式涉及到现在生活的方方面面，从小升初，到未来的各种招考、录用考试，无一不是‘优胜劣汰’。长期浸淫在这种环境里，家长不断给孩子提出更高的要求，在所难免。”在共青团北京市委相关工作人员看来，“如果家长不能客观冷静地对待孩子所处的阶段，孩子的焦虑和恐慌可能会更多。现在，家长错位的教育观和不切实际的超高期望值，怕‘晚’的情绪实在要不得，孩子成才任何时候都不晚。现在过高地期望不仅制约了孩子的兴趣和成长的环境，也在他们未来职业道路上埋下隐患。”

"Have to admit that,On the test as evaluation means form of competition now involved in all aspects of life,From another,To the future of all kinds of recruitment/Employ test,Notting have is not‘Superior bad discard’.Long-term immersed in this kind of environment,Parents give children continuously put forward higher requirements,unavoidable."In the communist youth league Beijing municipal committee of the relevant staff looks,"If parents can't objective calm to children in the stage,The child's anxiety and panic may be more.now,Parents misplaced education and unrealistic high expectations,Afraid of‘late’Mood, was wrong,The child into any time not too late.Now prohibitively expect not only restricts the child's interest and growth environment,Also in their future career path buried hidden trouble."

别让焦虑阻挡孩子前进的脚步 Don't let anxiety prevent feet

　　孩子事情对于家长来说是头等大事。一旦孩子的学习状况不尽如人意，家长就陷入心急、“恨铁不成钢”，进而对孩子进行对比、指责，动辄就用“别人家孩子”进行“示范教学”。这不仅不利于孩子的成长，也不能起到相应的督促作用。

The child thing for parents is a top priority.Once the child's learning situation is not satisfactory,Parents in impatient/"Hate iron not rewinded into",And children were compared/accused,Frequently use"Someone else's child"for"Demonstration teaching".This is not only unfavorable to the growth of children,Also cannot have corresponding urge action.

　　“尽管家长一再要求减负，但是实际上一些家长自己却抱着重重的负担不肯给孩子放下来。记得我小学的时候，写完作业就可以玩了。现在的孩子写完一本还有一本。”北京市房山区小学教师胡迪迪对记者说，“如果要想让孩子取得更大进步，就必须不断发现孩子的进步，并给予充分肯定。情绪会传染，要把正面积极的情绪传递给孩子。有时候鼓励比批评更能激发他的潜能和责任感。家长也要学会控制自己的情绪，尽量少地拿孩子进行对比。一些心理相对脆弱的孩子可能会因此一蹶不振，导致孩子悲观无助感，严重的可能产生厌学、逃避等情况。”

"Despite repeated requests to alleviate the burden on parents,But in fact some parents but he himself holding heavy burden refused to give the child down.Remember my elementary school time,After finishing the homework can play.Now children finish writing a book and a book."Beijing fangshan district elementary school teacher HuDiDi told reporters,"If you want to let the children make greater progress,We must constantly found the child's progress,And give full affirmation.Emotions could spread,The positive emotions pass on to their children.Sometimes encourage more than criticism can inspire his potential and sense of responsibility.Parents also have to learn how to control your emotions,As far as possible to take the child are compared.Some psychological relatively vulnerable children may therefore cannot recover after a setback,Cause the child to have the pessimistic helplessness,Serious may produce be disgusted/Escape, etc."

　　据相关心理辅导人士介绍，小学生一般处于成长的处级阶段，他们还不能很好地应对外界的压力，一旦他们发现自己处于过高的期望之中，会有一些孩子出现缺乏自信，总是怀疑能力等方面的担心，如果严重可能会影响到孩子的身体机能，出现消化方面的问题，更有甚者可能会出现发热等症状。其实，人一生中要经历很多次失败，对于小学生来说，家长不仅要帮助他们克服失败给他们带来的阴影，更要教会他们如何克服失败时产生的负面情绪。这样，在面对新的考试时，之前的失败体验才不会被大脑唤起，才能从容应对。

According to relevant personage introduces psychological counseling,Students generally in growing place class stage,They are still not very good to deal with the outside pressure,Once they found themselves in a high expectations of,There will be some children appear lack of confidence,Always doubt ability of worry,If serious may affect the child's body function,Appear digestive problems,What's more may appear the symptom such as fever.In fact,Person's life to undergo failure many times,For primary school students speaking,Parents should not only help them overcome the shadow of failure bring them,More to teach them how to overcome failure generates negative emotions.this,When in the face of the new test,Before the experience of failure won't be brain arousal,To deal with.

　　“家庭教育的核心功能，其实是做人的教育，但在当下，家庭教育成为了学校教育的延伸，父母变为了校外辅导员，很显然，在这样的家庭教育环境中，亲子关系异化为分数、成绩的关系。父母势必成为学生考试焦虑的重要因素。”著名教育学者熊丙奇也表示，“把每个学生培养为自食其力的劳动者，这该是我国社会应该形成的成才理念，相比做‘人上人’来说，这更接地气。不然，被‘人上人’目标悬在空中的父母和学生，最终都会陷入焦虑，其中相当部分最后连自食其力也难。我国有不少大学生做‘啃老族’，已经很说明问题。而家庭教育观念的改变，往往与教育制度的改革是正相关的积极的健康的教育观念，会推动教改，为教改实施创造条件。”

"The core of the family education function,It is a education,But in the present,Family education become the school education extension,Parents into the school counselor,obviously,In such a family education environment,Parenthood alienated to score/Performance relationship.Parents will inevitably become the important factor of students' test anxiety."Famous education scholars XiongBingJi also said,"Each students earn for workers,This is our country society should form a concept,Do compared‘People master cheng yen’for,The more ground gas.otherwise,was‘People master cheng yen’Target suspended in the sky of parents and students,Eventually into anxiety,The last part is even earn one's own living also difficult.Our country has many college students do‘Neet group’,Is that.And family education idea change,Often and education system reform is positively related positive health education idea,Will promote the educational reform,For the implementation of the reform to create conditions."

　　现代的成功标准是多样的，作为家长更应该允许梦想的存在。每个孩子都是不同的，他们也有不同的梦想。能掌握一技之长，找到帮助别人的方式，感受到别人需要你，感受到幸福这便是成功的人生。

Modern success criteria is varied,As parents should be allowed to the presence of more dream.Every child is different,They also have different dreams.To be good at something,Find the way to help others,Feel others needs you,Feel the happiness that is successful life.

　　有学者呼吁，目前中国的高等教育已经向着“重‘育’而非‘教"的通识教育方向转变，这呼唤着中小学的教学实践与其形成有机衔接。国家在加大投入以扩充优质教育资源的同时，应尽快取消义务教育阶段重点与非重点的区分。在社会层面真正形成对接，才能比较有效地解决问题。（记者 赵剑影）

Some scholars called for,At present China's higher education has to"heavy‘brood’Rather than‘teach"The general education direction change,This calls for the primary and secondary school teaching practice and its formation organic connection.Countries in increasing investment to expand the high quality education resources at the same time,Should cancel the obligation education stage as soon as possible and the key point to distinguish.In the social level form a truly butt,Can be more effective to solve the problem.(Reporter ZhaoJianYing)