假期来了，你可知孩子心里在想啥？

Vacation to the,Do you know the children want to what?

　　你会和孩子相处吗？昨日，重庆晚报记者在重庆12355青少年服务台了解到，在去年的心理咨询热线中，该平台共接到青少年心理咨询8913例，其中占比例最大的是因为亲子关系导致，有3120例，占35%；第二位是青少年青春期问题，有1961例，占了22%。

You will get along with children?yesterday,Chongqing evening news reporter in chongqing 12355 teenagers desk to know,In the last year in psychological counseling hotline,The platform received a total of 8913 cases of adolescent psychological counseling,The proportion of the largest because parenthood cause,There were 3120 cases,35%;The second is the youth adolescent problems,There were 1961 cases,Account for 22%.

17岁女生 17 years old girl

发割腕照到QQ空间 Hair cut wrist as to QQ space

　　2011年8月的一天凌晨，12355心理咨询师张境倍接到一个奇怪电话，一个外地口音的女孩在电话里泣不成声，说她就快要死了。

In August 2011 a day morning,12355 psychological consultant piece of land times received a strange phone,A foreign accent girl sobbing on the phone,Said she is going to die.

　　“后来才知道，她当晚本来要自杀，已经划破了手腕。”张境倍告诉重庆晚报记者，打电话的是大连女孩小叶，原本成绩很好，但高一开始她喜欢上了一个男生，步入青春期的她对爱情开始懵懂和憧憬，成绩下滑。

"Afterwards just know,That night she was going to commit suicide,Have split the wrist."A boundary times tell chongqing evening news reporter,A call is dalian girl lobule,Had good results,But higher started her like a boy,Enter adolescent she to love began to ignorant and longings,Grades slipped.

　　“笨死了，你长这么大能做什么，就是个没用的东西。”母亲没有察觉到孩子的问题，却一再用语言刺激小叶。学习压力和母亲长期的语言暴力，17岁的小叶对生活失去了信心。

"Stupid dead,You grow so big can do??????,Is a useless things."Mother didn't notice that their child's question,He has repeatedly use language stimulation lobule.The pressure of study and mother long-term language violence,17 year old lobule has lost confidence in life.

　　她选择了割手腕等方式，在痛苦的快感中释放自己。无意间，小叶把受伤的照片放在QQ空间，没想到却不断有陌生人把她加入了一个QQ群。进去后才发现，这是一个自杀群，群里的人分享自杀想法，甚至约人一起自杀。小叶由刚开始的兴奋慢慢转为害怕，最终她拨通了12355热线，向青少年服务台求助。

She chose to cut wrist, etc,In the pain of pleasant sensation in his release.inadvertently,Lobules of the injured photos on QQ space,Did not think of to have continued stranger to her to join a QQ group.In after that,This is a suicide group,The group share suicidal thoughts,Even people about suicide.Lobular by first excited slowly into fear,Eventually she dialed 12355 hotline,To teenagers desk for help.

拨通热线 Phone hotline

走出自杀群阴影 Out of the suicide group of shadow

　　“2012年底，小叶还给我们打过电话，不过这次她是想通过自己的力量帮助自杀群的人走出阴影。”张境倍说，通过两年来的心理疏导，小叶一步步走出阴影，“如果当初小叶的家人能及时发现孩子的问题，并及时沟通，也不会让孩子经历这么多伤痛。”

"By the end of 2012,Lobular also called,But this time she is to own power assisted suicide group of people out of the shadows."Zhang said its times,Through two years of psychological counseling,Lobular step by step out of the shadow,"If had lobular family can timely find out the problem of children,And timely communication,Also won't let the child experience so much pain."

　　父母在青少年的成长中扮演着第一个人生导师的角色，家长不要只把成绩当成衡量孩子的唯一指标而忽视青少年心理健康。

Parents in the growth of the teenagers plays the role of the teacher the first life,Parents do not only the performance as a measure of the child's only index and ignore their mental health.

　　青少年产生心理问题原因之一是通过互联网渠道，获取了大量的信息。“消极网络文化的传播在很大程度上影响着青少年的价值观、人生观、世界观的形成，对青少年身心健康造成极大危害。”她提醒青少年朋友，文明上网，不访问不良网页，如不小心加入不良群。（重庆晚报记者 刘露瑶 实习生 陈冬梅）

Adolescent psychological problems one reason is that through the Internet channel,Get a lot of information."Negative network culture spread to a large extent influence the values of teenagers/Outlook on life/World outlook formation,The physical and mental health of teenagers caused great harm."She reminds young people,Civilized Internet,Don't visit bad web page,If not be careful to join bad group.(Chongqing evening news reporter LiuLouYao ChenDongMei interns)

假期多带孩子去图书馆 Holiday take children to the library

别让他们变宅男腐女 Don't let them become curtilage male rot female

　　中国心理协会会员，重庆市12355青少年服务台心理专家团成员郑勇利表示，放假后孩子没有娱乐的地方和玩伴，更容易通过上网、智能手机等方式，接触网络文化，例如网络游戏、动漫、魔幻小说、同性恋文学，对青春期的男女性取向产生不良影响，成为网络上说的宅男、腐女。

Chinese psychological association member,Chongqing 12355 teenagers desk psychological expert panel members ZhengYongLi said,The child has no entertainment place and playmate,More easily through the Internet/Intelligent mobile phone, etc,Contact network culture,Such as network game/cartoon/Magical novel/Gay literature,The roots of male and female orientation adverse effects,As the network of igawa said/Rot female.

　　“首先，尊重孩子意愿，和孩子商量出一个适当的假期安排。”别让孩子整个假期完成过多作业负担或受到训斥。“家长不要因成绩对孩子进行打骂，要积极看待孩子的问题，让他们在一个愉悦的假期里学习。可以介绍同事或者小区的玩伴给孩子，多带孩子到图书馆看书，利用走亲访友的时间多和孩子交流等。

"First of all,Respect children will,And to discuss the children a proper arrangement for our vacation."Don't let the child the holiday to finish too much homework burden or reprimanded."Parents don't because of the result to the child to beat and scold,To actively look at children,Let them in a pleasant holiday learning.Can recommend colleagues or the playmate to children,Take the children go to the library to read a book,Use visits more time and children communication, etc.

　　(来源:重庆晚报)

(Source: chongqing evening news)