题一：亲属多对不上号 Problem a:Relative to the number

　　“来，这是大姑父、这是二姑父。”“这是三姨、这是老姨……”结婚后，小李每年春节都会跟丈夫一起回老家过年，丈夫家亲戚多，虽然她已经很努力地去记熟这些面孔，但是一年一见面的频率，还是让她感到吃力。“关键是一大屋子人，三四十口，走马观花地介绍一遍，我又不能用手机一一拍下亲戚的照片。”虽说结婚几年来，小李尽了最大努力去认老家亲戚，可有时候还是会闹笑话。

"to,This is great uncle/This is the second uncle.""This is the third aunt/This is laoyi……"After marriage,Xiao li will every Spring Festival with her husband back with New Year's day,Husband home more than relatives,Although she is very hard to remember these familiar faces,But a year to meet a frequency,Or make her feel difficult."The key is a room full of people,40 mouth,Typically in again,And I can't use mobile phone took pictures of them relatives."Although married for several years,Xiao li best efforts to recognize their hometown relatives,But sometimes will make a fool of oneself.

　　“除了上学工作这几年，我很少回老家，但小时候，我经常跟着爸妈串门拜访亲戚。”今年27岁的小王告诉记者，按照老家的习俗，到了他这个年龄，春节期间，应该是他自己上门去拜访亲戚。但是由于道路不熟，每次都得爸妈领着去。“跟在父母身后的感觉就是我还没有长大，真是太囧了。”小王说，每年去亲戚家，他都要记一遍门牌和院门。可等到第二年春节去拜访亲戚时，小王仍觉得去亲戚家的路怎么走怎么觉得陌生。

"In addition to school work over the past few years,I seldom go home,But when I was a child,I often follow parents drop around to visit relatives."The 27-year-old wang told reporters,According to the custom of the home,To his age,During the Spring Festival,Should be his own the door to visit relatives.But because the roads are not ripe,Every time my parents have led to."With parents behind the feeling that I have not grown up,Really drained the."Wang said,Every year to relatives,He want to remember again and for addresses.Wait until the second year the Spring Festival when went to visit a relative,Wang still feel that to relatives of the way how to feel strange.

题二：爱打探隐私事儿 Question 2:Love bug's privacy

　　“春节聚会，我最怕提问的就是那些涉及隐私的话题。”32岁的小张已经结婚，没有孩子的她一到过春节，很是发憷。“春节家庭聚会，长辈们就会催问我跟老公什么时候要小孩。”小张是独生子女，不愿意被孩子羁绊的她一直没有生小孩的准备。所以每次聚会前，小张都得在心里预演一遍如何应对长辈提出的问题。“弄得我很是紧张。”刚开始被催要孩子的时候，小张说自己还小，等到了奔三的年纪，糊弄不过去了，小张只好打马虎眼：“快了，就快了，今年我们正准备着呢……”

"The Spring Festival party,I am most afraid of asking questions is the personal topic."The 32-year-old zhang already married,She has no children to the Spring Festival,Policymakers are."The Spring Festival family party,Elders will push asked me what time with husband want a child."Xiao zhang is the only child,Don't want to be child fetter of she hasn't been ready to have children.So every time before the party,Xiao zhang have in mind rehearsal again how to deal with the elder questions."I make is very nervous."Just beginning to be traversing a child,Zhang said that oneself still small,Wait to run three age,Deceive not passed,Zhang had to act dumb:"fast,soon,This year we are preparing to it……"

　　对于刚刚过完25岁生日的小于来说，让他头疼的话题，是家人总喜欢打探工资水平。“我也知道，其实亲友之间聊聊收入这种隐私的话题，也是增进感情的一种方式，但这些个人问题，我觉得还是不要在大庭广众之下来讨论吧。”小于工作刚两年，收入在同龄人中还算中等。“经常是亲戚问完收入，就问我什么时候买房，紧跟着又是一大堆问题，感觉就跟警察查户口似的，特别扭。”

For just over 25 years old birthday for less,Let him have a headache topic,Family is always likes to find out the level of wages."I also know that,In fact between relatives and friends talk about income this privacy topic,Also enhance the feelings of a way,But these personal questions,I think it is not in the public discussion of it down."Just two years less than work,Income to their peers still calculate medium."Relatives are often asked the income,He asked when I buy a house,Following is a lot of problems,Feeling like the police check account similar,Special twist."

题三：哪壶不开提哪壶 Question three:Which pot does not open mention which pot

　　“我最害怕的是，亲戚一上来就说我又长胖了。”小孙是一名时尚的女孩，平时喜欢打扮自己，但是工作中经常会加班，所以很少有时间锻炼的她体重越来越沉。“平时忙，我也没有时间考虑个人的事儿，结果就被一些热心的亲戚们盯上了。”小孙说，她有自己的择偶标准，虽说30岁出头依然单身一人，但她并不着急自己的终身大事。小孙不急，但亲戚们替她着急。所以，一回老家过春节，小孙除了参加亲戚的聚餐，有时候还会被拉郎配。“恨不得我马上就和介绍的男孩拍拖、结婚。”小孙对此是哭笑不得。

"I fear most is,Relatives come up to say I have long fat."Sun is a fashionable girl,Usually like to dress up yourself,But we often work overtime,So there is little time to exercise her weight more and more heavy."Usually busy,I have no time to consider personal business,The results will be some eager relatives watched."Sun said,She has her own spouse,Although 30 s still single one,But she doesn't worry her lifelong event.Sun don't worry,But for her worried relatives.so,Once in the Spring Festival,In addition to his relatives after dinner,Sometimes is pulled with lang."Wish I'll and introduce boy dating/married."This sun is in distress situation.

专家：“囧”是文化差异的冲突 experts:"orz"Is the cultural differences of conflict

　　为了躲避这些令人尴尬的囧事儿，一些人选择回家后闭门不出，还有一些人干脆不回家。29岁的刘彦（化名）在中关村一家网络公司上班，今年春节假期选择了主动加班，这已是他连续第二年春节不回家了。“一回家就面对各种盘问，都是亲戚朋友也不好不说，只好不回去了。”刘彦说，他打算元宵节走亲访友都过去了再回家，赶一个“年尾巴”。记者了解到，这样的“不归族”群体正越来越大。

In order to avoid these embarrassing thing succeeding,Some people choose to go home after be confined to the house,There are some people simply don't go home.The 29-year-old LiuYan(alias)In zhongguancun a network company work,This year the Spring Festival holiday choose active work overtime,This is for the second straight year Spring Festival not to go home."A home is facing all kinds of questioning,Relatives and friends are also not bad,Have to not to turn back."LiuYan said,He is going to the Lantern Festival visits all over the home again,Cast a"Years tail".The reporter understands,this"Not to family"Group is more and more big.

　　中央党校项春玲教授认为，这些“囧”问题，其实是习惯了城市生活的人们回到家乡后的一种“不适应”。她表示，这种“不适应”恰恰反映了中国在社会转型中人们的一种特殊心态。“一些80后远离家乡多年，早已习惯了城市的生活方式，然而父母、亲戚的生活方式和生活习惯却仍是家乡的那一套。这两种不同的生活方式在一起必然会有摩擦。”项春玲说，在城市里收入、婚嫁等个人信息都属于隐私，但是在农村这种隐私可能就不存在。尤其在城镇化过程中，社会由一个相对封闭的形态向一个相对开放的形态发展，两种“文化差异”就起了冲突。

The central party school term spring ling professor thinks,these"orz"problems,It is used to city life of people back to the home of a kind of"Don't adapt to the".She said,this"Don't adapt to the"Just reflects the social transformation in China people is a kind of special state of mind."Some 80 years after far from home,Already used to the city's way of life,But parents/Relatives way of life and life habit but is still home that a set of.The two different way of life together there will always be friction."Item spring ling said,Income in the city/Marriage and personal information belong to privacy,But in the countryside this privacy may be does not exist.Especially in the process of urbanization,Society is composed of a relatively closed to form a relatively open form development,two"Cultural differences"And there was a conflict.

　　为什么这些“囧”问题在80后身上表现得尤为突出？项春玲说，这是因为80后正处于谈婚论嫁的年龄，事业也刚刚起步，生活、工作压力比较大。一些人可能因为压力大会“逃离北上广”回到家乡，但是很快就会“逃回北上广”，因为他们与家乡的社会已经脱节。她表示，父母、亲戚所谓的“打探”并没有恶意，或者是蓄意窥探隐私，而往往是出于一种关心。（记者 李环宇 王琪鹏）

Why do these"orz"In 80, after seems particularly outstanding?Item spring ling said,This is because after 80 is at the age of about marriage theory to marry,Career has just started,life/Working pressure is bigger.Some people may be because of the pressure"Flee north wide"Back to hometown,But will soon"Fled back to north wide",Because their home and society has been disrupted.She said,parents/Relatives so-called"bug"And no malice,Or deliberately and privacy,And is often out of a concern.(Reporter li huanyu WangQiPeng)