“学生这两天回老家了，给我寄来一个海鲜大礼包，折算成现金恐怕有好几百块。退回去，让学生难堪；收下来吧，心里不踏实。”沪上一所高校，记者无意间听到一位年轻“海归”教员在诉苦。他向同行请教，该如何妥善处置来自研究生的“重礼”？

"Students in this home for two days,Send me a seafood package,Convert into cash, I'm afraid there are hundreds of pieces.To return to,Let the students embarrassing;Closed down!,The in the mind ungrounded."Shanghai universities,Overheard a young journalist"Sea turtles"A faculty member in complaining.He ask peers,How to properly dispose of graduate from"Heavy gift"?

　　在如今的高校，学生尤其是研究生给导师送礼，越来越多，有些已经超出了“意思意思”的范围。学生春节给导师送上一份表示感谢的礼物，也是人之常情，但却使很多老师为难。有人提出，为了净化学术领域的师生关系，应效仿国外的一些做法，明文限制学生送礼、老师受礼的行为。

In today's colleges and universities,Students, especially the graduate student to mentor a gift,More and more,Some has gone beyond"meaning"The scope of the.Spring Festival to teacher students to send a thank you gift,Is human nature,But it is difficult for many teachers.Someone put forward,In order to purify the relationship between teachers and students in the field of academic,Should follow the foreign practices,Official restrictions students give gifts/The teacher's accepting the behavior.

研究生的年前顾虑 The graduate student's years ago

　　过春节，应该怎么向老师表达自己的问候和感谢？比起中小学生，大学里的硕士生和博士生在这个问题上更焦灼。

The Spring Festival,How should express their greetings and thank to the teacher?Compared with the primary and middle school students,College graduate and doctoral students on this issue is more anxious.

　　今年即将毕业的博士生小李说得直接:“过年‘不表示’，就是自己不懂事”。在他看来，研究生和导师的关系和中小学里的师生关系截然不同。无论是平时在实验室做课题、指导学术论文，还是毕业前帮着推荐工作或推荐给海外名校，在研究生培养阶段，导师是重要的领路人。但至于送什么作为答谢，李博士却犯难了。“我还没正式工作，送购物卡肯定不合适。据说有师兄曾送过，被当面退回了。”想来想去，“土特产”被认为是最安全的礼品，毕竟，只是一点吃的东西。可在互联网上，因为收到学生礼品而“吐槽”的大学老师不少无论是烟酒、海鲜礼包还是年货礼盒，一些所谓的“土特产”，其实市场价格不菲。

Graduating this year PhD student xiao li speaks directly to:"New Year's day‘Don't say’,Is you don't understand".In his opinion,Graduate students and tutor's relations and the relationship between teachers and students in primary and secondary schools are all different.Whether it is at ordinary times in the laboratory to do topic/To guide academic papers,Or help to recommend job before graduation or recommend to overseas universities,In stage of graduate student training,Mentor is an important guide.But as to what the stunner,Dr Lee was puzzled."I hasn't formally work,Surely send gift CARDS are not appropriate.Have a brother is said to have delivered,Be returned to the face to face."Want to want to go to,"Special local product"Gift is considered to be the safest,After all,,Just a little to eat.But on the Internet,Because gifts and students"Vomit slot"University of teacher both alcohol and cigarettes/Goodies for seafood gift bag or box,Some of the so-called"Special local product",Actually, market price does not poor.

　　对学生来说，“土特产”或许只是表达心意的方式，但很多大学老师，尤其是一些海归老师心里很清楚:如果换个地方，这可能是丢饭碗的事。

For students to,"Special local product"Maybe is the way to declare their intentions,But a lot of university teachers,Especially some returnees teacher the in the mind is clear: if we change the place,This is likely to be fired.

香港“礼尚往来”启示 In Hong Kong"In town"revelation

　　“当年我去香港读博，导师就跟我们这些内地学生明确说过，送礼超过100港币，就是行贿受贿。”在国内一所大学任教的王善勇，最近在科学网上写了一篇博客，专门讲述自己的亲身经历:他在香港一所大学读书时，有位内地的博士生感觉一门课程准备不充分，担心自己过不了，于是赶在考试前，往这门课的任教老师邮箱里放了一个信封。据说信封里装了1万元港币，而书信的内容很简单:希望老师给他透漏点考题，1万元港币作为回报。

"When I went to Hong Kong to read bo,Teacher told us the mainland students clear,Giving more than hk $100,Is that bribery."In the domestic Wang Shanyong taught at a university,Recently wrote a blog online in science,Specifically on own experiences: when he was studying in a university in Hong Kong,A doctoral student feel a course prepare adequately for the mainland,Worry that they don't,Before the test,To this course teaches the teacher put an envelope mailbox.It is said that the envelope containing the 10000 Hong Kong dollars,And the content of the letter is very simple, hope the teacher give he revealed some examination questions,10000 Hong Kong dollars in return.

　　香港的这位教授收到信后很震惊，但处理也很果断。他立马报告系主任，系主任马上通知香港廉政公署。随后，教授给学生回了信，说没问题，可以约个时间谈谈。

The professor was shocked after receipt of the letter of Hong Kong,But the treatment is also very decisive.He immediately report to the dean,Dean immediately inform Hong Kong commission against corruption.then,Teach students the letter back,Say no problem,Can set up a time to talk about.

　　最终的结果是，这位学生当场落网，被判入狱半年。

The end result was,The students were arrested on the spot,Was sentenced to six months.

　　“在香港，学生确实很少会在过年前给老师送礼，香港没有这个氛围，学生也明白，不恰当的送礼会给老师带来麻烦。”香港中文大学的年轻教员李骏康告诉记者，哪怕师生关系比较密切，学生孝敬老师的礼品通常只是一盒巧克力或一盒糖果。

"In Hong Kong,Students really seldom give the teacher a gift before Chinese New Year,Don't have the atmosphere of Hong Kong,Students also understand,Inappropriate gifts can bring trouble to the teacher."The Chinese university of Hong Kong young faculty Li Junkang told reporters,Even if the relationship between teachers and students more closely,Student honor teacher gifts are usually just a box of chocolates or a box of candy.

　　今年过年，李骏康也打算去看望自己读博期间的导师。因为是登门造访，加上自己已在大学任教，不再是学生，所以他考虑买一瓶酒送给恩师。“基本上我导师收了我的酒，要给我红包了。”说到这里，李骏康不由笑了起来。其实，香港本地很讲究礼尚往来的传统:只要学生给老师送礼，那么当老师的就必须“还礼”，给学生一个和礼物差不多等价的红包。

This year New Year's day,Li Junkang also plans to visit his mentor during read bo.Because it is come to our doors,Plus I was in university,Is no longer a student,So he is thinking of buying a bottle of wine to teacher."Basically my mentor accepted my wine,To give me a red envelope."When it comes to here,Li Junkang couldn't help laughing.In fact,Hong Kong is very exquisite. Traditional: as long as the students give the teacher a gift,So when the teacher would have to be"reciprocate",Give students a almost equivalent to a red envelope with gift.

拿捏好情与法的平衡 Hold good balance of emotion and method

　　正在美国一所大学攻读生物学专业的留学生陈先生，这两天也在准备给自己的导师“送礼”。由于导师是一位女士，他打算送上一条丝巾，在问候导师的时候介绍一番“中国年”的传统文化。

Is an American university majoring in biology students Mr. Chen,These two days are also ready to give his mentor"Gift giving".Because the teacher is a woman,He is going to send you a silk scarf,In regards to introduce a mentor"Chinese New Year"The traditional culture.

　　“丝巾就是最普通的那种，如果太贵，导师不会收的。”这位留学生告诉记者，美国很多州的州法以及大学的员工手册上都有明确规定，严禁教师收受学生的贵重礼品。

"Silk is the most common kind,If it is too expensive,Teacher will not be collected."The student told reporters,In many American states of state laws and university shall be specified in employee handbook,It is forbidden to accept gifts from students to teachers.

　　以密歇根大学为例，学校教务处就对大学管理层和大学教员、雇员的行为有一系列的明文规定。“大学是一个很大也很复杂的社区，所以存在着这样一种可能性:大学的教员为了追逐自己的利益而和大学的整体利益发生冲突。”因此，密歇根大学的员工守则上，写有针对“送礼”的专门规定:任何管理层、办公室人员以及教员或大学的其他雇员，都不得接收来自本校学生的价值贵重的礼品，这些人员也同样不得接收和学校有商务往来人士的珍贵礼品。

At the university of Michigan, for example,School to university management and the office of university faculty member/The behavior of the employees have a series of clear stipulation."University is a very big and very complex community,So there is a possibility like this: university faculty to pursue their own interests and overall interests of the university of conflict."so,The university of Michigan employees on the code,To write about"Gift giving"Special provisions: any management/Office staff, and faculty members or other employees of the university,May receive from the university students the value of the precious gift,They also can not receive and schools have the precious gift of business people.

　　“虽然中国的国情和美国有些不一样，中国人一直有礼尚往来的传统，但老师接受学生的任何礼品，在情和法之间一定要拿捏好平衡度。”同济大学交通运输工程学院副教授张轮认为，无论在哪类学校任教，老师都不得收受来自学生和家长的现金或购物券，这是职业的底线；而针对硕士生或博士生送来的土特产等年货，一方面，老师不必过于“敏感”，认为学生送礼就一定有企图，误会本来很美好的师生情；另一方面，老师最好能采取一些办法给学生立下规矩。“如果我遇上这事情，可能会找个时间把实验室或同门的学生都找来，然后明确说，有同学给老师送来了食品或礼品，大家图个高兴一起吃。”张轮认为，透明处理，可能是教育学生又不驳学生面子的好方式。

"Although some different national conditions of China and the United States,But has always been the traditional Chinese,But the teacher accept students of any gifts,Between love and law must hold good balance."Associate professor, department of transportation engineering in tongji university think a wheel,No matter in what kind of school,Teachers may not accept cash or vouchers from students and parents,This is bottom line;For master's or doctoral student sent goodies for local products, etc,On the one hand,The teacher don't have to be"sensitive",There must be trying to think students give gifts,Misunderstanding had very good teachers and students;On the other hand,The teacher can take some of the best way to set rules for students."If I meet this thing,May find a time to get laboratory or stuff of students,Then clear said,Have students brought food or gifts to the teacher,You figure a happy to eat together."A wheel that,Transparent processing,May be the education students are not barge students face a good way.

　　但无论如何，大学是一个做学问的地方，师生间的礼品往来不管出于哪一种动机，都该遵循一个基本前提:不能让师生间纯净的关系变味，更不能让学术染上商业气和江湖气。

But no matter how,University is the place where a scholar,The gift exchanges between teachers and students regardless of which kind of motivation,Should all follow a basic premise: can't let pure sour relations between teachers and students,Don't let the academic commercial gas and Jiang Huqi.