近日，著名歌唱家李双江之子李天一因涉嫌轮奸被刑事拘留，成为热点新闻。就在一年前，李天一曾因打架被收容教养。与其恶行形成鲜明对比的是他光鲜的教育经历：4岁入选中国幼儿申奥形象大使，4岁学习钢琴，8岁学书法，皆师从著名教授，获奖无数；高中就读人大附中，留学美国。在很多人看来，这是“好学生”的标准模型，为何这般不成器？

In recent days,Famous singer li tianyi, the son of li gang rape was criminal detention charges,Become a hot news.Just over a year ago,Li had was for reeducation for fighting.Rather than wickedness in contrast to his flashy education experience:4 years old Chinese children's image ambassador,4, learning to play the piano,8 years old studying calligraphy,Are all from famous professor,Numerous awards;High school affiliated high school of National People's Congress,Study in the United States.It seems to many people,This is"A good student"The standard model,Why so abrasive?

　　依笔者所见，李天一的骄纵，与其“星二代”的成长环境有关。他们拥有比普通人更好的家庭环境和人脉资源，享受特权和照应相对较多，套句俗话来说，他们更有“拼爹”的资本。在优越的温床下，如果家庭教育不加注意，很容易滋生“细菌”，孩子的行为产生偏差，如果未加及时矫正，便会导致“金玉其外，败絮其中”。

According to the author can see,Li tianyi pampered,Instead of"celebriots"The growth of the environment.They have better family environment and human resources than ordinary people,Enjoy privileges and care more,Set of saying it,They are more"Spell dad"The capital of.Under the hotbed of superior,If family education without notice,It is easy to breed"bacteria",Children's behavior produces deviation,If you do not add a correction in a timely manner,Will lead to"Apple of sodom,Apple of sodom".

　　跳出“星二代”话题来看，李双江之子事件是典型，但绝不是唯一。我们要反思的是家庭教育中常被忽视的部分。让孩子成为一名优秀学生，很多家长和一些学校关注更多的是“技艺”，用6个字概括：重技、重艺、轻德。在家教“一盘棋”中，成绩、特长、名校、奖项等，被不少家长摆在了前面，而品格摆在了稍微靠后的位置。孩子“考了前几名”、“有特长”、“拿了多少奖”等都是家长骄傲的资本，但很少有人把孩子的善良、正直、踏实等品格当作最先考虑的成长目标，因为家长认为这些品质并不是孩子将来最核心的竞争资本。

Jump out of the"celebriots"Subject to see,Li tianyi, the son of events is typical,But are by no means the only.We need to reflect on the family education is often neglected part.Let the child to be a good student,Many parents and schools is more of a concern"skills",Summed up in six words:Heavy skill/Heavy art/Light,.In the school"A chess game"In the,results/specialty/Famous universities/Awards, etc.,By many parents in the front,And character on the slightly on the location.The child"On the top"/"He was good"/"How much prize"Are parents proud capital,But few people put the child's kindness/integrity/Steadfast character as the first consideration of growth target,Because parents think the quality is not the core competition of the capital in the future.

　　笔者最近看到一篇关于 《射雕英雄传》的分析很有意思，或可以给家长一些启发。同样是英雄的后代，高智商的杨康失败了，而智力平平的郭靖却取得成功。有网友总结的原因是“情商发展”：一个武艺高强，但飞扬跋扈；一个天资不高，却勤奋刻苦，内外兼修。可见，技艺与品格内外兼修才是正途，家长可千万别让孩子只是“看上去很美”。

I recently saw an article about [The Legend of The Condor Heroes]The analysis is very interesting,Or can give parents some inspiration.Is also the offspring of heroes,The high IQ yang2 kang failed,While the guo jing of average intelligence success.Some reason is summarized"Emotional intelligence development":A martial arts high strength,But the bossiness;A talent is not high,But work hard,Inside and outside and repair.visible,Skills and character inside and outside and repair is the right direction,Parents don't let children only"Looks very beautiful".