“孩子，你回来后我一定多陪你，多和你沟通！”昨日，常州市清潭中学一名初三学生康康（化名）离家出走4日后，他的母亲叶女士（化姓）焦急、担心而又懊悔地一遍遍地重复着相同的话。

"The child,After you come back, I must spend time with you,How to communicate with you!"yesterday,常州市清潭In the学一名初三学生康康(Not his real name)Left home 4 days,His mother ms(The last name)anxious/Worry and remorse to repeat the same words over and over again.

　　从2月19日开始，初中学生离家出走的情况在常州接二连三地发生，截至昨日，常州已有十余名学生相继离家出走，这些学生多数已经念初三。有的已经被警方找回，而有的学生离家出走十天但依然还杳无音信。个别离家出走的孩子甚至还发消息给焦急的家长说“出去透透气就回”。常州当地警方为此还专门召开紧急会议，全力寻找离家出走的学生，目前，绝大多数离家出走的学生已经被找回，但个别孩子还依然杳无音信。

从2月19日开始,初In the学生Run away from home的情况In the常州接二连三地发生,As of yesterday,Changzhou for more than ten students have run away from home,Many of these students have read grade.Have been recovered by the police,And some students away from home for ten days but still missing.Individual runaway kids even send message to anxious parents said"Back to have some fun".Changzhou local police also specially convened an emergency meeting for this,Students looking for running away from home,At present,Most of the students away from home has been recovered,But some children are still missing.

　　

新学期伊始 At the beginning of the new term

　　

数名学生离家出走称要“透透气” According to several students away from home"For air"

　　2月19日上午，卢家巷实验初中一名正读初三的娟娟离家出走，至今没有她的消息，她身高约160厘米，出走时上身穿黄色羽绒服，下身穿黑色牛仔裤，脚穿红色运动鞋。娟娟的父亲严先生在牛塘的一家企业打工。女儿出走后，他已10天没有上班，整日在外寻找，亲戚家、女儿同学家，女儿所有可能去的地方他都寻找过，但都没结果。

2月19日On the午,卢家巷实验初In the一名正读初三的娟娟Run away from home,So far no news of her,She is about 160 cm in height,Flee when wearing a yellow jacket,Dressed in a black jeans,Wearing red shoes.娟娟的父亲严先生In the牛塘的一家企业打工.After her daughter ran away,He has ten days did not work,整日In the外寻找,relative/Daughter classmate home,Daughter all may go to the place he had been looking for,But didn't results.

　　不过，小娟给同学网络上留言，声称“我很好，暂时还不想回家”。 常州武进牛塘派出所的民警表示，警方正在密切关注她的动向，但暂时还没有她的消息。从相关监控可以看出，她失踪当天上了一辆公共汽车后便没有了身影。

不过,Xiaojuan leave a message to students on the network,Claims that"I'm fine,Temporary also don't want to go home". Changzhou wujin cattle pond police station's police said,警方正In the密切关注她的动向,But no news of her for the time being.As can be seen from the relevant monitoring,After she went missing the day on a bus is the shadow.

　　无独有偶， 2月19日龙虎塘中学的初三学生小星离家出走。24日，龙虎塘中学又有3名14岁的学生出走，26日，他们与家中取得联系，告诉家人“不要担心，我们身上有钱，出去透透气就回”。26日晚22时许，在家长、校方和社会的支持下，民警已将24日出走的3名14岁的龙虎塘初二学生和初三学生小星全数找到，并交给家长。

无独有偶, 2月19日龙虎塘In the学的初三学生小星Run away from home.24,,龙虎塘In the学又有3名14岁的学生出走,On the 26th,他们与家In the取得联系,Let's tell our families"Don't worry,We have money,Back to have some fun".22 PM 26th night,In theparents/Under the support of the school authorities and the society,Police have 24 walked three 14-year-old dragon pond 2 students and grade students in small XingQuan number found,And to the parents.

　　20日开学当天，常州西林中学初三学生小晶（化名）离家出走，23日，她在汽车站附近通过公用电话与家人取得联系，民警得知后立即赶到车站，将打算离家前往苏州打工的小晶找到。

20日开学当天,常州西林In the学初三学生小晶(Not his real name)Run away from home,23,,她In the汽车站附近通过公用电话与家人取得联系,Get to the station police immediately after that,Will plan to travel from home to find work in the suzhou found small crystal.

　　经过与小晶关系密切的朋友、同学深入了解情况，得知小晶在校时与一名男生张某关系不错。张某是安徽人，比小晶大两岁，半年前已辍学打工去了。小晶离家出走是为了和张某会合。幸亏警方及时将其找到后交给家长。

经过与小晶关系密切的A friend/Students know the situation deeply,得知小晶In the校时与一名男生张某关系不错.Zhang is in anhui,Two years older than the crystal,Six months ago has gone to school work.Small crystal is away from home in order to meet and zhang.Thanks to the police in time to find it and hand it to the parents.

　　据了解，每年寒假过后开学初期，常州警方都会接到10多起孩子离家出走的报警，孩子在外待了几天或经过警方、学校、家长的寻找，基本都会回家。

We have learned,After the annual winter vacation begins early,Changzhou police will receive more than 10 children ran away from home alarm,The childIn the外待了几天或经过警方/The school/Parents looking for,Basic will go home.

　　

孩子出走后 Children ran away after

　　

母亲急得摔伤腿，懊悔“沟通太少” Mother was hurt his leg,To regret"Communication is too little"

　　“我在常州一家单位的人力资源部工作，老公是大学教师，我们平时工作都很忙，造成这一切（指孩子离家出走）主要是怪我们平时和孩子沟通太少。孩子回来后，我一定多陪陪他。”

"我In the常州一家单位的人力资源部工作,The husband is a university teacher,We usually work is very busy,Due to all this(Refers to the children ran away from home)Mainly blame us communicating with your child too little at ordinary times.Baby after you come back,I must spend more time with him."

　　昨天上午，常州清潭中学学生康康的母亲叶女士懊悔地介绍说，康康已经离家出走四天了，他们早已报警了，但到现在也没有任何消息。

昨天On the午,常州清潭In the学学生康康的母亲叶女士To regret地介绍说,Kangkang has been away from home for four days,They already call the police,但到现In the也没有任何消息.

　　叶女士告诉扬子晚报记者，25日早上7点30分，老师告诉她，康康没有到学校后，他们一家就到处找，但没有发现他的身影和其他消息，家人和亲友都急得团团转。叶女士激动地说，她大学毕业后来常州20多年了，丈夫也是在常州大学城当教师，两人平时工作一直比较忙，疏于对孩子的照顾。

叶女士告诉扬子晚报记者,25, 7 a.m. in the morning,The teacher told her,Kangkang doesn't after to school,They looked everywhere for a,But didn't find his shadow and other news,Family and friends are out in a rash.Ms leaf said excitedly,She graduated from the university later in changzhou for more than 20 years,丈夫也是In the常州大学城当教师,Two people work at ordinary times is always busy,Neglect to children's care.

　　康康小的时候一直是爷爷奶奶照顾，他的生活自理能力比较强，从小学一年级至五年级，父母都是每天在桌子上放一二十元钱，让孩子自己买饭吃，过了六年级之后，康康的独立自理能力更强。虽然康康是走读生，但每天的早餐都是自己买。叶女士和先生几乎每天都很晚才到家，到家后，康康已经睡着了，第二天醒来时，康康又早已经去学校了。周末的时候，康康也有自己的朋友圈，和父母沟通比较少。

康康小的时候一直是爷爷奶奶照顾,His life self-care ability is stronger,From primary school grade one to grade five,父母都是每天In the桌子On the放一二十元钱,Let the children buy their own food,After the sixth grade,Kangkang's independent self-care ability is stronger.Though it is kangkang extern,But is oneself buy breakfast every day.Ms and Mr Almost didn't get home very late every day,After arriving home,Kangkang had fallen asleep,Wake up the next day,Kangkang is already go to school again.On the weekends,Kangkang also have their own circle of friends,Less communication with parents.

　　“可能是孩子的成绩下降，才导致他怕上学。”叶女士说，如今，她回想起来就觉得不对劲，因为今年春节期间，康康变得沉默寡言，他初一初二的成绩一直很好，到了初三有所下降。他可能是担心升学的压力，有了厌学情绪。

"May be the child's performance,Just cause he's afraid to go to school."Leaf said Ms.,now,In retrospect I feel she is wrong,Because during the Spring Festival period this year,Kangkang has become silent,He was the first 2 grades have been very good,The grade has fallen.He may be worried about entrance pressure,With weariness.

　　而就在2月20日，即将开学，因为康康的寒假作业没有做完，家长说了他几句后，康康就离家出走过一次，第二天凌晨两三点的时候，当地民警在一家网吧找到了他。“我应该自我检讨，工作可以重找，但儿子无法重生。”叶女士表示，为了找儿子，她的腿已经摔伤了。但她顾不得那么多。

而就In the2月20日,Will soon begins,Because kangkang winter vacation homework didn't finish,Parents said he after a few words,Kangkang walked out from home at a time,The next day 2,当地民警In the一家网吧找到了他."I should be self review,Work can find again,But son can not rebirth."Leaf said ms,In order to look for his son,Her leg was hurt.But she did not so much.

　　昨晚17点50分，记者发稿前，叶女士发来消息激动地表示“康康已找到，谢谢！”。当记者问及孩子为何离家出走时，叶女士选择了避而不谈。

昨晚17点50分,Before going to,Leaf lady sent message said excitedly"Kangkang has found,thank you!".When a reporter asked about why children ran away from home,Ms leaf chose to conceal.

　　

孩子回来后 Baby after you come back

　　

校方表示“要让孩子回归正常” School officials said"To let the children back to normal"

　　“我的儿子回来了。他出走时带了110元，当第11天，警察找到他的时候，只剩下1.6元。”昨日，常州新北区龙虎塘中学初三学生小星的母亲岳女士称，小星一共离家出走11天，当第11天，警察在一家网吧找到他时，他正在疯狂地打游戏，身上只有一元多钱。

"My son came back.When he walked out with $110,When the 11th day,When the police found him,Only 1.6 yuan."yesterday,常州新北区龙虎塘In the学初三学生小星的母亲岳女士称,Little star away from home for 11 days in total,When the 11th day,警察In the一家网吧找到他时,他正In the疯狂地打游戏,Only have one yuan much money with me.

　　“当我们问他这点还能干什么时候，小星说没想过。”岳女士说，儿子回来后明显瘦了一大圈，她和丈夫都和他进行了沟通，但小星不愿多谈，他只是简单地表示不想上学，问其原因，小星说作业太多。小星还让父母给他点时间，他会改正。岳女士说自己和丈夫来自甘肃，平时都在厂里打工上班，很少照顾儿子，儿子的成绩中等，希望他能慢慢地转变过来。

"When we asked him what time can it do,Said the little star hadn't thought of."Ms chow said,Son, come back clearly lost a big circle,She and her husband were carried on the communication with him,But little star don't want to talk more,He simply said don't want to go to school,Ask the reason,Said the little star too much homework.Small star, also let the parents give him some time,He will be correct.Ms chow said she and her husband come from gansu province,平时都In the厂里打工On the班,Rarely take care of son,儿子的成绩In the等,Hope he can slowly change to come over.

　　“ 回来的孩子上课学习如今一切正常，孩子成长的过程中遇到这样那样的问题很正常，回来的小晶我们把她和其他孩子一样看待，一视同仁，不会因为这次离家出走而给他们贴上‘坏孩子’标签，毕竟孩子的健康成长最重要。”常州西林中学的史老师说，孩子回校后，一切都归于平静，但校方会更加珍视每一个学生，密切关注学生动向。

" The kids go back class learning now everything is ok,The child成长的过程In the遇到这样那样的问题很正常,Back of small crystal we treat her and other children,equally,Will not give them as because this time away from home‘Bad boy’The label,After all, a child's healthy growth is the most important."常州西林In the学的史老师说,After the kids back to school,All is calm,But the school will be more cherish each and every student,Pay close attention to the students.

　　

家长应该怎么去“倾听”孩子 Parents should how go to"Listen to the"The child

　　

第一课 理解 The first lesson to understand

　　

初三生离家出走多为逃避压力 Hoped to run away from home at the beginning of how to avoid stress

　　常州一家中学长期担任毕业班班主任的陈老师表示，初三学生面对中考有压力，学生离家出走跟逃避压力有关，家长这时应避开谈论这方面话题，多说一些关心孩子身体和心理方面的话，引导孩子不要把中考看太重。学校方面也要多做学生心理疏导工作，化解学生的压力 ，调节好学生的精神状态，释放身心。引导孩子正确认识到有压力很正常，人生不同时期有不同压力，中考这点压力考验都过不去，以后的人生道路怎么走？

常州一家In the学长期担任毕业班班主任的陈老师表示,初三学生面对In the考有压力,Run away from home to escape the pressure on students,Parents should avoid to talk about this topic,Said more concerned about their children physical and mental aspects,引导The child不要把In the考看太重.Schools also want to do more students psychological counseling work,Solve the pressure of students ,Adjust the mental state of good students,The release of body and mind.Guide the child correctly to realize pressure is normal,Life in different periods have different pressure,In the考这点压力考验都过不去,Later road how to go in life?

　　

第二课 沟通 The second lesson communication

　　

朋友、学业、家庭，多了解孩子思想动向 A friend/Their studies/family,Know more about children thought trend

　　“初中学生离家出走有多方面原因，家长和学校要从正面和侧面多了解孩子的思想动向。”常州解放军第102医院心理科李宁主任分析说，孩子进了初中，开始加速形成自我意识，初三学生离家出走的原因是多方面的，从外因来说，可能是孩子受了不良朋友影响，忍受不了外界诱惑，上网成瘾；另外，还可能与学业压力以及父母经常吵架等家庭环境有关，家长不能很好地理解孩子。

"初In the学生Run away from home有多方面原因,Parents and schools to from the front and side know more about the child's ideas."Changzhou liberation army 102th hospital psychiatrist said li ning, director of the analysis,The child进了初In the,Began to accelerate the formation of self-consciousness,There are many reasons for grade students away from home,From the external cause for,Children may be affected by the bad friends,Can't stand the temptation,Internet addiction;In addition,May and academic pressures and parents often quarrel is related to family environment,Parents can't understand very well.

　　

第三课 更正 The third class to correct

　　

更正自身问题，并培养孩子抗挫折能力 Correct their own problems,And cultivate their ability to resist frustrations

　　李主任认为，家长要有针对性地分析，理解孩子面临的压力，如果是父母自身的问题，家长应该及时更正；如果有上网成瘾等状况，家长则要和专业心理咨询机构联系治疗，促进孩子心理健康发展。 他建议家长应放松心态，把更多的精力放在培养孩子面对困难和挫折的勇气，培养孩子树立正确的成败观和价值观上，让孩子自己找到学习动力，进而提高成绩。

李主任认为,Parents want a targeted analysis,Understanding child pressure,If it is the parents themselves,Parents should be corrected in a timely manner;If there is Internet addiction, etc,Parents should contact treatment and professional counseling agencies,Promote the development of children's mental health. He suggested parents should relax state of mind,把更多的精力放In the培养The child面对困难和挫折的勇气,To cultivate children to set up the correct view of success and values,Let children find their learning motivation,To improve performance.

　　

警方启动找孩子“零点行动” 全面清查网吧、旅馆 The police started to find children"Zero action" Complete check Internet cafe/At the hotel

　　多名初中生离家出走，引起常州警方高度重视。常州市公安局为此还召开紧急电视电话会议，发布离家出走初中生体貌特征，要求全市派出所连夜启动“零点行动”，一一清查辖区内网吧、旅馆，一旦发现相似人员立即带回。同时，要求民警将清查过程中发现的未成年人妥善安置，寻找家人和学校，安全送回。

多名初In the生Run away from home,Cause of changzhou attaches great importance to the police.Changzhou city public security bureau has also held an emergency teleconference,发布Run away from home初In the生体貌特征,Asked the city police station overnight"Zero action",Sorting out one by one Internet cafes within their respective jurisdictions/At the hotel,Once found similar personnel immediately back.At the same time,要求民警将清查过程In the发现的未成年人妥善安置,Looking for family and school,Back to the safety.

　　警方表示，接到几名家长报警孩子离家出走后，公安机关十分重视。管辖地派出所民警还将孩子的详细情况登记在“走失人员寻找平台”上，各地公安机关在工作中遇到相似人员，都会第一时间与平台上的信息比对，从而找回离家孩子。

警方表示,After receiving several parents alarm children ran away from home,Attaches great importance to public security organs.管辖地派出所民警还将The child的详细情况登记In the"Lost people search platform"On the,各地公安机关In the工作In the遇到相似人员,Will be the first time and the information of the platform,To find children left home.

　　2月26日夜间至27日凌晨，常州市公安机关启动“零点行动”，派出所民警一一清查网吧、旅馆，找出居留在这些地方的未成年人。公交分局民警在车站出入口、候车厅、广场上加强巡逻，争取发现线索。警方还将与全市各中小学加强联系，梳理出至今未到校的学生名单，与清查过程中找到的未成年人一一核对，将学生送回家庭或学校。经公安机关连夜查找，目前已安全找回15名离家出走学生（包括初中生和小学生），只有曾在网络上给同学留言的小娟，警方仍在全力查找中。

2月On the 26th夜间至27日凌晨,Changzhou city public security organ shall start"Zero action",The policemen to clear up Internet cafes/At the hotel,找出居留In the这些地方的未成年人.公交分局民警In the车站出入口/Waiting area/Strengthen the patrol in the square,To find clues.警方还将与全市各In the小学加强联系,Teasing out the list of the students did not come to school today,与清查过程In the找到的未成年人一一核对,Will back to home or school students.By the public security organ for overnight,Are now safely back 15 students away from home(包括初In the生和小学生),只有曾In the网络On the给同学留言的小娟,警方仍In the全力查找In the.

　　根据目前掌握的线索，这几名初中生也属于自行离家出走，遭遇意外的可能性不大。警方希望离家学生的老师、家长、同学和朋友，尽可能多提供线索，及时反映，及时将孩子安全带回家。（扬子晚报记者 张战斗）

根据At present掌握的线索,这几名初In the生也属于自行Run away from home,The possibility of accidents.The police hope to students of the teacher to home/parents/Classmates and friends,As much as possible to provide clues,In a timely manner reflect,In time the child seat belts to go home.(Zhang Zhandou yangzi evening news reporter)

　　(来源:扬子晚报)

(Source: the yangzi evening news)