巴学园老师在大李老师的管理下，有个非常明显的特点，即——不管什么情况，老师不能对孩子发号施令，而是对孩子说“请”，哪怕是在孩子犯了错之后，老师在处理冲突。

巴学园老师在大李老师的管理下,Has a very obvious characteristics,Namely, no matter what happens,The teacher can't give orders to the child,But the boy said"please",Even after the child made a mistake,The teacher in dealing with conflict.

　　讲一件事，跟两个小朋友的冲突有关。

讲一件事,With two children is related to conflict.

　　去年的夏天，妞妞来园不久，有一天，姥姥来接妞妞。这时，院子里的孩子们之间发生了一件小冲突。

去年的夏天,Niu garden very soon,One day,Grandma to meet niu.At this time,There are between the children in the yard a little conflict.

　　当时晨晨坐在门口台阶上，张智杰从教室出来，手里提着个凳子，可能看到晨晨挡住了他的路，于是举起凳子，“叭”地一下，打在了晨晨的身上。

当时chenchen坐在门口台阶上,Zhang Zhijie out of the classroom,Carrying a stool in his hand,May see chenchen stood in his way,Then lift stool,"beep"To the,Hit the chenchen.

　　晨晨哇哇大哭，晨晨的父亲就站在二米开外的地方，这一下，让父亲的脸色都变了。张智杰也站在那里，呆住了。

chenchen哇哇大哭,Chenchen's father stood between the two metres away,The necessity,Let father face all changed.Zhang Zhijie stood there, too,froze.

　　老师走过去，蹲在两个孩子身边，像平时一样，一边安抚哭泣的孩子，一边让动手的孩子面对自己的问题，整个过程很自然，老师按照巴学园处理孩子冲突的方式，很平静地处理了这个问题。

老师走过去,Squat down beside two children,As usual,Appeasing the weeping child,Let children began to face their own problems,The whole process is very natural,The teacher according to the quality handling of child conflict,Very calmly deal with the problem.

　　“张智杰，晨晨被椅子砸到头。现在他在哭，他很伤心。”杨老师在描述着此时的现象，并且也在向张智杰表达晨晨此时的状态。

"Zhang Zhijie,Chenchen is at the end of the chair.Now he is crying,He is very sad."Yang teacher in describing the phenomenon at this time,And also to show Zhang Zhijie chenchen state at this time.

“打人是粗野的行为，请你向他道歉。”老师用一个缓和的口气，表明了态度。 "Hit people is rude behavior,Please apologize to him."The teacher with a moderate tone,Shows the attitude.

　　于是，张智杰一边紧张地抠着手，一边慢慢地走到晨晨身边说：“晨晨，对不起”。

于是,Zhang Zhijie side pull nervously,Walked slowly to the side said chenchen:"chenchen,I'm sorry".

　　“哦，张智杰给晨晨道歉了 ！ ”小杨老师故意用了一个特别的语调，让孩子注意到这个事情。

"oh,Zhang Zhijie to chenchen apologized ! "Xiao Yang the teacher deliberately used a special tone,Let the children to notice this thing.

　　师老师同时来到晨晨父亲的身边，安抚了家长。

师老师同时来到chenchen父亲的身边,Reassure the parents.

　　这件事情到此为止。

这件事情到此为止.

　　当然，这只是其中一个片段，在巴学园每天的生活中，这样的场景千千万，但不管怎么样，老师们依然对所有的孩子说“请”，这里，孩子得到了尊重，他们是跟大人一样独立的、受尊重的个体！

当然,This is just one of the fragments,In the quality of daily life,Such a scenario for ten million,But no matter what,The teachers still said to all the children"please",here,Children has been respected,They are as separate as the adults/Respect the individual!