这是一个令人叹惜却并不罕见的现实。智商和情商，是雄鹰的两只翅膀。你见过孤独一翅的鹰，在高空翱翔吗？答案必然是否定的。可惜现代社会，却栖居着很多单翅的飞禽。父母们把注意力都关注在孩子的智力成长层面，忽略了情商的培养。

This is a very TanXi is not rare reality。IQ and eq，The eagle is the two wings。You see a lonely one wing eagle，Fly high in the sky？The answer must be negative。But modern society，But very many more single wing to the birds。Parents are focusing attention on children's mental growth levels，Ignore the emotional intelligence of the students。

　　情商，指情绪智力，是人类认识、控制和调节自身情感的能力，简言之，就是感触感动感悟的能力。心理学经过研究证明情商与智商相比，对人的一生，具有更强大的塑造作用。它关乎到道德品质、人际关系和领导管理才能等一系列对于现代人来说，至关重要的宝贵能量。

eq，Refers to emotional intelligence，Is human understanding、Control and adjust their own emotional ability，In short，Is the ability of feeling moved feeling。After the study psychology and IQ than proof eq，To the person's life，With more powerful role model。It concerns the moral quality、Interpersonal relationship and the leadership to a series of management for modern people,，Very important valuable energy。

　　有的研究者干脆下了结论：成功等于20%的智商加上80%情商。

Some researchers simply down the conclusion：Success is equal to 20% of the IQ and 80% eq。

　　看到这里，可能有朋友会说，好吧，我知道情商的重要性了。可是，怎样才能提高情商呢？

See here，There may be friends will say，well，I know the importance of emotional intelligence。but，How to improve the emotional intelligence？

　　说句让人气馁的话，智商是命运之手的馈赠，70%～80%来自遗传。也就是说，人为提高智商的空间不是很大。可能有人不服气，说我就不信，咱中国人不是有句老话吗？叫做"勤能补拙"，咱不能"笨鸟先飞"吗！

Say a discouraging words，Intelligence is the gift of the hand of fate，70% ~ 80% from genetic。That is，Artificial intelligence raise space is not very big。Some may defy spirit，Said I not the letter，Za Chinese not has a proverb？called"Diligence redeems stupidity"，I can't"The early bird catches the worm"?！

　　这话有道理，但不要忘了，有能力认识到自己"拙"，是只"笨鸟"，之后并不是自卑和放弃，而是有决心有毅力去"补"和"飞"，并能持之以恒地"勤奋"下去，找到正确的方法——"先飞"，这已不是智商的范畴，而纳入了"情商"的领地。

That is true，But don't forget to，Have the ability to recognize themselves"a"，Is only"Stupid bird"，And not inferiority and give up after，But have the determination of perseverance"fill"and"fly"，And can continue"diligence"down，Find the correct method--"First to fly"，This is not the category of IQ，And into the"eq"territory。

　　看到这里，您或许又会说，情商虽然宝贵，可它会不会也像智商一样，主要来自遗传呢？

See here，You probably would say，Eq though precious，But it will also like IQ，Mainly from genetic？

　　让我们可以乐观的是：情商和智商恰恰相反，它只有20～30%来自遗传，最主要的部分，来自后天的哺育和教养。尤其是青少年时期的学习和锻炼，对一个人的情商高度，至关重要。在增高情商的过程中，咱们是广阔天地，大有作为。

Let us can optimistic is：Emotional intelligence and IQ is just the opposite，It only 20 to 30% from genetic，The main part，The feeding and breeding from the day after tomorrow。Especially the teenage years studying and exercising，To a person of high intelligence，crucial。Increasing in the process of emotional intelligence，Let's is wide space，promising。

　　情商的培养是一个循序渐进的过程，你可以找心理医生，也可以自我修炼。自我修炼有一个好方法就是读书。比方说一本杂志，绿色的封面，让你想起青春和林海，让你呼吸到氧气，焕发出朝气。我知道就有一本叫作《意林》的杂志，以讲故事的方式，润物细无声地完成了对于人心的濡养。

The cultivation of emotional intelligence is a gradual process，You can find a mental doctor，Also can be self cultivation。Self cultivation have a good method is reading。For example a magazine，Green cover，Remind you of youth and linhai，Let your breath to oxygen，Glow spark。I know that we will have a book called《Meaning for》magazine，With a story way，Moistens everything silently and finished the heart to moisten。

　　静静地读读书吧。它像清洁而温暖，聪慧而芬芳的泉水，让你的情商涨潮。

Quietly read the book。It is like clean and warm，Intelligent and fragrant spring，Let your emotional intelligence high tide。