一根网线，一台电脑，连接起王欣铭与万里之外的女儿。戴着老花镜上网的她告诉记者，女儿陈媛已经出国留学2年。在这2年里王欣铭学会了上网聊天、视频打字。每个周五晚上吃完饭，她和老伴就等在电脑前期盼女儿的出现。

A piece of string，A computer，Connect WangXinMing and the outside of the daughter。Wearing reading glasses Internet she told reporters，Daughter ChenYuan has two years to go abroad to study abroad。In the two years WangXinMing learned to chat online、Video typing。Every Friday night for dinner，She and her wait in front of the computer to look forward to the emergence of the daughter。

　　和王欣铭一样的家长如今在兰州日益增多，他们被称为“留守家长”。对独生子女家庭而言，子女的留学意味着一对“留守家长”的诞生。近年来，留学面临低龄化、数量大幅上涨的状况。“留守家长”作为一个典型群体面临着诸多问题。

And WangXinMing the same parents now in lanzhou are increasing，They are called“Left-behind parents”。Only children to families，The study abroad means a pair of children“Left-behind parents”Of the birth of the。In recent years，Study abroad DiLingHua face、Number of substantially higher status。“Left-behind parents”As a typical group faced with many problems。

“留守家长”的“幸”与“辛” “Left-behind parents”of“luckily”and“Michael essien”

　　陈媛本科就读于兰州大学，通过学校“2+2”项目赴美国交换学习，2年后她自己申请考取了德克萨斯大学的研究生，留在美国进一步深造。说起女儿的这些成绩，王欣铭脸上洋溢着幸福和骄傲。她告诉记者，“陈媛非常优秀，是全家人的骄傲。”

ChenYuan undergraduate studying from lanzhou university，Through the school“2 + 2”Project exchange learning in the United States，Two years later she apply for their own are eligible for the graduate student of university of Texas，Further study to stay in the United States。Speaking of daughter of these results，WangXinMing his with a happy and proud。She told reporters，“ChenYuan very good，Is the pride of the whole family。”

　　陈媛的小屋里有一个粉色的立式收纳箱，上面画着小熊挂着蝴蝶结。王欣铭说，这是上个月女儿回来亲手做的，“以前她可什么都不会做，衣来伸手，饭来张口，现在真是懂事了。”

ChenYuan little room have a pink vertical to receive box，Drew the little bear hung bow。WangXinMing said，This is made by their daughter came back last month，“Before, she can not going to do anything else，YiLaiShenShou，farther，Now is a sensible。”

　　王欣铭与丈夫在一家国企供职，两人收入加起来超过一万，在兰州来说算是家庭情况不错了。“女儿出国平均每年需要20万左右费用”，王欣铭微微皱起眉头“对我们这个小家而言有负担。”虽然陈媛也打工，但是王欣铭总担心这会影响女儿的成绩。

WangXinMing with her husband in a minister state-owned enterprises，Two people income added up to more than ten thousand，In lanzhou to family situation is good。“Daughter go abroad every year on average about 200000 expenses need”，WangXinMing slightly wrinkle up eyebrows“This small home to us as a burden。”Although ChenYuan also work，But WangXinMing always fear that this will influence their daughter grades。

　　比经济压力更让王欣铭难受的是，为了自己申请研究生学校，也为节约一点旅费，陈媛2年内只回过一次家。“12个小时的时差，10000多公里的距离，我们沟通的机会很少。”王欣悦有点无奈。

More let WangXinMing than economic pressure is uncomfortable，In order to apply for their own graduate school，Save a little for the trip，ChenYuan 2 years back only a house。“Twelve hours time difference，More than 10000 km distance，We communication opportunity seldom。”WangXinYue a little helpless。

“留守家长”心里的“煎熬战” “Left-behind parents”Of the heart“Suffering war”

　　记者从兰州留学咨询机构了解到，近年来，留学人数倍增且呈低龄化趋势。独生子女离家后，面临“空巢”的中年父母内心出现失落、焦虑。稳定的三角形家庭结构发生改变，“留守家长”心里打起“煎熬战”。

Reporters from lanzhou study consultancy to understand，In recent years，The number of students and double attained trend。After only children left home，face“Empty nest”Middle-aged parents appear lost heart、anxiety。Stability of the triangle family structure to change，“Left-behind parents”Heart up“Suffering war”。

　　王磊的儿子在英国就读法律专业即将毕业。王磊坦言并不能帮助儿子规划未来。“国外文凭回国找工作已不具备绝对竞争力”，王磊有些后悔，“要拿到国外绿卡非常不易。”是否回国成为一家人近期每日必谈的话题。

Wang lei's son studied law in Britain professional graduate。Wang lei said and can't help son plans for the future。“Foreign diploma home looking for work already do not have absolute competitive”，Wang lei some regret，“Very not easy to get foreign green card。”Return whether become a family will be the subject of recent daily。

　　据悉，选择国家不同，出国所需费用也不同，但大致一年不低于10万的花销让很多家庭感到压力。王磊说，不了解国外消费水平，“给的少怕孩子吃苦，给的多了家里吃不消也怕孩子不好好学习。”

It is reported，Choose different countries，Go abroad expenses are different，But almost a year are not less than 100000 the cost of making many families feel pressure。Wang lei said，Don't understand foreign consumption level，“The less afraid of children to bear hardships，To the home of children unable to study hard。”

专家：精神沟通比物质支持更重要 experts：Spirit communication is more important than the material support

　　《甘肃社会科学》专栏编辑杨文德说，“留守家长”首先要与孩子建立起良好的沟通，距离不能阻隔亲情造成孩子内心的阴影。过早离家的孩子更需要正确的价值观引导，相比之下，精神沟通比物质支持更重要。同时，面对留学家长应做出理性分析，对孩子的未来抱有正常的期待值。

《Gansu social science》Column YangWenDe editor said，“Left-behind parents”First to establish good with children of communication，Distance can't cut off by the shadow of the inner child affection。Children have more need of left home early to the right values guide，compared，Spirit communication is more important than the material support。At the same time，Parents should make rational face study analysis，The development of children with normal expectations。

　　此外，杨文德海说，“留守家长”要正视自己的心理健康。积极面对“空巢”现象带来的空虚和焦虑。他认为，网络信息发达的今天，“留守家长”可通过多种形式与子女联系。(闫雅琪)

In addition，YangWenDe sea said，“Left-behind parents”To face their own mental health。Face actively“Empty nest”Phenomenon of emptiness and bring anxiety。He thinks，The network information developed today，“Left-behind parents”But through a variety of forms and reach their children。(闫雅琪)