小学四年级小男生，自己坐地铁上学竟有5年？日前，记者就在地铁上遇到这样一位“独立弟”。到底能不能让孩子独立上学？孩子独立上学要注意哪些问题？本期麻辣论坛，就一起讨论“上学”问题。

Primary school grade four little boy,Oneself sit the subway to school have 5 years?a,Reporters on the subway is met such a"Independent brother".What can let the child go to school independently?Children must pay attention to the independent school what problem?This spicy hot BBS,Will discuss"school"problems.

地铁惊现“独立弟” Subway appeared over the"Independent brother"

四年级小学生称坐地铁上学近5年 Four grade pupils said take the subway to school nearly five years

　　日前，记者在新街口地铁上遇到一个自己上学的“独立弟”小强（化名）。小家伙长得很壮实，性格也很外向，看到记者就主动让座，还和记者聊起天来。“我今年上四年级，都是一个人上学。”小强骄傲地告诉记者，自己从幼儿园开始就是一个人乘坐地铁上学，现在已经快5年了。记者了解到，小强在南京雨花台区一所小学念书，他要从学校门口走到地铁站坐一号线到新街口站，再转一站到妈妈的单位去找妈妈。小强无奈地说：“我爸爸妈妈都开公司，很忙，经常在国外，所以我要一个人上学。”“你难道一个人住么，家里没有其他人么？”记者觉得很诧异，就算父母不在，也不可能家里没大人呀。“我家里有保姆，还有管家，但是爸爸不让他们来。”小强告诉记者，幼儿园的时候，他爸爸就要求他一个人去上幼儿园。当时他也很害怕，死活不愿意。爸爸为了鼓励他，就说：“如果你能坚持一个月一个人坐30趟地铁，你要买什么我都买给你。”小强说，虽然很害怕，也哭了很久，但是最后自己还是坚持下来了。“第一个月结束，我跟爸爸要了一个铅笔盒。”

a,Reporters in new street subway met on one of the school"Independent brother"Jack Bauer(alias).Little one long well built,Character is also very outgoing,See the reporter is active seats,Also talk with reporters day."I am in grade four,Is a person to go to school."Jack Bauer proudly told reporters,His start from a kindergarten class is a person to go to school by subway,It's almost five years.The reporter understands,Jack Bauer in nanjing a primary school to study it,He will go from the school gate to the subway station sit # 1 to new street station,Turn again a station to mother's unit to find mom.Jack Bauer helplessly said:"My father and mother are run a company,Very busy,Often in foreign,So I want to a person to go to school.""Don't you live alone?,Home and no one else??"Reporters feel very surprised,Even if the parents do not,Can't home no adult ah."My home have nanny,And housekeeping,But dad doesn't let them come."Jack Bauer told reporters,Kindergarten when,His father asked his a person to go to the kindergarten.He was also very afraid,Life and death is not willing to.Father in order to encourage him,He said:"If you can hold to a month a person sit 30 trip to the subway,Do you want to buy what I bought for you."Jack Bauer said,Although very be afraid,Also cry for a long time,But in the end his still persevered."The first month end,I told dad wanted to a pencil box."

　　为了考验一下小强的防范意识，记者随后问了小强的真实姓名，学校和班级，小强都一一告诉了记者，还把上学放学的路线也都说了。记者问道：“你不怕坏人啊？”小家伙一脸稚气：“地铁这么多人，谁会对我这一个小孩子下手啊，我又没有钱。”看到小强背着书包去换乘地铁的背影，记者感到一丝担心。

In order to test the jack Bauer's awareness,Reporter then asked jack Bauer real name,The school and class,Jack Bauer one told reporters,The school the route of the school also said.A reporter then asked him:"You are not afraid of bad ah?"Little one a face of juveniles:"Subway so many people,Who is going to me this a child laid hands on him ah,I have no money."Jack Bauer see back schoolbag to transfer the subway of figure,Reporters feel a little worried.

自己上学的孩子有多少 His school how many children

“大牵小”小女生结伴上学 "Big guy small"The little girls go to school together

　　新学期开学，家住在南京清凉门桥附近一小区的王女士发现，每天早上上班总能看见两个小女孩，一大一小牵着小手结伴上学。记者在王女士帮助下找到了那两个女孩，还是在7点半左右，两个短发齐刘海的女孩从小区里牵手走了出来，她们走得不快，两个人没打伞，各自披着一件雨衣，小女孩穿着雨鞋，大一点的女孩穿了一双球鞋，雨滴打在球鞋上她也毫不在乎，反而不时擦妹妹手上的雨水。女孩说她和妹妹都在附近一所小学上学，她上小学四年级，妹妹上一年级。不过妹妹不是亲妹妹，是住在楼下邻居家的妹妹。每天早上，她负责到妹妹家喊她，然后两个人一起上学。记者粗略估算发现，从小区到两个孩子就读的小学，道路虽算不上曲折，但需要过两次马路，沿着秦淮河边走，孩子们走一趟至少需要15分钟。记者辗转找到了孩子的妈妈，她告诉记者，因为工作地点变动，每天早晨7点不到，她就赶去浦口的班车，孩子的爸爸也因为工作地点比较远，都没有办法接送孩子。“让孩子独自上学，起初我们是不得已而为之。每天坐在班车上心神不定，想着女儿在路上会不会出事。一个学期下来，无意中让女儿变得独立、守时。“比如以前，她吃早饭拖拖拉拉的，现在一到时间，她一看快到点了，很自觉加快速度了。现在带妹妹走更能干了。”

The beginning of the new term,Living in nanjing cool and refreshing gate bridge near a village of wang found,Work every morning always can see two little girls,One big one small holding hands together to go to school.Reporter wang help in finding the two girls,Or about PM,Two short hair neat bang girl from zone in hand came out,They go very fast,Two people didn't open an umbrella,Each wore a raincoat,The little girl dressed in rain boot,Bigger the girl wore a pair of shoes,Rain hit the shoes on her also don't care,From time to time but wipe sister hand of rainwater.The girl said she and her sister are near a primary school to go to school,Her primary school grade four,Sister were in grade one last year.But younger sister isn't sister,Is lives downstairs neighbor's sister.Every morning,She is responsible for to shout to her younger sister's house,Then two people go to school together.Reporters found a rough estimate,From the village to the two children attend primary school,The road is not twists and turns,But need to twice the road,Walk along the qinhuai river,Children make a trip will need at least 15 minutes.Reporter toss found the child's mother,She told reporters,Because the work site changes,Not every morning at 7,She went to pu mouth of the bus,The child's father also because working place is far away,Don't have a way to shuttle children."Let the child go to school alone,At first we is the last ditch.Every day I was in the bus to insecurity,Thinking about her daughter will have an accident on the way.A term down,Accidentally let daughter become independent/punctuality."Such as before,She eats breakfast drag your feet,Now one to time,She is a look at the end,Very consciously the speed.Now take sister walked more capable."

九成以上小学生靠家长接送 More than ninety percent of the pupils by parents transfers

　　记者随机对南京一些中小学和幼儿园的部分班级进行调查，调查中幼儿园学生几乎百分之百有家长接送，而小学90%以上都是家长接送，到中高年级有一些家住比较近的孩子会自己一人或和同学结伴上学；初中学生自己独自上学的比例有所增加，但还是很多学生有家长护送，尤其是女生；到了高中，自己上学的比较普遍，家长也放心很多，因为有些学生还要去上辅导课，所以也有不少是家长负责接送的。

Reporter random of nanjing some part of the class, primary schools and kindergartens were investigated,In the investigation of kindergarten students, almost one hundred percent of parents transfers,Primary school and more than 90% are parents transfers,Into the senior some live in relatively close children will alone or and students go to school together;Junior high school students go to school alone the proportion of increased,But a lot of students have parents convoy,Especially the girl;In high school,Their common to go to school,Many parents also assured,Because some students will go to the tutorial,So there are many parents are responsible for pick-up.

　　“我们的孩子绝大多数都是家长接送的。”南京一位名校校长告诉记者，一来是小学阶段的孩子比较小，家长不放心；二是现在城市在变化，择校的学生住的比较远，靠孩子一个人上学放学很不现实。

"Our children are most parents pick-up."Nanjing a school principal told reporters,Way is primary school children relatively small,Parents do not trust;The second is now city in change,The school students live further,By the child a person to go to school after school is not reality.

该不该让孩子自己上学 This shouldn't let your child to go to school

张女士：孩子上学路上遇袭没有自卫能力 Ms. Zhang:Children of the attack way to school no defence capability

　　（南京小学二年级学生家长）

(Nanjing second grade students' parents)

　　我个人是绝对不敢让孩子在小学阶段一个人去上学的。现在的社会治安太复杂了，我上过打拐网站，里面不仅是小小孩，也有一些七八岁的孩子被掳走，我看着都觉得害怕。现在大多数家庭里就这么一个宝贝，有一次我爱人让孩子到楼下去买盐，过了一刻钟都没上来，差点把我急死了。孩子上学还有一段路程，万一有坏人，小孩子是没有能力反抗的。

I personally is absolutely can't let children in primary school a person to go to school.Now the social security is too complicated,I went to DaGuai website,It is not only a small child,There are also some eight children were captives,I looked at all feel fear.Now most family is such a baby,Once I love let the child go downstairs to buy salt,After a quarter of an hour didn't come up,I'm worried sick by came close to.Their children to school and a journey,One thousand there are bad men,Children have no ability to rebel.

李老师：家长可让孩子独自走一小段路 Miss li:Parents can let kids alone walk a short way

　　（南京鼓楼区某小学五年级语文老师）

(Nanjing GuLouOu a primary school grade five Chinese teacher)

　　从学校的角度来说，主要是对孩子在校期间的安全负责，但是孩子上学路上和放学路上如果出什么事情，都是学校不愿意看到的。现在大多数家长是负责孩子接送的，这样从安全性角度来说是有保障的。但是有的家长恨不得把孩子送到座位上，这种过于包办的心理是有问题的。我觉得家长可以有意识地锻炼孩子的独立自主能力，比如送孩子到学校附近的时候，让孩子一个人走一小段路，但这小段路要是大路，不然家长还是要有意识地去保护。

From the perspective of the school,Mainly for children during the period of school is responsible for the safety of the,But the child to go to school the roads and road school if what things,Is the school is not willing to see.Now most parents are responsible for the children of the shuttle,So, from the security perspective is ensured.But some parents wish to send their child to the seat,This too is arranged psychological problem.I think that parents can consciously train children's independent ability,Such as send their children to school when nearby,Let the child to go alone a short way,But this small section of the road if the road,No parents or to consciously to protect.

徐翔：过于包办不利于培养孩子独立能力 XuXiang:Too arranged to cultivate children to independent ability

　　（南京师范大学社会学博士）

(Nanjing normal university, dr sociology)

　　以前家庭里的孩子都是非独生子女，家长也忙于生计，所以过于关照孩子的现象很少出现，因此过去的孩子自己一个人去上学是很普遍的事情。这说明，这个年龄的孩子是有能力自己去上学的。但是，现在很多孩子都是在温室里长大，家长们是尽量提供优良的环境想帮助孩子生长，甚至要去包办，这样其实对培养孩子的自理能力和自立性都是不利的。我个人比较肯定“地铁弟”父母的教育理念。不过需要提醒的是，如果家住比较远，对幼儿园的孩子来说，一个人去上学是太早了。毕竟现在的社会环境比较复杂，交通也比较拥挤。家长在培养孩子独立性的时候，也要尽可能考虑到必要的防护措施。（蔡蕴琦王璟张叶绘）

Before the children in the family is the only children,Parents also busy living,So too care children phenomenon rarely appears,So the past children go to school a person is a very common thing.This shows,The child of this age is the ability to go to school.but,Now many children are in the greenhouse to grow up,Parents is to provide good environment to help children grow,Even going to package,So in fact to cultivate children's self-care ability and independence is adverse.I personally affirmation"Subway brother"Parents' education concept.But what need reminds is,If live in is far away,For children in kindergarten,A person go to school is too early.After all now social environment is more complex,The traffic is heavy.Parents in the cultivation of the children of independence,Also wants as far as possible considering the necessary protective measures.(CaiYunQi king Jing piece of leaf drawing)