核心提示：“家有读书郎，全家跟着忙。”现如今，陪读早已不是一个小众的词汇。从幼儿园小朋友到漂洋过海的大学生，从城里“小贵族”到农村“留守娃”， 不知不觉中，新时代的“孟母三迁”里，他们都已成为陪读对象。

summary:"Home has school boy,Family followed busy."nowadays,Or relatives can apply for already is not a small all the vocabulary.Migrating from kindergarten kids to college students,From the town"Small noble"To rural"Left-behind Eva", Imperceptible in,New age"MengMuSanQian"in,They have become the object or relatives can apply.

　　她们是很难统一界定的一群人，有些拥有高学历，做着体面的工作；有些则来自农村，靠打工谋一份生计，甚至是全职家庭主妇。但她们又共同分享一个名字陪读妈妈。

They are difficult to unified definition of a group of people,Some have highly educated,Do a decent job;Some are from the countryside,On the job for a livelihood,Even a full-time housewife.But they also share a name or relatives can apply for mother.

　　当“不能输在起跑线上”似乎成为全民共识，这个群体不断发展壮大，从农村到城市，由国内到国外，孩子在哪里，妈妈就愿意或不愿意地去那里。

when"Can't lose in the starting line"Seems to become the consensus,This group will continue to grow and develop,From the countryside to cities,From domestic to overseas,Where is the child,My mother wanted to or not to go there.

　　

自述者：罗杨 ZiShuZhe:LuoYang

　　

陪读地：宁波 Or relatives can apply to:ningbo

　　我这颗悬着的心，直到8月底才放下。整整一个假期，已租了两年房子的房东一直嚷嚷着要涨价，说这是学区房好租得很，不愁没下家。短短两年，这已经是第三次要涨价了，我原本一直顶着，可最后实在没办法，还是每月加了200元。

I this planet hanging heart,Until the end of August to put down.For a holiday,Already hired two years house landlord always claim to rise in price,Said this is a good school district room rent very,One need not worry about opponent on the right.Just two years,This is the third time the price,I was always a top,In the end, there is no way,Or with 200 yuan a month.

　　现在，我们这套2005年交付、70平方米的房子，租金已经涨到每个月3000元。这个小区就在学校边上，孩子上学方便，确实有很多家长排队等着租，甚至很多孩子要明后年才能上学，家长都愿意先花钱把房子租上。我也不是心疼这点钱，是见房东这样“仗房欺人”的样子，实在气不过。

now,We this 2005 delivery/The house of 70 square metre,Rents have risen to 3000 yuan every month.The village is on the edge in the school,Their children to school convenient,Do have a lot of parents queued waiting for rent,Even many children to side to go to school,Parents are willing to spend money to rent the house first.I'm not love this money,He was seeing the landlord so"Battle room deceiving others"appearance,Really QiBuGuo.

　　儿子今年上小学二年级。从背上书包的第一天起，这个土生土长在这个城市的小家伙就跟着我开始过起租房的生活。孩子小，什么也不懂，总是欢天喜地指着阳台对面的学校说：“妈妈，你看，那间就是我的教室！”他哪里知道，为了这，我和他爸爸做出了多大的牺牲。

Son this year in the second grade.From the first day back schoolbag,The native in the city's little one followed I began to have the life of rent.Small children,What also don't understand,Always rapture pointed to the balcony the school said:"mother,You see,The room is my classroom!"He knew where,For this,I and his father made much sacrifice.

　　我们夫妻俩都是从外地来宁波的，父母不在身边，孩子又到了上学的年龄，总要有人做出牺牲。现在，我的工作基本上是半退休状态，和老公也变成了周末夫妻。我带着儿子住出租屋，丈夫为了上班方便，还是一个人住在自家的房子里。

We are a couple from the other parts of ningbo,Parents is not beside,The child came to school age,Be total to want someone to make sacrifices.now,My work is basically semi-retirement,And the husband also became husband and wife at the weekend.I took my son live let,Her husband in order to work convenient,Or a person live in his house.

　　原来在公司，我是很被看好的一个，可现在，小姐妹们都喊我“专职保姆”。每天上午送儿子到学校后，我踩着点到公司报到，下午一般也提前开溜，把孩子送去一个又一个的特长班，周一周三是钢琴，周二周四是乒乓球，一天都不歇。

For in the company,I'm supposed to be a,But now,The little sisters are called me"Full-time nanny".Every morning after sending her son to school,I'm on the point to report to the company,Afternoon general also split in advance,Sent her children to one of the specialty training classes,Monday is the piano on Wednesday,Tuesday Thursday is table tennis,One day all don't rest.

　　时间和金钱还可以应付，对我来说，最痛苦的莫过于自己要陪着儿子从头学起。语文、数学、英语、五线谱，样样都得和他一起学，不然就不知道他有没有偷懒，也树不了权威。现在，网上有个赫赫有名的“全能奶奶”，为给孙子陪读，66岁学会钢琴、围棋等，且样样精通，我这点三脚猫的功夫，还真吹不了牛。

Time and money can also deal with,For me,The worst way to miss someone is to accompany son to start from the very beginning.Chinese/mathematics/English/staff,All have to learn together with him,Or you don't know if he's got a lazy,And trees do not the authority.now,There is a famous online the"All-around grandma",For or relatives can apply grandson,To learn the piano at the age of 66/Go, etc,And to master everything,I this three feet cat kung fu,Really blow the cows.

　　

护着孩子进城来 Protect a child to the city

　　

自述者：黄芳 ZiShuZhe:HuangFang

　　

陪读地：杭州 Or relatives can apply to:hangzhou

　　如果不是为了孩子，我现在还在村里开店。

If not for the children,I'm still in the village set up shop.

　　我是杭州临安人，出嫁后就和孩子他爸一起经营村里的那家理发店，生意还不错。

I am hangzhou linan people,Get married after his father and child together in the village management the barber's,Business is good.

　　我们俩没读过多少书，最大的希望就在儿子身上。去年，孩子小学毕业，我们把能用的关系都用上了，好不容易把孩子送进了市区的一所学校。

Both of us doesn't read a lot of books,The biggest hope is in the son.Last year,Elementary school children,We can use the relationship,Very not easy to send their children to a school in the city.

　　虽然我们是农村的，可家里也就一个孩子，从小宝贝着，没出过远门，没干过重活，让他一个人出来念书实在不放心。过去的这个夏天，我都在为孩子念书的事儿忧心，不知道有多少个晚上没有睡着。

Although we are rural,But the home also is a child,From the baby,Had not far,Not done elbow grease,Let him come out to study really don't rest assured.This past summer,I have been studying for children's anxiety,Don't know how many a night not asleep.

　　最后，他爸拍板说：“孩子的前途要紧，你去那边陪着他；家里，有我顶着。”

finally,His father clappers said:"The child's future matter,You go over there to accompany him;home,I have a top."

　　9月，我和孩子一起进城了。学校附近新一些的住宅小区租金都太贵，我们找的是靠边一些的房子： 20平方米的小房子，没有热水洗澡，更没有空调，房间的一角留出一块角落，放了一瓶煤气和一个煤气灶。即使这样，每个月的租金还是得要500元。

September,My child and I together to the city.Near our school some of the new residential district rent are too expensive,We are looking over some house: 20 square meters of small house,No hot water bath,More no air conditioning,The one horn of the room set aside a corner,Put a bottle of gas and a gas burner.Even so,Each month's rent still have to 500 yuan.

　　现在我的主要任务，就是做好孩子的后勤工作。早上，烧好早饭喊孩子起床，送他出门，到菜场买菜；回来之后打扫房间做家务，做午饭；和孩子一道吃完午饭，他继续回学校上学，我在家看电视或是出去逛逛，回来继续做晚餐；晚上，督促儿子做作业，然后早早睡觉。

Now my main task,The logistics of children, is to do well.morning,Burn good breakfast shout the child to get out of bed,Send him to go out,To market to buy food;Come back after cleaning the room doing housework,Do lunch;And children a after lunch,He continued to go back to school to go to school,I watch TV at home or go around,To go back to make dinner;In the evening,Supervise the son doing his homework,And then go to bed early.

　　和同龄人在一起，儿子在城市里倒并没有表现出过多的不适应，反倒是我，处处不习惯。

And their peers in together,Son in the city but did not show too much does not adapt,But is my,Is not used to.

　　这里的每条马路几乎都差不多，刚开始我连买菜的胆子都没有。我们农村来的没什么见识，迷路是家常便饭，我就一路东问西问才能到家。还有，城里人说话轻声细语的，自己的大嗓门经常引来别人的白眼，更奇怪的是，邻居之间都不愿意往来，我一个人孤单得很，可连聊天的人都寻不到。

Every road here almost the same,I just started to buy vegetables of courage all have no.Our village come of nothing knowledge,Lost is the norm,I will ask the east west asked to home.and,Oppidan soft-spoken,His loud voice often draw others supercilious look,More strange is,Between neighbors are not willing to intercourse,I a person lonely very,But even chat are found.

　　更受罪的是孩子他爸。没有了我，他得自己烧饭、洗衣，打理理发店，忙得团团转。不过对我们夫妻来说，最欣慰的就是孩子能够适应市里的学习和生活，只要他争气，就值得！

More children suffer is his father.Without me,He will have to cooking/laundry,Do barber shop,Fuss around.But to us couples,The most gratified that a child can adapt to the study and life in the city,As long as he try to make a good showing,Is worth!

　　

带着孩子到国外 Took the children to foreign countries

　　

自述者：周梅月 ZiShuZhe:ZhouMeiYue

　　

陪读地：美国 Or relatives can apply to:The United States

　　我知道现在国内有不少陪读妈妈，和她们相比，我陪得更彻底，3年半前就到美国陪读。

I know now there are many domestic or relatives can apply for mother,And compared their,I accompany more thoroughly,3 and a half years ago or relatives can apply to the United States.

　　让我下定决心要带孩子出来接受不一样教育的，是女儿小学时的一次测验。我记得很清楚，有一道“看图写话”题，在一幅“鱼儿水中游”的图片下面，女儿歪歪扭扭地写着自己的答案：鱼儿在水里唱歌跳舞。

Let me determined to take the children out can not accept the same education,Daughter elementary school is a test.I remember very clearly,There is a"Write the words pictures"problem,In a picture"Fish swim"Picture below,Daughter twisted hand-writing write their own answers:The fish in the water to sing and dance.

　　我看到答案时，实在太惊喜了，觉得自家姑娘这么有创意，特别棒。可我紧接着看到的，是老师鲜红的大叉叉，和女儿哭丧的脸。女儿说，老师还把这当成笑话讲给全班同学听，说“鱼儿不会唱歌跳舞”，她特别委屈。那一瞬间，我决定要让女儿接受不一样的教育。

I see the answer,It's difficult,Think oneself girl so creative,great.I can then see,Is the teacher bright red big fork fork,And daughter keening face.Daughter said,The teacher make it as a joke to the whole class to listen to,said"The fish won't sing and dance",She has a particular injustice.That moment,I decided to let the daughter can not accept the same education.

　　2008年，女儿读初二，书包越来越重，厌学情绪也越来越大，每天回到家就问我：“什么时候可以去美国？”我想，那么不开心，那就去吧。

In 2008,,Daughter read there,Bag more and more heavy,Weariness is also more and more big,Every returned home just ask:"When can you go to America?"I want to,So unhappy,Then go.

　　说走就走。从决定出发到抵达，用了不到半年，我就从一位国际民间组织 (NGO) 的网站职员变身“海外陪读妈妈”。

go.Starting from the decision to arrived at,In less than half a year,I from an international non-governmental organizations (NGO) Web site staff Cinderella"Overseas or relatives can apply for mother".

　　说不失落是假的，毕竟自己把国内工作和生活都停了下来，可看到女儿在这边融合得那么快那么好，每天都开开心心的，我觉得一切都值得。

Say not lost is false,After all the domestic work and life has stopped,Can see daughter in this fusion so fast so good,The happy every day,I think everything is worth.

　　其实，我自己在国内也是一帆风顺地长大，读最好的大学，找最好的工作，到了国外，一切都得从头开始，最直接的考验，就是开车。我的方向感不好，在国内死赖着不肯学车，可到了国外，没车就寸步难行，结果连考了6次才拿到驾照。

In fact,I myself in domestic is plain sailing to grow up,Read the best university,To find the best jobs,The foreign,All have to start from the very beginning,The most direct test,Is driving.My sense of direction is bad,In death the domestic rice would not body,Can go to a foreign,Don't have a car is stuck,Results even got 6 times to get a driver's license.

　　现在，凭着科班出身的英语能力和在外企、国际组织的工作经验，我在当地的一所语言学校找到新工作。生活也开始变得丰富多彩，找我上语言课的学生越来越多，一有空就参加社区志愿活动，每天还真的都挺忙。

now,With professionally-trained worker English ability and in a foreign company/International organizations work experience,I am in a local language school found a new job.Life began to become rich and colorful,I find the language class students more and more,Whenever you have a volunteer to participate in community activities,Every day is really busy.

　　两年前，我开通了名为“海外陪读妈”微博，现在已经拥有了700多名粉丝，多数是想要向我取经的妈妈们。

Two years ago,I opened the name"Overseas or relatives can apply for mom"Micro bo,Now have more than 700 fans,Most is to want to take my mothers.

　　在我看来，如今有意愿、也有能力到国外来做陪读妈妈的，多受过较好的教育，有较好的语言基础和经济条件，还乐于接受新挑战、结交新朋友。有妈妈在身边照顾的孩子，也更愿意融入当地文化，结交更多的外国朋友。更重要的是，这样可给予妈妈陪伴孩子成长的宝贵时间，在我看来这真的很重要。因为孩子一旦18岁高中毕业，就该插上翅膀飞向他(她)心中的蓝天了。

In my opinion,Now there is a will/Also has the ability to abroad to do or relatives can apply for mother's,Many have good education,Have a good language foundation and economic conditions,Also be willing to accept new challenges/Make new friends.A mother in the side took care of the children,Were also more willing to into the local culture,Make more foreign friends.More important is,This can give mom to accompany children to grow up valuable time,In my opinion this is really important.Because once the child is 18 years old high school graduation,The wings fly to him(she)In the heart of the blue sky.

　　当然，和很多孤身海外求学的孩子相比，有父母陪伴的孩子往往没有那么独立，依赖性更强，每个孩子的情况都不一样，不能绝对地说陪读跟不陪读哪个更好。我一直和向我取经的妈妈们说，我没有想过不来美国陪我的孩子，但不代表你们都该为了孩子将自己的生活彻底改头换面，选择一个适合自己、孩子和家庭发展的方式，才是最好的。(因被采访者本人要求，部分采用化名)

Of course,And many overseas school children by himself compared,Have the parents to accompany children often do not have so independent,Dependence stronger,Each child's situation is different,Can't absolutely said with no or relatives can apply or relatives can apply for which is better.I have been to me and through of mothers said,I hadn't thought of not come to the United States with my children,But do not represent you all this for the children will own life thoroughly change the appearance,Choose a suitable for yourself/Children and family development way,Is the best.(I require for the interviewer,Part adopts alias)

　　北京大学社会学系教授、博士生导师邱泽奇：让子女接受良好学校教育，将来成为社会的栋梁之材，是中国文化的传统。因此，督促子女接受教育，是于子女、于家庭、于国家、于社会都有利的事情。但在所有的方式中，陪读并不是最好选择，父母应该用适当的方式培养子女独立生活的能力和行为自制的能力，特别是在进入成年阶段后，孩子心理趋成熟，形成对社会基本观点，由此形成对自我的基本认知和对自我行为的控制模式，家长陪读应有“度”。

Beijing university professor of department of society/Doctoral tutor QiuZeJi:Let the children received a good school education,To become the future great asset to society,Is China's traditional culture.therefore,Supervise children accept education,In children is/In family/In countries/To the society is good thing.But in all the way,Or relatives can apply for and not the best choice,Parents should cultivate children with proper way an independent life ability and the ability of self-control behavior,Especially in into the adult stage,The child psychological hastened maturely,The formation of social basic point of view,This form of self basic cognitive and behavior of self control mode,Should parents or relatives can apply"degree".