“我用了6年力图把女儿培养成她自己，告诉她每个人都是‘独一无二’的……但是，刚刚过去的这一个月，我的这个理念受到了根本性的挑战。”日前，一名叫林爻的家长写的文章《开学一月摧毁坚持6年的教育观》在论坛以及微博上疯转。

"I spent six years to grow into her own daughter,Tell her everyone is‘unique’of……but,Just the past this month,This idea was fundamental challenge."a,A man named Lin Yao parents to write articles[On January destroy adhere to the six years of education]In the BBS and micro blog crazy turn.

　　林爻举了些例子来形容学校教育的恐怖：她用了6年时间让孩子明白礼物不是做事的动因，但是上学一个月，孩子已用“小贴画”换回了两块橡皮。这些都让她疑惑，“再过6年，这所名牌小学还能给我一个充满创造性的孩子吗？”

Lin Yao give some examples to describe the school education of terror:She took six years to learn gift is not working motivation,But a month to go to school,The child has been used"Small stick the"In exchange for the two pieces of rubber.All of these let her doubts,"In another six years,The famous brand elementary school also can give me a creative children?"

　　林爻的文章引起了许多人的共鸣。似乎目前的学校教育真的成了与现代教育理念相背离的洪水猛兽，只能培养如流水线生产出的整齐划一的“产品”了。作为一名小学三年级学生的家长，我理解林爻的焦虑，但她的想法未免过于悲观。

Lin Yao article caused many people resonance.Seems to be the current school education really become and modern education concept phase deviation of a great disaster,Can the development such as assembly line production of neat and tidy"products"the.As a primary school grade three students' parents,I understand forest Yao anxiety,But her idea is too pessimistic.

　　作为一名具有现代教育理念的家长，相信林爻一定认同，对孩子的培养是一项系统工程，需要学校、家庭和社会合力为之，孩子的健康成长向来就不是学校教育“独木能支”的。三者互有分工，学校教会孩子怎么适应集体，怎样与其他人相处，学会遵守基本的规则（哪怕内心并不真正认同），根据集体的要求调整自己的行为，更多的是强调共性。这也是孩子学会适应环境、健康成长的基础。但即便是在同样的环境和方式下，每个孩子的表现也是各不相同的。而学生个性发展，往往更需要家庭教育的配合与弥补，需要家长更多地呵护与引导，因为只有家长，才是最了解自己孩子的。

As a modern education idea of parents,Believe that the forest Yao certain identity,To the child's culture is a system engineering,Need school/The family and social force to,The health and sound growth of children has never been the school education"One can a"of.Three mutual a division of labor,The school to teach children how to adapt to the collective,How to get along with other people,Learn to follow the basic rules(Even if the heart is not real identity),According to the requirements of the collective to adjust their behavior,More is to emphasize the common.This is also the child to learn to adapt to the environment/The foundation of healthy growth.But even in the same environment and mode,Each child's performance is also different.And the student individuality development,Often need more family education cooperation and make up,Parents need more care and guidance,Because only parents,Is the most knows his own child.

　　事实上，学校教育虽然也存在问题，但教学方式与方法也在不断进步中。比如，现在许多班级都有家委会和QQ群，家长们可以充分和老师沟通。现在的孩子早就不像我们当年，视老师为绝对权威，跟老师说话都会觉得害怕，他们哪怕面对老师的批评，也会大胆以真实想法同老师争论。这一点，除了与社会日渐开明有关外，也离不开学校教育的鼓励。

In fact,School education although also existing problems,But teaching way and method is also in constant progress.For example,Now many class has GuWeiHui and QQ group,Parents can fully and the teacher communication.Now the children don't like our year,Depending on the teacher for absolute authority,Speak with the teacher will feel fear,They even face the teacher's criticism,Will also be bold to real idea with the teacher debate.this,In addition to increasing enlightened about outside,Also cannot leave the school education encouragement.

　　所以，如果一味地只强调个性和创造力，一味觉得学校教育毁人的话，除非是你认为把孩子们交给学校，家长就可以当“甩手掌柜”了。在学校和家长的共同陪伴下孩子才会健康成长。谭敏

so,If only blindly emphasize the individuality and creativity,Blindly feel school education destroyed a word,Unless you think the children to school,Parents can when"Shopkeeper stopped"the.In the school, the parents and the common company of children will grow up healthy.TanMin

　　(来源:广州日报)

(Sources: guangzhou daily)

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