有调查显示，近半大学生赞成婚前性行为。前不久，国家人口计生委发布的一组数据显示，中国每年人工流产多达1300万人次，位居世界第一。其中25岁以下女性占一半以上，大学生成为人流"主力军"。大学生性观念越来越开放会引发的一系列社会问题，令人深深地担忧。(10月21日 《生命时报》)　　大学校园里的"性生态"时常成为被再三议论的"炙热"话题。灯红酒绿的世俗生活，"天上人间"的现实讽喻，及物质欲望扑腾的时代写照之外，有"知识圣殿"之誉的象牙塔便不经意地成了人们寄托"道德理想"的抒情对象。愈是大幕之下嘈杂扰攘、理义浇漓，大学似便愈应成为"一尘不染""圣洁邈远"的"彼岸"。

Research has shown that,Nearly half college students in favor of premarital sexual behavior.Not long ago,The national population state family planning commission issued a set of data display,Every year China artificial abortion as many as 13 million people,Up to the top of the world.Among them 25 years old the following women accounted for more than half,College students become people"Main force".The college students' idea more and more open can cause a series of social problems,A deep concern.(On October 21, [Life times])University campus"Sex ecological"Often become were repeatedly thoughts"hot"topic.Neon of secular life,"Heaven on earth"Reality of allegorical,And the era of material desires move up and down outside portraiture,have"Knowledge temple"The reputation of the ivory tower and unwittingly become on people"Moral ideal"Lyrical object.The more is under the noisy hustle and bustle/Reason JiaoLi righteousness,Like the university and should be"spotless""Holy MiaoYuan"of"shore".

　　象征意义越发抽离"客观原貌"的基于道统遐想的大学形象，在一波接一波的类似于"大学周围钟点房火爆""近5成大学生赞成婚前性行为"的好奇围观中，终于因"残酷的真实"，而更加剧了弥漫于社会的道德感伤和怀旧情绪。一如新闻标题中那刺眼的"性开放"一词背后，呼之欲出的彷徨、焦虑与紧迫。

The more symbolic significance to pull away"Objective intact"Based on the Confucian orthodoxy daydream university image,In a wave after wave of similar to"University clock around hot room""Nearly five into college students in favor of premarital sexual behavior"In the curious onlookers,Finally because"Cruel real",And more intensified the diffuse from the social moral sentimental and nostalgia emotions.As news headlines in the dazzling"Sex open"Behind a word,Be vividly portrayed stray/Anxiety and pressing.

　　然而，各种粗枝大叶、走马观花式的所谓调研，及许多毫经不起推敲的"野鸡数据"所堆砌出的"大学夜生活"是可信的么?抑或说，即便它是忠实的，真的又有那么不堪么?这些也许都须在动辄大放厥词、大声喟叹的"道德声讨及反思"之前，先打一个大大的问号。

however,Various careless/Skim the surface type of so-called research,And many milli can't afford to scrutiny"Pheasant data"Have come out of the"University nightlife"Is credible??Or said,Even if it is faithful,Really have again so unbearable yao?These may have to be in frequently talk a lot of nonsense/Sighing loudly of"Moral condemn and reflection"before,To play a big question mark.

　　至少，从一些追求"语不惊人死不休"的高校性观念报告来看，其的取样范围、数量、程序都有颇多值得推敲之处。不少仅根据道听途说，或随即采访几位学生，再裸眼扫描一番，就煞有其事的行之成文，并对外发布。凭常识就可判定不严谨的数据借助媒介公器竞相传播、聚焦，也就产生了三人成虎的错位印象，而对大学生群体本身来说难言公平。

At least,From some pursuit"Language not astonishing die endlessly"University sexual idea report to see,The sampling range/quantity/Program has quite a lot worth deliberate place.According to many only hearsay,Or immediately interview several students,Then open hole scanning a,Just a joke of the line written,And released to.By common sense can determine not rigorous data with the media and apparatus are spread/focusing,Also produced three people into the dislocation of the tiger impression,For college students last fair itself.

　　就以各路调查者均青睐的"同居"议题来说，这个现象本身需要以平视的眼光来看待，总是以几十年前的校园景观及廉价泛滥的"道德关怀"来不容分说地俯视现下的大学生群体，是不够理性的。"同居"并不是除了狭隘的道德维度之外，就空无一物，它还跟个体责任感、自我认知及情感生活的必然经验密切相关。

By the investigators are popular"cohabitation"Issues for,This phenomenon itself need to head-up's point of view,Always in a few decades ago campus landscape and cheap inundant"Moral concern"To not allow one to speak down now college students,It is not enough to rational."cohabitation"And not in addition to narrow the moral dimension outside,It is empty,It also with individual responsibility/Self cognitive and emotional life is closely related to the necessary experience.

　　现代社会的婚恋风俗及体例与过往已大不同，男女青年需要在自由恋爱后走向婚姻，而非如古代"父母之命媒妁之言"，千里之外的两个陌生人洞房花烛夜才第一次"熟知"。那么，在恋爱与婚姻的过渡期，强以男女授受不清来要求男女"自相隔离"未免迂腐，现代婚姻家庭的和睦离不开男女之间在之前点滴的相处磨合。此一角度来说，"婚前同居"并非大不韪之事，而是现代婚恋生活中一个自然而然的正常前奏先声。

Modern society's marriage custom and style and the past is different,The young men and women need to be in after free love to marriage,Rather than such as ancient"The orders of their father and mother by matchmakers' help",Miles away two strangers wedding night was first"Known as".so,Love and marriage in the transitional period,By giving strong men and women are not clear for men and women"Since the phase isolation"Rather pedantry,The modern marriage and family harmony between men and women cannot leave before every along break-in.This point of view,"Premarital cohabitation"Is not the universal condemnation,But modern romantic life a natural normal prelude first sound.

　　自由多元的社会，更加强调和尊重个体选择的权利，而所推崇的自应是相信个体决定自我情感的理性本能。夹杂着阴沉甚或绝望的道德咏叹调的校园性生态观察，有时更像是满足了潜藏于社会中的窥视"高校群体"道德私生活的癖好，而在想当然的"道德寄托"下，宣泄着道德、市场崩离综合征困扰下的惶惑、不安。

Free multivariate society,More emphasis on and respect individual choice,And to esteem the self should be believe that individual decided to self emotional rational instinct.Mixed with heavy or even despair moral aria campus sexual ecological observation,Sometimes more like meet the hidden in the society in the peer"The group"The moral life of partiality,And in the take it for granted"Moral hopes"under,Catharsis the moral/Market collapse from syndrome problems of trepidation/uneasy.

　　在承认生活节奏及世情嬗变的前提下，社会应慢慢包容并适应新的婚恋观，摆脱褊狭的道德统摄一切的价值桎梏，如此，才能真正纾解不时发作的社会道德焦虑症。对于纠偏部分年轻人过于随意、失范的婚恋行为，高高在上的道义教条灌输及棒喝只会怂恿出叛逆轻狂的"逆反心理"，莫如站在对方角度，发掘新的共识，平等沟通地去让他们在拥有爱的激情之后，也学会爱的能力及责任理性。

In acknowledging life rhythm and world under the premise of evolution,Society should be slowly tolerance and adapt to the new marriage,Get rid of one-track moral general all value shackles,so,From time to time can really relieve the onset of social moral anxiety.For young people at will rectify part too/The anomie marriage behavior,Is in the moral indoctrination and run just egg out rebel flighty"Negative mentality",Won't stand in the other side Angle,Discover new consensus,Equal communication to let them in have the passion of love and later,Also learn to love the ability and the responsibility to reason.

　　王艳春

WangYanChun