很多人发现，在女孩越来越“野”的同时，“文气”的男孩也越来越多。

Many people find,The girl is more and more"wild"At the same time,"Style of writing"The boy more and more.

　　“文气”以前是好孩子的专用词，可是越来越多的男孩家长，却渐渐不喜欢听到别人用这个词来夸奖自家的儿子。

"Style of writing"Before the boy's special term,But more and more boy parents,But gradually don't like to hear others use this word to praise his son.

　　因为“文气”这个词，往好的一面去理解，是“细心、文静、温和、善解人意”，可是这些词，原本是女孩子的专属。如果往不好的一面去理解，是“胆小、怯懦、不自信、责任感缺乏”，甚至有点“娘娘腔”。

because"Style of writing"The word,Look on the bright side to understand,is"careful/quiet/mild/considerate",But these words,Originally is the girl's exclusive.If go to bad side to understand,is"timid/cowardice/Don't believe/Lack of sense of responsibility",Even a little"nance".

　　这让男孩家长倍感压力。

This let the boy parents feel more pressure.

　　“文气”的男孩越来越多，这到底是怎么了？

"Style of writing"The boy more and more,What's wrong?

为什么男孩越来越“文气” Why did the boy more and more"Style of writing"

　　幼儿园的小操场上，孩子们在玩耍。一位妈妈，眼睛追逐着一个小男孩。

Kindergarten small the playground,The children are playing.A mother,Eyes chasing a little boy.

　　男孩正和同伴们玩滑板车，平衡一下没掌握好，踉跄了下，便不敢再上车，一脸很想玩又不敢的表情。妈妈似乎被惹恼了，眉头一皱。

The boy with his companions playing scooter,Balance the didn't grasp well,Totter the,He dare not to get on the car,A face of very want to play and can't expression.Mom seems to be annoyed,Eyebrows a wrinkly.

　　这时，一旁家长嘀咕了一句“我家女儿，整天爬上窜下，像个假小子，真拿她没办法。”这句话就像一根导火线，把她蹭蹭蹭地点燃了。这位妈妈上前厉声斥责儿子：“你怎么缩手缩脚的，一点不像男子汉！”

At this time,One side parents whisper 1"My daughter,Climb over the next day,Like a tomboy,She didn't really take."This sentence is like a root fuse,Her ceng Dally to lit.The mother came near, and harsh voice rebuked the son:"How do you buy,Doesn't look like a man!"

　　这样的场景，实在太常见了。不少男孩家长发现，在介绍自家儿子时，用“细心、文静、温和、善解人意”等词语的频率越来越高，而这些形容词，原本是女孩子的专属。

Such a scene,Is all too common.Many parents found that boy,In this paper, the his son,with"careful/quiet/mild/considerate"The frequency of words is more and more high,These adjectives,Originally is the girl's exclusive.

　　男孩胆小、怯懦、不自信、责任感缺乏，甚至有点“娘娘腔”。这样的男孩越来越多，到底是怎么了？

Timid boy/cowardice/Don't believe/Lack of sense of responsibility,Even a little"nance".This boy more and more,What is it?

　　杭州胜利学前教育集团胜利园区的沈杭凯园长，最近在做一个关于小男生的课题。对幼儿园小男生的调查中，她发现，男孩本应具有特质，现在正在弱化甚至消失。

Hangzhou victory preschool education group win the ShenHangKai the principal,Doing recently about a little boy's subject.A kindergarten for little boy survey,She found,The boy should have trait,Now is weakened and even disappeared.

　　“一些男孩比女孩还要敏感。”沈院长记得，有个男孩，有次回家气呼呼地对妈妈说：“做男孩真不好，明天不去幼儿园了！”男孩生气的原因，是和女孩吵架了，老师总要他“让让女孩子”。

"Some boys are better than girls also sensitive."Shen remember,A boy,Once home angrily said to his mother:"Do the boy really bad,Don't go to the kindergarten tomorrow!"The boy the cause of getting angry,Is and girls quarreled,The teacher always he"Let let girls".

　　还有一些男孩很作，比女孩还要精细，吃饭挟口菜，一定要吐点菜渣出来。还有些胆小，稍有挑战性的活动就不敢参与，回答问题畏畏缩缩的男孩占的比例也不小。

There are some boy is made,Than girls also fine,Eat pinch mouth food,Must spit out order slag.Still have some timid,A challenging activity can't participate in,Answer the questions well behaved boy the proportion of small also.

幼儿园教育应该男女区别对待 The kindergarten education should be a difference between men and women

　　“幼儿园缺乏男老师是一个因素。”沈园长分析，另外幼儿园老师的教育理念也存在一定误区。

"Kindergarten lack of male teacher is a factor."Shen the principal analysis,In addition the kindergarten teacher's education idea also exists certain error.

　　在幼儿园，老师对不同性别的孩子给予同等教育。以往，老师很少考虑性别因素，在评价孩子的表现时，更多地从传统观念出发，不会强调男女孩子在性别上的不同。

In the kindergarten,The teacher to different gender children give equal education.In the past,The teacher rarely consider gender factors,In the evaluation of the child's performance,More from traditional conception,Men and women not emphasis on children in the different gender.

　　沈园长举了个例子。比如幼儿园孩子都要学的“手腕花”动作，就是手腕向外转的一个动作，这是为了锻炼孩子手部的大肌肉。

Shen kinzley is an example.Such as kindergarten children to learn"Wrist flower"action,Is the wrist to outward turning of an action,This is to exercise your child big muscles.

　　幼儿园里的几乎都是女老师，做示范时，动作比较柔美，表扬孩子时也总是用“做得真漂亮”这类的句子。

In the kindergarten are almost a female teacher,Do when demonstration,Action is gentle,Praise children also always use"Did a beautiful"This kind of sentence.

　　“这种柔美的动作适合女孩，不适合男孩。”沈园长说，现在，老师在教这个动作时，会男女区别对待。指导男孩子，把温柔的转动改为有力量的往外推。表扬男孩时，也改用“像齿轮一样灵活，力气真大啊”等等更有阳刚特质的话语。

"This kind of gentle movements for girl,Not suitable for boy."Shen said moreover,now,The teacher was teaching when the action,Will a difference between men and women.Guidance boys,The gentle turn to have the strength to extrapolation.Praise boy,Also convert"Like gear as flexible,Strength are very big"And so on are more masculine traits words.

　　再比如，幼儿园每个教室都有表演区，仔细看，会发现道具都是些花朵什么的，很适合女孩子玩。“现在，增加一些军帽、枪、旗等等。比如打旗语，就很适合男孩子表演。”

For another example,Kindergarten every room has the performance area,Watch carefully,Will find props are some flowers or something,Very suitable for girls to play."now,Add some service cap/gun/Flag, etc.Such as semaphores,Very suitable for boys performance."

　　沈园长说，在意识到班里男孩的某些表现不恰当后，老师会对自己的教育方式进行修正。

Shen said moreover,In the consciousness to some of the boys in the class performance after not appropriate,The teacher of the education mode for correction.

　　“虽然同龄男孩，在语言能力、动作协调性等方面，都比女孩弱一些。但我们发现，男孩对玩具造型的探索和一些科学活动，表现得更有兴趣，在做某件事情上，专注度更强。”沈园长觉得，在幼儿园里开辟一些适合男孩的课程和游戏很有必要，而在以往这是被忽略的。

"Although age boy,In the language ability/Action coordination, etc,Than the girl some weak.But we found that,The boy to the toy modelling of exploration and some scientific activities,Behave more interested in,Doing a thing,Focus stronger."Shen the principal think,In the kindergarten opened up some suitable for the boy's curriculum and the game is very necessary,But in the past it was ignored.

妈妈要懂得在儿子面前示弱 Mother to son in front of weakness

　　“男孩的‘弱’，和父母的教养方式也很有关系。”沈园长发现，幼儿园里也有很具男子汉气质的男孩，“胆大、大方、比较独立”，她发现，这些孩子的家庭教育，都是比较民主、宽松的，“家长和孩子商量着来”。

"The boy's‘weak’,And parents education mode also very much to have the relations."Shen kinzley is found,The kindergarten has quite a man temperament boy,"bold/generous/More independent",She found,These children to family education,Is the more democratic/loose,"Parents and children to discuss".

　　“什么事情都由家长包办，会产生两种倾向，一种是‘无法无天’型。比如有个男孩，不管在幼儿园还是家里，鞋带掉了，就脚一翘‘给我系鞋带’。另一种是退缩型的，不管做什么都表示得很懦弱。”

"What things are made by parents do,Can produce two kind of tendency,One is‘lawlessness’type.Such as a boy,No matter in kindergarten or home,Shoelace off,Just a foot to become warped‘Give me tie my shoelace’.Another kind is back type,No matter what is said very weak."

　　“现在的妈妈太强悍了，什么都替儿子打点好，其实妈妈在儿子面前适当示弱，给儿子一些机会，可以激发男孩的潜能。”沈园长认为，现在不少家庭都是爸爸很忙，缺席孩子的教育，妈妈是家里家外一把手，长此以往的“包办”，会压制男孩的潜能。

"Now the mother too strong,What all for son prick good,In fact my mother in the sons appropriate weakness,To his son some chances,Can stimulate the boy's potential."Shen the principal think,Now many families is father was very busy,Miss the child's education,Mother is home outside the house of a hand,Long this past"arranged",Will suppress the boy's potential.

　　其实，当妈妈的可以适时示弱，告诉儿子，你是男子汉了，要保护妈妈，帮助妈妈。沈园长打比方说，去超市买东西时，可以分一点给孩子提；做一些家务时，可以让孩子来当下手。当然，爸爸们也要多和男孩接触，言传身教是做好“男子气”榜样的最好途径。

In fact,When my mother can timely weakness,Tell son,You are a man,To protect the mother,Help my mother.Shen calls for example,Go to the supermarket to buy things,Can divide a little give children mention;Do some the housework,Can let the child to be laid hands on him.Of course,Dads will and boy contact,Precept is to do a good job"masculinity"The best way to an example.

　　“不要怕累着孩子，孩子的潜能，尤其是男孩的潜能很大。而现如今普遍的教育习惯，把男孩的特质给掩盖了，没机会发挥出来，我们应该尽可能地为男孩创造一些机会。”沈园长说，每个男孩的身体里都有许多小马达，让这些马达运行起来，才能成为真正的男子汉。(记者 金丹丹)

"Don't be afraid of a burden to children,The child's potential,Especially the boy's great potential.And nowadays general education habits,The boy's trait to hide,Didn't get a chance to play,We should as far as possible, for the boy to create some chances."Shen said moreover,Each boy body has many pony up to,Let the motor running up,To become a real man.(Reporter JinDanDan)