不少家长都有类似困惑：孩子平时学习很用功，无论听课还是作业完成方面都表现不错，月考和平时的小测试也都能考得不错，但每到大型考试或关键性考试总是发挥不出自己应有的水平，达不到预想的目标，以至于每当一些重要考试来临时，这些孩子、家长就会忐忑不安，他们更担心这种情况到中、高考时再现。教育专家建议，让孩子理性看待考试，家长要先有“放下”的心态

Many parents have a similar confusion:Children usually studies very hard,No matter to attend a lecture or homework aspects are playing well,Monthly exam peace little testing also can take an examination of well,But every to large examination or critical examination always play out our due level,Can not reach the expected goal,That whenever some important test to temporary,These children/Parents will be in fear and trembling,They are more worried about the situation in to/Reappear when the university entrance exam.Education expert advice,Let the child a rational view examination,Parents must first have"down"mentality

家长自述： Parents complain:

孩子大考总失利 Children always defeat final exam

　　南宁市家长廖女士自述：我女儿今年初三，平时成绩不错，可每次大考成绩就不行了，孩子为此压力非常大，不知道如何是好？就拿最近一次月考来说，孩子成绩退步了70多名，一下子掉到了年级200名之后。

Nanning parents manifold lady readme:My daughter third day this year,Usually the result is good,But every time a big exam result can't,The child for this pressure is very big,Don't know how to do?Take a recent exam is speaking,Child achievement behind more than 70,Suddenly fell to grade after 200.

　　其实，女儿的英语曾经也出现过类似的问题，一下子从班级第一名，跌到20名。英语老师曾说，如果女儿考试不紧张，成绩会好些。班主任则安慰我，放平心态，可是看着女儿现在压力这么大，我真的不知道怎么办？

In fact,Daughter English ever also has had the similar problem,From a class first,Drop to 20.The English teacher said,If the daughter examination not nervous,Result will be better.The teacher in charge is to comfort me,Set level mentality,But look at daughter now pressure is so great,I really don't know what to do?

　　女儿从小就是乖乖女，学习很努力，即使周末都没休息过，自己主动去老师那儿补习。我们平时检查她作业，也做得对，但考试就不行了。女儿很懊恼，说在考试时感觉都做对了，可结果还是错了。

Daughter is darling female since childhood,Studies very hard,If weekend have no rest,His own initiative to the teacher remediation.We usually check her homework,Also do right,But not the exam.Daughter is very upset,Said in exams do feel right,But the results are wrong.

　　这些天，女儿压力非常大，回来第一句话就是为成绩感到“丢脸”，总是吃不下东西，感觉肚子饱饱的，她担心成绩更退步，现在反而变得更加努力了。

These days,Daughter pressure is very big,The first sentence is back for results feel"disgrace",Always can't eat,Feeling a full belly,She fears that grade is more setback,Now it becomes even harder.

　　孩子的紧张感，让我们也无所适从，从来不敢说她什么，怕给她更大的心理负担。我们想陪女儿在感兴趣的事上放松一下，可她从小一门心思扑在学习上，没什么其他的爱好，唯一的放松方式就是上网和同学聊聊天，玩些小游戏。

The child's tension,Let us also not know what to do,Never dare not say she??????,Afraid to give her more psychological burden.We want to accompany the daughter in interested in a relax,But since she was young one-track mind robot in study,No other hobbies,The only way to relax is the Internet chat with my classmates,Play small game.

群友支招： Group of friend move:

劳逸结合成绩才平稳 Psychotic result to smooth

　　南宁市某课外辅导机构的刘老师认为，孩子“平时成绩不错，一大考就不行”的问题，主要在于应试心理。首先，考试有心理负担是孩子考试怯场的主要因素，家长平时多给孩子一些自信。其次，家长应帮助孩子适当进行放松，平时多聊些轻松话题，吃饭的时候其实是父母与孩子最好的交流时间。

Nanning some extracurricular counselling agencies that liu,children"Usually the result is good,A final exam will not"problems,Mainly lies in the examination-oriented psychological.First of all,The test has psychological burden is the main factors of child exam stage fright,Parents usually give children some confidence.secondly,Parents should help children appropriate to relax,At ordinary times much talk about relaxed topic,Time of have a meal is actually the parents and child the best communication time.

　　作为一名中学生家长，本报南国家长群群友“菲菲”分享了她的做法：拿到卷子后，首先表扬孩子好的一部分，然后分析失分原因。如果是因为没掌握好知识点，就帮助孩子加强薄弱环节，同时了解孩子为什么不会，是上课没认真听讲，还是题目偏难没绕出来，或者审题不清楚，回答词不达意等等。最后，家长还是以鼓励孩子为主。

As a high school student parents,Our newspaper austral parents QunQun friend"Fifi"Share her practice:Get after the examination paper,First praise your child good part,Then analyzed the reason for points.If because there are no good mastery of knowledge,Will help children strengthen the weak links,At the same time to understand children why not,The class is not seriously listened to the lecture,Or topic partial difficult around didn't come out,Or examines the topic is not clear,Answer the thought and so on.finally,Parents or to encourage children give priority to.

　　“孩子都不会玩了，怎么能劳逸结合呢？”家长“家有两懒虫”认为，孩子整天埋头苦学，大脑容易缺氧，学习效率不高。她偶尔会在家里搞聚会，大人玩耍时孩子们也一起玩。她也会带孩子去有特色的餐馆吃吃饭，去看场有趣的电影，或者带去她喜欢的地方喝茶、吃甜品。总之，就是让生活和平常不一样，让孩子新鲜一下。

"Children are not to play,How can a dull boy?"parents"Home has two slackers"think,The children all day such counter,Brain hypoxia easily,The learning efficiency is not high.She occasionally party at home,Adults play the children also play together.She will take her children to the distinctive restaurant to eat dinner,Go see a funny movie,Or to the place where she likes tea/Eat dessert.In a word,Is to make the life and usually is not the same,Let the child a fresh.

专家建议： Experts suggest:

理性看待每次考试 A rational view every examination

　　南宁三中特级教师杨泰金认为，孩子“平时成绩不错，一大考就不行”的问题，这和我们如何看待平时考试有很大关联。作为老师和家长，不能凭借一两次考试，给孩子过早、过重地下结论。其实，学习生涯就好比马拉松比赛，刚开始跑得快的人，未必是最后的胜者，人生也未尝不是如此。因此，老师和家长都应该宽容地看待孩子成绩的起起落落，保留一颗静待花开的平和心态。

Nanning third superfine teacher YangTaiJin think,children"Usually the result is good,A final exam will not"problems,This and how we think of at ordinary times is highly correlated exam.As teachers and parents,Not with a two exams,Give children early to/Overweight underground conclusion.In fact,Learning career is just like the marathon,Just began to run very fast,May not be the final winner,Life is never is not so.therefore,Teachers and parents should tolerance at the child achievement of ups and downs,Keep a static to blossom peace of mind.

　　那么，我们该如何正确看待每一次考试呢？杨泰金说，平时的考试更多在于检测学生学习中存在的问题。因此，在每一次考试过后，孩子都应该养成更好的学习、思维和考试习惯，用心分析总结成绩不好的原因在哪里，加强平时的训练。在平时的考试中培养考试的经验，逐渐掌握一些可以扬长避短的考试策略和技巧等。

so,How should we correctly treat every exam?YangTaiJin said,The usual test more is to detect the problems existing in the students' learning.therefore,In each time after the exam,Children should form a better learning/Thinking and exam habits,By analysis the cause of bad grades in where,Strengthen the usual training.In the usual exam training examination experience,Mastered gradually, some can foster strengths and circumvent weaknesses examination of the strategies and techniques, etc.

　　同时，家长和老师应该多给孩子一些积极的心理暗示。很多时候，你说孩子行，他就行；可如果父母总说孩子“不行”、“考不好”，他就真的“不行”、“考不好”。如果孩子在日常学习各方面都做得不错，而且平常考试成绩还可以，那就说明孩子在重要考试也可以考得好。相信孩子一定能行！

At the same time,Parents and teachers should give children some positive psychological suggestion.Most of the time,You say that children do,He will do;But if the parents always said children"no"/"Poorly on the",He really"no"/"Poorly on the".If a child in daily study all aspects are well done,And common test scores can also,It shows that children in an important exam can also does well.Believe that the child can do!

　　南宁市家庭教育专家杨春成认为，孩子平时成绩很好，说明基础知识掌握得不错，大考考不好，说明对于基础知识的综合运用能力欠缺一些，不能融会贯通。所以，“孩子平时成绩好，为什么大考考不好”这点是很好理解的。

Nanning city family education experts YangChunCheng think,Children usually result is very good,The basic knowledge that master well,Big test bad,Explain the basic knowledge for the comprehensive ability of the lack of some,Can't digest.so,"Children usually do well in,Why was the big test"This is a very good understanding.

　　杨春成建议，让孩子自己能“放得下”，更重要的是家长首先要“放下”。家长首先要自己在心态上放下来，家长都被考试搞得紧张兮兮的，孩子能不紧张吗？所以，家长首先要放松下来，只要孩子尽力了，名次和成绩可以暂时不考虑。

YangChunCheng Suggestions,You can let the children"To put next",More important is the parents must first"down".Parents should first himself in the state of mind on down,Parents are the exam to get with time in a nervous flurry,Children can not nervous?so,Parents first to relax,As long as the child tried,Ranking and achievements can temporarily not consider.