浙江在线11月11日讯 今天是11月11日，对于“光着”(依然是单身)的青年们来说，这个刺激的日子正年复一年地敲打着你：找对象这件事情，变得跟穿秋裤一样紧迫了。今晚在浙江科技馆“科学+ASTalk”栏目中，科学松鼠会成员、心理学硕士陈朝将从科学的角度，和大家谈谈择偶那些事。“找对象吧，自古以来就是很麻烦的事情。”昨天，陈朝提前向记者“剧透”了如何科学“脱光”。

Zhejiang online on November 11, - today is on November 11,for"Light the"(Is still single)For the youth,This exciting day is year after year beating with you:Find object it,Become QiuKu with wear as well as the urgent.Tonight in zhejiang science and technology museum"Science + ASTalk"Column of,Scientific squirrel will members/Psychology people master from scientific point of view,A talk about those things."Find object it,Since the ancient times is a very troublesome thing."yesterday,People to reporters in advance"spoilers"How to scientific"off".

　　陈朝说，如果一个优质青年在网上征婚，没准一点就有上百封求交往的信件塞爆邮箱。这时候，找对象已经成了数学问题，不设定诸如“美不美”这样的简单阈值(在自动控制系统中能产生一个校正动作的最小输入值)，第一轮筛选都过滤不下去！

Said people,If a high quality youth online marriage proposal,Maybe a little have hundreds of seal for communication letters plug blasting mailbox.At this time,Find object has become a math problem,Don't set such as"Beauty is not beautiful"Such a simple threshold value(In the automatic control system can produce a corrective action minimum input value),The first round screening all filter not go down!

　　陈朝推荐了一个更为靠谱的择偶方式：从朋友的朋友中去选另一半试试。

People recommended a more by spectrum of mating mode:From the friends of friends to choose the other half try.

　　为什么不是找朋友？难道是我们常说的“熟了不好下手”？

Why not look for a friend?Shall we often say"Ripe not start"?

　　陈朝的解释是，一个人的朋友是有限的，只在这个圈子选，范围太小。假如你有4个朋友，这4个人各自有4个朋友，你就有16个新朋友认识了。关键是这些人，肯定和你有个性、爱好等方面的交集，这是很重要的恋爱基础。

The explanation is people,A friend is limited,Only in the circle to choose,Range is too small.If you have four friends,This four people have their own four friends,You have 16 new friends know.The key is these people,Positive and you have individual character/Hobby of intersection,This is a very important foundation in love.

　　真对上眼了，男女对于性格特质的很多认知取向，也有助于我们更好地理解对方。

The true eye on the,Men and women for character trait of many cognitive orientation,Can also help us to better understand each other.

　　陈超举了个例子，比如幽默感这件事情。就有研究表明，比较搞笑的男生，在女生看来，是可以加分的。

Chen an example,Such as a sense of humor this matter.There is research shows that,Comparative funny boy,The girl seems to,Can cent.

　　不过注意，加分的砝码有且仅有“比较”搞笑。因为同类研究证实，超级搞笑的男生，“就是那种搞笑成为他的核心特征的男生”，往往弄巧成拙心理学角度分析，女生多认为这号男子不太靠谱。

But pay attention to,Weight of points and only"comparison"funny.Because of the similar study confirms,Super funny boy,"That's funny become his core characteristics of boys",Often outsmart oneself psychology analysis,The girl thought that this man, don't rely on spectrum.

　　而从女孩子这边看，搞笑的女孩子，对男生的吸引力通常会减弱。

And from a girl over here and watch,Funny girl,For the appeal of boys usually will weaken the.

　　这也是有心理原因的。“能开玩笑，意味着两件事情：如果你是开别人的玩笑，通常说明在心理上你感觉比人家强；同时爱开玩笑，也表明一个人对局面的掌控力相对比较强。”陈朝说，一个比男人强的女人，在中国的文化背景下，可能并不是最吃香的。

This is a psychological reason."Can joke,Mean two things:If you are playing jokes on others,Usually indicate that in the psychological than the somebody else, you feel strong;At the same time joker,Also show that a person of the situation of control force is relatively strong."Said people,A strong woman than men,In China's cultural background,May not be the most popular.

　　所以，青年们，幽默起来，悠着点。

so,youth,Humor up,Take it easy.

　　陈朝说，已经有科学研究表明结婚能延长寿命，“因为组建一个家庭之后，女性的经济保障感会更强，事业压力会减小；而男性呢，单身时一些不好的生活习惯，至少是像吸烟、饮食不规律等不良习惯会减少，这是避免致病的良方。”

Said people,There is scientific research shows that marriage can prolong life,"Because after the formation of a family,Women's economic security sense will be stronger,Career pressure will decrease;While men?,When single some bad habits,At least like smoking/Irregular diet and other bad habits will reduce,This is to avoid pathogenic silver bullet."