“不能把上北大作为成功标志”，说得太好了，毕竟，考上北大者，仅仅属于极少数“金字塔塔尖”的学生，更多的学生，则属于“塔基”。只要孩子勤奋努力、自食其力、平和淡定、善于分享生活和幸福，成为对社会有用的人、受人欢迎的快乐者，这仍然是一种教育成功。因为教育的终极成功不仅是外在的物质和功利辉煌，更是内在的平和宽容、博大精深。这种奠基在幸福意义上的成就，也才是教育的最大责任、最大成就。

"Can't the north as a symbol of success",Said too good,After all,Admitted to Peking University who,Only belong to a few"Pyramid spire"students,More students,Belong to"Kentucky".If a child is hard work/Earn one's own living/Peace and calm/Good at share life and happiness,Become a useful person in society/Popular happy person,It is still a kind of education success.Because the ultimate success education is not only the external material and utilitarian brilliant,Is inner peace tolerance/Extensive and profound.The foundation stone laying in a happy sense of achievement,Also is the biggest responsibility education/Biggest achievement.

　　遗憾的是，尽管这些观念受国人称道，由于当下的教育功利性太强、分数崇拜太有市场。特别是很多家长都希望借助名校化解就业危机的当下，“幸福发展”以及“快乐发展”在很多学校和家庭，仍是奢侈品。拼命给孩子加压、制造“名校崇拜”是很多教育者不约而同的选择。最典型的就是“狼爸”“鹰爸”的做法，拼命让孩子成为“分数机器”，成为名校学生等。他们只看到了成功的一面，而没有意识到此举却会给孩子造成巨大的损伤，比如好高骛远。孩子成为功名道具，活得非常累，非常痛苦紧张，比如“宅孩”多了，孩子体能发展不足。还会造成巨大的心理伤害，现在，不少家庭中的亲子关系不够和谐，厌学、代际矛盾和冲突不断，某地心理机构对1000名儿童做过一次调查，其中25%的儿童存在明显的心理障碍，32%的儿童存在情绪不稳定、学习压力感过强等问题。谁说与过分期待没有关系呢？

It is a pity that,Although these concepts suffer compatriots commend,Due to the current education utilitarianism is too strong/Score worship too have the market.Especially many parents hope that with the aid of school resolve employment crisis then,"Happiness development"and"Happy development"In many schools and families,Still is a luxury.Try very hard to give the child pressure/manufacturing"School worship"Is the choice of many educators happen to coincide.The most typical is"The Wolf dad""Eagle dad"practice,Try very hard to let the children to be"Score machine",Become school students, etc.They see only a successful side,Without realizing that the move will give the child caused great damage,Such as wide-eyed.The children to be fame props,Live very tired,Very painful nervous,For example"Curtilage child"much,Children lack of physical development.Still can cause huge psychological damage,now,Many of the family harmonious parenthood is not enough,Be disgusted/Intergenerational contradictions and conflicts,Somewhere psychological mechanism on 1000 children to do a survey,25% of the children's obvious psychological disorder,32% of the children exist emotional instability/Learning too much stress problems.Who says no relationship with too much looking forward to it?

　　所以，在“狼爸”“鹰爸”迷惑了不少人的当下，作为教育权威专家的朱永新教授，发出“不能把上北大作为成功标志”的声音，就很有启迪性、警示性。这种权威声音具有强烈的风向标功效，以及纠错功能。帮助更多家长走出功利误区，帮助更多孩子回归到原生态成长，重新拥有快乐。让更多教育者和家长具备一双“教育慧眼”，给孩子带来更多和谐的可持续发展动力。雷泓霈（时评人）

so,in"The Wolf dad""Eagle dad"Confused many people now,As education authoritative experts ZhuYongXin professor,issued"Can't the north as a symbol of success"voice,You will be enlightened sex/JingShiXing.This kind of authoritative voice has strong wind vane efficacy,And error correction function.Help more parents out of the utilitarian error,To help more children return to original growth,To have a happy.Let more educators and parents have a pair of"Education eye",Give children more harmonious sustainable development power.LeiHongPei(Review people)