心绪难平的时候，小莉会在纸上写满对方的名字再撕个粉碎，可即使这样她仍然觉得不解气，“我就想报复她，是她把我出国的机会抢走了，是她剥夺了我的快乐。”由于这种情绪无法排解，甚至已经影响到了小莉的正常生活和学习，现在的她甚至不想再上学，更不愿意看到这个同学。

When XinXuNanPing,Small li will write on the paper with each other's name and tore a crush,But even so she still don't feel solution spirit,"I just want to revenge for her,Is she gave me the chance to go abroad robbed,Is she deprived of my happiness."Because this kind of mood can't call away,Has even affected small li normal life and learning,Now she even don't want to go to school,More is not willing to see the students.

　　她打电话到12355青少年服务台倾诉，在心理咨询师文清的帮助下，小莉把心中最阴暗一面的想法也倾吐了出来。文清提醒父母，不要只盯着孩子的学习成绩，孩子的耐挫教育更为重要。孩子的耐挫力是在生活中经历的事件养成的，当孩子遭遇挫折时，父母的引导就显得尤为重要。比如同一个舞蹈班的两个小女孩，可能平时的水平差不多，但在比赛中一个拿了第一名，另一个只拿了第二名，第二名的孩子势必会失落，这个时候父母就要主动帮助孩子排解这种失落，让孩子享受跳舞本身所带来的快乐。

She called to 12355 teenagers desk pour out,In the psychological consultation under the help of the ShiWenQing,The small li in the dark side idea also pour out.WenQing remind parents,Don't just stare at the child's academic performance,The children tumbled resistance education is more important.The child's frustration endurance in life is through a events,When a child when setbacks,Parents' guidance is particularly important.Such as the same area for two little girls,May the usual level almost,But in the game a took the first place,Another only took the second place,The second child will lost,This time the parents will be offered to help resolve this lost children,Let the children enjoy the dance itself brings happiness.

　　文清还提醒家长，不要总拿自己的孩子跟其他的孩子作比较，尤其不要拿自家孩子的短处跟别家孩子的长处比。在经历的生活事件中也要不时告诉孩子，努力是必须的，但努力后却不一定能得到自己想要的结果，教会孩子坦然面对生活中的不顺与挫折。扬子晚报记者 薛 玲

WenQing also remind parents,Don't always take their children with other children to compare,Especially do not take their child's shortcomings with another child's strengths than.After life event will tell their children from time to time,Effort is needed,But after hard but can not get the results you want,To teach children to calm in the face of life not and setbacks.Yangzi evening news reporter xue ling