孩子和爸爸一起参加亲子活动。新华社发

Children participate in parent-child activities with my father.The xinhua news agency,

　　一个孩子从生下来，在绝大多数情况下，陪伴他成长最多的是母亲。最近牛津大学的一项研究却发现，如果幼儿从3个月起，父亲能够多多陪伴，会让孩子的行为控制能力更强，攻击性、叛逆性、好动性、反社会等不良行为大大减少。但同时，男人又一直被视为家庭的顶梁柱，整天在为工作而奔波忙碌，能有多少精力和时间花在孩子身上？南京的年轻爸爸们，你们每天会花多少时间来陪伴孩子成长？

A child from birth,In most cases,The most is the mother with his growth.A recent study found that of the university of Oxford,If children since 3 months,Father can accompany,Can let the child's behavior control ability is stronger,aggressive/estabished/Active sex/Greatly reduce anti-social and other bad behavior.But at the same time,Man and has always been regarded as the pillar of the family,All day in the busy for work and travel,Can have how much energy and time in children?Nanjing young dads,How much time you spend every day, to accompany children to grow up?

看看这项研究——父亲陪得多孩子不易叛逆 Look at the study - father with more children is not easy to rebel

　　根据最近牛津大学的一项研究，如果幼儿从3个月起，父亲能够多陪伴左右，孩子在1岁前以至于以后的行为障碍都会更少，如注意缺陷多动障碍、对立违抗障碍、品行障碍等。也就是说，父亲的陪伴会让孩子的行为控制能力更强，攻击性、叛逆性、好动性、反社会等不良行为大大减少。同时，该研究也指出，父亲的这种行为对儿子比对女儿的影响更大。参与研究的专家认为，这可能与男孩在幼年时期更容易感知到父亲的影响有关。目前，这项研究成果已经发表在《儿童心理学杂志》上。

According to a recent study at the university of Oxford,If children since 3 months,Father to accompany,After children before the age of 1 so that the behavior of the obstacles will be less,Such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder/Opposition against obstacles/Conduct disorders, such as.That is to say,Father's company will let the child's behavior control ability is stronger,aggressive/estabished/Active sex/Greatly reduce anti-social and other bad behavior.At the same time,The study also pointed out,The influence of the father of this kind of behavior to son than daughter.To participate in the research of experts say,This may with the boy in the youth period is more likely to perceive the influence of his father.At present,,The results of this research has been published in[Journal of child psychology]On the.

　　记者调查——过半爸爸每天带娃不超1小时

Reporter investigation - half dad every day with Eva does not exceed 1 hour

　　日前，记者随机采访了20个孩子在1岁以下的家庭。其中，有11位爸爸每天陪孩子的时间不超过1小时，7位爸爸每天陪孩子的时间多于1小时但不超过2小时，只有2位爸爸每天带孩子的时间超过2小时。在采访中，不少妈妈甚至呼吁，爸爸应该多花点时间陪宝宝玩，父母的陪伴，对孩子的健康成长肯定有积极作用。天天妈妈告诉记者，天天现在11个月，非常喜欢爸爸跟他玩游戏。“比如‘举高高’的游戏，每次一玩，就疯得不得了，咯咯咯咯直笑。”天天妈说，她有时会故意制造自己很忙的假象，让天天跟爸爸多相处一些时间，毕竟男孩子还是要跟男性多接触些好，这会对孩子以后的性格培养有好处。

Prior to the,Reporter interviewed 20 random under the age of a child in the family.Among them,There are 11 dad every day to accompany the child's time is not more than 1 hour,Seven father with your child every day time more than 1 hour but no more than 2 hours,Only two of the father and children every day time more than 2 hours.In the interview,A mother even appeal,Dad should spend more time to play with the baby,Parents' company,To the healthy growth of the children must have positive role.Everyday mother told reporters,Every day now 11 months,Very much like my father to play games with him."Such as‘For high’The game of,Every time I play,It is crazy to,Luo luo luo luo keep smile."Mama said every day,She sometimes deliberately make oneself busy,To get some more time with dad every day,After all the boys or men to contact more,It is good for the children after the character cultivation.

　　对照看看，你属于哪种爸爸——“1小时”型 Contrast to see,You belong to what kind of father --"1 hour"type

　　基本每天只有1小时陪孩子 Basic only 1 hour a day with your child

　　葡萄爸爸，是典型的每天“1小时”陪孩子型。葡萄妈妈区女士告诉记者，老公在江北上班，说起来是朝九晚五，实际上每天7点钟就要出门，晚上7点钟才能到家。“也就吃完晚饭那会，他还能抱会儿孩子，等到8点半之后，就轮到我来哄孩子睡觉。”

Grapes, dad,Is a typical day"1 hour"Type with your child.Grapes mum area lady told reporters,The husband go to work in the jiangbei,It is a nine to five,In fact every day at 7 o 'clock to go out,To get home at 7 o 'clock in the evening."Is it after supper,He can also embrace children for a while,Wait until after at half past eight,And it's my turn to make the child to sleep."

　　到了周末，葡萄爸爸在带孩子方面也是能偷懒就偷懒。因为葡萄才10个月大，还属于比较难带的阶段，葡萄爸爸宁愿做家务也不愿长时间带孩子。“他几乎把所有家务都包下了，孩子就一直黏着我。”区女士说。

At the weekend,Grapes, dad also can lazy lazy in children.Because of the grape is only ten months old,Also belong to difficult to take the stage,Grapes dad would rather do housework than children for a long time."He almost wrapped all the housework,Children have been hit me."District says ms.

　　“两地分居”型 每两周回老家看一次孩子 "separation"- once every two weeks back to see children

　　球球的爸爸妈妈都是外地人，大学毕业后留在南京打拼，工作都比较忙。球球4个月大时，妈妈产假结束，因为不放心保姆带孩子，老人又无法到南京来，无奈之下，球球爸爸叶先生只能让孩子跟着爷爷奶奶回老家淮安。从那以后，每两个礼拜，叶先生和爱人就会开车回一趟淮安，看望孩子，顺便陪陪孩子。

The ball ball of mom and dad are foreigners,After graduation from the university in nanjing,Work is busy.The ball ball 4 months old,Mother maternity leave end,Because you do not rest assured children babysitter,The old man to come to nanjing again,But under,Mr Ball ball father leaves can only let the children follow grandpa's grandmother home huaian.From then on,Every two weeks,Mr Leaves and lover will drive back to a trip to huaian,See the child,By the way, play with children.

　　像叶先生这样与孩子分隔两地的，自然陪孩子时间不多。有的即便是住在一起，但因为爸爸经常要出差、应酬多，几天碰不到孩子的面也都是正常的事情。

Like Mr Separated with their children,Natural accompany children don't have much time.Some even live together,But because dad is often on a business trip/With more than,A few days can't touch the child's face also is normal things.

　　“亲密”型 “家庭煮夫”同样有成就 "close"type "Home cooking,"Also have achievements

　　当然，并不是所有的爸爸都如此忙碌又没有耐心。笑笑的爸爸，绝对是爸爸中的“超人”。“笑笑妈妈工作比较忙，我就成了‘家庭煮夫’。她休完产假后，笑笑基本就是我带得多。”

Of course,,Not all of the father is so busy and have no patience.Smile of the father,Absolutely is the father of"superman"."Laughed mother to work a little busy,I have become‘Home cooking,’.After divorce her maternity leave,Smile basic is I take much more."

　　笑笑爸爸说，花时间在女儿身上，是一件非常有成就感的事情，笑笑现在可爱黏着他了。“笑笑9个月，妈妈出门上班时，她从来不哭。可是，我要是出门没带她又被她看见的话，那就惨了，她会哭得那叫一个伤心啊！10个月时，笑笑会喊爸爸了，一看见我就‘爸爸爸爸’不停地叫着，我开心得不得了。”

Smile father said,Spend time on his daughter,Is a very has the sense of achievement,Smile lovely gelling him now."Smile nine months,Mother go out to work,She never cries.but,If I didn't take her to go out and see by her words,It is terrible,She will cry that call a sad ah!Ten months,Smile will call dad,A saw me‘Dad dad’The incessant barking with,I've had such a happy."

　　专家：千金万金不如多花时间陪孩子 experts:Daughter from doesn't spend time with children

　　“我们遇到的现实案例中，3岁以后这种现象更明显。”12355南京青少年综合服务台专家文清很赞同这个观点。她说，因为怀孕、母乳等原因，孩子在3岁前往往对母亲更依恋。

"We meet the reality of the case,Three years after this kind of phenomenon is more obvious."12355 nanjing youth comprehensive service expert wen qing is very agree with this point of view.She said,Because pregnancy/Milk and other reasons,Children are often more attachment to mother before 3 years old.

　　但3岁后，孩子的第一个心理期出现，开始叛逆，有了“我”的概念，并趋于模仿。文清举例说，比如孩子会模仿同性的行为。因为工作等原因造成父亲角色的缺失后，母亲对孩子会特别依恋，情感容易发生异化，孩子也会过于依赖母亲，甚至可能传染母亲的焦虑情绪，进入第一个叛逆期。

But after 3 years old,The child's first psychological period,Began to rebel,There is a"I"The concept of,And tend to imitate.Wen qing, for example,Such as the child will imitate the behavior of the gay.Because work causes such as the lack of a father figure,Mother will special attachment to the child,Emotional prone to alienation,Children will also depend on the mother,May even infected mother's anxiety,Enter the first rebellious period.

　　而第二个叛逆期则是青春期，也就是孩子人格塑造的时候。“这时候，母亲由于情感过于细腻、过度集中在吃喝拉撒上，孩子往往更需要父亲的果敢、坚强、对事业的执着等精神作为引领。比如父亲可以与孩子一起踢球、成长、参加学校各项事务、为孩子出谋划策等，让孩子在团体活动中有一定担当。”文清表示，如果没有父亲陪伴影响就会很大。因为大多数情况下，母亲是无法承担这一角色的。

The second rebellious period is the period of adolescence,Is also the time when children figuring personality."At this time,Mother because emotions too delicate/Excessive concentration on eat and drink pull scatter,Children tend to be more need to father's resolute/strong/To the cause of the persistent spirit, such as lead.Such as father can play with children/Grow up/To take part in school affairs/For children, etc,Let the child have a bear in the group activities."Wen qing said,If there is no father influence will be great.Because in most cases,Mother is unable to undertake this role.

　　“我们接触到的案例中，有的孩子甚至非常排斥父亲，把父亲当成竞争对手来竞争母亲。”文清说，有的父亲说自己忙死了，每次陪孩子玩就像完成任务。其实父亲给孩子千金万金，不如多给点时间和爱心、耐心。 (记者 施婷婷 报道）

"In case we come into contact with,Some children even rejected his father very much,The father mother as competitors to compete."Wen qing said,Some said the father himself busy,Every time I play with children as to complete the task.Actually my father to daughter away from children,As well as give some more time and love/patience. (Reporter ShiTingTing reports)