记者 谭萍 实习生 叶玢 刘艳艳

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　　生日是孩子成长路上的小脚印，快乐而有意义。不过，现在越来越多的孩子过生日相互攀比，档次愈来愈高、场面愈来愈大，把生日当成了“花钱日”、“狂购日”、“请客日”……不少家长在纠结的同时也困惑着：生日拿什么送给你，我的孩子？

Birthday is children to grow up the way small footprints,Happy and meaningful.but,Now more and more children's birthday "keep up with the joneses" each other,Class more and more high/Scene more and more big,As the birthday"Spend days"/"Crazy purchase,"/"Treat,"...Many parents in the swirly also puzzling:Birthday take what to you,My child?

5岁宝宝过生日要开“盛大party” 5 years old birthday baby want to open"Grand party"

　　这几天，“搭乘”圣诞节、元旦节的商家促销活动，郑州居民李女士正在“疯狂”采购。

These days,"aboard"Christmas/New Year's day business promotion,Zhengzhou residents ms. Li is"crazy"purchasing.

　　“已经花了两三千啦，为了孩子，还得继续准备呀！”李女士笑了一下说。她所说的“准备”，是在为5岁的儿子宁宁准备生日party。

"Have spent a 23000 la,For the children,Still have to continue to prepare ah!"Ms. Li smiled said.She said"Ready to",Is in for 5 year old son she prepare birthday party.

　　宁宁的生日在1月中旬，他打算请幼儿园全班35名小朋友一起来家里参加宴会。为给儿子好好准备生日party，李女士提前一个月就开始采购物品。“得买装饰品把家里打扮打扮，烘托气氛吧；得买零食、甜点让孩子宴会中间吃吧；得给每个小朋友送礼物吧；还得订个大蛋糕吧……”李女士掰着手指头，一样一样细数。

She's birthday in the middle of January,He is going to please the kindergarten class 35 children come home to a party.For son to prepare for the birthday party,Ms. Li one month in advance began to purchase items."Need to buy the home decoration to dress up,Foil atmosphere,;Must buy snacks/Dessert let children eat among party;Have to give every child's gift;Still have to make a big cake..."Ms. Li bye to his finger,Like fine number.

　　为什么要给儿子如此“奢侈”地过生日？李女士告诉记者，去年8月份，宁宁班上有小朋友过生日，请全班同学大吃一顿，还请去游乐场玩，每个小朋友还都领到一个大大的卡通公仔。“孩子开心之余，在幼儿园里也觉得倍儿有面子，其他小朋友也都比着这样过生日。”李女士说，她不想让孩子被比下去，更不想让孩子失望，所以要帮儿子办个“盛大”的生日宴会。

Why do you want to give son so"luxury"Birthday to?Ms. Li told reporters,Last August,She have children in the class birthday,Please the whole class a good meal,Please go to the playground to play,Every child is also were brought a big cartoon figures."The children more than happy,In the kindergarten also feel very have face,The other kids are better than such birthday."Ms. Li said,She doesn't want to let the child is better than it,More don't want to let the child down,So to help do a son"grand"Birthday party.

生日分派礼物，父母“鸭梨山大” Birthday gift assigned,parents"Pears shandong"

　　记者随机调查15位幼儿园孩子的家长，9位表示要为孩子的生日准备礼物派发给班上的小朋友，6位称要请孩子的好朋友一起聚会。说起派发礼物，家长们直喊“鸭梨山大”。

Reporter random survey 15 kindergarten children's parents,Nine said to the child's birthday gift to send to the children in the class,Six say to please the child's good friends party.Speaking of distributing gifts,Parents keep shout"Pears shandong".

　　“快别提生日了，一提生日我就紧张。”坐在电脑前，冯女士一边淘宝“儿童玩具”，一边向记者大倒苦水。“我女儿上幼儿园大班，第一年生日还好，只是请了几个小朋友一起吃蛋糕。第二年范围就扩大了，给全班小朋友送礼物，这个"习惯"坚持两三年了，卡通玩偶、动漫书我们都送过了，今年我得上网瞅瞅有啥好玩又实惠的玩具没。”说着，冯女士叹了口气。

"Don't mention birthday,Mention birthday I will nervous."Sit in front of the computer,Ms feng while taobao"Children's toys",Side to the reporter grumble."My daughter is in kindergarten class,The first annual day is good,Just please several children eat cake together.The second year is enlarged the scope,To the class of children gifts,this"habit"Adhere to the two or three years,Cartoon dolls/Cartoon book we are given before,This year I have to surf the Internet Chou Chou have what fun and economical toy didn't."said,Von lady sighed.

　　冯女士女儿班上有30多个小朋友，买礼物的花销可不小。但，在冯女士看来，最痛苦的不是花钱多少，而是不知道要选些什么礼物。“不能送得太便宜，要不显得没档次，可也不能太贵，消费不起呀。”她抱怨道，每年都要死一堆脑细胞，“真费劲啊！”

Von lady daughter more than 30 children in the class,The cost of buying gifts not small.but,In the von women seem,The most painful is not how much money,But don't know what to choose a gift."Can't send too cheap,Don't appear no class,But not too expensive,Consumption not ah."She complained,A pile of brain cells die every year,"Really difficult ah!"

　　家长刘先生对孩子过生日，给全班小朋友分派礼物也是头疼不已。让他感到难过的是，家长们绞尽脑汁买的礼物，孩子们不过只是新鲜几天，之后就被“打入冷宫”。“真是浪费！”

The parents to the child's birthday liu,To the class of children assigned gift is also a headache.Let him feel is sad,Parents rack one's brains to buy gifts,The children but only fresh for a few days,After he was"Toyed with"."It's a waste of!"

过生日不求奢华，而要追求有意义 Birthday not costly,And to the pursuit of sense

　　给孩子过“奢华”生日，对此，郑州市教育学会学习心理研究会首席咨询师王海勇表示，“家长不能盲目跟风，最好以自己的方式给孩子过生日。”在他看来，家长盲目跟风，以分派礼物的方式为孩子过生日，不仅给家长带来压力，还会养成孩子不好的习惯，形成盲目攀比的风气。

Give children a"costly"birthday,this,Zhengzhou education learning to learn psychological research chief consultant WangHaiYong said,"Parents can not blindly follow suit,Best with their own way to give their child's birthday."In his view,Parents blindly follow suit,To dispatch the form of gifts for their child's birthday,Parents not only to bring pressure,Also will get into the habit of bad children,Form blind vie atmosphere.

　　王海勇建议，给孩子过生日，更重要的是给予孩子精神上的成长，而不仅仅是物质上的满足。“家长应引导孩子，生日最好在家里过，要过得有意义，比如感恩父母、让孩子独立去完成一件事情等，要注意的是，父母一定不能缺席孩子的生日。”他说。

WangHaiYong Suggestions,Give their child's birthday,More important is to give children spiritual growth,Not just material to meet."Parents should guide their children,The best birthday at home,To have a meaningful,Such as Thanksgiving parents/Let the child independent to do one thing, etc,To pay attention to is,Parents must not miss the child's birthday."He said.

　　有着12年幼教经验的吴老师则建议，不如办“集体生日”，让孩子们学会分享。他举例说，每个月选择一天，集体为在这个月出生的孩子过生日，让孩子们互赠礼物，或者彼此鼓励、祝福，唱歌、跳舞、吃蛋糕，不仅能享受到过生日的快乐，还能体会到集体的欢乐。

With 12 years teaching experience of Mr Wu is recommended,Do not"Collective birthday",Let the children learn to share.He said one example,Choose a day every month,Collective is in this month's child's birthday,Let the children to give each other presents,Or encourage each other/blessing,singing/dancing/Eat cake,Not only can enjoy the happy birthday,Can experience the joy of the collective.

　　“现在的孩子多是独生子女，其实他们更渴望和小伙伴们一起分享。而集体生日最重要的，就是让孩子们体味到分享的快乐。”吴老师说。

"Now the children are only children,In fact they are more desire and friends to share.And collective birthday is the most important,Is to let the children to appreciate the joy of sharing."Mr Wu said.

不妨试试这些办法 Might as well try these measures

　　生日该拿什么送给孩子？还在纠结和困惑的家长们，试试下面这些办法吧。

Birthday this take what to children?Also in the realm of parents and confusion,Try these something.

　　送好书。根据孩子的需要买本书，写上赠言送给孩子。

Send good books.According to the child's need to buy a book,Write the message to the child.

　　送父母亲手制作的礼物，比如贺卡，而且准备一个漂亮的袋子放进去，保存起来，下一年再送的都装一起。

Send parents personally make gift,Such as card,And prepare a beautiful bag in,store,The next year again send are put together.

　　送劳动工具，让孩子从小培养动手能力，热爱劳动。

Send instruments of labor,Let the child train the students' practical ability,Love labor.

　　让孩子为长辈做一件好事，比如讲妈妈怀胎十月的艰辛，指导孩子给妈妈做一件小礼品，写一封感谢信等，让孩子学会感恩，感受亲情。

Let the child for elders do a good deed,Such as a mother in the hardships of October,Guide children to mother do a small gift,Write a thank-you note, etc,Let children learn to be grateful,Feel love.

　　外出旅游。父母带孩子一起出去游玩，最好让孩子选择地点，拍摄照片，做本“生日影集”，再写下成长的格言或来年愿望。

traveling.Parents with children go out to play,It is better to let the child choose location,photograph,Do this"Birthday series",Then write down the motto of the growth in the coming year or desire.

　　“如果真想举办生日聚会，人员不用太多，10个孩子就足够了，聚会时间也不要过长。”吴老师认为，一个小时的生日聚会已经足够了，而且要把孩子午睡的时间考虑进去，最好把聚会的时间安排在上午10~11点，或者安排在下午3点之后。他建议，在聚会上，多给孩子充分的时间进行一些趣味游戏、手工制作和表演，甚至可以添加知识竞答环节。

"If you really want to have a birthday party,Personnel need not too much,Ten children is enough,Party time also don't too long."Mr Wu think,An hour's birthday party is enough,And the children of the siesta time into consideration,The best party time arrangement in the morning 10 to 11 points,Or arrangement in the afternoon after 3 o 'clock.He suggested that,At the party,Give children sufficient time for some funny games/Handmade, and performance,Even can add knowledge correct link.

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