小朋友便后排长队等老师擦屁股 Children and teachers queue back bottoms

　　上个世纪70年代，我国开始实施“一对夫妇只生一个孩子”的计划生育政策。随着时间流逝，中国第一代独生子女(简称“独一代”)，如今进入了“而立之年”，其中一些人已经成家立业、养育后代。“独一代”夫妇生育的下一代独生子女，被称为“独二代”。

In the late 70 s,China began to implement"A couple just give birth to a child"Family planning policy.As time goes by,China's first generation of only children(Referred to as"One generation"),Has entered into"Thirty years of age",Some people have a fond memory/Raising offspring."One generation"The next generation of one-child family couple,called"Only the second generation".

　　“独一代”曾因个性十足而备受争议。如今的“独二代”是否摒弃了父辈的弱点？抑或比父辈更令人担忧？从今天起，本报推出《关注“独二代”成长》系列报道，聚焦正在成长中的“独二代”。

"One generation"Once for individual character is dye-in-the-wood and controversial.Today's"Only the second generation"If parents abandoned the weakness?Or more worrying than parents?From this day onwards,The launch[attention"Only the second generation"growth]Series of reports,Focus is growing"Only the second generation".

　　“老师，擦屁股。”1月17日，位于渝北龙溪镇的金龙理想幼儿园里，便后等待老师擦屁股的小朋友排成了长队，场面十分搞笑。

"The teacher,bottoms."January 17,,Is located in the town of stream YuBei jinlong ideal in the kindergarten,After waiting for the teacher bottoms of children in the queue,The scene is very funny.

　　幼儿园老师张静说，这样的情景每天都会出现。“不仅如此，吃饭的时候，有一半以上的孩子要我们喂才能吃饱；午睡的时候，有些孩子还要老师哄一哄；起床的时候，大多数孩子要等着老师穿衣服、穿鞋子。”

Kindergarten teacher zhang jing said,Such a scene will appear every day."Not only that,eat,More than half of the children to we feed to eat satisfied;Nap time,Some children and teachers to a fool;Get up,Most children waiting for the teacher to wear clothes/Wear shoes."

　　从事幼儿教育近20年的张静说，与十年前甚至几年前的孩子相比，现在的孩子在自理能力、与人相处等方面越来越差。“在我所接触的幼儿园中，这是一个普遍现象。”

Engaged in preschool education nearly twenty years of zhang jing said,With ten years ago and even a few years ago than children,Now children in self-care ability/Get along with people is more and more bad, etc."In my contact in the kindergarten,This is a common phenomenon."

逾七成“独一代”父母“只生不养” More than seventy percent"One generation"parents"Only born without a"

　　孩子自理能力越来越差原因何在？

Self-care ability, more and more poor children why?

　　张静分析说，现在幼儿园的孩子基本上都属于“独二代”。

Zhang jing analysis said,Now the kindergarten children basically all belong to"Only the second generation".

　　从自理能力和性格上来看，很容易判断出一个孩子是由父母带大还是老人带大的，“通常，由老人带大的孩子自理能力比较差，性格容易暴躁，语言表达能力也相对弱一些。不信，早上上学时，你到幼儿园门口看看就知道了。”

Self-care ability and character from the point of view,Very easy to tell a child is brought up by their parents or the old man with big,"usually,The old man with a big child self-care ability is poor,Character irritable,Language ability is relatively weak some.Don't believe,When going to school in the morning,You see the door to the kindergarten to know."

　　1月18日一大早，在幼儿园的门口，记者看到这样的一幕：孩子们像小鸟一样连蹦带跳跑在前边，老人们拎着小书包尾随其后，不时招呼“慢点，别摔着”。待小孩在教室坐定后，老人一边帮忙收拾小书包，一边叮嘱孩子要听话，多喝水，热了就脱衣服，吃饭要吃饱，上厕所就找老师……

1 month and day early in the morning,The door of the gate of the kindergarten,The reporter sees this scene:The children like a bird up and down in excitement run in the front,Old people carry small bag tag along,From time to time called"slowly,Don't drop the".For the child in the classroom after sit quietly,One of the old man to help pick up small bag,Side told the children to obey,Drink more water,Hot take off clothes,Eat to eat satisfied,The toilet is to find the teacher...

　　记者随机走访了市内的多家幼儿园后得知，有超过2/3的孩子和爷爷奶奶或外公外婆生活在一起，即隔代抚养。

Reporters visited the city random several kindergarten after that,More than two-thirds of the children and grandpa grandma or grandpa and grandma live together,Every generation is raising.

　　据《中国妇女》杂志最新公布的一组关于“独二代”的调查数据显示，目前，中国有超过70%的年轻父母“只生不养”，抚养孩子的重任全部由家中的老人承担。其中，孩子主要由爷爷奶奶照料的占42.1%，由外公外婆带大的占29.8%，由妈妈照顾的仅占15.8%，还有的是“全家总动员”。

According to[Chinese women]A group of latest magazine about"Only the second generation"The survey data show,At present,China has more than 70% of the young parents"Only born without a",The responsibility of bringing up children all by the home for the old man.the,The child is mainly composed of grandpa's grandmother care accounted for 42.1%,The grandpa and grandma take big accounted for 29.8%,The mother to take care of only 15.8%,Still have a plenty of"Family general mobilization".

70%的隔代抚养不成功 70% of every generation raising is not successful

　　“在我国，70%的‘隔代抚养’都不成功。”这是中国青少年研究中心副主任孙云晓，在对“独二代性格养成”的调研报告进行分析后得出的结论。

"In our country,70% of the‘Throwback raising’Are not successful."This is China youth research center, deputy director of the SunYunXiao,In the"Only the second generation character form"After analyzing the investigation report the conclusion.

　　这项调查是由中国青少年研究中心课题组于去年上半年完成的，调查对象为京津沪5000多名隔代抚养的“独二代”。

The survey was conducted by China youth research center in research in the first half of last year completed,Survey for the beijing-tianjin Shanghai more than 5000 every generation of raising"Only the second generation".

　　调查显示，一方面，隔代抚养容易养成孩子任性、自私、为所欲为的性格，不利于孩子独立人格和坚强生活意志的培养；另一方面，隔代抚养常常使孩子的情感需求得不到满足，从而产生情感偏差，不利于孩子的健康成长。此外，隔代抚养还使得大多数孩子表现出懒惰、自理能力差、不善与人交际、语言表达能力差等问题。

Investigation shows that,On the one hand,Every generation to bring up a child capricious/selfish/Get one's own way character,Against child independent personality and strong will to live training;On the other hand,Every generation of raising often make the child's emotional needs are not being met,Thus to have an emotional deviation,To a child's healthy growth.In addition,Every generation of raising also makes most children show lazy/Self-care ability is poor/With poor communication/Issues such as language skills.

　　孙云晓指出，除了调查报告的数据之外，近年来发生的一系列极端事件也充分暴露了隔代抚养的弊端：如去年年初，广州花都区东镇一名15岁的女生因嫌奶奶唠叨，又不给零花钱，竟然将奶奶掐死，为掩盖罪行，她还纵火烧屋逃跑；再如2011年5月，广西南宁的6名少年入室盗窃一家音像制品门店，盗窃财物达27000多元。他们中年纪最大的15岁，最小的12岁，均是由祖辈抚养的“独二代”。

SunYunXiao pointed out that,In addition to report data outside,In recent years, a series of extreme events happened also fully exposed the partition and the disadvantages of raising:At the beginning of last year as,Guangzhou huadu district, east town a 15-year-old girl from too grandma nagging,And don't give money,When grandma strangled,To cover up the crime,She also set fire to house run;Be like again in May 2011,Guangxi nanning six young burglary a audio and video products store,Stolen property 27000 multivariate.In their oldest 15 years old,Minimum 12 years old,Are the ancestors of the support"Only the second generation".

　　据另一项资料显示，中国60%以上的失足少年与隔代老人育孙不当有关。有些犯罪少年就是在隔代老人“护”着的情况下，一步步走向深渊的。

According to another data shows,China more than 60% of the young and the old man slip every generation education about him not.Some of the young is a crime in the next generation of old man"guard"Under the condition of the,Step by step towards the abyss.

“隔代抚养”为啥不成功？ "Throwback raising"Why don't succeed?

　　为什么“隔代抚养”让“独二代”毛病重重呢？

why"Throwback raising"let"Only the second generation"Problem many??

　　21世纪教育研究院副院长、著名青少年教育专家熊丙奇认为：“在‘隔代抚养’中，不少老人认为自己年轻时吃了苦，现在有条件了，就一定要把孙儿辈照顾得无微不至孩子还没觉得渴，老人就已把水送到嘴边；户外活动，目不转睛地盯着孩子，不让他们跑得太快，站得太高……正是因为老人照顾得过细、过多，孩子自理能力极差，成为一个个名副其实的‘寄生虫’。这对孩子的一生都是有百害而无一利的。

The 21st century education research institute vice President/Famous youth education experts XiongBingJi think:"in‘Throwback raising’in,Many old people think you young when eat bitter,Now there are conditions,It must be his grandchildren took so much care children haven't feel thirsty,The old man has put the water to her lips;Outdoor activities,Staring at the children,Don't let them run too fast,Stand too high...It is for the old man to take care of carefully/Too much,The child physical ability is poor,Become a worthy of the name‘parasites’.The child's life are the nothing but harm of the.

　　专门从事“独二代”现象研究的中国青少年研究中心专家孙宏艳则认为，“隔代抚养”容易导致两个极端：一是老人在生活方面照顾得过于细致，事事以孙子孙女为中心，会使孩子的探索欲望无法得到满足，容易养成自私、任性的毛病，也容易使孩子产生依赖心理，将来难以融入社会。二是有的老人年纪大了，精力有限，对孩子照顾不过来，就容易让孩子产生被忽视的心理，感受不到亲情的温暖，从而导致孤僻、冷漠、自闭等心理问题，给其性格养成和一生的发展带来极其不利的影响。(记者 韩成栋 李志峰)

Specializes in"Only the second generation"Phenomenon of the China youth research center SunHongYan experts is considered,"Throwback raising"Easy to cause the two extremes:One is the old man in life care too careful,Everything with grandchildren as the center,Can make the child's desire to explore cannot be satisfied,Easy to form a selfish/Willful fault,Also easy to make the child have dependent psychology,The future is difficult to blend in society.The second is some old man in old age,Energy co., LTD.,,Take care not to come over to the child,It is easy to let the child have neglected the psychological,Feel the warmth of love,Resulting in solitary/cold/Autistic and psychological problems,To its character and the development of a life bring very adverse effects.(Reporter HanCheng LiZhiFeng building)