新华网太原１２月２８日电（王菲菲 白岩 刘翔霄）中国人习惯将年底称为”年关”，每到这时，刚刚步入社会的年轻人尤其“压力山大”，年终考核、婚恋问题、人情份子钱等“年终的烦恼”着实让他们叫苦不迭。

Xinhuanet taiyuan December and report(WangFeiFei white rock LiuXiangXiao)Chinese people will be called at the end of the year"The end of the year",Every at this time,Just entering a society of young people especially"Pressure shandong",Year-end appraisal/Marriage problems/Human member's money, etc"Year-end troubles"Really let them complain incessantly.

　　供职于山西太原某国有商业银行的王楠，月底前还有近千万元业务需完成。为使成绩单别太难看，王楠日前被派往总行做协调，既要为支行完成业务，又要承担总行的部分工作，常忙至深夜。可疲惫并未让她更安心，“能完成定额吗？”是压在王楠心里的一块大石。

Shanxi taiyuan worked in a state-owned commercial bank's wang nan,Before the end of the month and nearly ten million yuan business complete.In order to make the report card don't ugly,Wang nan has been sent to the head office to do coordination,Not only for branch complete business,And to bear part of the head office work,Often busy far into the night.But tired did not let her more at ease,"Can finish quota?"Is pressure in wang nan heart a piece of stone.

　　像王楠这样的白领不在少数，在太原从事销售的张子健年底回看年初计划，才突然发现一年进步实在乏善可陈，职位、收入没有上升，新的销售空间也没找到……张子健近日一直在思考是否改行：做下去会折磨自己，可养家糊口又使其不敢改弦更张。张子健无奈地说：“纠结。”

Like wang nan such white-collar is not a few,In taiyuan in sales by the end of ZhangZiJian back early see plan,Just suddenly found a year are certainly nothing to progress,position/Income has not risen,The new sales space also didn't find……ZhangZiJian recently have been thinking is changed:It will torment yourself,Can support a family and make it can't make a fresh start.ZhangZiJian reluctantly said:"ravel."

　　“每到年终的时候，职场白领一年累积下来的压力到达顶点，而此时往往也是竞争最为激烈的时候。一旦自己没有成功的话，焦虑、烦躁情绪也就在所难免。”南开大学社会心理学系副教授杜林致分析说。

"Every year's,Workplace white-collar one year of accumulated to the pressure of vertices,This is often the most competitive.If they don't succeed,anxiety/Be agitated sentiment is unavoidable."Nankai university associate professor, department of social psychology during the analysis says.

　　事实上，年轻人面临的不仅仅是工作上的烦恼，单身青年的婚恋难题和中国人情社会的“份子钱”也困扰着他们。

In fact,Young people face is not only the work of trouble,Single young marriage problem and human society in China"Member's money"Also bothering them.

　　日前，一项由某知名网站所做的“你是哪一种单身？”的调查显示，近三成的２５－４０岁的单身人群“不快乐”。眼下正值年终岁尾，“１２－１２世纪示爱日”“平安夜”“情人节”等“情侣专属日”，更让不少已因年终工作繁忙而上火的单身青年们，平添一份焦虑与烦躁。

a,A survey by a famous website do"You are what kind of single?"Survey shows that,Nearly thirty percent of 25 - years old single people"Not happy".At the moment when the tail and head of the year-end,"12 - the 12th century, and love""Christmas Eve""Valentine's day"etc"Couple exclusive,",More let many already for year-end work busy and fire single young people,Smooth buy a anxiety and irritable.

　　“什么‘单身贵族’‘单身女王’，单身好不好，自己最清楚。”今年已２７岁的杨雪宜，至今仍是孑然一人。在西部某省级电视台工作的她，“世纪示爱日”那天采访归来后便感冒发烧。“为采访新人，单身的我却病倒了，自己出去买药时真挺郁闷。”小杨说。

"what‘Lone noble’‘Single queen’,Single well,Their most clear."This year has been YangXueYi 27,Is still alone one person.In the west a provincial television work of she,"Century make love,"The day after returning from the interview and the cold has a fever."Interview for new,Single but I fell ill,When you go to buy medicine is quite depressed."Xiao Yang said.

　　更郁闷的是，自己单身不说，还得为别人的婚礼随份子钱。“年底了，婚帖不停地收啊！”这是在天津做公务员的陆春烨最近更新的一条ＱＱ状态。陆春烨说，他现在收到的婚帖已排到了下个月。

More depressed is,His single not,It must be someone else's wedding SuiFenZi money."The end of the year,Marriage for keep the ah!"This is in tianjin civil servants do LiuChunYe recently updated a QQ state.LiuChunYe said,He is now received marriage thread has already arranged to the next month.

　　“结婚随份子钱是中国人情社会的一个很重要的体现，但在一定程度上给人们造成了很大负担。”杜林致说，“面对年底扎堆结婚，随礼人应放平心态，根据自己和对方的实际情况随礼。对办婚宴的人来说，不应过分看重礼钱，更不应指望从中赚钱。”

"Marriage SuiFenZi money is China human society an important reflect,But in a certain extent caused great burden to people."Said during the,"In the face of the end of the year gather together marry,Along with the ceremony should put it flat mentality,According to the actual situation of themselves and each other with courtesy.To do the reception people,Should not be too much valued gift money,More should not expect to make money."

　　对于年轻人们遭遇的这些“年终的烦恼”，杜林致认为，这其实是一种心理失衡的反应。焦虑者应正视现实，允许这种情绪出现并结束，同时制订计划，把焦点转移到其他事情上。根据自己找出的造成焦虑的原因，制定有效方案祛除焦虑。同时，不要忘记寻求上级或可信赖的亲友的帮助。

For young people encounter of these"Year-end troubles",To think during,It is a kind of psychological unbalance response.Anxiety should face the reality,Allow that emotion appeared and end,At the same time make plan,The focus on other things.According to their own to find out the cause of the cause of anxiety,To make effective dispel anxiety scheme.At the same time,Don't forget to seek the superior or trusted friends and family help.