孩子在幼儿园被打，大多数家长会怎样处理呢？近日一则仅90字、反对孩子被打后还手的“规劝帖”，透露了幼儿家长们的心思。

孩子在幼儿园被打,Most of the parents how to deal with?Recently a 90 words only/Opposed to strike back after the child was playing"To post",Revealed the mind of the children parents.

　　4月2日，本地一家论坛上一则《“别个打你你就还手”这样教伢对不对？》的帖子发表，帖子仅90字，作者“cxgsx0005 ”对教孩子还手的家长很不齿，他“真心劝这些家长，孩子是在不断的挫折中积累长大的，不要教孩子这些不好的东西！”不想这则短帖引发了近一个月的大讨论，点击率过万，有近300位父母参与了讨论，其中大部分强烈反对作者的观点。

4月2日,A local story on the BBS["Another hit you you strike back"So teach Ya right?]The post is published,Post only 90 words,The author"cxgsx0005 "Strike back of parents to teach children is beneath contempt,he"Sincerely advise the parents,Children grew up in continuous setbacks accumulation,Don't teach children these bad things!"Don't want this short post triggered debate for nearly a month,Click past thousands,Nearly 300 parents participated in the discussion,Most strongly against the author's point of view.

　　记者翻看近300位家长的回帖，同时采访了35位幼儿家长发现，支持“人不犯我，我不犯人，人若犯我，我必犯人”的家长占八成。

记者翻看近300位家长的回帖,At the same time interviewed 35 children parents find out,support"People don't make me,I'm not the prisoner,If people attack me,I will be the prisoner"Eighty percent of parents.

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　　家住汉口同馨花园，在体育馆某三甲医院工作的蔡先生是坚决“还手派”。

家住汉口同馨花园,One of 3 armour hospital work Mr. Tsai is determined in the gym"Strike back to send".

　　蔡先生表示，自己女儿刚上幼儿园时，总被班上同一男生欺负，放学时总是哭着回家。“我对她说，受了欺负一定要还手。”次日，女儿回家又是一顿哭泣，并说打不赢对方。“我鼓励她，打不赢就咬！”隔天，蔡先生被老师请到办公室，说女儿把同学咬出了血，对方家长很不满。蔡先生提着大包小包的礼物登门道歉，付了近千元的医疗费。回到家，蔡先生却表扬了孩子。

蔡先生表示,My daughter started kindergarten,Always be the same boy in the class bully,When the school is always crying to go home."I said to her,Received the bullying must strike back."The next day,Daughter came home a cry again,And say dozen don't win the other party."I encouraged her to,Dozen don't win just bite!"The next day,Mr CAI, please come to office by the teacher,Daughter said to the students out of the blood,The other parents.Mr. CAI ascend a door apology carrying bags of gifts,Paid for the treatment for nearly one thousand yuan.Back to home,Mr CAI has praised the child.

　　如今，蔡先生的孩子已经6岁，即将从幼儿园毕业，3年来，其女儿再没有被幼儿园其他小朋友故意欺负过。可谓是“一咬定乾坤”。

如今,Mr. CAI child is 6 years old,Is about to graduate from kindergarten,For three years,His daughter haven't been to other kindergarten intentionally bully.is"Once bitten qiankun".

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　　记者在新桥幼儿园、丁字桥幼儿园观摩两日，观察孩子自己是如何解决争端的。

记者在新桥幼儿园/Kindergarten t bridge watch two days,Look at children is how to resolve the dispute.

　　记者总结大概有三种情况。第一种是遭遇到抢玩具，大部分孩子抢不到，会去选择玩别的，并不会演变成互打。

记者总结大概有三种情况.The first is to grab the toys,The majority of children not rob,Will choose to play something else,Does not turn into each other.

　　第二种在玩闹过程中，被打疼了，或者打不过，孩子会大叫老师。

第二种在玩闹过程中,Has been hurt,Or beat,Children shouted the teacher.

　　第三种是两个孩子发生争执，被揪一下耳朵或者被拍头，进而演变成互打，这时旁边的同学会抢着报告老师。

第三种是两个孩子发生争执,By ripping up the ear or gets the head,Then evolved into each other,At this time next to the homecoming to report to the teacher.

　　记者观察后，最大的心得就是，孩子不会记仇，互相对打过的孩子，在几分钟后又能愉快地玩在一起。

记者观察后,The greatest result is,Children will not bear grudges,Kumite each other's children,After a few minutes can play happily together again.

直击 Seem to have

　　幼教专家、新桥幼儿园园长“武昌区第四届名师”秦丽和副园长徐毛莉说，孩子之间互相打闹，是一件再正常不过的事情。在这个过程中，可以锻炼孩子解决问题和社会交往能力，而家长教唆孩子被打必须得还回去，把成人世界观强加到孩子的世界里，这样的处理办法简单又粗暴，很不利于孩子成长。

幼教专家/Newbridge, the kindergarten"The fourth famous wuchang district"Qin Li and deputy director Xu Maoli said,Children between the hitting each other,Is a normal thing.In the process,Can train children to solve problems and social intercourse ability,And parents taught children be dozen must get it back,Impose adult world outlook to the world of children,This treatment method simple and crude,Very bad for children to grow up.

　　但如果涉及到安全问题，家长则需要及时阻止。对于喜欢动手的孩子，如果在幼儿园，需要家长和学校共同协调，找出该孩子的症结所在，避免此类事件的再次发生。如不在幼儿园，被打孩子的家长需及时通报对方家长，如屡教不听，则应让孩子不再跟其玩耍。

但如果涉及到安全问题,Parents will need to stop in time.For love to children,If in the kindergarten,Parents and schools need to coordinate together,Find out the sticking point of the child,To avoid such incidents from happening again.If not in kindergarten,Is the child's parents shall promptly notify the other party,Such as teaching repeatedly not to listen to,Should let the child no longer plays with it.

　　如果孩子性格较软弱，难以走出经常被欺负的“窘境”。徐毛莉建议，可以跟你的孩子一起进行角色扮演，帮助他处理这类问题。教他表现出信心十足的样子，如站得直直的，直视着欺人者的眼睛。大声说；“住手，我不喜欢你打我，我告诉你，以后不能再打我！”然后昂首挺胸地离开。

如果孩子性格较软弱,Hard to get out of the often being bullied"pas".Xu Maoli advice,You can talk with your children together to role-play,Help him deal with this kind of problem.Teach him to performance of an air of confidence,Standing straight,Looked deceives people's eyes.Said with a loud voice;"Stop it,I don't like you hit me,I tell you,Can't hit me in the future!"And strut their stuff away.

　　部分家长也给出了自己的处理方法，如力劝孩子别在欺负他的人面前哭，表现出很坚强的样子，吓退打人者；孩子多跟朋友待在一起，他就不太会受人欺负；跟别的孩子的父母谈谈，也许他们的孩子可能也在学校里同样受到欺负，看一看别人有什么好对策。

部分家长也给出了自己的处理方法,Such as urging child, don't cry in front of the person bullying him,Showed a very strong way,Scare the attacker;Children stay with a friend,He is not to be bullied by others;Talk to other parents of the children,Maybe their children may also bullied at school,Take a look at what people's good strategies.

支招 action

　　湖北今天律师事务所律师付军表示，如果是在幼儿园，首先打人者的监护人负有监护不力的责任需要承担责任，其次幼儿园也需要负起教育管理保护不力责任，要承担一定的赔偿，除此之外，幼儿园一般都给孩子买有意外保险，保险可报销一定的医疗费用。如果不在幼儿园发生，则孩子双方的监护人都得担责，打人方为主责，被打方为次责，因为他们同是因为监管不力才导致意外的发生。

湖北今天律师事务所律师付军表示,If it is in the kindergarten,First attacker's guardian responsible for lack of care need to assume responsibility,The second kindergarten education management lack of protection responsibility also need,To undertake a certain compensation,In addition to this,Kindergarten tend to give children buy accident insurance,Insurance can pay some expenses.If not in the kindergarten,The child guardian of both parties responsibility,Hit people party primarily responsible,Credited to party time,Because they didn't lead to the happening of the accident with is because of poor supervision.