随着高校陆续开学，暑假也接近尾声。每年这个时段总会有学生出现各种焦虑现象，而今年除了学生的“老问题”，一些大学生家长也患上了“焦虑症”。

With the school in succession，Summer vacation is near the end。This time each year there will always be students appear all sorts of anxiety phenomenon，And this year, in addition to the students“Old problems”，Some students parents also had“anxiety”。

　　“我的孩子很优秀啊！她考上了北大啊！她是我们家族的骄傲，是我们地区的荣誉啊！”昨天，北京市中小学心理咨询中心接到一位江西家长打来的长途电话。这位妈妈在充分称赞了自己的女儿之后，开始详细询问北京的消费水平、北大周边房租、生活设施以及北大对非校内人员入校的管理。“我不放心女儿自己来北京，我要跟单位请四年假来陪读。”咨询人员了解到，这位母亲不是自由职业者，而是一名公务员，她甚至没有考虑请假是否会影响工作。“我女儿从小什么家务都没做过的，我只要她学习，不要她做别的事情。”因为怕孩子生活不能自理，妈妈执意要进京陪读。

“My child is very good ah！She admitted to the north ah！She is proud of our family，Is our region's honor ah！”yesterday，Beijing primary and secondary school counseling center received a call from jiangxi parents of long distance telephone。The mother was fully praised after his daughter，Started to ask for details of Beijing's consumption level、North surrounding the rent、Living facilities and north to the school enrolling personnel management。“I don't trust his daughter to Beijing，I want to please four units or relatives can apply to annual leave。”Consultants to know，The mother is not free profession person，But a civil servant，She didn't even consider leave would affect work。“My daughter didn't do housework from what，I want her to study，Don't her to do other things。”Children for fear of the life cannot provide for oneself，Mother insisted on performers or relatives can apply for。

　　“今年来咨询类似问题的家长特别多。”咨询中心主任温方介绍，“这几天已经有三十多位北京家长咨询孩子上大学是否该住校，这在以往根本不会成为问题。”家长们一致的担心是怕大学宿舍条件不好，孩子住着不习惯。一些家长还因为不给孩子准备住校的东西，跟孩子闹翻了。个别家长阻止学生住校的原因竟然是，怕孩子在学校利用业余时间参加社团活动影响学习。

“This year to consulting similar problems of parents much more special。”Consulting WenFang, director of the center is introduced，“This few days already have more than 30 Beijing parent counseling children to college should live on campus，This in the past can't become a problem。”Parents consistent worry is afraid of university dormitory condition is bad，Children lived not used to。Some parents also because don't give them something to live on campus，The child fell out with。Individual parents prevent students live on campus reason unexpectedly is，Afraid of children in the school the use spare time to participate in community activities affect learning。

　　专家分析，以往通常会说孩子们“断奶难”，但是从今年的咨询情况看，在“上大学是否要住宿”的问题上反映出，一些家长自身存在“断奶难”的问题。大学生已经是有行为能力的成年人了，如果家长还不舍得放手，肯定不利于孩子的成才，甚至可能连“成人”的标准都难达到。

Expert analysis，In the past usually say the children“Weaning difficult”，But from this year's consulting case，in“The university whether to accommodation”On the issue of reflect，Some parents own existence“Weaning difficult”problems。Students are capable of adult，If parents is not willing to let go，Sure go against the child's growing，May even even“adult”Standards are difficult to achieve。

　　专家奉劝家长，给孩子留出成长的空间，让孩子自己去磨练。管得太多，孩子不会觉得家长是为自己好，只会觉得家长是在监督他，日久必然会产生隔阂。另外，如果家长过分呵护孩子，也会让学生自己感觉生活能力不如别人，很没面子。专家同时提醒家长，在大学参加社团活动是锻炼自己的好机会，可以帮助学生增强交流能力、认识社会，家长不应该阻拦。（记者 李莉）

Experts advise parents，Give the child set aside space to grow，Let the child to hone。Tube too much，The child won't think parents are good for themselves，Will only feel that parents is in supervision and he，Time will produce estrangement。In addition，If parents too much care for children，Will make students feel the ability of living not as good as those of others，No face very much。Experts also warned the parents，In the university to participate in community activities is to exercise good opportunity，Can help students enhance communication skills、Know society，Parents should not stop。（Reporter li li）

　　(来源:北京晚报)

(Sources: Beijing evening news)