一个新生命从呀呀学语姗姗学步，睁开眼睛看世界，直到被塑造成独特又可爱的“她自己”，家长6年的坚守，虽然不免艰辛，但显然这里面有孩子成长带来的喜悦，也充满家长育人的快乐，更是一次再孕育的过程。可是，家长6年的努力，与孩子6年的共同成长，正在遭遇学校教育的挑战。将孩子送到小学之后，立即就进入了艰难的磨合期。这种磨合之痛，相信众多年轻的爸爸妈妈是能感同身受的。

A new life from babbling shanshan toddlers,Open your eyes to see the world,Until it is shaped into a unique and lovely"she",Parents to six years,Although not hard,But obviously there are children to grow up with joy,Parents also is full of the joy of education,Is also a time to inoculation process.but,Parents six years of hard work,And the children of the six years to grow,Is suffering from school education challenge.Send their children to after primary school,Immediately into the difficult period.This kind of running in the pain,Believe that many young mom and dad is can with empathy.

　　比如，学校要求准备文具整齐划一。开学第一次家长会结束后，老师给了一份极为详尽的PPT，对买什么样的本、笔、文具袋、文件袋、舞蹈鞋等都作出了详细规定，对每一本书、每一个本包什么样的皮、包多厚的皮，名字写在哪里、用什么方式写也都规定得一清二楚，就连平时训练的舞蹈鞋必须是什么颜色的，也作了硬性规定。此外，学校还表现在学习方面“等不起”的急躁，在学校教育与家庭教育之间缺乏平等交流的耐心等。

For example,The school to prepare stationery neat and uniform.The first time after the parents' meeting,The teacher gave a very detailed PPT,What to buy this/pen/Stationery bags/File packet/WuDaoXie etc all made the detailed regulations,For each book/Every this bag what kind of skin/Package many thick skin,Name in where/Use what means to write also stipulate clearly,Even the peacetime training WuDaoXie must be what color,Also made a hard and fast rules.In addition,The school also displays in learning"Afford to wait"impatience,In the school education and family education lack of equality between the exchange of patience, etc.

　　这样一来，一旦把孩子送到学校，家长教育与学校教育的矛盾和冲突就来了。家庭是将孩子作为独特且了不起的个体进行教育，而学校仍习惯于将孩子作为集体中平常且微弱的一分子进行打磨。这样的拉锯战面前，将来孩子会长成什么样，这的确值得担忧。

so,Once the children to school,Parents education and school education of the contradictions and conflicts will come.The family is the child as a unique and amazing individuals to education,And the school is still used to children as a collective common and weak one molecule to burnish.Such a seesaw battle front,The future child will grow into what kind of,It is really worth concern.

　　看到学校教育最为习惯的模式化、刻板化，我脑海里突然联想起小时候在农村看到的给小牛上嚼子、套笼头的情形。小牛本来想怎么撒欢就怎么撒欢，只是一套上笼头之后，就由不得它的牛性了。怎么走路、何时吃草、该干什么活之类，都是受到强制的。我固然知道人的成长不全是快乐，这里面也有必经的训练和磨砺，但是一个孩子送进学校的过程，再怎么看，也不应该像那个小牛上笼头的过程。学校在教书育人方面有一些统一化的操作模式是可以理解的，有些甚至是必须的，但是每一个孩子都是一个新的生命奇迹，上笼头式的教育模式已到了必须摒弃的时候了。

See the school education the most habits of modeled/Stereotyped change,My mind suddenly associate a childhood in rural areas to see the mavs on chewing son/Set of bridle situation.The mavericks wanted to how to SaHuan is how to SaHuan,Just a set after the bridle,Is it not the stubbornness.How to walk/When to eat grass/This do like,Are mandatory.I know that the growth of the people is not all are happy,It also has the necessary training and refined,But a child to go to school of the process,Then how to see,Should not be like that the mavericks on the process of the bridle.Schools in teaching have some of the unification of the operating mode is understandable,Some even is a must,But every child is a new miracle of life,The bridle type education mode has reached the time must abandon.

　　一个新的生命来到这个世界，就是一个成为“他自己”的过程。他固然要学习做人、学习知识、学习礼仪之类，但在这个教育过程中，他尤其是一个独立自在的生命体，他的自我、兴趣、个性要得到尊重，他的潜能、智慧、优长要得到生长。学校教育是为了唤醒孩子的灵魂，而不是置家庭教育和孩子的天性于不顾，一味给孩子上笼头。

A new life to the world,Is a become"he"process.He is learning to behave/Learning knowledge/Learning etiquette and so on,But in the education process,He especially an independent living at home,His self/interest/Personality to get respect,His potential/wisdom/Advantages to get the growth.School education is to wake up the child's soul,And not buy the family education and the nature of the child to ignore,Blindly to the child to the bridle.